@lord_chilled Ok genius, protected sex is fine. If you don;t use protection you're a fucking idiot and I agree with that. The act of engaging in sex is extremely good for physical and mental health. No drugs that are good for you? Hmm... so firstly how are most diseases treated/cured? Oh right drugs! But you're probably going to say Marijuana is different. It definitely is, Marijuana, which leads to zero deaths a year, is mostly recreational. Why can it be bad? Well smoking too much pot, whilst it does little too no damage to your body, can just make you a mess who is unable to work or function. But in controlled amounts, like most users have because its less addictive that alcohol or cigarettes, its harmless and helps relieve stress which is good for mental health. Finally, nearly every single substance can be bad for you if you have too much of it, marijuana is no exception.
@EllezBellez98 since you have proven yourself to be smart, let me ask you this: who do you think is gonna be more likely to engage in "protected" sex or any kind of sex where there is any kind of tought, planning or shared respinsibility involved, a couple, or a bunch of strangers f*cking around?
What makes you even think that you could get a random guy you met at the bar to put on a condom? Like thats pretty much his call. Its your call to have sex and if it bothers you that much you can cancel it alltogether, but wearing a condom is upto him. And a half drunk guy who doesn't like rubber isn't gonna wear one.
The act of engaging in sex, is good physically and mentally, if its with one person that you love. F*cking with multiple people breaks you and only causes bad emotions and emptyness.
As for sex being bad for your dating prospects in the future and your reputation , my point stands
As for the drugs, you know damn well that i didn't mean taking drugs for medical reasons. What i meant were drugs for recreational drugs , used to get high. And to be frank, alcohol can be classified as one. If you want. Fits the bill. Marijuana may not result in death by itself (which i doubt) but im sure it can lead to neglect and activities which can lead to death. Ever heard of stoner parents negelcting thei kids and the kid dying? Same shit with any drug. And let me just tell you this. Any drug/alcohol etc than gets you high/boozed is unhealthy for your mind. what it does is that it acts on receptors in your brain to over or undercompensate in ways that make you feel high. Different mechanisms for different drugs. And none of that sh*t is healthy. None of it. If you think that its healthy, you have been fed a few lies i must say. And this is coming from a pro-weed legalization person. I feel about weed being illegal as the same as the alcohol prohibition era. All falls under stupid
Stunts by the govt. that dont work.. and i like myself a drink once in a while, some people like a smoke, some like herb. But if you think that any of that is healthy, you must be out of your mind
@lord_chilled First of all the girls is as responsible as the guy to have condoms, if she plans to have sex and wants to be protected why is the guy the only one who should bring a condom? Also most guys accept to wear a condom because it's also safer for them! I've never had a guy say no to war a rubber and if he did he could fuck right off.
Also, its good mentally because it's a stress release, people who don't have orgasms often whether its with a stranger or a lover are usually much less stressed. You also said it's only good physically if it's with a lover, completely false. It's good physically because you're using energy so it's a physical exercise! Then the idea that it makes you feel empty, I'll respond simply by saying most people who live this lifestyle are happy and people who say it makes them feel empty have a totally different lifestyle so how would they know?
Finally, the idea of it being bad for your reputation is the reason for this post. It shouldn't be bad, if done properly it's 100% safe. I've slept with strangers but the fact remains I've never cheated or been dumped.
Then to your points on drugs, it's clear that you haven't read a single modern day study on marijuana. Most parents who do pot in controlled doses (which is is the case 99% of the time) are fine and have to problems, because it's effects are as a stress release. The fact that you doubt that there are zero deaths caused directly from THC/Marijuana shows you're poorly informed on the subject. Look at independent studies from non profit research groups, the results surprise everyone when they first see them.
@EllezBellez98 the girls are as responsible as guys to have condoms. Fine in theory, horrible in practise. never ever heard of a girl who carries condoms with her.. and as for all these ons guys carrying condoms, I think i may have made a wrong assumption about you being actually experienced in this matter , because i kbow a ton of guys who hate condoms and dont wear one to save their lives. And let me give you a hint. Its usually the guys into random hookups and the likes that wear no condoms. Because guys who dont give af are more likely to engage in risky endeavours. You have a very ideal , utopian worldview. This is not how the world works. People that fuck multiple partners are more often than not less responsible, more risky, make bad desicions and end up getting hurt. The opposite with people who dont engage in this. You seem to rely a lot on what has been tought to you as facts an studies, but you dont understand the real world. In practise, thats not how things are
@EllezBellez98 if physical exercise is what you mean as positive, by sex then all sex is positive, but taking a hike would always be more positive anyway.
Positive sex is not just physical but also mental. And you can't completely have that unless you have a connection to the other person. You may think those people are happy but they are only getting a quick high off it. They aren't getting the complete satisfaction a loving relationship can give. You have been mislead with that bs.
Thise people aren't as haooy in regards to sex as a couole are and a couples sex life will surprising to you, 9/10 times be better than their sex life
@EllezBellez98 as for the being bad for it being bad, it eill never change. Thats because this is the way men are. Its the way we are wired. We are wired to go for the most virginal women we can get. In fact, not just men, most male mammals are like this. You can change this the day a woman will find 2/10 looking lazy bum that lives in his moms basement as attractive as a 10/10 looking successful smart man.
Men rate women on their sexual history, not their jobs or rank or education or even religion or politics. Sexual history is the number one acale on which men rate a woman value. And you can only go downhill from virgin, in other words, women dont build value, you reclaim it. Just letting you know
@lord_chilled Maybe, they don't give a fuck but I do, so when I say it's a condom or no sex, Most guys will say condom. As for me not understanding the real world I'm a Sophomore who went to NYU with a full ride scholarship at 17 years old in Mathematical economics and has a 3.9 GPA with multiple awards in debating and research. My life is based around these social issues and I'll admit a lot of guys and girls get STD's when they do this, but if there was better sexual health education in America it wouldn't happen. If people knew the devastatingly deadly diseases that could occur during sex and that the best way to enjoy sex safely would be to wear a rubber, this issue wouldn't exist. Instead American sex ed is limited to just saying no, like that's going to work. Also, yes I use facts and studies in my arguments and I read research reports that are made about real world situation, if you want to call these reports fake go for it, but try to read them first before casting judgement.
As for the marijuana studies, i have seen a few, but i admit i haven't seen many. But if you think that these pro-studies aren't biased, you are wrong again. Everything is politicalm every survey every study. Everything is biased. And like i said, i have heard stories of stoner parents neglecting to feed their kids and the kids dying. You are being naive again with the "perfect doses" what makes you think these people are gonna be so careful. A lot of people just dont give af. They smoke or drink as much as they want. And i will tell you again, use your logic, no matter ehat any study says, anything that works the chemical receotors in your brain abnormally IS ALWAYS bad for your health. Your body has a natural conditioning to itm getting high is unnatural. And what is unnatural is not good for your body.
Maybe a hike would be better, but a marathon would be even better, and a triathlon would be better than that. It's not a competition of what;s best for you, good for you physically means good for you physically.
You can have a connection with a person that is positive and physical, my personal experience has shown me that. Also, as one of 'those people' I'm pretty happy, and if I wasn't I would change my lifestyle. What makes you happy is subjective, different things make different people happy.
As for last comment, that's pretty fucked. Men are wired that way? Really? That's like Hitler saying Jews are wired for greed. That's fucked and pretty sexist. My boyfriends did't love me for my past, they loved me for who I was to them and didn't care who I was to anyone else. Men don't rate women on their sexual history before anything else, in fact that's usually something that for most people comes up a few months into the relationship.
@lord_chilled What makes me think people are going to be careful? Most people who take marijuana hate taking too much!! Most people take it as a fucking stress release? which is not the case when you get high as shit! Furthermore, I look into every single organisations behind the studies, the donors, and the researchers, so yea there is a such thing as unbiased. Also, because THC is not patented by any pharamcuitical company, nor can it ever be, there is very little corporate interest towards it being legal.
@EllezBellez98 good judgement on your part that you chose guys eho eould wear condoms, but i know guys who won't. And im not talking about submissive girls giving in, im talking a girl like you, still wouldn't change these guys. Im not saying they would force themselves on a girl, but they aren't gonna wear a rubber. I have asked them about std/pregnancy risk. "meh" Whats alarming is that a lot of girls go for these guys. So that kind of puts "safe sex" in a tough spot. And im sure there are female versions of these guys as well. Im sure there are some girls that must hate condoms.
As for the the sexual education thing, i think you guys are already going about it a bit too liberal. The saying no to sex, is basically not a bad idea.
You will find that in conservative places that preach sex after marriage, and look down upon casual sex. Std rates are much, much lower. I have lived in conservative societies and i have lived in ones where casual sex is rampant (im in uni now as well)
Im sure you can tell now where the std rates are higher among the two.
And as for the studies, they are based on real surveys , but there are always errors. The sample size in itself can often be a bad one. This could leave to misrepresentation in itself. I used to talk about surveys too, but i dont do that now, since i figured that, what they say is often in stark contrast to what i see in real life
@lord_chilled Sex education is problem everywhere, mainly in liberal areas but also in conservative areas. The most irresponsible type of sex that exists is statistically much higher in conservative areas than in liberal area, that's due to bad sex ed.
As for you're point on surveys, I know how to read a sample size and analyse a sample selection. If I see a sample of 1000 athletes saying these guys are super fit and they some weed, therefore weed is good (and I have seen those) I'll be able to tell that it's bull shit. But when I see a sample saying 1000 people, 50/50 genders, ages ranging from 21-80, BMI's ranging from very underweight to morbidly obese, which gives data as a whole and split into these categories I can see more benefits from marijuana then drawbacks.
@EllezBellez98 no thats not f*cked, its a fact. Men are wired that way, and i think we can leave hitler and stalin out of this. Did you know that male tigers fight extra hard amongs each other for a virgin? I mean they always fight for breeding rights, but if its a virgin, that fight will go to the death. Thats because with a virgin he is sure that the prigeny will be his if he can hokd her down till she gives birth. Sexist? Id say animalistic is a better word.
Your boyfriends lived you for who you are, but lets not act as if if there are no attractiveness scales there is no way you are gonna deny that. We can both agree looks matter to both genders, and certain thibgs matter to one gender more than the other. But sexual history matters to men very highly. This isn't like just that one creepy dude. This is every dude. They only ask it later on, because if thats the first thing you ask, girls run away. We usually figure that out when we start getting interested into committment.
I mean you go ahead do what you want to do. The only thing I would like to say is that I think (this is just my thoughts that aren't backed by statistics) girls care a lot about whether or not a guy is a virgin. For some (me) being a virgin is not by choice but rather not being deemed naturally attractive by women.
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"I don’t regret any of..."
That's because you're only 20. You will regret those things eventually; it's only a matter of time.
It's good you enjoy life, but stay safe and don't go overboard... because no matter how badass and "successful" you think you are, there are people out there who are "badder".
Because we are beings of reason and if we are always bad then you will never reach true contentment. I could really get philosophical with this but I'll stop. Just look up some philosophy by Immanuel Kant and you'll see.
I hope your life is enjoyable i dont agree but that is your choice. So why give someone a hard time because she lives her life diferent way to yours...
Well i dunno, i have plenty of fun and i never drank or smoked or anything like that. I like being good because when you are good to people it makes them happy and then they are going to be good to you too
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So you wanna say that bad isn't bad? 😂
I read your whole take, and basically everything is as absurd as this statement above, just pure contradiction.
I hope someone will break your world of illusions and wake u up before it's too late.
She's saying that things people call bad, such as the stuff she lists in her take, should not be considered bad and are perfectly fine things to do.
@EllezBellez98 well she is wrong
@lord_chilled uh huh... and why is that?
@EllezBellez98 because, sex with multiple partners is bad for your healh, reputation, and value as a partner. Thats just the truth.
As for drugs. There are no drugs that are good for you. All of them have a bad effect on your body, mind, and judgement
@lord_chilled Ok genius, protected sex is fine. If you don;t use protection you're a fucking idiot and I agree with that. The act of engaging in sex is extremely good for physical and mental health.
No drugs that are good for you? Hmm... so firstly how are most diseases treated/cured? Oh right drugs! But you're probably going to say Marijuana is different. It definitely is, Marijuana, which leads to zero deaths a year, is mostly recreational. Why can it be bad? Well smoking too much pot, whilst it does little too no damage to your body, can just make you a mess who is unable to work or function. But in controlled amounts, like most users have because its less addictive that alcohol or cigarettes, its harmless and helps relieve stress which is good for mental health. Finally, nearly every single substance can be bad for you if you have too much of it, marijuana is no exception.
@EllezBellez98 since you have proven yourself to be smart, let me ask you this: who do you think is gonna be more likely to engage in "protected" sex or any kind of sex where there is any kind of tought, planning or shared respinsibility involved, a couple, or a bunch of strangers f*cking around?
What makes you even think that you could get a random guy you met at the bar to put on a condom?
Like thats pretty much his call.
Its your call to have sex and if it bothers you that much you can cancel it alltogether, but wearing a condom is upto him. And a half drunk guy who doesn't like rubber isn't gonna wear one.
The act of engaging in sex, is good physically and mentally, if its with one person that you love. F*cking with multiple people breaks you and only causes bad emotions and emptyness.
As for sex being bad for your dating prospects in the future and your reputation , my point stands
As for the drugs, you know damn well that i didn't mean taking drugs for medical reasons.
What i meant were drugs for recreational drugs , used to get high. And to be frank, alcohol can be classified as one.
If you want. Fits the bill.
Marijuana may not result in death by itself (which i doubt) but im sure it can lead to neglect and activities which can lead to death.
Ever heard of stoner parents negelcting thei kids and the kid dying?
Same shit with any drug.
And let me just tell you this. Any drug/alcohol etc than gets you high/boozed is unhealthy for your mind.
what it does is that it acts on receptors in your brain to over or undercompensate in ways that make you feel high.
Different mechanisms for different drugs.
And none of that sh*t is healthy. None of it.
If you think that its healthy, you have been fed a few lies i must say. And this is coming from a pro-weed legalization person. I feel about weed being illegal as the same as the alcohol prohibition era. All falls under stupid
Stunts by the govt. that dont work..
and i like myself a drink once in a while, some people like a smoke, some like herb.
But if you think that any of that is healthy, you must be out of your mind
@lord_chilled First of all the girls is as responsible as the guy to have condoms, if she plans to have sex and wants to be protected why is the guy the only one who should bring a condom? Also most guys accept to wear a condom because it's also safer for them! I've never had a guy say no to war a rubber and if he did he could fuck right off.
Also, its good mentally because it's a stress release, people who don't have orgasms often whether its with a stranger or a lover are usually much less stressed. You also said it's only good physically if it's with a lover, completely false. It's good physically because you're using energy so it's a physical exercise! Then the idea that it makes you feel empty, I'll respond simply by saying most people who live this lifestyle are happy and people who say it makes them feel empty have a totally different lifestyle so how would they know?
Finally, the idea of it being bad for your reputation is the reason for this post. It shouldn't be bad, if done properly it's 100% safe. I've slept with strangers but the fact remains I've never cheated or been dumped.
Then to your points on drugs, it's clear that you haven't read a single modern day study on marijuana. Most parents who do pot in controlled doses (which is is the case 99% of the time) are fine and have to problems, because it's effects are as a stress release. The fact that you doubt that there are zero deaths caused directly from THC/Marijuana shows you're poorly informed on the subject. Look at independent studies from non profit research groups, the results surprise everyone when they first see them.
@EllezBellez98 the girls are as responsible as guys to have condoms.
Fine in theory, horrible in practise.
never ever heard of a girl who carries condoms with her.. and as for all these ons guys carrying condoms,
I think i may have made a wrong assumption about you being actually experienced in this matter , because i kbow a ton of guys who hate condoms and dont wear one to save their lives.
And let me give you a hint. Its usually the guys into random hookups and the likes that wear no condoms. Because guys who dont give af are more likely to engage in risky endeavours. You have a very ideal , utopian worldview. This is not how the world works. People that fuck multiple partners are more often than not less responsible, more risky, make bad desicions and end up getting hurt. The opposite with people who dont engage in this. You seem to rely a lot on what has been tought to you as facts an studies, but you dont understand the real world.
In practise, thats not how things are
@EllezBellez98 if physical exercise is what you mean as positive, by sex then all sex is positive, but taking a hike would always be more positive anyway.
Positive sex is not just physical but also mental. And you can't completely have that unless you have a connection to the other person. You may think those people are happy but they are only getting a quick high off it. They aren't getting the complete satisfaction a loving relationship can give. You have been mislead with that bs.
Thise people aren't as haooy in regards to sex as a couole are and a couples sex life will surprising to you, 9/10 times be better than their sex life
@EllezBellez98 as for the being bad for it being bad, it eill never change. Thats because this is the way men are. Its the way we are wired. We are wired to go for the most virginal women we can get. In fact, not just men, most male mammals are like this. You can change this the day a woman will find 2/10 looking lazy bum that lives in his moms basement as attractive as a 10/10 looking successful smart man.
Men rate women on their sexual history, not their jobs or rank or education or even religion or politics. Sexual history is the number one acale on which men rate a woman value.
And you can only go downhill from virgin, in other words, women dont build value, you reclaim it. Just letting you know
@lord_chilled Maybe, they don't give a fuck but I do, so when I say it's a condom or no sex, Most guys will say condom. As for me not understanding the real world I'm a Sophomore who went to NYU with a full ride scholarship at 17 years old in Mathematical economics and has a 3.9 GPA with multiple awards in debating and research. My life is based around these social issues and I'll admit a lot of guys and girls get STD's when they do this, but if there was better sexual health education in America it wouldn't happen. If people knew the devastatingly deadly diseases that could occur during sex and that the best way to enjoy sex safely would be to wear a rubber, this issue wouldn't exist. Instead American sex ed is limited to just saying no, like that's going to work. Also, yes I use facts and studies in my arguments and I read research reports that are made about real world situation, if you want to call these reports fake go for it, but try to read them first before casting judgement.
As for the marijuana studies, i have seen a few, but i admit i haven't seen many. But if you think that these pro-studies aren't biased, you are wrong again.
Everything is politicalm every survey every study. Everything is biased.
And like i said, i have heard stories of stoner parents neglecting to feed their kids and the kids dying. You are being naive again with the "perfect doses" what makes you think these people are gonna be so careful. A lot of people just dont give af.
They smoke or drink as much as they want. And i will tell you again, use your logic, no matter ehat any study says, anything that works the chemical receotors in your brain abnormally IS ALWAYS bad for your health.
Your body has a natural conditioning to itm getting high is unnatural. And what is unnatural is not good for your body.
Maybe a hike would be better, but a marathon would be even better, and a triathlon would be better than that. It's not a competition of what;s best for you, good for you physically means good for you physically.
You can have a connection with a person that is positive and physical, my personal experience has shown me that. Also, as one of 'those people' I'm pretty happy, and if I wasn't I would change my lifestyle. What makes you happy is subjective, different things make different people happy.
As for last comment, that's pretty fucked. Men are wired that way? Really? That's like Hitler saying Jews are wired for greed. That's fucked and pretty sexist. My boyfriends did't love me for my past, they loved me for who I was to them and didn't care who I was to anyone else. Men don't rate women on their sexual history before anything else, in fact that's usually something that for most people comes up a few months into the relationship.
@lord_chilled What makes me think people are going to be careful? Most people who take marijuana hate taking too much!! Most people take it as a fucking stress release? which is not the case when you get high as shit! Furthermore, I look into every single organisations behind the studies, the donors, and the researchers, so yea there is a such thing as unbiased. Also, because THC is not patented by any pharamcuitical company, nor can it ever be, there is very little corporate interest towards it being legal.
@EllezBellez98 good judgement on your part that you chose guys eho eould wear condoms, but i know guys who won't.
And im not talking about submissive girls giving in, im talking a girl like you, still wouldn't change these guys. Im not saying they would force themselves on a girl, but they aren't gonna wear a rubber.
I have asked them about std/pregnancy risk.
"meh"
Whats alarming is that a lot of girls go for these guys. So that kind of puts "safe sex" in a tough spot.
And im sure there are female versions of these guys as well.
Im sure there are some girls that must hate condoms.
As for the the sexual education thing, i think you guys are already going about it a bit too liberal.
The saying no to sex, is basically not a bad idea.
You will find that in conservative places that preach sex after marriage, and look down upon casual sex. Std rates are much, much lower.
I have lived in conservative societies and i have lived in ones where casual sex is rampant (im in uni now as well)
Im sure you can tell now where the std rates are higher among the two.
And as for the studies, they are based on real surveys , but there are always errors. The sample size in itself can often be a bad one. This could leave to misrepresentation in itself. I used to talk about surveys too, but i dont do that now, since i figured that, what they say is often in stark contrast to what i see in real life
@lord_chilled Sex education is problem everywhere, mainly in liberal areas but also in conservative areas. The most irresponsible type of sex that exists is statistically much higher in conservative areas than in liberal area, that's due to bad sex ed.
As for you're point on surveys, I know how to read a sample size and analyse a sample selection. If I see a sample of 1000 athletes saying these guys are super fit and they some weed, therefore weed is good (and I have seen those) I'll be able to tell that it's bull shit. But when I see a sample saying 1000 people, 50/50 genders, ages ranging from 21-80, BMI's ranging from very underweight to morbidly obese, which gives data as a whole and split into these categories I can see more benefits from marijuana then drawbacks.
@EllezBellez98 no thats not f*cked, its a fact. Men are wired that way, and i think we can leave hitler and stalin out of this. Did you know that male tigers fight extra hard amongs each other for a virgin?
I mean they always fight for breeding rights, but if its a virgin, that fight will go to the death. Thats because with a virgin he is sure that the prigeny will be his if he can hokd her down till she gives birth.
Sexist? Id say animalistic is a better word.
Your boyfriends lived you for who you are, but lets not act as if if there are no attractiveness scales there is no way you are gonna deny that.
We can both agree looks matter to both genders, and certain thibgs matter to one gender more than the other. But sexual history matters to men very highly. This isn't like just that one creepy dude. This is every dude.
They only ask it later on, because if thats the first thing you ask, girls run away.
We usually figure that out when we start getting interested into committment.
I mean you go ahead do what you want to do. The only thing I would like to say is that I think (this is just my thoughts that aren't backed by statistics) girls care a lot about whether or not a guy is a virgin. For some (me) being a virgin is not by choice but rather not being deemed naturally attractive by women.
"I don’t regret any of..."
That's because you're only 20. You will regret those things eventually; it's only a matter of time.
Bwaahaha...
Bad girls have more fun. They also get knocked up, knocked down, used and abused, and left for the 'good girls'. :)
It's good you enjoy life, but stay safe and don't go overboard... because no matter how badass and "successful" you think you are, there are people out there who are "badder".
Because we are beings of reason and if we are always bad then you will never reach true contentment. I could really get philosophical with this but I'll stop. Just look up some philosophy by Immanuel Kant and you'll see.
I hope your life is enjoyable i dont agree but that is your choice. So why give someone a hard time because she lives her life diferent way to yours...
I'm not giving anybody a hard time though, I just expressed my opinion as response to somebody elses.
You can be as bad as you want, just be prepared for everyone to judge you one it.
Absolutely you are so so right!
come back to me when you get aids/raped/injected with heroin and tell me that you don't regret anything you've done
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"Why Be Good When You Can Be Bad?"
Because being good is objectively better.
I don't like bad, irresponsible women. They look so dumb sometimes.
So it's okay to do drugs and be a slut? Interesting myTake
no, it's really disgusting
LOL, dw girl, i doubt nice guy won't want you. you're fkn badass.
Badboy usually avaliable ok? just don't confuse with fuckboy
There is no reason/excuse for being bad. If you want to be bad by choice that is a different thing.
love the take. i tend to agree, be bad while one can. live life to the fullest and enjoy it...
Well i dunno, i have plenty of fun and i never drank or smoked or anything like that. I like being good because when you are good to people it makes them happy and then they are going to be good to you too
ohhh
I choose to be good because as an adult, being "bad" gets you nowhere.
I ask myself the same question a long time ago
I'm just taking small steps toward being bad
The numbers don't support the claim that much anyone is a slut these days. That being said, if you want to be a bad girl, do it.