The issue of being "high maintenance"

[Starfishlover]

I feel that with each generation, there is a label that every person tries so hard to avoid. Whether it be a "slut", a "nerd", a "geek", a "loser". Now there seems to be another label that individuals seem to label others- predominantly girls: High maintenance.

So what is high maintenance?

According to Urban Dictionary:

Requiring a lot of attention. When describing a person, high-maintenance usually means that the individual is emotionally needy or prone to over-dramatizing a situation to gain attention.

Or

"A person who has expensive taste (re. clothing, restaurants, etc.).
This person is never comfortable because he/she is constantly concerned about his/her appearance.
This person feels they are better than most people and usually judge others based on outward appearances."

I, along with a lot of females (predominantly... I have never had guys complain about this) have a grievance. This damn label of "high maintenance".

A lot of people see a girl who is well dressed and immediately have this image about her.

It seems that a girl like the below picture, is now akin to the boogyman.

Glamerous women everywhere are seemingly expected to look dowdy and casual, just have fun and just not take anything personally or try hard at anything.

People think that a lady who wears a lot of makeup, wears amazing clothes and never has a hair out of place as brainless, have no skills as she is focused on her looks, is full of STD's, or once she is in a relationship that she will drain a guys wallet.

Fair enough that guys are scared about their wallets. But rest assured that there are plenty of girls who like to dress up are in face smart, talented, independent and have a lot of love to give. How dare you judge someone by their appearance? Some of those girls, and myself included because I do like to dress glam, never judged anyone by their outward appearance.

But since a lot of people are coming at girls who dress nice with knives and pitchforks, let me offer you a bit of advice... *Cracks knuckles*.

1) Assumption is the mother of all fuck-ups

My favourite boss's words. I think this point is going to sort of be the umbrella for all of my points. What if the future mother of your babies is a girl who dresses nice but the mental imagery you have of her isn't that at all? You might be thinking: Shit... I can't go out with a girl like her, she will reject me or take all of my money. Or if you aren't a guy and you are looking at a girl who is dressed nice, you are probably thinking: Shit... she will sleep with my boyfriend or she will never be friends with a girl like me. You might have thrown an amazing friend away!

Naaah mate. Nah. Did you talk to her? Did you give her a chance? I know I am saying "her" a lot. Remember, this is predominantly for girls.

Ladies and gentlemen, I would like to present two amazing articles for you to read at what high maintenance REALLY is.

https://www.bitrebels.com/lifestyle/12-signs-your-girl-might-be-high-maintenance

https://www.lovepanky.com/women/dating-men-tips-for-women/15-signs-youre-a-high-maintenance-woman

So far, I only tick 1 box. I just like to look good.

2) The issue of money

Ah money. The sordid subject of coin.

Who here goes clubbing? Come on, raise your hands. Ok, I bet you blow about $200 dollars A NIGHT on booze, right? *Gasp* You are so high maintenance if you do!! Naughty naughty. Bitch, it takes me A MONTH to blow $200 on MYSELF alone. And some guys are into pimping their cars too. That shit costs money...perhaps more money than 500 shopping sprees. Those car pimping dudes are so high maintenance.

My point is, EVERY SINGLE PERSON blows money on something. Some of us just like clothes and shoes. However, some of us are extremely wise in where to shop to get the best bargains. I don't have anything designer in my closet. In fact ,the majority of my clothes is from Target. Yeah, Target. Or those cheap Asian stores. I have a lot of female friends and they are SO tight with their money, that they have to make the most of what they have. And they still look amazing, bitches. So again, never assume.

3) You do you, I do me

I know I have written takes about slutty girls before. If you read them carefully, you would see that this is only for girls who whine about not getting boyfriends. Fair enough, you have an opinion, I have an opinion.

My point for this take is that it would do you good to perhaps talk to people and then make judgements, don't just blindly assume things that might not be true.

You dress how you like, I dress how I like. I will probably like you and respect you once I get to know you.

So, you dress how you want to, and some of us will dress glam.

So there you have it. I would like to challenge each and every one of you to perhaps take a minute of your time looking at a person from a different angle (No, I am not talking about their ass). Don't think that a glam girl can't be campy, or talented, or funny, smart, or an all time amazing girl to be with all together. Look at me, one minute I can be glam as you might have seen in my glitzy dresses like this:

And the next minute this:

So any of us can be campy and awesome to be around. You just gotta give a sista a break!

[hellionthesage]

Just because a term exists that is less then pleasent does not invalidate it. High maintenance is not something that is judge on looks, some do incorrectly, however it is behavioral in nature. Spending money on ones self does not make one high maintenance. Believing that the only thing that matters is money is. A woman who believes that she deserves the best (usually by simple fact of existing) and expects the men she is with to act accordingly, to take her to the most expensive restaurants, to by her the most expensive jewelry, this is high maintentance. A gold digger if you will. Now obviousley judging a person is not exactly accurate if your doing it based on first impressions or looks but it is the way all people judge others. Its natural for us to do so. Yes they should be given a chance to show there true colors but how you present yourself to the world is suppose to be your true colors. Other forms of high maintenance would be your second defininition, women who require all your energy and attention because of the constant manufactured drama in there lives. In short, gold diggers and drama queens are what would be termed high maintenance. I don't think that just because some people use the label frivolisly means the label is not warrented most of the time.

[vishna]

First, I'm genuinely shocked by the overwhelming negative out pour by the men of this site.

Personally, I consider high maintenance women/men as people who need lots of pampering. Basically prissy stuck up people. A brat princess.

But, I can also see how it is someone who requires a lot of... maintenance. So, someone who requires a lot of attention and make big deals about nothing.

I think you're spot on in stating that people who like glam aren't always high maintenance. As someone who loves to put on make up, I would hope guys don't see me as high maintenance. It's more about having fun and enhancing my eyes or whatever other feature.

Also, my boyfriend doesn't provide me with all my expensive things. So, if that's what guys are thinking, think again. I'm sure the average woman, not just me, gets her nice things without a man's help. My boyfriend has given me one expensive gift, and I cried with appreciation at his thoughtfulness.

At the end of the day, you can't judge a woman by how nice her make up is or her clothing. When I see a man in a nice suit with great hair, I don't assume he's a high maintenance man, so I don't see why people would think this way about women.

[d20samurai]

First off, people who blow money on material possessions without using them to add to a strong culture are wasting their wealth.

Secondly, generalized statements like "everyone blows money on something" is both untrue, and should not be made an excuse for that behavior (think of the lemmings!).

That being said, I like to class it up too. It's all well and done to want to increase your self esteem by dressing up, HOWEVER it's only been a phenomenon that's been actualized in the past few hundred years. Beyond this, pretending to be royalty required REAL wealth, or REAL skillz. There were was no industrial surplus of imitations to give the subconscious impressions of royalty we have today.

What we have to realize is that by cultivating an image of high-status, we are asking to be treated as such. By appearing as upper class, we are substantially distancing ourselves from others. What this means to potential mates can be different (both positive and negative), but it is based on what mass media presents, and what experiences these people have had with others in similar decor.

Obviously, it's only smart to make clear distinctions between the guy with a button-up and a nice haircut and the man with a silk suit and gold cufflinks, without substituting one's experience of either for the other (they are both "dressed nicely"). However, assumptions are integral to the learning process (and especially tied to fear: hominids would have been eaten long long ago without it) so you can't really separate assumption from appearance. It is, after all an implied extension of image to distinguish or link ourselves to other groups. And by normalizing 'looking good" we run the risk of insult to others or ourselves.

I definitely agree that you should not be judged negatively by your attire, but the truth is that until everyone (like, EVERYONE) that blows their money looking glam (or pimping their cars) all treat others like, and act like decent human beings, there will always be negative connotations attached to the endeavor of wealth-emulation. Sad but true.

[Anonymous]

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That girl in the second picture is so beautiful. Cooome back to meee lol. I mean maybe she is high maintenance, but I think there's a difference here that needs to be addressed. There's a difference between being into fashion and being stuck up. I don't see anything wrong with loving fashion. Loving expensive things. Loving appearance. The problem is when women create high standards for the people they are around. The problem is when women think they are superior to the people they are around. The problem is when it takes a lot to please her. This is being stuck up. I think that's different.

Yeah we all assume. That's a part of life. You assume. I assume. We're all make asses out of ourselves lol. I think that's a survival mechanism our brain has created, but it can backfire for sure. It often times does. "Your favorite boss." Speaking of brains you want to fuck his brains out don't you? lol. Sorry. Inappropriate. I know. I know.

The funny thing is I've seen about half and half. Half girls who look "stuck up" really are bitches in my opinion and the other half are the most down to Earth people I've ever met.

I think what has happened is there's a rebellious nature to some people. The media is wrong about a lot of things, but right in some ways too. One of these ways is fashionable people. Some people feel they should rebel against women like that because the media supports them. They feel "Oh well she isn't better than anybody. I'm going to get a fun, basic clothes wearing, girl." Some girls like that have high standards themselves. I've met girls who like to wear torn jeans, ride around in trucks, and cover themselves in mud, and they have really high standards. Yet some of the most well dressed and fashion savy girls have low standards.

Hell yeah you right. I like to pimp my whip. You know

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Whoop whoop!!

That is a good point though for real. Damn this was a good take.

That Barbie meme was too funny. Fly bish vs basic bish lol :P I'm kidding.

I love this take :)

[Starfishlover]

Which girl were you talking about by the way

[Opinion Owner]

The one with the blue eyes, black fingernails, and red lipstick.

[mangaka92]

1.) Assuming is something women do all. day. long. Also, you're giving us pictures of girls and saying we'd claim they're high-maintenance, but then saying that high-maintenance is actually a state of mind. You're just assuming that guys use the word "high-maintenance" like it's describing a fashion trend. Clearly this is a case of misunderstanding of the word "high-maintenance" and its usage.
2.) I've never seen a woman spend a lot of money on something and assumed she was "high maintenance." If that were the case, then I'm high-maintenance. Heck, just about anyone who has some money is high-maintenance at some point or another. Again, a misunderstanding of how the word is being used.
3.) Once again, this just ends up being hypocrisy because nearly every woman I've listened to has hesitated to walk up to guys that they thought were jerks and justified their assumptions (because they do it all the time) by just claiming they were "good at reading other people" so that somehow makes it right, in their minds.

High-maintenance doesn't mean the girl just has expensive taste or sense of fashion or something. It means that she is a lot of work (usually more than she's worth to the person that says she's "high-maintenance.") They're finicky, naggy, constantly needing attention, constantly needing to be praised, cliquey, (it's more just stereotypical, but also women that use vocal fry typically are high-maintenance, I've found), etc. Even though they require work, every SO will require work. However, there are different amounts of work involved with different people. Hence the terms "low-maintenance" and "high-maintenance" making that distinction.

[mangaka92]

I'd love to do a mytake on words that women use on guys like "douchebag", "pig", and the plethora of others and see just how few women take it seriously. The hypocrisy is real.

[Starfishlover]

I would love to read that take you proposed ;)

[mangaka92]

Haha cool. Maybe I'll do it sometime. ;)

[NinaLin]

You forgot "dickhead" "prick" "pansy" and a couple other good ones. Just saying.

[mangaka92]

@NinaLin: Yup, there's certainly plenty.

[gray_sailor]

The fact is that the term "High Maintenance" would not exist (in reference to women) if there were not the men who put up with it.

Men place a high value on a women's appearance so of course a high maintenance woman would be both glam and hot.

The thing to understand about a high maintenance woman is that it's about attitude much more than appearance.

An example:

Suppose a man has a high maintenance girlfriend. This behavior helps define the attitude I'm speaking of.
He has an important 9:30 am meeting at work, a meeting in which he has to give a presentation. He spoke with her of it the night before. Being a high maintenance woman, she sends him a text between 9:45 and 10:00 am. The text itself is not at all important. What matters is that he immediately reply. If he doesn't , he can expect her to withold sex for the night or possibly past the following weekend.

If any ordinary woman would try this, she would reasonably expect to be kicked to the curb with the label of "entitled bitch". A high maintenance woman CAN GET AWAY WITH THIS. What defines the concept of high maintenance, is the ability to repeatedly get away with unacceptable behavior.

A guys friends might call such a guy "pussy wipped", right until they saw her in person. At that point the term "pussy wipped" gets revoked and each guys thinks to himself "I wonder how long I would put up with her?"

A high maintenance woman is one half of a codependent, dysfunctional relationship: a woman attractive enough to act badly and a man that is willing to put up with her.

Not all attractive women are high maintenance of course, but ALL high maintenance women are physically attractive.

[TruePower]

I'm sorry, but your myTake doesn't match my experiences. I'm still a virgin. If anything, every girl I've met has extremely high standards that go beyond imagination. I literally have to turn into God in order to have girls attracted to me. I see these same girls completely drop their standards for other guys. Literally every type of guy can get a girl: fat, skinny, muscular, average, poor, rich, intelligent, stupid, awesome personality, terrible personality, clean, dirty, beautiful, ugly, physically well, physically disabled, mentally well, mentally disabled, socially acceptable, socially rejected, confident, shy, White, Black, South Asian, Arabic, Chinese, Korean, Japanese, Spanish, Hispanic, etc. So, if every kind of guy can have girls attracted to them, what's wrong with me? I've come to conclude that attraction is only based on luck. If someone really likes you, they are going to like you no matter what. I guess it's my destiny to die a virgin. For the past 8 months, I felt worse than ever before about this. I've literally tried every kind of drug and supplement, but my brain overpowers every drug and supplement. Now that I am approaching death, I guess I've given up. I feel empty inside. So after I'm gone, I hope humans will embrace the Venus Project. Whenever I look at non-virgins around me, I see that they are extremely happy, have a stable mind, are physically stronger than me, and are more intelligent than me. I've been digging my own grave for 12 years now. My time has come. I came to have fun on Planet Earth, the exact opposite happened. I guess in the end, I was always designed to be a tool for everyone else. Which makes no sense, since non-virgins are better equipped to be better tools. In this planet, men can't function optimally without sex. It makes no sense to ask me for favors when I can't even function as a human. The world will change in 3 days. Good luck, Planet Earth. Let's see what humans are capable of.

[tony72722]

Bro stop acting like a pssy and thin I I ng your not good enough. You know how many horn whales are walking around? Go duck one of them maybe a couple and realizee sex isn't that big of a deal then maybe you'll take women off the pedastal. 26 and virgin.. cmom bro go lift or something

[TruePower]

@tony72722

I never put women on a pedestal. They put themselves there. I can't lift. I damaged my nerves from gaming, studying and reading without taking breaks. I almost dropped a dumbbell on my face, never went back to the gym after that. Like I said, you got lucky with girls. I can't talk with any humans. Whenever I do, they get scared of my voice. So I just stay quiet so they don't have to experience anymore pain. I don't blame girls. In fact, most of them have been nice to me. It's mostly guys that are jerks and treat me like dirt. It's guys that have cockblocked me, not girls. You're no different from these guys.

[TruePower]

@tony72722 Why do you even care anyway? I'm getting murdered in 3 days. Enjoy Earth after I'm gone. Embrace the Venus Project.

[tony72722]

I didn't get lucky I worked at myself. I was an awkward fat kid that spent 6 hours a day playing world of warcraft. I became jaded and hated life.. you are making excuses. I've been in your position and have held my glock to my head before. I've been in your position. I know I'm just some guy on the Internet but your confidence is the issue not your looks and no there is nothing wrong with you. It's hard to understand right now because your perception is so tainted but trust me when I say you can make a change. I hope you reconsider.

[TruePower]

@tony72722

I was borderline obese. I lost 40 pounds from January 2015 to June 2015 in order to reach a weight that is optimal for my height and body frame. The fact that I got no job and have no desire to get a job pretty much eliminates me from the dating world. Personally, I've never met a girl who would overlook the fact that I got no job. I've met plenty of guys with no jobs that got married to girls who didn't care that they didn't have a job. If these guys can get married without getting a job, then why do I need to get a job? Most of these guys were players and non-virgins to begin with. Do you see the problem now? These guys met no resistance in their path to get girls, while I've met insurmountable odds. Because I refuse to be a player and because I can't get laid, girls think I'm doo doo. My goal in life was to have fun with girls. That's the whole point of life, son. Because I couldn't fulfill my desires, I moved on and embraced the Venus Project.

[TruePower]

@tony72722

My new goal in life is to make sure no human has to experience the BS I had to experience. It's not fair for a human to struggle as much as I've had to in order to get something that other people get for free or take for granted. Most of things people get for free or take for granted, I've never got to experience. No human could experience the things I've had and still remain sane. Do you know what's worse than World of Warcraft? League of Legends. I was a former high ELO Diamond II ranked summoner. That means I was an exceptional virtual murderer. Embrace the Venus Project, son. I'm not here to argue with you.

[TruePower]

@tony72722

I have no desire to kill myself. I'm going to get murdered. There's a huge difference.

[Starfishlover]

What do you mean you are going to get murdered?

[TruePower]

@Starfishlover

Don't worry about it. Enjoy Planet Earth after I'm gone.

[tony72722]

Your not getting girls because of your attitude even though you try and fake it most women can see that. Nobody wants to be around someone so negative.

[TruePower]

@tony72722

I don't lie or fake about anything. I don't cheat my way through life like most people do in the modern world. I have no reason to lie. You think you've changed, but you haven't. You're still the same as you were in the past. You're a cockblocker. I spent my entire life trying to obtain the truth in this hell called Planet Earth. I don't care about girls anymore. It's too late. I've lost my desire to bond with humans. The only thing I hate more than girls are guys. Unless humans embrace the Venus Project, I will die cursing humanity forever.

[tony72722]

Sure I can still have tendencies to be who I was in my past but I've grown from it. I have had you're same logic of thinking.. I have. I questioned everything and found no purpose in living. I studied sociology and thought we have no control over our path but we really do. I really hope you reconsider.. if you need to talk about anything at all message me. I'm not you'really average person that you probably look at as one of the 'normal' ones. Been there done that. I'm sure if you heard my story you would maybe think a bit differently. Had and sometimes still have your same logic of thinking.

[TruePower]

@tony72722

The point of human life is to give up destruction, greed and violence. Humans must embrace creation, benevolence, innovation and invention. The human body was designed to be a test for every soul that enters Planet Earth. Every human body is a lesson for every soul that enters them. Eventually, every soul will reconnect with God and once again be in true bliss. The real nature of the soul is eternal, blissful and benevolent. Our true home is the Spirit World. Planet Earth is just a testing ground for every soul that decides to be human. Some souls learn very quickly in a few lifetimes. Other souls learn very slowly which means they end up returning to Planet Earth for many lifetimes. The reason I want the Venus Project to become reality for this Planet is to accelerate the spiritual growth of humanity. Look at the world around you today. Do you see how stupid humans are? Planet Earth is an embarrassment compared to the rest of the multiverse.

[TruePower]

@Starfishlover

You're really hot, by the way.

[Anonymous]

Looking good and keeping up with your appearance aren't what people mean by high maintenance. I've never heard someone get called high maintenance based on their appearance, it was always due to their behaviour.
For example, my cousin brought his girlfriend camping with us and she scoffed at everything we did. She refused to shower in the lake, use the outhouses, or eat any of the food we had. She forced my cousin to drive her 45 minutes to the nearest town so she could shower and use the washroom every single morning (she would literally hold it and purposefully not eat so she wouldn't need to go to the washroom). She also curled her hair every morning and applied make up, which we thought was totally weird since our days consisted of being in the fucking woods. We went sea-doo riding and when he pulled her off into the water as a joke, she started screaming about her hair and how much of an asshole he was and isolated herself in the tent for about 4 hours until he apologized. It was so annoying having her there, and that to me is what high maintenance is. Being easy-going doesn't mean you have to look like a hobo everyday, and that isn't what it means, it's a behaviour.

[Starfishlover]

Ok your cousins girlfriend is a douchebag princess. I have been branded high maintenance and a princess. Guys assume that I will be after their wallets. I try to assure them that I'm only after their hearts and what's on the front of them but to no avail.

Everything that I have I worked for. I have never had a guy buy me my clothes. Plus I help my parents out with money too. Look at my boss, I put him at the top of everyThing.

Plus if your cousin took me camping with you guys, not only would I be easy to be with, but I would force you all to do the hardest and dirtiest bush walk ever. Plus other activities. I dont care if I get dirty, I am from a village for God's sake.

[Crazyced]

They definitely exist. I remember going to a restaurant with friends. This one guy at the table was dating one. When the bills came, he 'jokingly' pushed it towards her. Her "oh no you didn't" face was priceless. The "I'm sorry I tried this joke" face he made while ashamedly retrieving the bill was quite a bit more sad.

She was a student with no job (parent payed her stuff). They went down south for vacation, he payed. Pretty sure he was just free summer entertainment for her as she had planned to move cities the next year.

That's your textbook high maintenance.

[ManaX]

I'm pretty sure depending on the day I appear very 'High Maintenance'. Makeup which gives a 'flawless look' , glamorous/fashionable clothing, lots of gold, labeled/designer accessories, a strut/stride and a lot of confidence. Although, I don't care what other people think of me.

I love the way I dress. I also believe I don't need makeup even though I like to wear it. Sometimes i'll go without it, but I always dress well.

Nice take!

[Starfishlover]

Thank you. And you are doing well not caring what people think! !!

[longjohndan]

I really haven't seen a lot of girls that are high maintenance from a money stand point. However, there is a broad range of emotional dependence. I really like and appreciate girls that can function independently of me and have their own pursuits and don't put me at the center of everything. To me this is a much better balance. When they get to the point that they just won't hardly do anything without me and I start having to be their boyfriend and their dad and their friend and their entertainer and their handyman it's just too much for me. One of my exes would sit around at home and wait for me to come by so we could go shopping, run errands... do anything and everything... every damn day. She would plan everything around when she thought I should be doing crap with her. A few months of that and questioning me about the specific time I should swing by everyday and I was out. Good bye, good luck, good riddance.

[Starfishlover]

Yiu know, I am beginning to suspect that there are a lot of basic women in America.

[Poppykate]

Most people who glance at me might consider me to be high maintenance. but I have found means and ways. I have a home with nice furniture. But I have brought it second hand, or been given it ( from people's throw away), and restored and recovered. On weekends you will find me in the backyard- sandblasting!. I purchased designer remnment fabrics and design my own clothes. I Cut and colour my own hair ( as well as my family's) thanks to a short hairdressing course I took when I was younger. With some effect, you can have the designer looking lifestyle without the price tag.

[Starfishlover]

I would so love to be friends with you

[Poppykate]

Sure you can be my friend! 😊

[Anonymous]

You've got the wrong idea here...

High maintenance girlfriends have their lives revolving around their boyfriends.
These boyfriends usually serve as cash machines, and/or Home Entertainment Centers.

They go nuts when they don't feel their needs are met.
Forget about them working to buy their own shit... they just sponge off the boyfriend.
Is she bored? Forget about her taking up a hobby or doing something on her own to keep her occupied... it's the boyfriends job to keep her entertained.
It's usually in conjunction with blackmail for sexual favors.

All considered, being called 'High Maintenence' is phrasing it nicely.

[Starfishlover]

Why are there guys saying that women go after wallets? ?

[Opinion Owner]

Because of a lot of women still expecting a guy to pay for everything, and buy her nice gifts.
And when you date a girl, paying one date after another, and buy her gifts to please her, and she one day dumps a guys ass out of the blue, he could have spent hundreds of dollars and got nothing to show for it.

And because women do judge a man on what he does for a living.
If you have the option to date a guy stacking crates in warehouse or an investment banker, 10 out of 10 will date the banker without any further discussion.

And because of girls like this:
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[Starfishlover]

I don't know about you but I have come to realize that filthy rich guys get wealth to their heads (a lot of them anyway) and would replace women at the drop of a hat.

[Opinion Owner]

That's how it works.
Women love douchebags, and when you have the means to get any girl you want, there's a good chance you'll become one.
It's exactly the same with 10/10 women who can get any guy they want - they'll dump you in a heartbeat the second they want something else.
That's one of the reasons that celebrities marry and divorce like fucking maniacs.

[Starfishlover]

Look I am sure there are lovely people out there. A person just needs to be open minded.

[Opinion Owner]

Of course there is... you just have to be careful about who you choose to date.

[Starfishlover]

Like for example with my boss, he is against my ideals. But something about him draws me to him.

[Opinion Owner]

I simply have to provoke here...
Decide for yourself whether or not you'll take offense...

Would you still be drawn to him if he was stacking crates in a warehouse?

[Starfishlover]

Yes... why are you so bitter against women? Actually, this is going to be my next take

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not.
You ask questions, I answer from a guys perspective.
Nothing more to that.
Loads of women aren't high maintenence or golddiggers... but since you asked about it, I kinda have to give you an answer.
Sorry you didn't like it... it's not like guys enjoy being taken advantage of any more than girls.

[mattduns]

I have to agree with this guy. Girls that look and act high maintenance are looking for Mr. Money bags to spend on them. You sound like a dad's girl that got what ever you wanted as a child.

[Starfishlover]

What? You dont know me!!! I willh ave you know that as soon as I turned 16, I earned my way. Th only spoiling I have ever received was love and now I spoil my parents with what they want! GTFO!!!

[Opinion Owner]

Please, play nice.
I get a notification every time any of you take swing :-D

[BiffWebster]

I think there is a bigger point though

You can be a girly girl, but not be high maintenance. There is a difference ^^
A girly girl who isn't high maintenance isn't afraid to bum out one day with her boyfriend. And doesn't require as much attention. She's a girly girl because she enjoys being feminine, and yes the attention is amazing, but girly girl's are less of a struggle.

Now you get a high maintenance girl -_- a guy has to work much harder around her, and has to work harder to impress. Its not always a bad thing, but in general being high maintenance means that a girl will automatically have higher expectations of how to be treated

[muspelhem_5]

The whole POINT of glamour is exclusion.

That is why the word is "exclusive". And that is why I have little sympathy for the plight of the glamorously-dressed.

People who dress like that a part of a world that values status, shifting fashions and brand names above things like:

a) sweatshop workers
b) anorexic girls affected by the industry
c) people not on the guest list
d) that homeless person you almost skewered with your Louboutins

[KDA20]

I enjoyed this take - Some very valid points - Assuming like you I will quote an old boss "Never assume, it makes an ass out of u and me" - One of your points never judge a book by its cover - Personally I have met many "High Maintenance" women who once I got to know them were absolutely lovely - Yes often what a "High Maintenance" girl spends in a month would be the equivalent of a Friday night blowout with the guys - Lastly you are correct she still the same girl whether she is in a designer dress drinking in a wine bar or at home in sweats having a coffee - In conclusion it is best to wait till you finish reading a book before you can give a true, full and honest review of it.

[jaredletoisbae]

It's so sexist for men to assume just because a girl likes to spend money on her appearance, means that she gets all that money from a boyfriend.

Yes, I have a boyfriend. Yes, he has money.
No, I never ask him for any. I don't want to be financially dependent on someone else, I'd say a lot of girls are in the same boat as me so to hell with guys who assume shit like that.

I'm aware some girls still use guys for money like some guys use girls for sex. But it's 2015 and I highly doubt either stereotype is the norm anymore.

[thetundrawolf]

When I read those articles on what a real high maintenance woman was, I couldn't help but think about a woman who selfishly values her own comfort above her love and desire for her man. Which is easy to do if the guy does not deserve her, but why stay in such a relationship? I think women use high maintenance behavior as an excuse to not get close to anyone, or let anyone get close to them. They value the superficial above the internal heart matters. Only the heart satisfied can make you happy, not a Louie Vuitton handbag.

[Anonymous]

the fact that you think a night out is $200 only proves to me that you are indeed high maintenance with such needs... for me, I just don't care about clothes and super best quality of things, so either guys or girls can fall in to that for me. As far as emotionally high maintenance, that has been a problem for me as I don't like texting and don
t see the need for it and many complain I don't keep in enough contact.. I see you like 3 times a week! what more do you want?

[BelleGirl21]

Same. A night out for me could be anywhere from $20 o $50 and I'd be happy.

[Bonnie12I27I12]

lol i have lots of expensive stuff. yes i do have an expensive taste and i'll never be seen not looking perfect. i really do take care of myself and if a guy can't handle that then sorry but i come first. not you. :)

[Starfishlover]

I like your thinking.

[aboomya]

I'm just hard to please I guess... people can call that high maintenance or whatever... I dunno but I care about what I look like or try to for the most part but let me tell u om far from perfect. I also like to indulge in the fi net things sometimes but I'm not going to go broke over them. I only wear designer purses.. but they are guess so those are cheaper designer ones.
I would rather spend money on am awesome experience than an expensive item.

Also I recently heard a quote " would you rather a 300$ purse with nothing in it... or a 10$ purse with 290$ in it...

The point is... don't go broke trying to look Rich cuz really no one cares

[peachblossomluck]

Taking pride in one's appearance and expecting the man she's with to have some decency and class is one thing. It has nothing to do with a borderline histrionic psychological diagnosis as inferred with the personality description. I never go after a guy's money. If I'm so called high maintenance I probably have my own☆