Ladies, do you enjoy rejecting guys?

[Anonymous]

Ladies, would you please be kind enough to answer these questions for me? And men too are most welcome to give their opinions.

1) Do you feel happy or get some kind of satisfaction when you reject a really nice guy with no apparent weaknesses, just because he's a 'nice guy'?

2) Since women are commonly referred to as the 'weaker sex', do you get a feeling of superiority when a supposedly 'strong' man is depending on you and the ball is in your court, so you reject him to prove to the world that its actually women who are stronger when it matters most?

3) Do you actually enjoy leading a man on, being really close with him, hanging out a lot with him etc. only to tell him that he's 'friend-zoned' when he finally asks you out? What really is the need to friendzone a guy (if he's not a relative) instead of just giving it a thought, unless you get some kind of sadistic pleasure out of making him feel he's not worthy of you? And what is the need to exploit the fact that men aren't usually good at reading a women's signs?

Updates

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P. S. This is NOT related to my life or me being rejected. I have never asked any woman out in my life, and won't even do that in the future.

[Clovergirl-Lily]

1. i do not enjoy rejecting a guy - i only reject them if i am seriously not interested in them in that way. just because it may be a nice guy, it doesn't mean i have to be interested in him in that way. most of my guy friends are the nicest guys i've ever met, but i have never once saw a future together with them as husband and wife
2. i only get feelings of superiority over men when i can beat them intellectually or for some girls, through physical strength (muscles). but i occasionally need the guy to be the smarter and stronger one too - it's in a girl's nature to want to be protected by the guy they like sometimes. so why would they get satisfaction from a man relying on them instead? i find it seriously annoying, so in that case, i would dump the guy if he's so dependent on me. i need a partner, who takes care of me as much as i can take care of them. i'm not applying to be a babysitter
3. i don't even know what it means to lead a guy on, so how, pray tell, would i ever successfully accomplish that? one overly dependent worthless guy said i was leading him on when all the time, i was just being friendly because he was being shunned by everyone else and i understood how much it sucked to be ostracised. forgive me for trying to be a nice friend. if i had only wanted to be a friend to someone who mistook that kindness as leading him on, why am i to be blamed when i reject a guy i've only ever thought of as a friend?

[washize]

1. I don't feel anything when I reject guys.

2. What are you talking about? Do you mean if a body builder fell down having a heart attack if I'd kick him in the head with my heels and laugh menacingly? What do you mean if a strong man depended on me? Who? What are they depending on me for?

3. Being nice to a human that owns a penis isn't leading anyone on. If he mistook my kindness and friendship as a blatant sexual advance that is HIS problem not mine. I have a boyfriend and I make that very CLEAR. If a guy isn't what I want in a mate, he isn't what I want. There is nothing sadistic about it. If I don't have to eat food that I don't want, I don't have to suck or date dick that I don't want either. I believe many men see what they want to see. in my opinion more men than women think that they are entitled to relationships/sex so that is why their ego's get destroyed significantly compared to women, when they are rejected.

[christinalong338]

yeah. apparently we have to go out with anyone who asks us or we're selfish, shallow, and unfair. even not being attracted to someone isn't a valid reason.

[washize]

That is the feeling of entitlement. Many men don't believe a woman has the RIGHT to reject HIM. They believe that they deserve or are owed sex/relationships from women. Rearguards of her thoughts/feelings about him.

IT is very disturbing. It's just more proof that many men still don't see or believe that women are people. Simply things for men to use at THEIR OWN lesieur. What is so horrible and torturous about being friends with a person who's company you enjoy?

These guys believe that women are only good for sex. Yet, refuse to go to hookers, escorts, and prostitutes. If sex is what you want, go pay for it and stop going psycho-batshit crazy because women have the choice to tell you NO!

[christinalong338]

i tried to explain fairly above. didn't get far.

[washize]

A guy who thinks women are evil trash that make men suffer because they withhold sex, aren't going to believe that a WOMAN is a person. HE wouldn't think that a woman is entitled to her OWN feelings, he wouldn't think that a woman had a right to reject a guy FOR WHATEVER reason.

So there isn't a point to talk to the above. Women are damned if they are nice to men (because that is "leading them on") and women are damned if they ignore men (because they aren't being FAIR and are being shallow bitches who only want money)

They only see women as walking vagina's that they can't trap in a cage. They feel that they are entitled to one and deserve on because they exist. But they don't believe the woman should be treated as a human with her own individual thoughts and feelings.

Guys like this think every man is a sparkling individual that does no wrong. But every woman is an evil demonic spawn from Satan sent to destroy men. You can't talk to someone like that.

[Asker]

On the contrary, women have NO RIGHT to speak about rejection because they don't know what it feels like. Most women almost always keep getting asked out on a daily basis, and they have a plethora of choices so that they can pick and choose the man whom they feel best among the several idiotic men who feel that they have accomplished something great even if the woman just looks at them or smiles. Getting dumped in relationship is NOT rejection, being denied the chance to even date is actual rejection (which women never experience).

[christinalong338]

some men do come across that way. i don't like being around them. luckily not all men are like that.

[washize]

@ asker- You believe that no woman has ever been rejected by a man, in all of the world? In all of history? You're delusional. Rejection is a part of life. Do you go on a temper tantrum if you are turned down for a job, a loan, credit, est? Do you think that business have no right to speak of having their services/employment rejected? What makes you so wonderful that a woman has to fall at your feet and spread her legs? What is so great about you, that NO ONE has a right to reject you for anything?

@christina agreed 100%

[christinalong338]

so delusional. everyone experiences rejection. that isn't some secret pain that only men (or only you) can lay claim to. that's very egotistical.

[Asker]

I'm not saying I'm great, but no woman has to spread her legs for me. The simple reason is that sex is neither the sole reason, nor the primary reason for me to date a woman. I don't mind spending the rest of my life with a woman who truly loves me, even if she denies sex (and I won't commit adultry due to that). Its funny how almost every answerer here speak as if sex is the sole reason, or at least an integral part of dating. Sex usually happens during dating/relationship/marriage, but its not necessary to sustain the relationship.

[christinalong338]

sex is an integral part of dating. procreating, marriage, kids. generally speaking, that's what it's all about. it's not to sustain it, but it is part of it. an important part.

[washize]

@asker I didn't say SEX was the only aspect of a relationship. You have issues with women and a fucked up view of women. It doesn't make sense why you would even WANT to have a relationship with them.

[Asker]

@washsize Isn't that what you meant when you said 'she has to spread her legs'? Everyone here seems to imply that sex is the most important part of dating. The worst part is, you're all talking as if men have to EARN sex. Why is that, when women too get pleasure from sex? Its not like only men enjoy sex, right? By the way, why do you ASSUME that I want a relationship with women? Just read the 'updates' part of my questions. I gave up on women even before I started. ts really not worth the trouble for men to keep asking women out, go through several rejections until someone finally says yes, and then again always being on their toes to sustain the relationship. Too much of a hassle. I have other, more efficient ways of making my life meaningful. In any case, today's technology is advanced enough to compensate for human emotions, and technology never cheats, betrays or backstabs. I just posted this question to get answers from women, that's it. Not related to my personal life in any way.

[washize]

" What makes you so wonderful that a woman has to fall at your feet and spread her legs? " That is what I said. Yes I did mean sex by saing "spread her legs" and if you're capable of reading and comprehension I'll assume you know what"fall at your feet" means as well.

Men don't have to EARN anything, if they aren't rapists, they can simply go to a SEX WORKER. A woman doesn't HAVE to fuck anyone she doesn't want to, for ANY reason she chooses. SEX IS CONSENSUAL a TWO PARTY AGREEMENT, if SOMEONE isn't interested, the other person isn't capable of EARNING anything. A woman can agree to consensual sex for ANY reason just as she can REJECT sex for any reason.

Good for you, you figured out how to life your life. I also answered your question.

[Asker]

For your kind information, I reside in a third world country where 75% of the population don't know English , and in my case too English isn't my native language. Hence, with my possibly limited ability of English reading and comprehension, I guess you meant a blowjob when you said 'fall at your feet'. Pardon me if I'm wrong. And yeah, I'm EXTREMELY happy and lucky to be staying away from romantic relationships (although I do have lots of female friends who are really close). I consider myself lucky when I see people around me go through so much trouble in relationships, changing partners as frequently as changing clothes, divorcing left and right, attempting suicide due to failed relationship etc. Makes me shudder, and I pity them.

[washize]

Falling at ones feet means to worship them/serve them. IF you didn't understand you could have simply asked.

As I said. Good for you.

[christinalong338]

so you're just here to re-enforce your position that women aren't worth loving? don't be surprised when women aren't enamored with your perspective

[Asker]

@Christinalong338
I'm NOT saying all women aren't worth loving. There are a few really genuine, no-nonsense, simple women who are really worth pursuing, loving, marrying and having kids with. But those kind of women are the 'exception', not the 'norm'. Most women today are just too difficult to please. They have extremely high expectations about the men whom they want to date (regarding money, looks, personality, status or anything else), even if they themselves aren't up to those expectations. Its like however good a man is regarding some aspect, the woman still wants someone at least 1% better. Its very difficult, if not impossible, to meet all the requirements which women consider for a man to be datable. Even if a man has 100 great qualities in him, the woman will still reject him if there is a 101st quality that the man doesn't have.

[christinalong338]

that is your opinion. fine. but it's unfair and sexist to say that it's a fact that very few women are worthy of love. your generalizations and bitterness are easy to spot and that kind of casual sexism keeps all the good women (those precious few according to you) miles away from you. i don't care if you have 10000 great qualities. if you're sexist and disparaging towards my entire gender (or even the majority of my gender), that's a very valid reason to reject someone. saying "oh but you're the exception, you're one of the good ones" isn't a compliment. it's condescending.

[Asker]

Its not that these women are 'bad'. Its a well know fact that until a few decades ago, women had almost no rights, so they were exploited by men and presumed to exist just to satisfy men's sexual needs and serve them. But due to the raise of feminism, women are now considered almost equal to men (I say 'almost' because there are still some aspects where women are looked down upon). But today's women may feel that they need to 'get back' at men for what happened earlier. After all, women suffered at the hands of men almost since the evolution of humans, and its only since a few decades that women have a voice in the society. So their behavior towards men has a lot to do with them taking 'revenge' for what our male ancestors did to our female ancestors. They're like 'you men exploited us women for so long, so now its time for us to pay you back - with interest'. So I'm not implying its the womens' fault at all.

[washize]

So women are trying to take away mens vote to right? Women are going out murdering, raping, kidnapping, and torturing men simply because they are men? Are women denying men employment simply because they have a penis? Are women denying men college mentorship?

How are women getting revenge on men?

[Asker]

@washize No, not at all. Its still men who usually do those. But what women are doing, is on an emotional or mental level. Revenge might not necessarily be physical, right?

[washize]

and what is this psychological torture that women are committing against men? Is there some underground community where women meet to plan how they are going to torture men emotionally and mentally?

[randomocity]

ok, so i read the entire conversation and a few time i laughed, i am sorry though. First off, i get exactly where both of you are coming from, washize, we all (as men) know that women are in every way equal to men and i really can't see why no one ever said anything back when you weren't treated equally. Asker isn't sexist, he is just asking why women reject more guys when they are asked then men reject women. I know you probably aren't like that, but since every human is different there are woman who only date rich guys, or strong guys, or better guys in general but when lets say a normal guy like me became friends with and asked out a celebrity she would obviously say no. but the other way around and the guy would most likely say yes. and when asker is saying that he gave up on relationships long ago, i can agree and say i did too. So much is expected out of a male or female making a relationship super complicated that Me and asker both just dont want to deal with it.

[Asker]

@randomcity
Thanks pal. At least SOMEONE realizes that I'm not sexist. Of course I'm not gay or asexual so I obviously do have the desire to meet a nice woman someday, fall in love, get married and have kids. But I'm too scared to ask anyone out, because like I said, women's expectations from men are just TOO high. Since I'm a bit emotional and sensitive (which are rare traits for men), my confidence goes down a notch with every rejection. So when I eventually come across a woman who would actually be willing to accept me, she would still reject be due to lack of confidence (which she obviously doesn't know is a result of repeated rejection by other women). It just does not work. :(

[christinalong338]

you're still not relating to women in a way that we don't find offensive or off-putting. it's great that guys think you're behaving properly, but you're also saying things like "women's expectations are too high" that is STILL a blanket statement made based on gender. and it STILL reeks of the "poor me, girls make it too hard on me" attitude. neither of which will help you get a woman to accept a date. sensitivity and emotional tendencies should be able to help you with women, yet somehow you're still blaming us (for our standards, shallowness, etc.) instead.

final answer: poor you, you can't win and it's all our fault!

[Asker]

@christinalong338
No, its not that I can't win. In fact, I know very well that if I put in a little bit of effort, I can in fact be VERY successful with women. But its just that I'm too scared to ask anyone out, due to the fear of rejection. Ever since I was a kid, I have had problems accepting failures in all aspects. For example, I was considered very intelligent as a kid (and I still am, to some extent) so i used to attempt complicated puzzles (and often succeeded too). But if I was unable to solve one of them, I would get upset and throw tantrums without realizing that I had infact solved several puzzles of similar difficulty before that. I just can't accept failures, whether its dating or something else.
There have been times when girls have hit on me or shown interest in me, but I don't take them seriously because I feel that they'll lead me on and friendzone me anyway. I still believe that women's expectations of men are higher than men's expectations of women.

[Asker]

@christinalong338
contd...
I sincerely apologize for you and any other woman/girl here who felt offended by my words. My intention was not to offend anyone. But seeing guys around me getting rejected by women left and right, unless they have a very handsome face or deep pockets, have actually made me paranoid regarding women. I was involved in a couple of relationships earlier (one of them last 18 months), but in both cases it was the women who asked me out first. So, I personally haven't experienced any 'failure' with women, but the things happening around me have given me an extreme fear that I'll ALWAYS get rejected, no matter what. This actually perevents me from asking women out. Once again, my sincere apologies for you and every woman who felt offended here. Please forgive me, and wish me luck. I'm not a bad man, and I'm not sexist. I'm just paranoid.

[EntropicDecay]

1 : absolutely not. I feel horrible for saying no to someone who took the courage to ask me out. However I believe it is better to say no rather than leading on pointlessly.
2 : If a guy depends on me, I do my best to help him. I hate weaknesses, and I always do my best to help someone who needs it, regardless of gender.
I won't lie to him if feelings are involved though.
I don't "reject" someone to prove something, I reject someone when I don't feel any connection. However, if I know straight out the guy believes girls are below guys, I'm pretty sure we won't stay friends.
3 : There's no "need" to friendzone anyone. Intentionally friendzoning someone just for fun is sadism. I've never said no to a guy because I'd rather stay friends. I've been friendzoned though.

I believe only "mean" girls would say yes to any of your questions. They exist of course, but I'd like to think they're not the majority ^^

[christinalong338]

1) no, of course not. i'm not a heartless bitch. if i reject someone, it's because I'm not interested in them (regardless of if they're nice or a jerk) and I always feel awkward doing so
2) love and sex and dating aren't about superiority. they're about being intimate with another person and opening yourself up to them.
3) flirting is fun, but flirting doesn't always have to lead anywhere. simple harmless flirting is different than making plans and cancelling or saying you want to go out with them and then backing out. also being nice and being friendly doesn't mean that you deserve to date someone if they don't like you back. not dating someone isn't
"mean" of you.

no offense, but you sound very bitter and like you resent women. perhaps the women you're talking to can pick up on that.

[Asker]

Well... yeah, i do resent women. Although I have never asked any woman out, I have seen men close to me (like friends or relatives) getting rejected left and right, for no fault of theirs. I'm a reasonably good looking guy, am a university graduate, I have a decent job as a software developer and also my own car. I also maintain clean habits (no smoking or drinking) and people around me say that I'm a really loving, caring and emotional guy. There really is no reason for any woman to reject me, because I know that I'm no less than any other man she might accept (unless that man happens to have the looks of Tom Cruise, the money of Bill Gates, or both). So I don't mind being alone forever, but I do have some self respect so I can't ever ask a woman out just to get rejected.

[christinalong338]

well it's also not the woman's fault if she isn't interested in your friends and relatives. that is a valid reason to not accept someone. everyone deals with rejection in their lives. dating is hard for everyone.

[christinalong338]

women don't owe you anything. men don't owe women anything either. people start dating and fall in love because of how they feel when they're with the other person. if they don't feel that way with you, it's not because she's disrespecting you. love is about emotion, not filling up a checklist of qualities.

[Asker]

If women don't owe men anything, why are men ALWAYS expected to make the first move, especially since gender roles have changed and women today are capable of doing everything which were once considered to be men;'s domain?

[christinalong338]

so your plan is just to be angry at all women for the unfairness you perceive is their fault? women do not owe you a date, or sex, or a relationship.

[christinalong338]

if you think they do, no wonder you resent them, and no wonder women won't approach you or accept you if you approach them. women don't expect men to do anything. if we don't get approached by the guy we like, we can do two things: 1) approach him 2) do nothing and move on. he doesn't OWE us a date or owe us anything just because we want him.

[Asker]

No, I don't feel that women owe anything to men. But what's the harm in just giving a CHANCE? I mean... no man usually approaches a woman with the intention of getting into a relationship, having sees or marrying her. Its justa date, l for heaven's sake, to see if they're compatible. If they're not, any one of them can just stop seeing each other. Is this too hard?

[christinalong338]

if she accepts and she knows she's not interested in you (for any number of reasons, no physical attraction, or she sees a red flag for her- not all women like the same things in men) wouldn't that be leading you on then? i find a quick rejection is better than the guys who i've dated who lead me on just long enough to have sex with me and then bail. they knew they weren't interested, but hey! Free pussy.

[Asker]

This 'not interested' need not be permanent, right? Overtime, she may discover things about him which she didn't know earlier, and eventually like him. That is very much a possibility, isn't it? Regarding psychical attractions, I certainly feel its too shallow to judge anyone by his/her looks but I know I'm in the minority 'cos that's how the world is. Still, it is very much possible for someone (man or woman) to not like a person physically, but still have a long term relationship because of a great personality which relegates supposedly poor looks to the background. I mean... there are so many options, so is there REALLY a need for a woman to reject a man outright (unless of course he happens to be an alcoholic, drug addict, rapist or murderer)?

[christinalong338]

okay, so if she rejects you and then later comes to like you, she'd accept. but that doesn't mean she should have to accept right away just because you think she should. it's not shallow, but realistic to recognize that physical attraction plays a part in relationships. would you want to date/have sex with someone you found unattractive? you can have a long term relationship, but it's not likely to be a passionate sexual one. YES there are so many options, why should she pick one that doesn't interest her just for the sake of "fairness" in your eyes? is there REALLY a need for a woman to accept a man outright if she doesn't want to?

[Asker]

To be brutally honest here, the only women whom I find unattractive are those who judge people based on looks. Actually men are much worse in this matter because they give much more importance to looks than women, but I can't say from that angle because I'm straight. Please don't say its not shallow, because IT IS SHALLOW, and VERY unfair to judge someone based on his/her looks. No one gets to choose the way he/she looks at the time of birth, right? So why judge someone based on an attribute which is beyond that person's control? Unless of course the person considers plastic surgery to improve his/her looks (I won't get into that because that's beyond the scope of this comment). What is the need to attach so much importance to looks, when everyone is bound to become all wrinkly when they get old? Isn't a beautiful heart, which is permanent, much better than a beautiful/handsome face which is only temporary?

[christinalong338]

okay that's your right. but saying that everyone else who feels differently than you is shallow is very judgmental. it's VERY unfair to tell people that it shouldn't matter whether or not they're attracted to someone because they should go out with them anyway. according to you, if i see a man i have zero sexual attraction to, it's shallow and unfair of me to recognize the fact that i'm not attracted to his appearance and I should date him before figuring out i don't want to have sex with him?

[christinalong338]

bottom line, no one has to date anyone they don't want to. regardless of the reason why. you can judge them and call them unfair, but it's not going to change that fact and it's not fair of you to tell them what to do because you think it would be better.

[christinalong338]

obviously when you approach a girl, you don't know anything about her other than her looks? what made you approach her and want to get to know her? it certainly wasn't her personality (you don't even know her). it was her looks...

[christinalong338]

if you want a relationship devoid of anything physical, you're looking for friendship. if you want to date and fall in love, the physical (and sexual attraction/compatibility) ARE going to play a part. even if you think it's shallow and unfair.

[Asker]

'Attractiveness' has nothing to do with physical features. For example, most men consider a woman's breasts as sexually attractive, because they don't have the common sense to realize that breasts are just organs used by a woman to feed her child. Similarly with respect to face, some people are considered attractive by a majority of the population compared to others. SO there is no human being in this world who is considered attractive by the entire human population of the opposite gender (this includes actresses and models). And how is physical attraction related to sex? Every man has a penis, and every woman has a vagina. So that ought to be sufficient for sex. Of course, love is necessary if its not casual sex, but then, it can't be called 'love' if the people got attracted to each other only due to physical appearance in the first place.

[christinalong338]

no one is saying they have to be universally attractive. they just have to be attractive to you, personally. if you don't understand how physical attraction relates to sex, i seriously can't help you. and it's offensive to anyone i love to say that their love isn't real because they're attracted to each other's physical appearances. that's 100% utter nonsense. I'm out. you're impossible.

[christinalong338]

***offensive to anyone in love

[Asker]

You're out, that's fine. But remember this. If people love each other due to physical attractiveness, its just the other person's body/face which they love, and not the 'person'.

[christinalong338]

obviously people don't fall in love with just physical qualities. only an idiot would think that. but it's also naive to say that people initially start pursuing people because of their personality with no focus on appearance. you don't know them yet! you can't be attracted to their personality. people meet, they find each other attractive, they get to know each other, they fall in love.

[kheserthorpe]

Women who friend zone men rarely realize they've done so. People project their feelings. Men who are attracted to women hope the women are also thinking about sex or whatever, and women who view a given man without attraction tend to also think of him as asexual unless clear evidence to the contrary emerges.

Also, female-female relationships tend to involve more emotional intimacy and touch then male-male. Females may behave with male friends the way they would with female friends, and not realize that to the male, that doesn't feel like friendship.

You ask why they don't 'give it a thought'. They don't need to. They concluded months earlier they wouldn't date him. he was just too much of an idiot to find out.

Yes, friendzoning ends up exploiting men, but its really up to the men to not let it happen. There IS a female equivalent, and its all the women doing friends with benefits with some player, wishing for more. Guess what, if you offer super emotionally supportive friendship to a woman, she'll take it, and guess what, if a decent looking woman offers sex, a lot of guys will take it. Stop giving people everything they want HOPING maybe they'll like you and give what you want back.

There's the odd woman out there who enjoys putting men down, but they are RARE.

[christinalong338]

i completely agree about the "friendzone" being about projected feelings. it's not about being mean. it just means they're not interested.

[Asker]

FINALLY, someone gives a logical answer instead of bashing me. And its no surprise that this logical answer comes from a man! Its really not worth the trouble for men to keep asking women out, go through several rejections until someone finally says yes, and then again always being on their toes to sustain the relationship. Too much of a hassle.

[christinalong338]

your sexism is showing...

[kheserthorpe]

Actually it is worth the trouble.

Some women understand female behaviour extremely well. Most men and women just feel and act though and it's hard to analyze why. Plus they actually only have dating experience with one member of their own sex (themselves).

It may also be that I put female behaviour in male terms and that made sense to you.

[Asker]

Wow, your sentence "Plus they actually only have dating experience with one member of their own sex (themselves)" makes perfect sense, and sounds funny too! But still, your answer is too good! Much appreciated!

[rUinSAYAN]

you never will understand them. you never will find the math formula for this, I am long enough on GaG to find out girls ask for 1 thing that makes sense to me, days later some other asks the opposite. It's like there is no formula!. I approach girls a lot, even ugly ones or some I would just fuck and you know what. the ugly one rejected me and the hotie didn't! I really don't care in this case cause the winner of day will be no other than me, and the girl with the "rejecting pleasure", she's going to end alone today.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Not really. Then as a girl who believes relationships are annoying and so horribly mainstream I friend zone everyone , except sometimes its a sexy friends zone if you are hot. I don't enjoy making people suffer unless they personally did anything to piss me off. I'm not that sadistic sheesh...

Also I reject men who's egos piss me off because I can't stand anyone male or female who is self absorbed. And I don't lead ugly people on because the thought of some ugly person male or female having sexual fantasies about me makes me want to puke. I only flirt with people I wanna bone

[Zendrya]

1) no. I would feel horrible.
2) no... that is unnecessary. I don't need to prove myself and other women
3) no... I just love him like I would love my brother. Sometimes the feelings change though. My boyfriend was pretty deep in the friendzone and he made it out.

[amithicalcreature]

1) absolute not! I hate rejecting a guy 2) not exactly, I know man has his place, I can be strong and independent and I want him to know that but I don't want him to feel useless or outdone 3) no I don't enjoy leading a man on, I try to make a point that if I don't see him like that to mention he's a good friend 4) I don't find a need to exploit mans lack of ability to read signs, honestly girls have just as much of a problem at reading signs

[Anonymous]

1. No absolutely no satisfaction--if that's what she's feeling she's a shallow flirt.
2. No, no--that's just mean. No girl worth your time will ever do that, so maybe it's a blessing in disguise that she rejected you.
3. No, no, NO--girls always give their guy friends a thought in terms of romantic potential, and if it just doesn't click then she shouldn't be so sadistic that the guy is uncomfortable being friends.

[itseehvan]

1. There are girls that are snotty and will be happy to reject a guy. But like most girls, we feel bad to reject a guy. We do it because we're uninterested or we may have an eye on another guy.
2. No girl thinks that way. We don't think of the superiority. We think of our feelings towards them.
3. We enjoy being friends with them. We like hanging out and talking to them. We don't find satisfaction in friend zoning them. It's just that we aren't interested in them that way.

[MaxFord123]

You make it sound like women are calculated and evil like we love making "nice guys" feel bad about themselves. Let me explain something. Your all "nice guys" until you're not.

[GoldCobra]

They love it. They get a kick out of it even if they don't admit it. They love to tease and tease and tease and then reject he guy at the end of the night. I would love to see a girl being in a guys shoes for one night

[Asker]

Yeah, EXACTLY. Everywhere there are so many things said about women's welfare, omen's empowerment, women's rights etc. but no one bothers about men (not even men).

[Jager66]

A woman did a book about living as a man, after the experiment she was so depressed by how much harder life as a man is she had to be hospitalized so she didn't kill her self.

[ironeddie]

Hmmmm...

*Runs to get popcorn and comfy jammies. To wait for the low self esteem debate to begin*

;-)

[Jager66]

Not all but a lot of them do! I've knows a few women who would intetionally lead guys on so they could publicly reject them later and have a good laugh.

[gingerrr]

No I dont enjoy rejecting guys. It's better that we tell you that we don't see you romantically rather than lead you on and learn the hard way.

[Smiley26]

Guys who arent worth it yes .. Like the ones who dont SHOW and MEAN that theyre into you and just move on to the next chick

[WhaChaChaKing]

I wouldn't reject a guy because he's a "nice guy", if I don't feel that way towards him there's nothing I can do. I don't take any joy in rejecting people. It upsets my stomach and makes me feel guilty even though I know it's not my fault.

[Anonymous]

Ok this is total BS. You do realize that we reject guys because WE DONT WANT TO BE WITH YOU SOMETIMES. Plenty of guys reject girls. I'm pretty sure you haven't ever rejected a girl before, right? I bet you always give then a chance too...
And women claim that men read the signs wrong for many reason. Firstly because it's true.

[thesouthernfangirl]

No, anytime a guy asks me out and I have to say no, it makes me really sad, and I feel guilty. But that's just me I suppose, and I'm pretty young so I don't know..

[JanaMæ]

i don't enjoy rejecting a guy . i feel pity about him cuz i don't have feelings like he has for me ??

[Anonymous]

I don't like rejecting guys personally. I always hate the feeling that this person potentially loves me and I have to crush all their hopes and dreams and say no.

[Anonymous]

I actually feel really guilty when I do. If they didn't deserve it and there was no reason why, I don't enjoy it at all

[Anonymous]

Well if am not into him why wouldn't I reject him???? If I like that guy then I will not reject him... It's that simple

[Anonymous]

I'm sure some do but I would guess that's a very tiny amount

[COCOCHANEL]

1. no
2. no
3. no

why would i waste my time?

[been_waiting]

No to all your questions

[kangaru2]

No I don't enjoy rejecting or hurting people