Explaining the outgoing introvert and the shy extrovert

[Anonymous]

I didn't really have a picture srry

What I've noticed in this world is that so many people assume that the shy quiet people are introverts and that the outgoing social loud people are extroverts and I just wanna clear things up.

Introverts are defined by wanting to be alone, getting energy by being alone and getting drained of energy when being in the presence of others. They could be highly social and enjoy socializing and going out partying but eventually they will just feel drained and want to be alone to think about things and get energized again...Its not that they are shy or that they don't know what to say in a conversation, its that they genuinely feel exhausted. I have many friends that fit in this category, they start off hyper, active and more then willing to start a convo and they even hang out at the most exciting places but as time goes by they just get sick of it, it was confusing to me..to see my most outgoing friends all of a sudden just drop down and feel tired and almost quiet...This is a true introvert, they can be outgoing as heck but too much exhausts them and they recharge by being alone in there own world.

So what about extrovert. An extrovert is defined by someone wanting to be out in the open, not alone, they get energy by others and usually conversations or just being with people. Most shy extroverts are usually people that struggled with being alone for a lot of there lives and they just got sick of it and craved friends. But to tell an extrovert thats quiet or shy, just look for the people that could be extremely shy and quiet and anxious, they might even look like they don't want to be there but then the more they are out in the open and with others, the more they slowly start to open up, or maybe they hide the fact that they actually are really excited and energized. Around friends, they open up so much, and around strangers well they enjoy it..but with a socially anxious extrovert, they don't really know how to start a conversation or continue it really, so they often just smile at you and hope that you can do a better job at starting a friendship. I don't know many shy extroverts but I do know that I am a very shy extrovert.

Alone, I feel as if I get more tired because when I'm alone I am trapped in my out of wack mind that keeps overanalyizing everything and it all just drains me. at least with others I don't have to worry about making a good impression because when I'm with others, I'm not stuck in my own mind set of constantly improving and making theories up.

I guess with introverts, they get energized by alone time because maybe all the people cloud there thoughts and they really want to have that space to think things through..

Anyway

My brother is a outgoing introvert, he gets along with all, everyone loves him and he has fantastic jokes and so much charisma..but at parties, he starts to break down and even go as to far as to lock himself in a room alone just to think. Even with text messages, he doesn't like receiving them and sometimes avoids hanging out with friends.

I as a shy extrovert, well I really really want to socialize and explore the world and make new friends but I just have no clue, I don't have his charisma or really any skill in the art of conversation but I do get really giddy and excited when someone texts me...and at parties I will eventually start pumping it up in a dance number despite probs not knowing anyone.

[geosmanphi]

I am more like your brother introverted , I get energy from being alone. I used to be shy when I was age 12-16. However my personality changed since last year, I gained control over my shyness and decided to stay out of my comfort zone , this made me confident and not hesitate to do anything I really want. However I still don't like to talk to people that much unless I am interested in talking to them which is not common. I am usually the quite guy in a group , I'd rather listen than talk.
That's just me maybe... I prefer being around extroverts because again they make me go out of my comfort zone , then u could consider me an extraveted which is someone that manages to be in both categories. Over time personality changes.

[Jaysonava]

Introverts are more likely to value solitude and extroverts more likely to be social. But this isn't what defines an introvert and extrovert.

An introvert process their stimulus alone. An extravert processes their stimulus by saying it to other people and 'bouncing off' of other people.

Introverts might be social butterflies, extroverts might be loners. A loner extrovert is very common.

But because of the way they process stimulus, an extrovert is more often sociable and talkative. But this is not what defines the behavior.

[sagevvalentine]

Genius! I am an outgoing introvert! wow! I finally understand. I like taking really long walks and feeling the wind, I like to be with my boyfriend, and I like to be silent, just playing with his hair, and being silent. I like to party sure, and even though I think I get along with people easily, sometimes I get very tired of it, and find myself observing people instead of interacting.

[nerms123]

I’m an outgoing introvert

[DOGMA1954]

I myself am a Introvert. I also have a very high IQ. Like most Introverts, I enjoy reading and having no more that 4 people I can call friends in my life. Large gatherings freak me out. If I call you a friend, count yourself lucky because I will go to hell and back for you. We crave alone time to recharge, because we seem to take in a lot of things around us and at some point need to turn things off in order to recharge.

[Anonymous]

I'm an ambivert