Does she still think about me even though she's with someone else?

[Anonymous]

we dated for almost 4 years, but broke up like 4 months ago and haven't spoke to her since then .. and now she with someone else and I still miss her, is it the same thing for her or she's over me and should I just move on and stop hoping that she'll come back

[wickedillusion66]

She still thinks about you its not possible to be with someone for four years and not think about them especially when the break up is still fresh. I'm not her obviously so I can't tell you how she thinks of you or what she thinks about you. Just because she's with someone else doesn't mean that she's over you but she should be trying to get over you. You need to do some serious thinking and if you really do want to be her for awhile then you should tell her how you feel so you won't always wonder what if but if she doesn't want you back then by all means move on.

[Asker]

I understand what you saying but I'm saced and really heartbroke to speake to her and on top shez with someone else now.. I'm not even sure she wants to hear from me

[thatssotera]

You can't date somebody for 4 years and not miss them, especially if they're a good person. It may not be over for her too. What was the deal-breaker for you guys? Was your future together not looking any good? She just wants somebody different from you? She may not be over you yet, but she's trying to move on. She may never accept apologies or changes, and she still might. Depends on what you broke up over. It sounds like she is dating a rebound guy.

[Asker]

Will she said that we argue alott, we broke up once before and little while latter she said .. she doesn't feel the same way anymore

[thatssotera]

That's hard... I have been thinking a lot about that stuff lately. Arguing isn't bad if you come to conclusions and change your ways somewhat to fit each other... Arguing has its place. Sometimes it is best to have distance so you don't annoy each other. I am a believer in space. As for not feeling the same anymore, there's no guarantee that she really felt that way to begin with. If she's like me, she probably remembers wondering if you were right for her, not thinking you were right for her

[thatssotera]

And has been wrestling with the question of whether or not you should be together from the get-go. I think it comes down to fear and love, and fear is winning for her right now. When I say I am a believer in space, I mean don't get close enough to each other that you're getting way into each other's space. You probably haven't learned how to do things the way she wants them done. Lord knows my boyfriend hasn't. I think a huge problem in my relationship is that he doesn't know what I want & like.

[orbit]

She probably thinks about you every so often, but not as much as you do. You can't hold onto hope that she'll come back. If she does, great, but don't count on it. Focus on being happy how you are, then it won't matter anymore.

[Asker]

Its not that I'm not trying to get over I do try but she doesn't work ... I keep thinkin about her

[orbit]

It's not going to be something you can just change about yourself overnight and suddenly feel better and be perfectly happy again. It takes a lot of time before you can get to that point. When a girl that I was deeply in love with broke up with me, it took me almost half a year before I could even imagine myself with another girl. You'll get there