Guys-- What it means if she never, ever texts first.

[Thatsamazing]

This shouldn't take too long.

Boys. Fellas. Guys.

If she does not text you first, she is not interested in you and is just being friendly.

Now, is that a generalization? Yes. Are we talking about literally. each. and. every. single. female. on. the. planet. with this generalization? No. But for the overwhelming majority of girls, especially the ones who are objectively attractive, if she is not ever taking the time to text you first, and YOU are always the one who is texting her and she is just responding? Then she is just being friendly. Period. She is not that into you.

Girls want to be chased by guys, but texting can be one exception to this rule-- girls WANT to text guys first that they are truly hot for and truly interested in, because they mostly can't help themselves and want to talk to him and want attention from him. Then they get all kerfuffled if the guy doesn't respond within .0001 seconds, and post dumb questions on GaG about "what does it meeeeeannnn??!/!!?!?!" but we are not talking about that right here; we are talking about YOU having the hots for HER, even if she's currently just a friend, and if you for any moment are wondering whether she feels it back in the same way, again: For the overwhelming majority of females, the answer is pretty simply, is SHE ever texting you first? Or are you texting first, when you guys text, and she's just responding?

If it's the second thing... she's not interested. At least not interested in the ways you want her to be interested. You're just stoking her ego.

Sorry man, whoever you are out there. I know it sucks, because I'm sure she's cool, but please recognize this, and also don't cling to the tiny infinitesimal possibility that she is one of the exceptions to this rule since the probability is that she is not. Don't waste your time. And continuing to text her just makes you look desperate, which is never a good look. Try to find someone else. Good luck out there.

~ Thanks for reading. Hugs and kisses.

[confusedrepeatedly]

Ya it's really awful like I'm definitely texting more she responds but she definitely does text me sometimes first but not enough I'm hoping that if I calm down a little bit she'll start more convos but I don't know i think your right which makes me sad

[Thatsamazing]

Yeah man. It sucks but it's true.

[confusedrepeatedly]

I asked her if she wants to hang out she's like well these days I can't and in like soooo what about after and she says well ya ig we could

[confusedrepeatedly]

What does that mean? Does she not want to hang out like she gave me a day where we could chill together but I feel like I kinda forced her or is she playing hard to get

[MrNameless]

"well these days I can't"

I thnk she's trying to let you down easy. If a girl was interested, she would make time or plan something.

[Anonymous]

yeppers, I always text my crush first. Other guys, not so much.

[LoU_Hades]

I agree. Funny take
It's not a big miracle that women pick men and not vice versa.
Yes, girls want be chased by guys, but only by guys they picked beforehand.
I think accepting the interpersonal rules of interest, motivation, intention and indifference is the basic knowledge to be successful in dealing with other people. (not only in online dating)
Desperate guys annoy me, because they give women too much of unconditional affirmation, that leads to self overestimation of many girls. Those guys act indeed in some accordance of fail/true learning patterns, however it's like putting a hand into fire and hoping the fire won't burn their skin this time.

[davidj555]

Spot on

[JustAStrange]

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[cheapshotbob]

it is kind of funny seeing how i posted something similar but this is pretty much what my post was about though i did not word it as good. lol but hey you live and learn and then you figure something else out. like that time with the gothic chic... anyway this post is pretty spot on.

[JNewbb]

The question was a tad long.

I would say it means two things.

1. She's not thinking about you often.

2. She is thinking about you, but she has a lot of will power, and she believes in being aloof. Perhaps she thinks that gives her more control over guys entering into a relationship, perhaps she was called clingy/desperate in the past, or maybe it's just bad advice from friends.

[Anonymous]

This is actually incorrect. MOST women even if she has hots for a guy tend to not initiate texts first because we love to be chase and feel wanted. So fellas, dont think just cuz a girl dont text first does not mean she is not feeling you. Most women just dont do it unless she is over confident, does not follow the traditional way, or dont mind doing what most women dont do.

[Thatsamazing]

Uhh... no.

[DWD1994]

It depends really. If she never texts first but she always responds when you text her, it could just mean she is more reserved and prefers the guy to make the first move.

In general though, I do agree.

[Lman3000]

Well good to know that if the girt responds first she's interested in dating and if not then nope your outta luck, Well then guess I'll go fuck myself and delete all my fucking social medias I have ever used.

[Thatsamazing]

I dunno what you mean, man.

[Midori999]

I text my guy first but then he told he got scared to reply lol so I text less and let flow float.

[Phoenix98]

I would just assume she's not interested in me as it's the logical answer.

[CapsXOXO]

spot on

think a guy should feel a girl out by first texting, having a break to check if she might text back.

Also do your own thing lads, girls like guys that do have their own life.

[Anonymous]

I would have agreed before but now I know that’s rubbish since I’m in a position with someone I like but it doesn’t feel smart to text first.

[MikeTheBartender]

Totally agree.

[CT_CD]

I agree