By default all women are crazy

[V4lkyrie2]

As the title says all women are crazy! We aren't really, but the perception is exactly that and I can't blame men for thinking that way. Sometimes women go right off the deep end and come across as extremely needy (even if they aren't) as a result.

Men have this amazing ability to compartmentalize things, everything is separate and unique: work, vehicle, the game, girl friend, the boys etc Women don't think that way. We still compartmentalize things, but we also prioritize things; we draw the lines between them of how one thing affects another. That's why when the boys ask you to go have a drink and it happens to be some random anniversary date that your woman has expected you to remember, and you happen to get home 30 minutes later then normal she is not a happy camper. It's also why in my opinion having a woman President would be a bad thing; it would be too hard for a woman to make the tough call. An advisor yes, but not the commander and chief.

I should say not all women are crazy, we are born and raised to be that way, so by default it is who we are. We are taught to be empathetic, sensitive multi-taskers. We are bombarded with images of the "perfect" woman, which is actually about 2% of the female population. We are told how we are supposed to walk, talk, dress and behave and anything outside of that is either deemed a whore or a prude. Women are governed by hormones and emotions more then men as a result. Simple things like 'why hasn't he txt'd or called me back?' have a greater emotional impact. There are a few of us, who through no small effort, have learned to curb the walk to crazy town. Which is nothing more then a downward spiral of our own self-esteem. Mostly it's because we recognize the signs that we are walking down that road and realize if we continue it's only going to create some bizarre conflict and nothing but frustration in our relationship or would be relationship. It doesn't come easy, it isn't like a switch you can flip on and off, it's a conscious choice to choose another direction. It begins with learning to appreciate yourself, understanding your strengths and weaknesses and embracing both. Looking at what others might call impossible, and realizing impossible is only a big word small minds use to categorize something they are too afraid to try and do.

So men... next time the lass in your life takes a walk through crazy town and you're left with your hands over your face thinking 'what the fuck was that about?!', realize it's a natural state and a work in progress

[Anonymous]

I'm an overweight tomboy, I NEVER wear shorts, and I rarely if ever shave my legs. I'm goth, and pagan, and polyamorous. I don't really try to eat healthy or look young, but most people think I'm around 21. Sex is not "intimate" to me, I'm perfectly capable of emotionless unattached sex. I also have BPD and ADHD, so I'm very eradict and change my mind on a whim. Don't try making plans for later, because I only do what I want to do in the moment. I also have a horrible time with compartmentalizing EVERYTHING, so I tend to think in very straight lines, while still vividly aware of all the deeper interconnection that we women are so brutally aware of.

I have 2 committed boyfriends, who are allowed to have other girlfriends/sex partners, and neither of them in interested in sleeping with anyone else. They know they're sharing me, and they could easily get more girls, but they just don't. My ex is still paying for my phone, and my oil changes, and hoping he'll have a chance to get back with me.

My point? I DO NOT conscribe to this societal BULLSHIT standard of how I should act, or who I should be. And I'm happy, with NO trouble finding decent guys to date. Both BF's also started as FWB's, and then wanted more. I'm sure most people won't believe half of what I've written here, but what do I care? Oh right, that's why I'm happy; because I don't care :D

[JulyAndrews]

Amen on the last part! Agree a 100%. I don't recognise myself or my female friends in this piece.

[genuinlysensitive]

I know not all women are crazy. But there are a lot that are. I would like to say you make an excellent point about "why hasn't he texted me back" having an impact. However, it is less about society and more to do with the fact that women tend to forget we men are not mind readers. Often times we are busy at work and think I'll texted her later, she does not know this and starts to think we are doing it on purpose to put her through the emotional ringer. Also, I understand she might have had some bad experiences with men and doesn't want to relive them.

Anther thing that causes this is women get mad about something that really IS nonsense, like say leaving you shoes in the middle of the floor, when they are really mad about something else. Such as they misunderstood something you said a few weeks ago while out for your bday, and instead of asking you to clarify it, they just let it stew inside of them, coming out in passive aggressive ways that drive us insane.

I try to realize that we are all works in progress. It is not just us men that need to understand this however. Women need to understand that men are not perfect and works in progress and not be willing to rip our hearts out at the first thing we do that they don't like.

[V4lkyrie2]

You make very valid points. I don't think it's a matter of us (women) believing men are mind readers, most just fail to recognize that men and women don't think the same way, or communicate for the same reasons. I'll use your shoe comment as an example:
A man would most often just come out and say, hey please don't leave your shoes in the middle of the floor; a woman might not say anything and just move them. The reason she wouldn't say anything to begin with is because she doesn't want you to feel bad about leaving them there because she knows you didn't know in the first place, BUT after moving them a few times, her expectation shifts to you not doing it as a common courtesy because in her mind she's "shown" you she doesn't like them left there. If you don't get it chances are it will be brought up at a later time because her mind you don't care.

Speaking in generalities of course. Some women are more direct, myself included but I wasn't always I had to learn it

[genuinlysensitive]

I see your point about the shoes and communication. That was not the case however, it actually happened to me and my ex, she blew up at me for it one time, I asked her wtf was really wrong, come to find out she was mad about something I said about a month ago when we went out for my bday. Something she misunderstood and took the wrong way. Instead of asking for clarification she just let it simmer and she acted passive aggressively until she finally blew at me for something she really wasn't mad about.

Glad there are some women out there who are more direct though :)

You should have more of these thought provoking takes, we need more of these on this site :)

[V4lkyrie2]

I've never been big on passive aggressive, I have friends that do it and I've known men that do it, personally I find it quite childish. Even before I learned to be more direct, it was more like when a man withdraws into his mental "man cave" to sort out stuff... except I cleaned... lol... kind of a dead giveaway when the house is already clean and I'm scrubbing everything in site. Now I will still clean, but I give a heads up that I need to think so I can articulate myself in a productive way because I don't want to say something and have it come out the wrong way.

With respect to simmering, sometimes it's because something bothers us, but we don't quite know why, how to bring it up, or understand how it's possible it happened in the first place so we wait and think about it. It isn't intentional

[Justiphi]

Let me see if I understand this take.
It goes from 'women are crazy' to 'men. . . next time the lass. . . crazy. . . it's a natural state and a work in progress.' Implication: don't argue or complain, it's perfectly normal for her to dump all over you for no apparent reason, and you have no need to be offended, hurt, or to expect an apology any time soon. Her self-esteem is in a downward spiral.
The in-between steps:
1. Men comparmentalise
2. Women compartmentalise, prioritise, and make connections.
- meaning men have tunnel vision and are deficient in the higher cognitive functions,
- wheras women, with their broader field of view see cross-compartmental connections men don't and are much better equipped to plan and organise properly.
In plain English , guys are pretty fucking stupid.
Proceeding, we come to women are
3. taught to be empathetic, sensitive multi-taskers.
4. bombarded with images of the perfect woman
5. governed by hormones and emotions more than men
Implication: simple things have a greater emotional impact on women than men, which unchecked leads to a downward spiral in self esteem.
Implication of what's left unsaid would be that men are
- uncaring (lacking empathy)
- insensitive
- plodders (unable to multitask)
- immune from ridiculous male stereotypes like Dirty Harry, Rambo, 007 and so forth
- unemotional and free of hormonal influences.

Do I have this about right?

I have drawn some conclusions that suggest you may have a low opinion of the male of the species. I have done so for two reasons. To show you where your argument leads, and second to provide you with an opportunity to show a less simplistic and demeaning view of masculinity, or to expand your thinking to remove the possibility of an erroneous interpretation of what you really mean to say.

I should say that I've been influenced toward the 'women think of men as troglodytes' conclusion by frank conversations with women peers in my business career.

I look forward to your further thoughts.

[Justiphi]

I see Harper is still your PM in the Great White North. So my next question is, have you spotted the connection that defines these key policies and his style of running the government?
1. Furtiveness. Reliance on attack ads rather statements of policy to win elections
2. Converting Canada from a nation of peacekeepers to a nation of warmongers
3. Unconscionable military spending.
4. All Israel all the time no matter what they do.
5. Consistent anti-muslim policies regardless of circumstances
6. Complete disregard for any environmental concerns.

[V4lkyrie2]

I simply stated there are significant differences in the way men and women think, communicate and the reasons for them. We are all complex creatures with our own unique experiences. I made no reference to masculinity, nor would I refer to any man I know as a troglodyte, in some cases old fashioned perhaps but I still like my door being opened. I was talking about women and the effect it has on men when we allow ourselves to freak out and blow things out of proportion. I'm not a man and don't pretend to understand what a man goes through when he processes what he perceives as a stressful situation outside of the ability to compartmentalize it which is something I've worked very hard to do for a long time and still fail at from time to time. Honestly (in general) I have far more respect for men then I do for most women, but that is because I appreciate people being direct.

With respect to Harper, I lived outside of Canada for 15 years, haven't voted and haven't cared to look at politics

[Justiphi]

Thanks for this. I think I've got it now.
When a woman, as you put it, freaks out, the typical male response is something like 'calm down' or 'you're blowing things out of proportion,' or 'be reasonable.' In effect, 'your emotions are irrelevant.' Or 'you're emotions are a problem.' Worst of all we don't recognise the issue as emotional at all!
Emotion is real.
Emotion is important.
Emotional health is vital for mental and physical health.
It is a major key to a long term successful relationship that each recognises, values, and cares for his/her partner's emotions. We must learn to accept emotions as valid, acknowledge them, honour them, and treat them with respect.
This can be hard for guys. We suppress emotional reactions and expect women to do the same. When they don't we say, 'be reasonable' or 'don't be so irrational'
We should respect emotions, so why not say, 'how can I make you feel better?' Anything that shows you empathise with her feelings, respect them, and share them.

[V4lkyrie2]

Exactly! Men tend to be on the other end of the scale, where women as asking what they are thinking and feeling (which can be just as annoying to men). We don't do it to be annoying, we do it because we actually want to know. That goes back to why men and women communicate (as a generalization): men generally talk to convey information, women do it to improve their relationships.

Sometimes a woman is upset about something and wants to talk and the man go into "fix it" mode we also get a little upset. It isn't because we don't appreciate you, it's because we don't want you to fix it. We just want you to listen and accept that we trust you enough to open up. My partner will actually ask me if I want him to fix it, or just listen. I don't know if all women would appreciate that, but I sure do. :)

[Octavion]

So in short you're bat shit crazy and you expect men to just put up with it? Sorry but I have self-respect and any bullshit behavior will not be tolerated. I'll spend the rest of my life being single looking for a decent woman than settle for the women you described.

[V4lkyrie2]

I don't expect anything from anyone and no that's not what I said.

Don't apologize for not compromising what you want, it's a great trait! I'm sure if more people were not willing to settle the world would be a happier place. Realize when a woman shows that vulnerable side of her, it's actually a sign that she trusts you and cares about what you think...

[Hannah591]

Men and women do think entirely differently and view things differently which makes us not understand each other, yet we can't get enough of each other? Such a weird world we live in! I can see how we come across as crazy sometimes but we can't help it, it's just crazy thoughts and hormones making us think irrationally!

[mikemx55]

I used to think like that when I was like 18, and was in an informatics course with only men. Then proceded to universisty in informatics with only men. Now just after my degree It turned out that the women I deal with, are pretty normal human beings. Maybe it's the ambient (university rather than highschool), but they are somewhat normal compared to what I used to think about them.

[V4lkyrie2]

lol... somewhat normal ;)

[Johnson123]

Not all girls are crazy, out of the woman i know probably only 2 are crazy lol

[V4lkyrie2]

lol that you know of ;)

Seriously in most cases the amount of ridiculousness that runs through a women's head when it comes it men is staggering.

[Johnson123]

umm i would maybe agree to that, depends on the girl

[JulyAndrews]

I don't recognize me or any of my female friends in this. But than again, none of us are heterosexual. So maybe this is the mindset of a heterosexual woman?

[V4lkyrie2]

It's not a mindset of heterosexual women. It stems from the differences between why and how men and women communicate. Women would very rarely if ever experience this with other women because by default regardless of sexual orientation we think and communicate in similar ways

[BelleGirl21]

Aren't there a few more generalizations you could have put in?
I disagree with your opinion on both sexes in this take.

[xCutesyLolitax]

Not all women are governed by emotions and hormones, just a majority.
Emotions almost never have a strong impact on me, which is why I seek an emotional/sensitive man. Opposites attract.

[xCutesyLolitax]

And I personally agree with @Deft_maiden. This is an inaccurate stereotype.

[jacquesvol]

I'll help you:

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[Anonymous]

They do tend to get too over emotional and dramatic.

[Drednaught]

By default, everyone has a complete lack of coherent understanding of our Universe.

[Deft_maiden]

That's a gross and inaccurate stereotype. One I had never heard of before.
It's like saying all men are pigs

[V4lkyrie2]

Really... so you've NEVER had a man tell you, you're: over-thinking, over-reacting, blowing it out of proportion etc. You've never let a myriad of thoughts run through your head because someone you liked didn't text you back for hours, cancelled plans, or was flirting consistently but didn't actually ask you out?

[Deft_maiden]

Some of them have happened, sure. But how do you arrive at this faulty concisuon? Because he said so? You are placing a high value on his assessment. Similar things happen to men. Just read the posts here on GAG. Does it mean men are crazy too?

[V4lkyrie2]

Did you bother to read the take, or just arrive at your opinion based on the title?

[JulyAndrews]

@Take Owner I've never had a man (or woman) say I'm overthinking, overreacting, blowing it out of proportions, etc. I'm too laid back of a person.

[Not_Helping]

I didn't read it but I probably agree because I am rather agreeable today.

[xxbebosxx]

I disagree with your take

[James19]

Interesting and helpful take keep it up.

[Bards]

I hope Hillary wins.

[Anonymous]

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