If doing what I want lowers the standard of how men see me, that's on the men. I don't personally live my life in accordance to what makes men happy and see me as "valuable" to them.
I live my life according to my own morals and do things that make me proud. Does that mean I'm out here twerking? Not online or anything crazy like that, but a girl can get down at a bar or club every once in a while (pre-COVID-19).
I think we really have to put this shit in the past. You can not like women who are openly sexual on a personal level without preaching that all women must adhere to your own set of modest standards to have value.
All. People. Have. Worth.
This is why rape culture and racism exists, and Karens like this exist at the epicenter. God dayum
Also, most of this article is basically proving my point: BY DOING THIS, MEN ARE GONNA HURT AND EXPLOIT YOU!
... K... this is still on the men though. A girl dancing is not a pass for men's mistreatment of women. Maybe society needs to start putting blame where blame belongs: on the being who are doing the harm.
Sidenote: Not saying all men are always the one doing harm. Women do bad shit too.
Are you really digging in to the deep philosophical meaning behind twerking? It's a silly dance move done to music that is equally meaningless and disposable. In other words, who cares? If one chooses to twerk because they believe it will *empower them*, I will show you a person suffering a great delusion. Lets take things for what they are. Twerking is an essentially meaningless dance move done to primarily meaningless music for fun. If you are doing a twerk to somehow gain meaning or status, then you have a mental disorder. Hopefully people do it because its fun and not because there is some deep psychological gain for the individual in a group.
Women and men who are actually intelligent know that this message is more trash than not, so I'll speak directly to those women: There's an easy solution to this, which you already know. Don't invest your time on dating men who have sexist views on women and can accept you as a complete person, with a sexually expressive capacity, and live a great life. This is why being a feminist is so amazing - you start filtering men based on depth of character and views on women, so don't need to feel shackled in your behavior like a child. Let OP and women who want that life choose that road. You don't need to... but you already know that. :)
Different women choose different paths. If you don't want to twerk, you and your low-quality, broken logic and thinly veiled sexism can just take a seat and do something else. Nothing will change. The world is going to continue twerking. Stay mad, darling.
I quit pornography about a month ago. I’ve been watching it for over 20 years. The longest I ever abstained was a one year back in college.
It has definitely impacted my sex life when I was in relationships. It has made me inadvertently “creepy” at times and the older the I get the less I can get away with that.
I’m trying to make an honest push and it hasn’t been easily.
Thank you for writing this take by the way. I’m really getting fed up with women who want to “eat there cake and have it to”. You can’t magically control men’s minds if you dress and behave that way. That does NOT mean men get a pass to cat call, sexually harass or do worse in any scenario.
But these women who twerk hypocritically expect to be “respected”. Ah no that’s completely 100% asinine.
Than why do so many young women vehemently argue to the contrary?
There is a difference between being sexual vs. trashy. Women who dress femininely/conservatively but also show strong feminine wiles are extremely hot to me. That is they act like lady in public but a whore in the bedroom. THAT is the best way to do it.
But the ones who want to dress half make will get attention from everywhere they don’t want it.
Do women ever give good answers for their irrational behavior? Lol. Anyway thanks for taking the time to call this out. Only women can stop other women from acting really stupid nowadays. Male opinion is considered “patriarchy” although we more often than not know what’s best. But we bend too much because we don’t want to look sexist or we don’t want to hurt our chances of getting laid.
Either way it’s up to smart women to right the course. Keep it up.
I don't think it is going to ruin anyone's life. Also anyone that sees a woman twerking and then can't see her as anything other than a stripper is an idiot, and my profession is carpentry but I'm more than a carpenter. Plus who says your opinion is it? You do. There might be others that agree with you but there's going to be just as many that don't. So it sounds like a bunch of busy bodies that need to worry about their own yard. Sex isn't bad, dancing isn't bad. Maybe if you're getting up at church twerking it's a bad idea but in a club or at a party who cares and I watch porn and it doesn't make me an out of control sex fiend. You have the right to have your opinion but you shouldn't try and force it down anyone's throat or pass judgement on others. If I see you dancing provocatively one night and then see you in business attire the next day I'm not going to run up and make it rain. Get the plank out of your own eye
twerking just makes you look cheap and has nothing to do with talent. anyone who knows how to dance will feel ashamed this is called dancing.
I have a slight disgust for it tho you just outed yourself as a sex hungry bitch and I know how to throw a rod. maybe next year I'm rusty as a german car
Highly disagree with most of what you said but I enjoyed reading and encourage you to write more. I haven’t written a take in so long. This makes me want to write another one, maybe as an indirect response.
I didn’t read the whole thing so excuse me if I put my foot in my mouth. But I have always agreed with the general public on how twerking publicly affects someone’s image. Twerking online can really present people in a negative light. But, twerking is fun. We all have free will and should be able to do things that are harmless from time to time. I don’t twerk often but I have before at a club. I had a decent Tim and nobody even knew it was me because it was so dar and everybody was doing it. I’ll never do it again though. Probably anyway. Or maybe I will. It’s my decision
I don’t think it’s empowering and I don’t think it damages how people perceive me. Twerking is just fun. It’s just a dance and I like dancing. I know it looks sexy, I just don’t care.
Let women have the choice wtf they want. It is empowerment to get the choice to dance like this. Also men should stfu, if they are the consumer of porn/sexwok etc. I swear people hate sex workerd but they also can't live without them.
Dancing sexual, does not mean you shouod be disrespected. The same as to submissive traditional women. You also dont get disrespected for submiting to your men aka being his slave.
I suspect that the women twerking and the women asking not to be sexualized aren't the same people, but I agree if some of them are the same people, then it's pretty weird.
Twerk is probably one of the ugliest, unsexiest and most vulgar dance ever made. Who the fuck, with a sane mind and a bit of taste, could ever find that shit sexy? And how could it be empowering? It's basically the lowest trash stuff ever.
Twerking was never a sexual dance, it dates back to the 1800’s and it’s actually really fun to do. I literally do it alone in my room while listening to music because it’s like any other dancing. People need to stop sexualising dancing, where I am from we dance a lot with our bodies it’s seen as beautiful and over here when I done it I was “asking for it”.
More toxic " media " promoted BS and hypocrisy , @Ruenella_ well put , these types are so full of shit , they would make a large sewer network explode !!
Yeah. I never got twerking. It's degradation not much better than flashing your boobs. Just because a Z list celeb does it on a music video that means you've got to do it in public?
Nope bish this is not true... females are allowed to do whatever the fuck they want with their bodies and it should not lower their standards... it’s like we can’t do anything these days... calm tf down internet!!
I don't twerk unless its as a joke but I honestly couldn't care for what makes think. If they have a problem with what another person harmlessly does with their body then there the problem not the person whose twerking. If they don't like it they have the option to walk away instead of being a snowflake, Karen and thinking it's there place to tell others to love there life
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If doing what I want lowers the standard of how men see me, that's on the men. I don't personally live my life in accordance to what makes men happy and see me as "valuable" to them.
I live my life according to my own morals and do things that make me proud. Does that mean I'm out here twerking? Not online or anything crazy like that, but a girl can get down at a bar or club every once in a while (pre-COVID-19).
I think we really have to put this shit in the past. You can not like women who are openly sexual on a personal level without preaching that all women must adhere to your own set of modest standards to have value.
All. People. Have. Worth.
This is why rape culture and racism exists, and Karens like this exist at the epicenter. God dayum
Also, most of this article is basically proving my point: BY DOING THIS, MEN ARE GONNA HURT AND EXPLOIT YOU!
... K... this is still on the men though. A girl dancing is not a pass for men's mistreatment of women. Maybe society needs to start putting blame where blame belongs: on the being who are doing the harm.
Sidenote: Not saying all men are always the one doing harm. Women do bad shit too.
Are you really digging in to the deep philosophical meaning behind twerking? It's a silly dance move done to music that is equally meaningless and disposable. In other words, who cares?
If one chooses to twerk because they believe it will *empower them*, I will show you a person suffering a great delusion.
Lets take things for what they are. Twerking is an essentially meaningless dance move done to primarily meaningless music for fun. If you are doing a twerk to somehow gain meaning or status, then you have a mental disorder. Hopefully people do it because its fun and not because there is some deep psychological gain for the individual in a group.
Yes, I am really digging into the philosophical meaning behind twerking.
And what do you conclude?
lmao
Women and men who are actually intelligent know that this message is more trash than not, so I'll speak directly to those women: There's an easy solution to this, which you already know. Don't invest your time on dating men who have sexist views on women and can accept you as a complete person, with a sexually expressive capacity, and live a great life. This is why being a feminist is so amazing - you start filtering men based on depth of character and views on women, so don't need to feel shackled in your behavior like a child. Let OP and women who want that life choose that road. You don't need to... but you already know that. :)
Different women choose different paths. If you don't want to twerk, you and your low-quality, broken logic and thinly veiled sexism can just take a seat and do something else. Nothing will change. The world is going to continue twerking. Stay mad, darling.
Perfectly well said! Don't change who you are just to try to appease someone who judges you by your cover or holds ancient oppressive views of women.
If they are not intelligent to judge you on your mind or value as a follow human being they are not worth your time
I quit pornography about a month ago. I’ve been watching it for over 20 years. The longest I ever abstained was a one year back in college.
It has definitely impacted my sex life when I was in relationships. It has made me inadvertently “creepy” at times and the older the I get the less I can get away with that.
I’m trying to make an honest push and it hasn’t been easily.
Aaaww, I'm happy for you. Good job!
Just take it one day at a time.
Thank you for writing this take by the way. I’m really getting fed up with women who want to “eat there cake and have it to”. You can’t magically control men’s minds if you dress and behave that way. That does NOT mean men get a pass to cat call, sexually harass or do worse in any scenario.
But these women who twerk hypocritically expect to be “respected”. Ah no that’s completely 100% asinine.
That is correct.
Than why do so many young women vehemently argue to the contrary?
There is a difference between being sexual vs. trashy. Women who dress femininely/conservatively but also show strong feminine wiles are extremely hot to me. That is they act like lady in public but a whore in the bedroom. THAT is the best way to do it.
But the ones who want to dress half make will get attention from everywhere they don’t want it.
I don't know why lol ask them
Do women ever give good answers for their irrational behavior? Lol. Anyway thanks for taking the time to call this out. Only women can stop other women from acting really stupid nowadays. Male opinion is considered “patriarchy” although we more often than not know what’s best. But we bend too much because we don’t want to look sexist or we don’t want to hurt our chances of getting laid.
Either way it’s up to smart women to right the course. Keep it up.
I don't think it is going to ruin anyone's life. Also anyone that sees a woman twerking and then can't see her as anything other than a stripper is an idiot, and my profession is carpentry but I'm more than a carpenter. Plus who says your opinion is it? You do. There might be others that agree with you but there's going to be just as many that don't. So it sounds like a bunch of busy bodies that need to worry about their own yard. Sex isn't bad, dancing isn't bad. Maybe if you're getting up at church twerking it's a bad idea but in a club or at a party who cares and I watch porn and it doesn't make me an out of control sex fiend. You have the right to have your opinion but you shouldn't try and force it down anyone's throat or pass judgement on others. If I see you dancing provocatively one night and then see you in business attire the next day I'm not going to run up and make it rain. Get the plank out of your own eye
No offence but tldr. Twerking is a bizarre thing. It certainly isn’t female empowerment, but to each their own.
I agree!
twerking just makes you look cheap and has nothing to do with talent.
anyone who knows how to dance will feel ashamed this is called dancing.
I have a slight disgust for it tho you just outed yourself as a sex hungry bitch and I know how to throw a rod. maybe next year I'm rusty as a german car
Highly disagree with most of what you said but I enjoyed reading and encourage you to write more. I haven’t written a take in so long. This makes me want to write another one, maybe as an indirect response.
Lol, tag me.
You mean to tell me that submitting yourself to the sexual appetites of lonely old men at the super bowl, isn't empowerment? You're a Nazi/bigot.
😂😂
I didn’t read the whole thing so excuse me if I put my foot in my mouth. But I have always agreed with the general public on how twerking publicly affects someone’s image. Twerking online can really present people in a negative light. But, twerking is fun. We all have free will and should be able to do things that are harmless from time to time. I don’t twerk often but I have before at a club. I had a decent Tim and nobody even knew it was me because it was so dar and everybody was doing it. I’ll never do it again though. Probably anyway. Or maybe I will. It’s my decision
I don’t think it’s empowering and I don’t think it damages how people perceive me. Twerking is just fun. It’s just a dance and I like dancing. I know it looks sexy, I just don’t care.
Let women have the choice wtf they want. It is empowerment to get the choice to dance like this. Also men should stfu, if they are the consumer of porn/sexwok etc. I swear people hate sex workerd but they also can't live without them.
Dancing sexual, does not mean you shouod be disrespected. The same as to submissive traditional women. You also dont get disrespected for submiting to your men aka being his slave.
No one should disrespect them but the dancer can not control how their audience responds.
I suspect that the women twerking and the women asking not to be sexualized aren't the same people, but I agree if some of them are the same people, then it's pretty weird.
Tiktok will change your mind about that.
There's a lot of shitty things on Tiktok
Twerk is probably one of the ugliest, unsexiest and most vulgar dance ever made. Who the fuck, with a sane mind and a bit of taste, could ever find that shit sexy?
And how could it be empowering? It's basically the lowest trash stuff ever.
Okay Guanfei lol 😂
Twerking was never a sexual dance, it dates back to the 1800’s and it’s actually really fun to do. I literally do it alone in my room while listening to music because it’s like any other dancing. People need to stop sexualising dancing, where I am from we dance a lot with our bodies it’s seen as beautiful and over here when I done it I was “asking for it”.
They won't stop sexualizing it, but people should stop doing that dance if they don't want to be sexualized.
There is a difference between “was never a sexual dance” and “was not originally meant to be sexual when people first did it’
More toxic " media " promoted BS and hypocrisy , @Ruenella_ well put , these types are so full of shit , they would make a large sewer network explode !!
😂😂
Yeah. I never got twerking. It's degradation not much better than flashing your boobs. Just because a Z list celeb does it on a music video that means you've got to do it in public?
Blind leading the blind.
Nope bish this is not true... females are allowed to do whatever the fuck they want with their bodies and it should not lower their standards... it’s like we can’t do anything these days... calm tf down internet!!
Never said that you couldn't.
Stfuu whore
I find twerking really trashy and somewhat cringe... I don't even understand how it can be a " power " move.. It's like the opposite
You're exactly right!
I don't twerk unless its as a joke but I honestly couldn't care for what makes think. If they have a problem with what another person harmlessly does with their body then there the problem not the person whose twerking. If they don't like it they have the option to walk away instead of being a snowflake, Karen and thinking it's there place to tell others to love there life
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