In every stereotypical TV show or movie, it always involves the guy figuring out how to text the girl. Usually, guys are supposed to be "the man" and talk to the girl, text the girl, and ask the girl out FIRST. But what if the girl wants to go first? Do YOU think it's okay for a girl to break these common stereotypes and be the ones taking that first step to a successful relatonship?
In my opinion, I think the girl can definitely be the leader sometimes! If you are a girl and you feel comfortable making the first move, then I would say to go for it! Sometimes, it's okay for the girl to be "the man". I'm no feminist, but I think it really doesn't matter who goes first. In fact, lots of guys are shy and don't plan to text you first because they are nervous. You could be the one who saves the relationship so it ends up being successful!
Share your opinions about who goes first down below.
If you decide that it's okay for the girl to text the guy first, then how does a girl go about doing it? Here are some tips:
1.Be casual about it. Don't make a big deal out of it.
2. Don't make small talk. Guys like it when a girl knows what they want.
3. Have something in mind to talk about before texting him.
4. Don't be nervous!
Here is a sample conversation of a successful relationship getting started:
Girl: What's up?
Guy: Just chilling.
Girl: I saw your snapchat story. It was pretty cool. I liked the part about the dog ha ha. Pretty funny.
Guy: Oh thanks! I have a lot more where that came from! Want me to snap you?
Girl: Yeah cool!
Just like that, these two have started connecting. However, here is what you should NOT do. If you don't have a motive/idea of what to talk about, the conversation can fail and just become awkward.
Girl: How are you?
Just like that, the conversation has drifted off into failed-conversation-land, never to be revived or seen again.
A final tip is to make sure that you are comfortable with the guy before you text him! If you mess up, don't worry. This is a saying I made up a few days ago: No one can embarrass you if you choose not to be embarrassed. If something goes wrong, don't let it bother you! Just try again a few days later.
Being the girl sending the first text can be difficult, but remember: girls and guys aren't all that different.
I hope this helps you! If you have any opinions/thoughts, share them down below!