So the biggest mistake I've made in relationships is not being fully into it because I was so worried “does he still like me or not.” I figured even though its going to take months or longer to break this bad habit, Its detrimental in the end. Plus, there are so many good reasons to not worry about this.
Reasons why
1. There are going to be other guys/ girls
Right now in the situation, it may feel like he’s the only guy/girl who will like you. He’s the only guy/girl who likes you and you like him/her back. But trust me there will be other guys/girls. And someday you could be looking back and this and thinking “wow I wasted so much time worrying about this guy.” So why not just skip that and not worry about this guy so much. Enjoy it instead.
2. It's not worth THIS much worry in a relationship
A relationship takes some worry but its not this much worrying and not this type of worrying. When you keep worrying about if he likes you any more or not, you can start to forget the good experiences with him until its gone. Then all that’s left to do is to dwell instead enjoy yourself and him at the time.
3. It isn't love
I read somewhere that love is when “you would rather have an argument or an awkward conversation with them, then not talk at at all.” When I'm in these worry-some situations Id rather we not talk at all then argue or have an awkward conversation because, then id have to worry about him talking to me again because of the awkward situation. So it made me feel better that this situation wasn’t really love. Love is rare so it was the whole reason I was so scared to lose him. It made me feel so much calmer when it wasn’t love because there was less fear for me. Love will truly feel better than this.
How to stop
What usually helps me is to distract myself from other things instead of leaving myself alone to worry about the situation. Sometimes its scary to let go of an old habit that has kept you safe for such a long time. When i do start thinking of it i remind myself of these reasons and why it doesn't help me. So just live life and enjoy, if pain comes, pain comes, as much as you think this worrying may break the blow, i promise you, the amount of pain you spent worring about if he likes you or not made up for more than it.
Goodluck guys :)! -tonga
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