Well I was never the pretty one according to my cousins and sister, so I kinda shelled myself and didn't want to leave my safety zone. In a way it was mostly verbal abuse from my sister and self doubt that got me, but I tried little by little to accept myself. Then I noticed my friends asked me as I was, it was a huge relief that they didn't care what I looked like and didn't think bad of me. It was mostly just in my head :)
God where can I meet a nice attractive guy that I really like that will actually notice and pursue me? All he has to do is say hi to me a few times and smile and then ill be comfortable and outgoing. There are no guys that I know of that I'm interested in though or that seem interested in me :/ do you think there are actually good guys that do pursue shyer girls? I know that's what happened with my parents my dad liked my mom so much he overcame HIS shyness and pursued her.
i think you were head on with everything you said...im extremely shy and its almost the end of the second quarter and I still haven't talked to any guys let alone my classmates. I guess I worry too much what people think of me so I tend to keep to myself.
im pretty clueless when it comes to guys approaching me. I don't know how to act and sometimes I unconsciously send out the wrong messages. I have no idea how to handle it
Just change 'girl' to 'guy' and some small little factors and it's pretty well balanced, i'm quite a shy person (even after uni) i don't trust people and i have self esteem issues but one thing i pride myself on is being loyal
Also i find shy girls really cute, adorable and i find it an endearing quality
I couldn't get through this article. Shy and outgoing are different than introverted and extroverted. Those terms are completely different and not interchangeable.
Also some advice for the shy gals, open up a bit to guys who try to flirt with you, smile and try to at least have a conversation. Generally guys don't waste time when they feel like they are beating on a dead horse trying to talk to you. Great article by the way. The crossed arms and cold look, is the biggest turn off for any guy.
Very good article thank you. Just one question. If a very shy/inexperienced girl likes you and you ask her out too soon without both of you knowing each other is it common for her to reject you? or is she just not into you? Thanks
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Very good article. As an introvert, I think the pros of dating a shy girl outweigh the cons. I refuse to pursue girls right now out of resentment and indignation, but if my situation ever changes (which it likely will) I'll be sure to use the 3Ps!
Thank you, you don't have to become a different person, just one that is more comfortable in your own skin such that you an enjoy a more fulfilling social life. Good luck to you!
Most give up easily. They dislike someone they have 2 try harder with. Its a shame but it is what it is. Shy girls dont change overnight even tho they would love to open up ASAP. They need a guy who appreciate them so that way confidence is gained to come out their shell. Rejection from men for being shy makes us want to run away from em, sadly.
I think it's the issue of being tall, awkward, and skinny. Also the fact that I'm not very intelligent. I'm leaning more on the physical aspect of things and insecurities now that I am older, but I have always been really shy. Wisdom doesn't always over shadow these things...lol
You're most welcome. If there's anything that you need, just drop by my profile wall and say "hi". Glad to help you identify some areas of work that you need to polish up on.
Too put into some context of my previous comment, if she wasn't shy, I would probably immediatly write her off as uninterested or just plain cold/mean, even though I made it pretty clear I am interested in her. And when I talk to her, she smiles when I say hi, but when we start talking she just seems downright cold/uninterested.
So I have been flirting and complimenting this shy girl in my history lecture. Don't know her very well. Every time I speak to her, she smiles when I initially see her. (Maybe she is just being nice) But that smile dies off when we talk. She doesn't seem to be able to answer my questions in more than two words. lol. it is very hard to talk to her. And she always seems to be trying to leave and always has this cold look on her face. Should I talk to her more? Or write her off and move on?
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Well I was never the pretty one according to my cousins and sister, so I kinda shelled myself and didn't want to leave my safety zone. In a way it was mostly verbal abuse from my sister and self doubt that got me, but I tried little by little to accept myself. Then I noticed my friends asked me as I was, it was a huge relief that they didn't care what I looked like and didn't think bad of me. It was mostly just in my head :)
God where can I meet a nice attractive guy that I really like that will actually notice and pursue me? All he has to do is say hi to me a few times and smile and then ill be comfortable and outgoing. There are no guys that I know of that I'm interested in though or that seem interested in me :/ do you think there are actually good guys that do pursue shyer girls? I know that's what happened with my parents my dad liked my mom so much he overcame HIS shyness and pursued her.
i think you were head on with everything you said...im extremely shy and its almost the end of the second quarter and I still haven't talked to any guys let alone my classmates. I guess I worry too much what people think of me so I tend to keep to myself.
im pretty clueless when it comes to guys approaching me. I don't know how to act and sometimes I unconsciously send out the wrong messages. I have no idea how to handle it
Just change 'girl' to 'guy' and some small little factors and it's pretty well balanced, i'm quite a shy person (even after uni) i don't trust people and i have self esteem issues but one thing i pride myself on is being loyal
Also i find shy girls really cute, adorable and i find it an endearing quality
I couldn't get through this article. Shy and outgoing are different than introverted and extroverted. Those terms are completely different and not interchangeable.
Also some advice for the shy gals, open up a bit to guys who try to flirt with you, smile and try to at least have a conversation. Generally guys don't waste time when they feel like they are beating on a dead horse trying to talk to you. Great article by the way. The crossed arms and cold look, is the biggest turn off for any guy.
Oh, for anyone else who is interested, they should also check out this other shy girl guide:
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Very good article thank you. Just one question. If a very shy/inexperienced girl likes you and you ask her out too soon without both of you knowing each other is it common for her to reject you? or is she just not into you? Thanks
I've been linking it a lot in questions where I feel it is appropriate. If you think it is handy in any given thread, please post teh link to this or any other article. Thanks!
Very good article. As an introvert, I think the pros of dating a shy girl outweigh the cons. I refuse to pursue girls right now out of resentment and indignation, but if my situation ever changes (which it likely will) I'll be sure to use the 3Ps!
ScorpioDW,
Thank you, you don't have to become a different person, just one that is more comfortable in your own skin such that you an enjoy a more fulfilling social life. Good luck to you!
@Forstie: Thank you.
@ Starlight: Are you a shy girl yourself? If so, what parts of the article most resonated with you? Could you please explain in detail? Thank you!
Very well said mister. It was worth reading!
It seems like there's a higher chance of the girl being rejected than the guy.. No matter what vibe she puts off, yes?
Most give up easily. They dislike someone they have 2 try harder with. Its a shame but it is what it is. Shy girls dont change overnight even tho they would love to open up ASAP. They need a guy who appreciate them so that way confidence is gained to come out their shell. Rejection from men for being shy makes us want to run away from em, sadly.
Thank you for the kind words emmiroxursox.
Happyeggz,
Take one step at a time. No person ever completes a goal without taking steps along the way, starting with the first step.
I think it's the issue of being tall, awkward, and skinny. Also the fact that I'm not very intelligent. I'm leaning more on the physical aspect of things and insecurities now that I am older, but I have always been really shy. Wisdom doesn't always over shadow these things...lol
You're most welcome. If there's anything that you need, just drop by my profile wall and say "hi". Glad to help you identify some areas of work that you need to polish up on.
Too put into some context of my previous comment, if she wasn't shy, I would probably immediatly write her off as uninterested or just plain cold/mean, even though I made it pretty clear I am interested in her. And when I talk to her, she smiles when I say hi, but when we start talking she just seems downright cold/uninterested.
So I have been flirting and complimenting this shy girl in my history lecture. Don't know her very well. Every time I speak to her, she smiles when I initially see her. (Maybe she is just being nice) But that smile dies off when we talk. She doesn't seem to be able to answer my questions in more than two words. lol. it is very hard to talk to her. And she always seems to be trying to leave and always has this cold look on her face. Should I talk to her more? Or write her off and move on?