He's everything I ever wanted... But I don't want him?

[Trippy-Confused]

So here’s my story. There’s this guy I have been friends with for about 3 years. We are very close in a way most friends aren’t. We act exactly like a couple. When we are together we cuddle, joke around and make fun of each other. He’s pretty much the only guy I can be myself around. We talk almost every day and never get tired of each other. I already know that he likes me. All of my friends and all of his friends say that we should date. I think I do really like him because he’s on my mind all the time! Yes, we have made out a couple of times but nothing more than that. The only problem is, that for some reason I can’t see myself dating him and I don’t know why?

[why_not_anonymous]

I'm sorry, maybe we don't understand what you mean by dating?

Other than going all the way (which I think you should do), you're pretty much doing everything a couple does.

If you don't want to call it dating, then don't.

Are you scared to be off the market / want your freedom? Are there any dudes you like better than him?

Why not give it a whirl? Maybe have a long conversation about it, however. So he knows that you're not feeling it, but that you'd like to give it a try. So that he's not surprised by it not working out (as I bet he's really into you).

[martmi29]

You are describing a relationship, not friends. You don't need to "date". You guys have already done it in your own way without realizing it. That's why "dating" would feel weird because it would be like taking a step back in what you have. All you need to do is make it official if what you are looking for is the title.

[Arestras]

You should give it a try, really... you may regret not taking that chance later. Maybe you really like him, but you think that you could "lose his friendship". If that's the case, then ask yourself: Do I really want him honestly just as a friend, or do I want him to be more than that?

[MothMonsterMan]

That's typical of a lot of women. They complain they can't find the man they want, but yet when one is right in your face, you deny him!

[Prof_Don]

You didn't mention he is cute or hot AT ALL in that paragraph serenade u gave us.

This is probably your problem; he has all the qualities but you're not physically into him!

[mauzeson]

You should be together course there is no such friendship between a boy and a girl... may be one day you will find naked to each other

[thisGUYknows]

Do u not find him attractive? Maybe he's not financially independent?