Girls: Do you think A guy needs to have 6 pack abs to be attractive?

[MTL_GUY78]

Does a guy need six pack abs to be physically attractive?

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Read @divamonae opinion.. This is a person with a good heart

[WhiteSteve]

Just depends on the girl. Mine thinks abs are gross, but she dated a couple kids with 6-packs, it wasn't a deal breaker. She said her ideal body type is like Kevin James, just a little taller. Yes, THAT Kevin James. She also likes receding hairlines. But I don't have either of those things. Looks aren't as high on the priority list with girls. Sure, they like eye candy as much as anyone, but a lot of girls aren't as blinded by appearances as a lot of us guys are. There's a girl at my gym, pretty cute, not a knockout, but definitely attractive. Never spoken to her, but she has a very sweet aura about her, seems to be a teacher, she looks like she's correcting papers while she walks on the treadmill. Just looks like a good solid catch for your average guy. Saw her husband one time during new year's resolution week at the gym, and homeboy was a good 280 lbs if I had to guess. Big dude, but had a big gut and didn't look like he worked out. Looked blue collar too, he didn't strike me as a rich dude with a trophy wife, just an average Joe. Don't get discouraged, its not as bad as you think.

[MTL_GUY78]

Those are exceptions

[WhiteSteve]

How many people do you know with a six pack? The average person doesn't have one. The majority of couples I know, and I'd even assume out of most random couples walking down the street, the guy doesn't have a six pack. Dudes with six packs are a minority. That's like a girl thinking she can only get a guy if she's a certain bra size.

[MTL_GUY78]

You make a good point but they still only want good looking guys approaching them

[MTL_GUY78]

No response?

[WhiteSteve]

I mean, bro...if you approach it with a negative attitude you're going to get negative results. You're pigeonholing an entire gender. Are there girls out there that will only date a guy if he's handsome and has a six pack? Yup, absolutely. But there are ones out there that will only date you if you have money, or if you're a certain religion, or if you come from a high class family. People have standards, we all do. But to say that a whole group has one common standard is simply untrue. Also, YOU have standards. What are they? If a 700 lb bedridden woman who was ugly as sin liked you, would you date her? And you said to someone you think its because you're 50 lbs overweight...what about girls that are 50 lbs overweight? Aren't they at the same alleged disadvantage? Theoretically more so, because guys are more concerned about looks. Are you ruling out girls like that? I mean, I'd like to date Bar Rafaeli but I'm not Leonardo DiCaprio, y'know?

[MTL_GUY78]

I see what you're saying I should stick to my own kind

[WhiteSteve]

Not at all, I'm trying to put standards into perspective. I'm asking if you're hypocritical about it, saying that women are essentially discriminating against you for your weight, meanwhile you expect a girlfriend who meets a certain physical standard. I'm just trying see where your head is at. Available women are out there, man. Its roughly 50-50 out here, the game isn't rigged. You just come off so angry, that's going to turn women off. Be confident, bring your personality to the table, without the animosity. If you go in thinking you're going to lose, you've already lost.

[MTL_GUY78]

My ex fiance was heavy so has every other girl I've dated

[Camallunt]

Girls like 6 packs, women like men in physical shape all over. You can have a 6 pack and do very little to earn it if you are thin. I've not had a 6 pack since I was about 18 and I can tell you that has not damaged my chances with women. Hell I'd say right now with muscle and a bit of chub is quite ideal as I've got strength and muscle but I'm great for cuddling.There are girls who fancy fat men and there are girls who fancy fit men. Much like a fetish for feet some love some hate and some don't care. A fun thing to remember next time you see a girl swooning for abs, abs are core muscle related and core muscles help you fart so she is swooning over his farting prowess.

[MTL_GUY78]

I'll never get a gf cuz I can't get six pack abs

[Camallunt]

Work to your strengths and you'll find a partner who likes you for them.

[MTL_GUY78]

What do you mean by work to my strengths?

[AmIReallyAGirl]

absolutely not. it's a cool physical feature that I appreciate, but it has to come with other great features and characteristics (butts, chest, thighs, nice face) are features I like, and a fun personality is definitely most desirable. I like guys based on their entire (was going to say package, but hehe) set of attractive features, the whole equation. Butts and lips actually do a lot for me in the just for sex department though. For relationships, I want a guy to be fit and care about his health and his looks to a point where he's presentable, hygienic and trying to be approachable at some level, but abs aren't a requirement. Matter of fact, I have been attracted to men with a little pudge in part because the pudge works well for them! - as long as they have other characteristics I like, which there are tons, I'm not worried about toning. If a guy tones a bit though, it would factor into how attractive he is, and seeing my boyfriend tone works for him... so hot.

[Lauren2410]

My first crush was fat, but I just liked him. I don't mind that much if there aren't abs as long as the face is nice.Or my neighbour's boyfriend has a bit of a belly but there's just something people like about his face and personality. But of course some nice abs are a plus for me.I mean they're nice to look at haha. But I wouldn't care if I liked the guy, because I know what it's like to be judged by the appearance and not get a lot of action, so for me the personality has a big role too, apart from the face.

[MTL_GUY78]

You're very mature for your age

[Lauren2410]

Thank you, haha.But I don't really think that haha, I just have more "closer to reality" opinions when it comes to things like this and how much we are judged by our appearance.Not to mention the spoiled brats of my age who only care about Facebook likes lol.

[Lauren2410]

Thank you for most helpful :)

[MTL_GUY78]

Welcome

[TouglyforaGF]

LOL.

[MTL_GUY78]

Dude What Are You LOL About So I CAN Block You

[TouglyforaGF]

I'm a guy who's telling it like it is and how I see things.

[MTL_GUY78]

How Is saying lol telling it like it is? Lol isn't saying anything

[Lauren2410]

Oh I love how there's always an idividual who laughs at other's opinions because he can't come up with a good one for himself.

[TouglyforaGF]

Women and girls are hypocrites. There's no way on god's green earth any women/girl would pass up a guy with 6 pack abs. You all know I'm right.

[Lauren2410]

Sorry, but please, grow the hell up. Just because you see yourself as fat or ugly (ex. Your username) or because you didn't have any luck with girls doesn't mean we're all like that. I'd pass a 6 pack anyday for a nice face for example.don't believe me, ask my first snd last crush.one being really fat and short, the other didn't even have a pretty appearance.i just liked him. I'm not fighting you.Im saying do something to first change the way you think about yourself. Dont like your body, lose weight etc. I've never had a bf but now I'm changing my pessimistic attitude and my weight for me, to feel confident. So don't blame women for your lack if motivation to change..

[Lauren2410]

Of motivatin* im sure women don't hate you. You have a bad view of yourself which affects other's people perspective on yourself.I know.I've had my self esteem to the ground.and its still low, but I'm working on it.

[TouglyforaGF]

Grow up? No you grow up. You can't admit the truth. I guess your butt hurt.

[MTL_GUY78]

You don't know what it feels like to get rejected. . Why can't we just be given a chance by you women

[TouglyforaGF]

Yeah right you never had a BF?

[Lauren2410]

Look how you go into defense. And you tell me to grow up? I've been rejected at least 5 times, nor to say laughed at. Without confidence and some work on yourself you won't get any chances from women.like men aren't the same... you just can't know because you're not a girl.Think about what I said and change for the better.If you don't want any advice, then ignore this type of question ans keep on hating our gender..

[Lauren2410]

Never had one.I swear. Because I'm overweight and in my town are stunning girls.

[MTL_GUY78]

I don't hate your gender I was raid by nothing but women. . I'm talking about as it pertains to dating

[VegetaSSB]

@TouglyforaGF i have to agree with you.

[Beuniquebeyou]

I dont care about weight, I look for in a guy would be how he treated. He could be the hottest guy in the world but if he would treat me like crap, I wouldn't be with him. But if a guy was over weight and treat me well I would be with him, what I'm saying is I would only go out with a guy who treats me well. Also the eyes are something else I go for if he has a kind eye then I would trust a guy more. And a lot of us girls say no because we are trying to protect ourselfs from heartbreak.

[MTL_GUY78]

That's very sweet.. Thank you for sharing. . I wish all the other girls weren't judgmental and were like you

[kambo_trick3y]

Here's the way I see it.

Don't hold people to standards that yourself aren't willing to achieve.

For example, don't look for a girl with a really hot body if you yourself don't have one.

For example, let's say you're fat, and you want a girl to look at you for the nice guy you are. That's perfectly fine. But on the flip side, you should be ready to date a fat girl and also look at her for her heart.

As long as you give what you demand, then it's all fair game to me.

[Daph81]

this.

[Daph81]

you should write an article about this and preach to all the bitter guys (and girls) out there who wouldn't lower their standards.

[MTL_GUY78]

I would go out with heavy girls, my ex was overweight. . Not every guy likes thin girls

[MTL_GUY78]

Are you saying I'm a low standard?

[kambo_trick3y]

Your standards and my standards are different, they will be different for everyone. So my opinion of you, whether good or bad, is irrelevant.

But from my view, since you've gone out with overweight girls before. You're ok in my book.

[Mesonfielde]

I don't really like stick thin girls, they're hard to hug without breaking them into shreds by accident! They wouldn't endure my display of affection, haha.

[MTL_GUY78]

Thin and fit women don't turn me on at all but mainly it's their arrogance. They think their poop doesn't stink

[idonnntcare]

THIIIS!!!

[Ildskf]

No...not at all...my BF has no muscle definition in his belly...in fact that's where he stores a lot of fat...I actually have good muscle definition on my stomach and like how it looks...I worked hard for that!

[MTL_GUY78]

As long as you do it for yourself only

[Ildskf]

Yeah it's mostly for me...but my BF likes my stomach too...

[MTL_GUY78]

Being a good person unfortunately isn't good enough

[Ildskf]

In my case...no...I know my Bf wouldn't be with me if he didn't find me attractive physically and if I was chubby...he pretty much said so.

[cheesesteak7]

and you're still w/ that guy? sad.

[AndyWes]

No. I personally have two overweight casual friends who got hot women. How, I do not know, but it happened.

One is literally obese--like, he needs to lose 100 pounds to get into good shape, but he somehow met a cute, fit blonde girl and they married. Of course, now they're approaching year two or three, and she's not such a happy camper anymore, nor so fit.

The other fellow used to be something of a bodybuilder, but he's packed on some pounds, needs to lose at least 20 pounds. Yet he's now engaged to a HOT Chinese/Vietnamese girl who seems to adore him.

[Dzindzer]

A beautiful face is something I go after, especially eyes and smile. To be honest I'm not a huge fan of six pack I have always been more into guys with big thighs.. So six packs aren't really my thing. I don't hate them, but I don't look for guys with them either. I think it's far more important that the guy is comfortable in his own skin. This is something find very attractive. No matter how you look embrace it, people will love you for it. I sure know I would.

[MTL_GUY78]

what if they are 50 pounds overweight

[Dzindzer]

It doesn't matter. It would only bother me if he constantly complained about it. My uncle is overweight or he was, but no matter how much weight he putt on he was still the best looking one in our family. He still had his charm, confident and a great smile.

[MTL_GUY78]

Women care about bodies

[MTL_GUY78]

What happened? No response? You found a more interesting topic?

[lacelover20]

Definitely not. All the guys I have ever liked or dated never had abs I swear! And not trying to sound cocky but im a fairly attractive girl. My mom is really beautiful and thin and her bf is fat, when she met him he wasn't as big as he is now but he still was sort of, and I like guys that arnt to muscular I hink it looks gross tbh. id rather have a little etra meat on him then him be really skinny and muscular

[MTL_GUY78]

Would you date a guy who was 50 lbs overweight?

[lacelover20]

Yes absolutely if I liked him. Weight isn't a big issue with me as long as he's not obese. The only thing im really picky about is height nut thats pretty much all girls, doesn't have to be a skyscraper just as long as he's taller then me

[MTL_GUY78]

I'm 235 510 do you consider this obese?

[AshBrown]

ROFL !!! LMFAO !! @ "skyscraper". Oh God. That's the biggest laugh I had today. Thank you LaceLover.

[MTL_GUY78]

Ash brown if you're going to comment on my thread please comment on the subject. . This isn't a hangout

[lacelover20]

Lol your welcome @ashbrown and dont worry anout your weight. Just eat healthy and your good as long as your healthy you should do fine. If I liked your personality and thougt you were charmng I wouldn't let weight get in the way, if you were unhealthy id probley make you eat healthy so your healthy lol

[lacelover20]

www.youtube.com/watch watch this

[MTL_GUY78]

I do worry cuz women on gag and ok cupid call me fat and ugly

[MTL_GUY78]

First off I'm not that big, second of all that guy was obnoxious and third it was staged. . I've seen it before

[lacelover20]

Lol that wasn't the point of me showing you that.. you totally missed the point. Lighten up a bit.

[lacelover20]

I'm dont mistake confidence with arrogance honey,

[MTL_GUY78]

You were trying to give me confidence. . I really appreciate that but you know it's not real right? The guy even used the f word around a girl. . No class

[lacelover20]

You seem like you habe a really pessimist personally. Which is a huge turn off just so you know.

[lacelover20]

You dont know its staged just as much as I dont. And im an optamstic so I belive to think even if the video os fake the message is real but whatever im done here, its clear to me now

[MTL_GUY78]

I should be fake and act like everything is great huh? Like this positive thinking your age group is into?

[MTL_GUY78]

What's confidence? I'm awesome and any girl that doesn't want me it's her loss sorry I don't have that mindset

[lacelover20]

Maybe ya cuz what yur doing isn't obviously working for you. Hows pretending that everbodys evil any better? Being a realistic person is better hen being an optimistic but bwong an optimistic is better then being a pestemstic if your so concerned thag people are shallow as fuck then why dont you lose weight then? Like whats the problem?

[MTL_GUY78]

So because they don't like who I am I have to endure all that suffering cuz they're shallow? Did I mention I'm handicapped

[lacelover20]

Becoming healthy isn't suffering. And then whats ypur problem then? Your getting mad because you want a women who likes you when your fat but at the same rime you refuse to believe women like a fat guy but at the same time your saying I won't change because I want somone to like me for who am? Wtf wheres the fucking loop hole? If your hinking like that hen there's really no solution to your problem. Like seriously

[MTL_GUY78]

Can't a fat guy get a gf? And exude me diet and exercise is extremely hard

[MTL_GUY78]

Excuse

[lacelover20]

Like I said yes but here's only one way. Of he has confidence and you have none plus your a downer so can you get a gf? Nope not at thisnpoint in time no. Being honest and of course its hard noone said life was easy! The best things in life you habe to work for. When you wanna succeed as bad as you wanna breath thats when you'll be successful

[MTL_GUY78]

What's confidence when it comes to girls

[lacelover20]

Loving yoursel unconditionaly, being comfortable in the skin your in

[MTL_GUY78]

The thing is I do like me but what good am I if I don't have a woman complete me?

[lacelover20]

Thats a lie and you know it. Go ahead and lie to me you owe me nothing but dont ever lie to yourself.

[MTL_GUY78]

What am I lying about?

[MTL_GUY78]

@lacelover20 no response?

[Beto125]

I feel like a complete dick for asking this question ok here it goes what if they naturally have a six pack and are physically incapable of getting fatter. Sorry MTL-GUY78 I really do feel like a dick for asking this.

[craZy_4_musiC_o0]

hahahahahaha no.
in fact, a sixpack can already be too much for me sometimes. Like, in shape is always a nice bonus, and the adonis-muscle-v-shape can be very hot. But going below 9% bodyfat is just over the top in my opinion. Honestly, as long as you're confident, happy and smart (and yes, I'll admit it for my shallow self: not too overweight) there's a very good chance I will think you're the most attractive person in the room.

[MTL_GUY78]

How can you say that? I'm 50 lbs overweight

[craZy_4_musiC_o0]

Just being honest. If you didn't want an honest answer, you shouldn't have asked the question.
by the way , I said "if not too overweight" and that is just my personal preference.
If weight is a touchy subject for you though, maybe you should look into shifting a few pounds. For yourself, because honestly, there're worse things to worry about than not feeling comfortable with your weight.

[MTL_GUY78]

I just want a gf ok

[craZy_4_musiC_o0]

that's completely ok!
Can I give you some advice then? By all means, you needn't pay any more attention to what I write now but just in case: Work on being a happy, self-confident (not cocky), content guy who knows exactly what he wants. In life, in a girl, in a job, etc. Let me tell you - nothing more attractive than that. Good luck!

[MTL_GUY78]

What's confidence*

[MTL_GUY78]

No response?

[craZy_4_musiC_o0]

wasn't logged in. And cannot be bothered to reply to your trolling.

[MTL_GUY78]

I'm not trolling. . It's wrong of you to accuse someone of something you have no proof of.. you don't know the reason why I post what I do.. I've gone through a lot emotionally this last year so try having a heart

[shayeshaye]

Hell no , I know a lot of guys who are the most attractive guys ever and there don't have a six pack at all. I know most girls love the whole 6 pack and muscles , but some girls in the world love the genuine guys who don't have that. The whole muscles and 6 pack is just a bonus

[ManaX]

He doesn't need to have one but for me a requirement is that it's at least flat. Guys i've dated if they aren't in ottermode they have a 6, current rarity has an 8. https://p.twimg.com/A1iXEuuCAAAo2SF.jpg:large

[MTL_GUY78]

That's mean

[ManaX]

How so?

[MTL_GUY78]

It's superficial

[ManaX]

I take care of myself, why can't he? I only ask for the same as i'm giving.

[Apostate]

Definitely not.

I find some muscular guys attractive, I find some lanky guys attractive, I find some rounded guys attractive.

I honestly don't think it matters, in the slightest.

[Misunderstoodvirgo6]

Deff not. Dont care about that at all. To me im happy if he doesn't have it. That not important to me.

[TouglyforaGF]

Of course he has too. I don't believe any girl or women says she hates
6 pack abs. If a woman went on two blind dates the first one was a guy who had a beer gut and the second had 6 pack abs I'll bet she'll choose the second one. Even if the guy with the beer gut had a better personalty.

[MTL_GUY78]

Dude look at the women's comments, you'll see they don't like them

[TouglyforaGF]

Do you really think or believe their going to be honest? That's like a woman dating a rich guy for his personalty.

[leiasolo]

Ummmm... I'm a girl and I can say that I and many other girls I know would not go out with someone for their body. I know many boys with 6 packs and some of them are complete idiots so no, it matters about personality not looks. It's just a shame that most guys care more about looks than personality.

[MTL_GUY78]

That is so not true

[TouglyforaGF]

@leiasolo you live in a fantasy world if you believe personality beats looks. But yet all I see is girls with jerks, bad boys, players etc their not dating them for their personality.

[TouglyforaGF]

What's not true?

[MTL_GUY78]

What leiasolo said

[TouglyforaGF]

Oh I agree. I thought you meant my comment.

[MTL_GUY78]

Nope

[TouglyforaGF]

LOL :)

[MTL_GUY78]

They say one thing on their computer but when they go out they're so vain

[TouglyforaGF]

Tell me about it but come on what do you expect? For them to be honest lol.

[Anonymous]

no. I think guys who have very defined abs are not so attractive.

[MTL_GUY78]

Finally someone with taste

[guitar94]

Seems like somewhat of a coincidence that the way you happen to look is also "tasteful"

[MTL_GUY78]

Looks don't matter unless you're stuck up

[Anonymous]

I like toned guys and skinny guys.
Toned not abs/biceps/muscular toned just fit enough that's all.
I dont like abs either, all the working out shit that is going around right now on social medial are for superficial and shallow purposes. Fuuuuck all that.
I like a guy who runs, who is active and dynamic, not a gym rat who likes to show off and obssesed about his looks and diet. NO!

[MTL_GUY78]

What if the poor guy is like me and he can't walk cuz he's handicapped? He's out of luck?

[Opinion Owner]

you're handicaped? Really?

[MTL_GUY78]

Yes.. I wouldn't joke about something like that? I have severe pain

[Katy16]

Nope, my bf doesn't have one and I still think he's extremely attractive :)

[MTL_GUY78]

That's because you have a good heart and you aren't stuck up. .

[Katy16]

Thank you :) (I will add though since reading through some of your comments to other girls, even though some girls have a different preference it doesn't make then stuck up necessarily, it's just what they prefer, they can still be amazing people)

[MTL_GUY78]

Saying preference is just an excuse to be mean and to reject guys.. I don't think you women realize the damage you do

[Katy16]

No, guys have preferences too; not every person on earth is going to be attracted to every other person on earth, but there are some that will. That's just how life works and it goes both ways.

[MTL_GUY78]

I don't care if a woman is overweight. . I'm just upset when fit people think they're better than me

[Katy16]

I don't think anyone here has said that and I wasn't talking specifically weight anyways, I mean physical features and personality in general. I could care less (As could plenty of other people) about weight

[MTL_GUY78]

Then why am I single

[Katy16]

I have no idea. But it's HIGHLY unlikely it's just because of your looks.

[MTL_GUY78]

How do you know when you know nothing about me.. I'm a hard worker, kind, considerate, responsible

[Katy16]

I just said I don't know why you are single. I just don't think that looks alone would keep you single, but I have no idea about anything else about you. You do seem to be defensive and have a slightly negative attitude, but that's all I know.

[MTL_GUY78]

I'm only negative cuz women tell me everyday I'm not good enough for them and it hurts my feelings

[Katy16]

Well im sorry about that, maybe you are just hanging around bad women

[MTL_GUY78]

On online dating they tell me I'm fat and ugly, they tell me that here too. I don't want to be alone

[Katy16]

I don't know what to tell you

[MTL_GUY78]

Um how about that's mean, um how about I'm not ugly and things will be ok.. that's just for starters

[Katy16]

I don't know you, so I don't know any of these things and also i'm done with this convo so good luck

[MTL_GUY78]

What you think you are too good for this conversation and you'd rather comment on the lame gross, disgusting sex questions

[Katy16]

No I think your a jerk and THAT'S why you are single so bye

[MTL_GUY78]

I've been engaged so I don't know what you are talking about

[Zendrya]

Absolutely not. My boyfriend doesn't have a six pack at all. I'm not even that turned on by them anymore

[MTL_GUY78]

Does it matter if a guy is 50 lbs overweight?

[Zendrya]

Nope. My boyfriend is a bit overweight and I love him just the same as I would if he weren't.

[MTL_GUY78]

He's probably not as overweight as me

[Zendrya]

Honestly if someone is judging you by your weight then are they really worth your time. I've liked an obese guy before. Weight has no say as long as they are still healthy.

[MTL_GUY78]

You can't be obese and healthy.. women judge me

[Zendrya]

he was very active. He just liked his food. And if women judge you then they aren't worth your time anyway.

[MTL_GUY78]

Yes they are. I would let a woman abuse me if she'd be my gf

[Zendrya]

Then you need to go see a therapist. And I'm not saying that to be rude. No one should feel like that

[MTL_GUY78]

I do see one. , for a few months now

[Zendrya]

I'm glad. Don't let a woman walk all over you just so you can say you have a girlfriend.

[MTL_GUY78]

I've been single a year now and I can't take it

[Zendrya]

Before you can expect anyone to love you, you have to love yourself. Oldest rule in the book.

[MTL_GUY78]

I don't buy that.. My ex cheated on me and I'd let her do it again and again if she came back

[Zendrya]

There is something wrong with that. That isn't right

[MTL_GUY78]

I don't have time to love myself. . I'm running out of time

[Zendrya]

How? You're only 35. You aren't even old yet. Everyone has time to learn to love themselves.

[MTL_GUY78]

I don't want to get married when I'm 60

[Zendrya]

better then never or marrying someone now and getting a divorce

[MTL_GUY78]

Do you think I can wait 25 years when I've already been alone 18? That's 43 years.. thanks for making me cry

[MTL_GUY78]

I wish I was attractive

[Zendrya]

well obviously there is more to the story that we don't know

[MTL_GUY78]

What does that mean?

[Zendrya]

I don't know how to explain that any more straight forward...um there is obviously more going on in your live that is contributing to this problem that we know. You may not even know what it is though you might.

[Zendrya]

life* than*

[bubbiexo]

Not at all. Even though I do like muscles, there is nothing wrong with a soft stomach :)

[MTL_GUY78]

Women hate chubby right?

[bubbiexo]

That depends what you mean by chubby. There is nothing wrong with a little squish, but seriously overweight is unattractive.

[OpenClose]

I think the general range of attractiveness ranges from warrior to teddy bear. Perhaps "tree" is in there somewhere, too. But I know plenty of girls who love it when a guy can give a big bear hug.

[MTL_GUY78]

Like how much overweight is unattractive?

[bubbiexo]

Depends on the guys and his frame, but in general I would say 10+ pounds overweight.

[MTL_GUY78]

Ok :(

[doctorwhofan23]

What about not fat but not muscle?

[bubbiexo]

That's fine too.

[MTL_GUY78]

She dislikes overweight people as far as being a desirable mate but that's our society

[bubbiexo]

It's about health. If I have kids with someone, I want them to be a good role model. Being unhealthy isn't being a good role model. I used to be overweight, I feel your pain. But I did something about it. Don't sit there and say stuff about "society"... It has nothing to do with that.

[MTL_GUY78]

Yeah it does.. you're validating discrimination. . When I was in good shape in high school I never thought I was superior to overweight kids

[bubbiexo]

Did I say anything about being superior? I didn't. Because i do not feel that I am superior to anyone. I'm not validating discrimination. Instead of being bitter and trying to get everyone on this site to validate your existence, why don't you try and make some changes? Girls like guys of all sizes but they don't like guys who are rude, bitter, and narrow-minded.

[cheesesteak7]

bubbiexo, do you think 10 lbs overweight is "seriously overweight"? lol

[bubbiexo]

Noooo. I said 10 pounds is fine. Anything over that is too much for me, and 25+ pounds is seriously overweight.

[MTL_GUY78]

I'm 50 over.. I must be a freak then

[MTL_GUY78]

A woman should like me for the person inside not my appearance

[bubbiexo]

Oh for the love of god. You again? I should have known better.

[MTL_GUY78]

What Are You Talking about?

[Kris85]

Bubbie i was thinking the same thing after I posted. "Bangs head against the wall numerous times"

[bunnahies]

buy her a 6 pack beer and she'll find you attractive.

[MTL_GUY78]

Lmao

[bloodmountain1990]

itd be a lot less work haha

[OpenClose]

I think ripped muscles goes along the same line of thought as big boobs.

[cheesesteak7]

lol great point. Assuming you mean guys love them, but don't think they are a necessity.

[OpenClose]

Or some people just aren't into them. Big boobs are generally a turn-off for me.

[cheesesteak7]

that too!

[icarly]

do you find big boobs attractive?
I dont' find very ripped muscles attractive at all. So i wouldn't find your analogy to be too correct.

[OpenClose]

Exactly. I find them both to be an exaggeration of the form. Some love the exaggeration. Others, like myself, prefer the subtle.

[bubbiexo]

Lol tree. I do like the bear hugs!

[MTL_GUY78]

Terrible analogy

[Distant]

No, he doesn't NEED them but they are nice to look at. Girls usually don't like touching guys that are too muscular.

[Anonymous]

6 packs are attractive but he doesn't have to have that to be considered attractive by me. There's a lot other things that are way more important in determining a person's attractiveness. However, one of my biggest turnoffs when it comes to physical appearance is a flabby gut or love handles. As long as his abdomen is somewhat toned that's good enough.

[gingerrr]

Nope, I am attracted to the eyes and face. I know some buff, well fit and well toned guys who I find completely repulsive. Personality goes a long way too.

[MTL_GUY78]

I'm 50 lbs overweight.. is that too much?

[gingerrr]

Depends how tall you are and where you carry it.

[gingerrr]

I know guys who are really tall and considered overweight but you cannot tell. I also know of men who are opposite.

[MTL_GUY78]

I'm not tall

[gingerrr]

I'm just using height as an example. It just depends how you carry it.

[Beto125]

No dude it's fine I've got a friend that's 200 and he's 6 foot 1 so nah your good and hell he is a pretty cool guy too you just gotta be nice to the girls you like and find a good time to make a move he'll that's gotten me far and it helps to get a wing man.

[DivaMonae]

No though I do find guys with abs to be attractive, I also find guys without them to be attractive as well.

[MTL_GUY78]

What about 50 lbs overweight?

[DivaMonae]

50lbs isn't really that bad I was over weight by like 40lbs and guys were still into me.

Anyway no weight doesn't really bother me appearance wise the only time it does is when it really starts to affect my s/o

[MTL_GUY78]

Awww thank you that so made my day.. everyone else has told me today on this thread that no woman would like me at this weight

[DivaMonae]

It's no problem glad to help =)

I mean yeah people have their own likes, opinions, and standards when it comes to dating especially weight.

But I mean you didn't even state how much you weighed. You could be really skinny, over weight, or obses.

I mean many people are over weight, but not obese, and I guarantee you out of the 62 of us that left their opion probably are.

Also being over weight isn't that bad when I was no one could tell because I was tall so it really didn't show.

And omg you are like the kindest person ever! I can't believe you actually told people to read my opion.

Well anyway I'm really glad I could make your day =)

[MTL_GUY78]

I'm 510 235 so I'm most likely obese

[DivaMonae]

Wait is 510 you're weight or 235?

But anyway it doesn't matter if someone really likes you will look past that.

[MTL_GUY78]

Yes I am? Is that bad?

[MTL_GUY78]

But there has to be a physical attraction to me first so they can get to know the real me.. that's what my brother in law told me

[DivaMonae]

Yeah that's true and applies to most, but if you're over weight so what?

Im sure there are more attractive qualities about you.

[MTL_GUY78]

So I don't have looks cuz of my weight?

[DivaMonae]

That's not true I've seen plenty of obese people that still are attractive and many are wedded.

But if it really bothers you the best thing I can recommend is to lose weight. You'll have better health also

[MTL_GUY78]

if I lose weight then they win

[DivaMonae]

No... No one wins but you.

You'll find the girl that you want, and have better health as well.

What everyone else says doesn't matter.

And it's really up to you whether to change your weight or not but personally I was 40lbs over weight and now that I lost it I feel great personally and emotionally... I mean you don't have to lose any but you could drop a few pounds while staying over weight so you'll feel great and find out who are your true friends.

[MTL_GUY78]

My friends accept me just not potential significant others

[DivaMonae]

Okay then fine as long as you accept yourself, you're happy, and healthy.

[MTL_GUY78]

I don't accept myself because women don't accept me

[DivaMonae]

Well then its a lose lose situation... I'm sure there are girls in the world that will accept you as you are but thats all I can say.

You can let them "win" and lose the weight and be bothered by it or you can keep the weight and hopefully find a girl in be bothered by it in the mean time.

Whatever you think it what matters not what anyone else thinks and you're only hurting yourself.

You don't have to care what anyone else thinks, but you do and when you try to fight it you're only hurting yourself. Block out everyone else and just think about what you really want, what helps you, and what will TRULY make you happy.

[MTL_GUY78]

why would I want a woman you just want me for my body

[DivaMonae]

What? I never said I wanted you for your body.

I don't know what else to tell you... Wait for a girl that accepts you for who you are.

And what I'm saying isn't about the girls its about you being happy! You not caring what others think whether your healthy or out of shape.

And you're not happy because you don't accept yourself because girls don't accept you

So you must care what others think.

You are the only one holding yourself back.

Either stop caring what others think and live your life how you want to. Or keep the wait and be bothered by what girls think of you, or lose the weight but continue to be bothered by letting a little voice in your head continue to bother you because you let everyone else win.

Its really up to you, I'm sorry that's all I got. I can't think of anything else I really want to help, but the decision is up to you!

[MTL_GUY78]

Omg so sorry. . Typo on my cell phone

[MTL_GUY78]

Can't I attract women just how I am?

[DivaMonae]

It's ok and I'm not saying that you can't it just takes time.

But despite that when someone is bothered by what someone says or thinks the only way to make it better is by working on it.

So however you go about it fine but just do not let it continue to bother you during the process.

[MTL_GUY78]

But why should those women get what they want making me thin

[DivaMonae]

They won't the decision is up to you about, how you go about it but in my opinion you lose either way.

Or at least until you find a sweet girl that ignores appearances.

[DivaMonae]

This is the final word of advice I have to give to you... Sometimes you have to lose the battle to win the war.

Now the battle can either be you losing the weight and letting them win, or it can be you keeping the weight and being unhappy. Either what you lose.

And the War is of course you finding a girl that you love and loves you.

Wich route will you choose?

[MTL_GUY78]

A girl will never want me for me.. how sad :(

[DivaMonae]

Since you believe that then drop the pounds... or keep it and e unhappy.

And it is sad but that's life.

[MTL_GUY78]

Wow from someone who said doesn't mind overweight guys

[DivaMonae]

Yeah I don't. But according to you everyone else does snd you're bothered by it either way... So like I said before that's all I can say.

I'm sorry but repeating the same thing over and over is just irritating.

[MTL_GUY78]

Why don't you want to help me?

[DivaMonae]

Now you're just putting words in my mouth... Its not that I don't want to help you its the fact that I've have constantly. I've tried my best and have said the same thing in different ways as much as I can.

It's not that I don't want to give you advice it's tge fact that you won't take it but asks me the same question again and again.

What I'm trying to say is I can explain it to you but I can't understand it for you.

So 1 of 2 things either you're just trolling, or you've ignored everything I've said from the beginning and don't intend on taking any of ny advice. Which is also basically trolling the only difference is the fact that you don't realize that you're doing it.

[MTL_GUY78]

you have no right to accuse me of trolling.I've been broken up from my ex fiance for a year now and I still can't get over it so thank you for making me cry by calling me a troll just cuz I wanted some help. Goodbye

[DivaMonae]

Trolling doesn't mean you're a troll. It just means you're kidding around and I'm sorry for offending you and making you cry.

I'm really sorry because a lot of people on GAG do that to me I'll try to answer their question but we'll just keep going back and forth and I'll lose time talking about something that no one really needs help with.

Sorry again and I honestly have nothing else to say. I tried I really did. At the most you can either take my advice or you can't. There's nothing more for me to say.

And sorry again =(

[MTL_GUY78]

I'm 36 years old why would I be childish and kid about something like this

[Luna-o3o]

No. I just care more about the face if it's a face that is charming to look at.
Have a good body is a plus, but not a must.
As long as he is not obese, everything is fine with me.

[MTL_GUY78]

Sorry but us regular guys can't look like Adam levine

[Luna-o3o]

You don't have to look like Adam. Everyone is different and have different taste.

[MTL_GUY78]

Women don't like men who are 50 lbs overweight. . Do you?

[Luna-o3o]

I don't know. I don't mind overweight (chubby) guys.

[MTL_GUY78]

Women don't like me but yet I'm supposed to be happy

[Luna-o3o]

Why do you want a girl to only like you because you have abs? That will just be insane. Find a girl that likes you, for you. Not your body. There is more than just looks.
If you say they don't like you, maybe it's because of your personality. Check on what you're seeing wrong.
If it's not that, maybe you need to go out more and find new people and meet new girls.
Get yourself out there and have confidence in yourself.

[MTL_GUY78]

People say confidence in one self but I don't know what that means

[Luna-o3o]

Confidence is that you feel comfortable in your own skin, that you mean what you say, the way you dress, or do your hair. You do it because that is who you are and you're not afraid of what people think.

[MTL_GUY78]

Why are women so mean

[Drooogie4]

No. I'm not terribly into abs myself. Not major ones anyways

[Dandeus]

I see Dodger got himself a new name... Did your last account get banned or something?

Answer: 6 pack is not necessary.

[icarus1108]

Lol i guess im just different. I love chubby tummies. I get great full hugs and it doesn't poke me or anything.

[legalboxers]

Im average looking, and once in a blue moon (when in either uniforms) I would get a head turn.

[MTL_GUY78]

Nice!!!

[legalboxers]

the other guys Im with get the #s tho...lol..

[Rail2k]

Of course not, just realize that attraction is made up of many different factors and weight/fitness is only one of them.

[MTL_GUY78]

I wouldn't want a vain woman like that

[Rail2k]

That's not vanity, that's being human.

[lamebabe]

No. I prefer a toned stomach with someee definition to an actual 6 pack, if that makes sense lol.

[MTL_GUY78]

Do you know how much a poor guy has to work to get those?

[lamebabe]

To get a toned stomach, or a 6 pack? I guess it depends on your starting point.

[MTL_GUY78]

What happened to guys just looking like guys? Now we have to look like underwear models

[lamebabe]

What do you define as "normal"? And I never said it was necessary, but is preferred (to me).

[MTL_GUY78]

Normal is average not some gym body

[lamebabe]

Having an average body doesn't make you unattractive, but I think it's in our nature to be more attracted to gym bodies because they give off the perception of ideal health.

[MTL_GUY78]

That's what the media does is brainwashing

[lamebabe]

Yeah, the media likely has something to do with it as well. But there's just as much pressure (or more) on women to look "perfect".

[MTL_GUY78]

I think a curvy women with some extra weight are sexy

[raxotime]

No but if you're gonna ask someone out without a ripped torso then you might want to consider doing it with your shirt on to make a good impression as you will look the same if you're fit with/without six pack when you've got a shirt on. You can leave the abs for when you're closer and they won't care - they'll love you already anyway. Or you could just try that extra bit harder for a six pack so that your girl will fall for you easier. It works for me basically every time.

[mandira]

Not at all! There are way more important things to consider than whether a guy has 6 pack abs or not. But I do want him to be stronger than me:)

[Arroxal]

No I don't think a guy need 6 pack to be attractive, there is much more to see and find out than that ^^
At first it's a feeling and then it comes to the physical parts ;)

[Anonymous]

Yes and no. A guy could have six pack abs but be a total idiot with a HUGE ego that no one likes. Usually, I hate those kind of guys. And sometimes, those guys without six pack abs are the most sweetest and caring.

[Awkweird]

No!!! Oh my goodness.
I hope guys don't think this. :(

[MTL_GUY78]

I do.. cuz women tell me I'm ugly everyday

[Awkweird]

I'm sorry that you think that way!
I hope that you don't continue to let those women dictate the way you look at yourself and feel about yourself.

[MTL_GUY78]

It's hard not to when they are all I care and think about

[alliecheergirl123]

i mean he should be in shape.. but he doesn't need to have a 6 pack.. there are a lot of athletes that are in shape but don't have a sick pack. it depends on the girl honestly

[MTL_GUY78]

They want perfection and it's not right

[alliecheergirl123]

i don't think perfection is a 6 pack.. lots of average guys have 6 packs

[MTL_GUY78]

I've tried to get a six pack but I can't. . Do I deserve to be alone because of this?

[alliecheergirl123]

haha no obviously not!

[MTL_GUY78]

Why do you laugh

[bellegirl16]

No, there are plenty of hot guys without them. That being said, 6 packs are hard to resist!

[SaVes]

Not at all, no. A little bit can be nice, but personally I don't like it if it's too much.

[Izzy2102]

No, but a generally lean body. I'm really not into fat

[MTL_GUY78]

Why? You're too good?

[Izzy2102]

too good?
It's just not attractive to me. What makes men's bodies attractive is a well shaped upper body

[MTL_GUY78]

And do you know that's not easy to achieve when you are handicapped and can't afford a gym?

[MTL_GUY78]

And by the way what are you going to do when the looks fade?

[Izzy2102]

I never said it was. And what kind of handicap do you have?
But it's ok for guys to say they don't like overweight girls, why is it not ok for me to say I don't like overweight men?

Looks fading is normal, but you can stay reasonably fit while aging and it's different. You have history together, it's not the same as not finding someone attractive from the start

[MTL_GUY78]

I love overweight girls. . Where did I say I like thin women. ? My ex fiance was overweight. . There goes your theory

[Kris85]

Ya what's the handicap that is slowing you down?

[MTL_GUY78]

That's not something you share with strangers

[MTL_GUY78]

And by the way NO WOMEN IS WORTH EXERCISING FOR

[Kris85]

Then do it for yourself. I am going to give you a piece of advice here. If you don't love yourself, then no one else will love you. It's as simple as that. You need to work on loving your own self either as you are, or make the changes you want with your life and just do it and who gives a flying fuck what anyone else thinks. Until you love yourself, you will continue to have a rough road ahead of you

[MTL_GUY78]

I do love myself

[MTL_GUY78]

But people who go to the gym love themselves a little too much especially the guys.. it makes me want to puke

[Izzy2102]

No you didn't say it and I never said you did but the vas majority of guys prefer thin women.

Well if you exercise only for women, we wouldn't be compatible anyways because I exercise to feel good. Being fit and healthy is important to me

[Izzy2102]

Then don't exercise, but truth is most women prefer fit men.
If you're happy with yourself, that's good. But my personal preference is men who are lean

[Kris85]

No you don't love yourself or else you wouldn't be asking this question. And going to the gym doesn't make somebody love themselves too much it's called wanting to live a heal other lifestyle. I have kids, and I would like to be around for them and be able to keep up with them and show them a healthy lifestyle. You have a distorted view on life and reality and like I said, start with yourself and learn to love you

[Kris85]

*healthier lifestyle*

[MTL_GUY78]

You exercise to feel sexy.. who do you think you're fooling

[MTL_GUY78]

Healthier lifestyle lol

[Kris85]

Lol think what you want man, you won't take anyone's advice anyways. Hope you figure out what you want in life. Good day!

[MTL_GUY78]

You only like thin guys. Do you know how that hurts my self esteem?

[Izzy2102]

well I'm sorry it hurts your self esteem, but you ask and I'm not going to lie. It's not only you, everyone has to deal with that. On the upside if you feel you're not attractive because of your weight, you change that. I know where you come from, not so sure about men, but a lot of my girl friends feel the same way. And they're often not even overweight

Looking good is part of it, but believe it or not, I enjoy working out. It relaxes me and gives me time to think. I'e always been athletic and in my family I could see what difference it makes. My mom continusley worked out a few times a week, while my dad never did. And it does make a difference when you grow old, health wise. Especially for men who are more prone to heart disease

[MTL_GUY78]

Did I mention I can't walk.. I'm handicapped

[Izzy2102]

No you didn't. And if you were asking about yourself that would make it a different question. But you asked for people in general

[MTL_GUY78]

Well now you know I can't exercise and you made me cry but people in our society don't have a conscience anymore

[Izzy2102]

well I didn't mean to, but you did ask, did you want me to lie?
And judging by the other answers, I'm the exception, so that's good

And even without being able to walk you eat healthy and do some sports, for recreation and to keep fit. No girl expects a guy to be ripped.

[MTL_GUY78]

All men were created equal

[MTL_GUY78]

It's a little thing called tact

[Izzy2102]

I know, but you know we're not compatible with everyone. Again, sorry if I made you cry

[MTL_GUY78]

You don't give care. .don't validate your hurtful comments

[JohnWhilkins]

Somehow the big look has escaped people. Larger guys with a bit of muscle, bit of fat. Ripped guys dont resonate with some women for some reason

[AshBrown]

I think 6 pack is for the guy's own ego. Nobody else fuckin' cares.

[MTL_GUY78]

They do care.. why do you think I've been single for a year

[AshBrown]

Try to change ypur attitude. Tell them you are what you are and show then that u r better than those 6-packers.

[MTL_GUY78]

You mean be fake positive?

[llorando]

No, not as long as he has a flat toned stomach. Actually too much of a six pack can be unattractive, makes you look like a lobster.

[MTL_GUY78]

Do you know how much work it takes to get a flat stomach? Not everyone has good genes

[llorando]

Not that hard with the right exercise and diet.

[MTL_GUY78]

If you have a handicap it's hard

[llorando]

Than if you have a handicap it is hard to achieve a flat stomach.

[MTL_GUY78]

Flat stomach isn't that great

[llorando]

It is, when it comes to cloths fitting.

[MTL_GUY78]

2 words big and tall store

[llorando]

I'd rather have a flat stomach, I don't wanna look like I'm pregnant.

[MTL_GUY78]

Fat guys don't look pregnant. Don't insult pregnant women that way

[llorando]

I don't think I'm insulting pregnant woman. Their are guys that have most of their fat around their stomach that makes the look a little pregnant.

[MTL_GUY78]

They do but they don't look pregnant. . That's like you're saying I'm a woman who's pregnant. . Have some tact

[llorando]

I know from experience, I use to have a beer belly (not from drinking beer) and joked all the time about looking pregnant.

[MTL_GUY78]

Nobody should make fun of you like that

[llorando]

I was the one doing the joking, no harm done.

[Thatguy321]

I work out quiet a bit, however i refuse to do ab workouts haha i dont like the burning feeling in my stomach

[Anonymous]

she'd be very shallow if that's what it took for her to be attracted to a guy. It's one thing for it to be a turn on. It'd be like if a guy thought a girl having double d cups only made a girl attractive.

[Anonymous]

Nah, but having a v-shaped torso ups his attractiveness a lot. It's completely necessary, though.

[MTL_GUY78]

You have to be very into yourself to get a v shaped torso. . Do you know how much work that takes?

[Opinion Owner]

It's a natural instinct, like men preferring a certain hip to waist ratio. Most men have broader shoulders to smaller waists to some degree. I don't mean the "v" that jacked guys get at their stomach.

[MTL_GUY78]

How am I supposed to do that with a handicap?

[Opinion Owner]

Consult an occupational therapist. They know a lot of stuff like that.

[MTL_GUY78]

Why do you care if a guy is overweight?

[Opinion Owner]

Sexual attraction is a big component of a relationship. Humans are wired for it. I tend to bond more through sexual activity-I can't speak for everyone, though. I have overweight friends with overweight boyfriends.

Also, being overweight is bad for people's health. Healthy diet and exercise is valuable for good physical health, but also mental and emotional. An OTA could help you learn physical activities that are beneficial in many ways.

[MTL_GUY78]

I never got complaints from past lovers. . Hate to break it to you being thin doesn't make you better than me or a better lover

[Opinion Owner]

So date girls who are into you... Doesn't mean every girl will feel that way or that it's necessary for you to find someone that they do.

[MTL_GUY78]

What's on the inside is more important. . I would think someone in your age group would be mature to understand that.. I expect this attitude from 18 year olds

[Opinion Owner]

If you're as contented as you say, why the aggressive and combative attitude?

[MTL_GUY78]

Cuz I'm sick of women looking down at me

[Opinion Owner]

You seem to be hurting right now and lashing out because of it. Being overweight isn't a sense of identity - it's just the result of habits, largely. Perhaps even eating for comfort, which many of us struggle with. A healthy diet and exercises can help you FEEL better, not just look better. Let go of your fears, which I know is easier said than done. If you have a handicap, there are trainers who know how to help.

[MTL_GUY78]

I can't afford trainers and I work 60 hrs a week. . I was engaged once

[Opinion Owner]

Occupational therapy can be different than like a personal trainer. If you're working that much, good health should be even more of a priority. I know, it can be do hard. I work 50+ hours a week a lot too. But working hard and carrying weight and being angry is a sure path to serious health problems. You don't want to be broken down and pissed off, or you wouldn't be here having this conversation. You know you need to change something to feel good. It's ok - take small steps.

[MTL_GUY78]

I'm too old. . It's too late for me.. I don't want to get fit cuz that would be the only reason a girl wants me

[Opinion Owner]

It's not too late. The older you get, the worse you'll feel. Start making small changes.

[MTL_GUY78]

I need a gf this year..small changes are hard if you have anxiety

[Opinion Owner]

I have anxiety too- panic attacks, even, which are hell. Working on that could be the change you need. Exercise and diet make a HUGE difference in anxiety and depression. Have you ever looked at the Anxiety and Phobia workbook? That's helped me, along with some cognitive behavioral therapy and low doses of meds. I'm not going to lie - life is HARD sometimes and nothing comes magically free. But your fears that you are powerless and complete helpless are just not true.

[MTL_GUY78]

The only thing I care about is getting a gf nothing else

[Opinion Owner]

You can find a girlfriend - you've found one in the past. Nobody is saying you can't. But your compulsive questioning and sense of desperation and frustration here suggest that you need a life change and, in fact, are getting to be ready for one.

[MTL_GUY78]

Of course I'm ready for one.. I'm a giver

[meibay313]

I don't prefer six pack abs.. I like guys with a bit of fat on their tummy :P

[NoMoreDreams]

No, I would rather have it be just defined and toned.

[cheesesteak7]

isn't it a 6-pack if it is defined and toned?

[NoMoreDreams]

Not necessarily for me defined and toned is more like firm and you could see a bit of lines maybe for the ab area. I like a little softness. I guess my word choice at first was not the best, sorry about that.

[Dakoin]

No not at all. Not at all whatsoever. I actually don't care for sixpack abs.

[MTL_GUY78]

Would you date a guy who was 50 lbs overweight

[Dakoin]

It all depends you know... It suits some people to have a small belly but to some people it doesn't... Do you have a picture?:-)

[MTL_GUY78]

Yeah but I don't want to show it.. The people are mean on here

[Anonymous]

It's interesting to me that I've never heard a girl say that she liked muscular men. The only physical things on guys that girls like are the things you can never change. Aren't they cruel?

[MTL_GUY78]

I know what you're referring to thank god I'm ok in that department

[Opinion Owner]

Yes thank god. If you weren't, you'd have no chance, and you'd probably know exactly what I'm referring to.

[MTL_GUY78]

Yep lol

[Daph81]

No, not for me. I'm not an abs girl.

[blondfrog]

I am surprised by a lot of these answers it's good to know I don't have to have a 6 pack now.

[jenndrop24]

No, not at all. but i don't like a guy to have a beer belly hanging out there. i work out to keep fit and should my man.

[MTL_GUY78]

That's conceited

[jenndrop24]

Why?

[MTL_GUY78]

You think a guy is inferior cuz he's overweight

[llorando]

A beer belly on a guy kinda makes him look's like he's pregnant haha.

[MTL_GUY78]

Why are you repeating yourself broken record

[jenndrop24]

I never said that. You asked, I prefer my man to be fit, that's MY preferance. You sound insecure. Others may not view being overweight as an issue for them at all.

[MTL_GUY78]

It is an issue cuz women only want men who are fit.. you know looks fade right

[jenndrop24]

When did anyone repeat themself?

[MTL_GUY78]

Not you, llorando. He said the same thing on the guys side saying I look like a pregnant woman

[jenndrop24]

Not all women want fit men. my sisters husband is not fit at all and they have been together for ages.

[MTL_GUY78]

Weren't you raised that what's on the inside is what matters not the outside

[llorando]

@asker, I didn't say you particularly looked pregnant, Just that some guys with most of their fat around their stomach kinda looks pregnant.

[MTL_GUY78]

That would include me

[jenndrop24]

i was raised that way but physical attaction goes beyond how one is raised. Some may like blond, blue eyed or brunette, brown eyed.

[MTL_GUY78]

People only care about the body.. it's wrong

[jenndrop24]

It would be wrong to be with someone they arn't physically attracted to.

[MTL_GUY78]

Why. . Haven't you seen beauty and the beast? And by the way isn't what's attractive subjective

[jenndrop24]

A fiction movie. So what i like is subjective to me and you call me conceited.

[MTL_GUY78]

Cuz you won't date someone based on their looks

[jenndrop24]

Can't argue with u anymore, you are drowning in sel-pity

[MTL_GUY78]

You should give overweight guys a chance. . You'll find we are human too

[jenndrop24]

Never said you we not human. i'm quite happy with mine.

[MTL_GUY78]

Is he hot?

[jenndrop24]

Smokin

[MTL_GUY78]

You don't care that you make people cry?

[jenndrop24]

nobody crying around here but you.

[MTL_GUY78]

That doesn't affect your conscience?

[Anonymous]

I have 6 pack abs, I'm still a forever alone virgin. So I guess no.

[MTL_GUY78]

Dude you're young. . I didn't lose my virginity til 35

[Kris85]

No not in my opinion

[MTL_GUY78]

Is being fat ok?

[Kris85]

Depends how fat I guess. I haven't shunned guys because they were a little round in the belly, I think if they have an attractive face and personality you can overlook things like that sometimes.

[MTL_GUY78]

What about 50 lbs overweight?

[Kris85]

Again it depends how short or tall you are. Everyone carries 50 pounds differently

[MTL_GUY78]

I'm 5 feet 10

[EmeraldSky]

Definitely not, but it is a plus!

[MTL_GUY78]

It's more than a plus.. it's a deal maker

[EmeraldSky]

Nope, you really don't have the place to state what is and isn't a deal maker for all women.

[Anonymous]

Definitely not. To me it's about personality more than looks. If there was a ratio for looks : personality for me it would be 30 : 70.

[MTL_GUY78]

Women tell me I'm ugly cuz I'm 50 lbs overweight

[Cheeky_Unfortunate]

I don't have a six pack. :( And I'm fat!

[MTL_GUY78]

Do you have trouble getting women?

[Cheeky_Unfortunate]

Yeah... actually...

[MTL_GUY78]

It shouldn't be that way

[Cheeky_Unfortunate]

Hm. Maybe it's a lot of other things like all of my flaws in personality.

[MTL_GUY78]

Women aren't perfect either

[Cheeky_Unfortunate]

That is true... Maybe it's just the abs!

[MTL_GUY78]

Abs are gross

[Cheeky_Unfortunate]

I guess I don't know if I like or hate them, really. Undecided.

[Ferruccio77]

use abhancer for instant abs.

[MTL_GUY78]

I think abs are gross and unnatural looking

[Mesonfielde]

My girlfriend doesn't demand them either. In fact, she doesn't really care, haha.

[Ferruccio77]

well abhancer only takes 1 minute.

[MTL_GUY78]

She would care if you were 50 lbs overweight

[Prof_Don]

No of course not dude lol :-P

[MTL_GUY78]

I was asking the girls

[Prof_Don]

Why is my male answer the only one with the snarky response?

Did u think I was flirting with you or something? Lol

[MTL_GUY78]

Don't know why? Nothing personal. . Sorry just hurting a lot inside

[college18girl]

Nope a guys personality can be attractive too

[MTL_GUY78]

Well THEY won't get to know my personality cuz they won't give me a chance cuz of my looks

[college18girl]

I'm sorry people don't give you a chance

[MTL_GUY78]

That's it?

[college18girl]

I'm sure your personality is great

[MTL_GUY78]

Stop with your sarcasm

[college18girl]

i didn't mean it to be sarcastic sorry

[kangaru2]

No, attractiveness varies among individual

[MTL_GUY78]

Well majority of women aren't attracted to guys who are overweight by 50 lbs. . Let's be honest

[kangaru2]

It is the same for guys too right?
Overweight may not be attractive but being attractive doesn't mean one have to have 6 packs.

[MTL_GUY78]

I don't care if a woman is overweight