My Perspective On Sexy Over 50!

[Skihore]

I am turning 50 this June & I would like to share my perspective....Sexy Over 50 means loving your body naked AND clothed. In the past when I would think about getting naked there was a piece of me that felt anything but Sexy...I think it was the remnant of the morality messages my mother AND society fed me and which I believed. But, today it is a joy to love my body and to feel comfortable walking around naked.

I do wonder when the shift occurred from feeling shy and even ashamed to comfortable and proud. There was one particular moment in a yoga class I was taking at Village Yoga ...there I was in an inverted "A" grabbing my ankles, my head between my legs looking at the other bodies in the class. Instead of judging or comparing my parts my thoughts went something like this...Oh, there's one with long legs and small boobs, and that one has wide hips and chubby legs and oh that one has a skinny waist with massive bottom...AND they are all beautiful. Every one of those bodies, with every variation on the human body theme...they were all magnificent, living, breathing...gorgeous! That was I believe the moment when I started loving my body...because if they all were beautiful I guess I was too.

What comes up for me these days is my attitude about "Who the heck is Hollywood (and other forms of media) to tell US what's attractive? And, why do we (women) buy into their "scoreboard" so if we don't measure up to their measurements we aren't happy with our bodies and somehow feel less than? This is one of the first issues we need to come to grips with before we start living life to its fullest .. It is Step One in feeling Sexy Over 50.

Loving your body is a process...building to love all your parts it's a powerful path toward loving your body and feeling Sexy Over Fifty and beyond...naked or clothed!

[Stacyzee]

There's no such thing as being sexy over 50 unless you're a celeb that can afford work to minimize the aging process and keep a youthful appearance.
I've never thought of a woman over 50 as sexy , too much of a motherly feel there. However , i have thought of some 50 year old women as looking good or attractive which is something very different than being sexy. Sexy is an appeal that in some cases make things rise if u know what I mean :)

[Stacyzee]

Just thought I'd give an opinion on the title itself , however in reference to ur article congrats on feeling good about urself and not needing anyone's approval. Work it !

[Speedguy]

I agree with you, but I reread the article and she's talking about herself feeling sexy, not that other people think she's sexy, or that she thinks she looks sexy.

Sexy is how one acts, not necessarily how one looks. I've seen thousand of girls out that I can say are cute, a few dozen beautiful, and a handful sexy.

And no a girl doesn't have to be beautiful to be sexy.

[Jersey2]

Ahhh, your picture is at Megan's Bay. I kayaked there, it is beautiful.

I am very comfortable with myself as well, confident in who I am... kind of a quiet arrogance at times though :)

[wingattebaby16]

hi, if that is you at 50 yo in the pic, bravo to you!

You look very sexy and really good in the bikini.

My boyfriend is 42 yo and i showed him your picture! I had to hit him for a couple reasons:

#1 he said if he had found a woman tha ooked like you, he would be dating you! (most women he knows his age or older just let themselves go, are looking for adad 4 their kids, or just want to bitch about their ex's, not date a nice guy)

#2 he got a major boner looking at your picture! (I forgave him after he put it to good use 2 times in arow in a couple hours, He is asleep right now!)

#3 he wished i had great boobs and hips like you do! (he is still gonna answer 4 that one)

You look GREAT and the fact you are happy being you gives me a lot of hope!

[Spiorad_Aisce]

Great take - Really positive advice for being sexy at any age, thinking you are sexy yourself is half the battle and filtering out the negative mutterings of the "Outside" society - I do think it is starting to change a little bit maybe I just got older but I don't think it is as harsh as it was 10/15 years ago with Body Positive, Moves away from size zero etc but I definitely agree with you it is an "Attitude" rather than a "Look" that is sexy.

[Ariel1990]

not bad at all.
but sexi? no...
those tattoos are trashy... not suitable for 50 old lady... keep some class, lok gracefull.. dont lower yourself to20 year old girl.. dont try that muchto look sexi and trendy , for ladies over 50 it might look funny

[Hal2002]

All that happened was that you became comfortable, with yourself and who you are and started to love yourself.

Once you started to love yourself, you could see threw all the bs that the media says you should need and have to do and look to be happy.

[Metlahaed]

Women who are confident are the sexiest. It turns out, it takes 30-40 years for that confidence to finally surface, then women kick themselves for not having discovered that confidence in their 20's. Well fuck it. Women in their 40's and 50's are hot as hell and I wouldn't wish for them to return to their 20's self even if I had the option.

[sexcrazy1]

well done on that. most people think that even over 40 you are over the wall, ancient, ugly, or whatever. if you think sexy and positive, then you will be sexy and positive. for the younger ones that like to judge the older people, well, you will get there as well. I have seen some seriously sexy over 40's and over 50's already, so it is a fallacy that we all go down hill when we get older.

[ManOnFire]

I'm very much attracted to older women so I often times find them to be even more sexually appealing than younger women. Although being with a woman in her 50s is a little far for me, if she's attractive I wouldn't mind a sexual relationship her, no.

[bobygun01]

Older women are better in my opinion. They get better as they age, like wine. Older women are more experienced and approachable. Most guys don't care too much about your looks in comparison to 'feeling'.

[Red_Arrow]

I thought how wonderful it was for an older woman to share this and then saw that she is already inactive. Such a shame. this was a great message.

[Zamac]

If only kids these days could listen to people who have had more time to understand life about these matters...

I bow in congratulations to your thoughts, dear. Healthy is sexy.

Kudos to you.

[hazoplmeught]

Thanks for the fap material
what i was doing...
https://oi52.tinypic.com/a3oynk.jpg

[Trenhard_]

@constulantisback I'm so proud I started this lmfaoo. Am I a GAG legend or wut?

[JustMe-93]

Lol some people are missing the point!!

Girrrl if you ever doubt that you're beautiful then that's sad. I hope I'll look as good as you when I'm your age or even younger!! =D

[brain5000]

I don't think we get to decide whether we're sexy, just as the markets - supply and demand - set the value of goods and services, value and sexiness is determined externally, not internally.

[oldbaldguy]

Having had that epiphany in your yoga class, do you find yourself physically attracted to men you might not have been before?

[RationalMale]

Hmm. It's good to like your body.

Flip side is that most people... aren't beautiful.

[Starfishlover]

Including you?

[RationalMale]

@Starfishlover Depends on when. There's been times I would have been okay going to a nude beach, because I was in great shape and looked great. Aaannd there have been times I wasn't working out, wasn't eating right, and looked like roadkill.

[Vncmc]

Lol @Starfishlover, u trans?

[progboy]

Nice take and if that's you in the pic you are definitely still very sexy indeed

[Anonymous]

You go girl! not to mention confidence is a sexy thing, yes love yourself.

[Byakuyarko]

men and women can look awesome at 50... However, it requires a healthy diet, rigorous exercise routine, and kicking any addictions in your twenties

[girlinthemirror]

still think u need tone ur body... some fitness wouldn't hurt

[archiz]

Lol srsly?
Wait till you reach 50

[girlinthemirror]

@archiz my mom is 50... she is slim and toned...

[archiz]

sweety, not everyone is blessed with the same bone structure and metabolism...
different body types which was the whole point of her take.

[girlinthemirror]

@archiz yes but we always can be better and fitness woudnt hurt at any age, my mom also eat healthy and do some exersises

[Skihore]

@archiz THANK YOU : )

[John_Doesnt]

Unless you're a celeb you're not gonna be super hot to other guys like in tv.