Shy guy - just being nice or is interested?

[Anonymous]

How can you tell if a shy guy is talking to you because he's just being friendly, or if he's interested in you?

[Mariajones]

If he stares at you often he likes you. If he tries to get to know you better each day he's interested. But if he's just making small talk he's just trying to be friendly. If he compliments you multiple times he likes you. If he tries to be near you a lot or is always doing favors for you he likes you. Its not that hard to know just look for the obvious signs. If he's nervous around you he probably likes you. If he truly is shy he'll try to hide that he likes you but guys can't help but stare at the girls they so thats the easiest way to tell.

[bDizzie]

He will never show you he is interested. Just assume he is.

[Insaan]

Okay hmmm..
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[art84]

He is just being nice and not interested. If he was interested he would be more outgoing.

[cajun]

Notice how he is behaving around you

[Asker]

It's hard to compare his behaviour though because he literally doesn't talk to anyone else, so I can't tell if how he's acting is friendly or more

[cajun]

you can notice when he is not talking with you. ie. his eye contact

[Asker]

Hm, I have caught him looking at me from across the room a few times. Once when I was leaving and I looked back and he was watching me. He always sits near me as well.

[cajun]

cool, what he is talking about.. ?

[Asker]

Well we've only really had one major conversation. But it ended up that we were asking each other a lot of questions about our mutual interests, about our lives, families, etc. He actually asked me about myself which I find guys don't generally do with me. The next time we spoke it was brief , but he complimented me. And the last time he asked to see something I made and complimented me on it and asked me a few questions about school.

[Asker]

But we generally don't have many opportunities to speak because of our different schedules.

[cajun]

so, you meet him often..

[Asker]

No, we don't see each other very often, once a week and sometimes once every two weeks

[cajun]

eww..how he talks after such an intervel.. ?

any signs like he misses you .. ?

[ImCoasting]

It could be either or