Women Claim: "I want to be more than just an object." What if Men Said the Same? (Page 2)
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If someone isn't ready to have sex with you, they really shouldn't. It's an intimate experience. Having said that, if you aren't ready to have an emotional connection, don't be in a "relationship". They involve that, from what I understand. Friends with benefits is an excellent idea if all you want is sex and maybe some intimacy without any more of a connection. Just do that instead of trying your hand at a " relationship "
"So women: next time you think about calling over that "just friends" guy to vent and complain about everything you can think of, remember you are using him the same way a man would use you for sex."
No it's not using him in the same way. But it is using him
Maybe it's just me but I think talking and sex are both important parts of a relationship but if either was too much or to little for my partner I'd hope he tells me.
If you're talking outside a relationship, I have little sympathy for those people. Women who can't say no to sex and men who complain about being in the friendzone and probably never asked her out
A women using a man as an emotional crutch, will not have an effect on a woman being used for sex. Instead of moaning about it, he should just tell her he feels used, she ca t be any different towards him if sh isn't aware of his feelings. If a woman used a guy just for sex how would she be viewed in comparrison to a man who uses a woman for sex.
Nobody has any reason to complain about either of these things mentioned, else they're just proving the point as to how indifferent they are towards the opposite sex.
As I don't think that men is more physical and women more emotional I don't agree with your arguments. Why would men want sex more than women? And why would women want a relationship more than men? You're talking in stereotypes that I don't find are true. And as for the title I already think that men claim the same
men are*
It's scientific fact that men are more physical. It's all the testosterone that makes us that way.
Yes men are most often more physical in some ways as in biogically they are stronger, but I still don't agree with the statements written above. For example that men would think about and want sex more often than women is only a myth, you should search it up. There are plenty of new scientifical studies about it. And as for women more often wanting relationships than men is only one persons opinion, not a fact
@HolographicWhale
It's not about thinking about it, it's about HOW they think about it. Testosterone makes sex a NEED for men. It's up there with sleeping and eating.
https://www. m webmd. com/a-to-z-guides/features/sex-drive-how-do-men-women-compare
so your problem is that females "vent" for males? first of all i must clearly state that me and most of the ladies that i know we only vent for a guy if we trust him and love him and second of all we ladies prefer to vent for ladies not males because we usually have this idea that she must have been through the same situation so she will know the solution and we all know that females get this thing which is called the period where it affects her hormones so she starts being an asshole but she can't control it because her vagina is shedding itself into pieces.. and talking to vent which is normal is different from having sex to vent
Oh my god all you people in the comments are a bunch of pissants. As for me I do NOT just think that you had a hard time in the friendzone. If women have the right to say they are being used then men have the right to say that THEY are being used. The shit these people in the comments are saying really makes me sick. You all should be fucking ashamed of your ignorance.
oh? Have you TRIED telling about your problems to the girl?
Because it's not one shit about love. It's about the right to tell how you feel, getting an outles for your emotions. Men have the right to say they're being used, but the big question is; "would anyone give a single fuck about it?"
Ironically the answer to that question would either prove or disprove OP's claim
I didn't say they would give a shit. All I'm saying that men should have the right to speak their problems too. And as for all the girls who down voted me. Wtf? Oh, I spoke for men therefore I must be some kind of oppressor of women even though I said nothing offensive about girls. If we're going that far how about we harass any man who dare speak their mind about anything while we're at it.
Women get used for sex, men get used for validation
The truest comment on here, women don't sexually desire men, they only desire to be sexually desired by men.
LOL what?
I've sexually desired guy before. In fact, there's a guy right now that i currently have no feelings for, but I "sexually desire" him. How can you say such a thing? And also guys seek validation from women too. It's human nature.
More accurate statement: Women mainly desire to be sexually desired by sexually desirable men.
I have the problem that men want to use me for emotional venting and reassurance. Sex may or may not be part of the exchange... So this thinking never made sense to me.
so true. I see this way too much, I always wonder if the woman who vents realizes how selfish she seems to others.
I want to be more than an object. I want to find a woman who likes me for me, and not for my massive penis, you know? I'm not some mindless piece of meat, I have feelings too.
First and foremost, to a man, a woman is about sex. This isn't to say a woman can't perform other functions. Its like a smart phone or a game console. It might come with a lot of different functions and settings. It can play music, play movies, store images, go online, whatever. But the main function of a smart phone is to be used as a phone, and the game console, for gaming. And a woman for sex.
I practice what I preach.
This article hasn't told me anything I don't already know and - preach.
xD
Iv been used by women all my life being great in bed isn't as great as you think there's still a thing called feelings Im human that fact gets ignored and you start feeling like a sex toy she only takes out of her draw when she's horny as hell and your the only toy that satifies her needs.
No-one is entitled to anything from anyone !! The solution is become the best person you can be , then you will deserve what you really want , you will naturally attract the best people into your life. Have some self respect & remove the parasites !!
We do say the same.
Well, at least I do.
But I'm weird as fuck and not a typical man.
HAHA i love this!
I get used all the time for both reasons! sex and as emotional support it sucks bro! great take!
Well, its not our fault guys dont seem to stand up for themselves when a woman is venting.
If a guy uses a woman for sex, the woman would call him a jerk and be angry and TELL him that basically she's not happy.
Men dont do that, if they did then maybe we'd be more aware of what we're doing wrong
yeah, and we'd be single. I have friends who did just that, who got their girl to sit down and talk about how she only comes to him when she needs company, someone to rant at, and generally whenver SHE needs him. And when he does that, she dismisses him.
The result? one pissed off girl who dumped him.
And the aftermath? Took him one week before he didn't give a fuck about her anymore. She tried to return and call him for a month until she finaly got the hint and gave up.
Well initially women are objects.
There's no other way cause we dont know her personality.
Because we still have it easier, despite modern gender equality... sorry, but we as a gender should suck it up..
Then we, as a gender, should go back to how America was founded and ran. By men. Right? I mean that makes sense and they as a gender should just suck it up?
No but any man in any w3stern culture who believes were oppressed doesn't know what true oppression is..
Ah, get outta here with that. If any woman in the United States claims that she's oppressed, she's bullshitting. "Oppression" shouldn't even be a word in America anymore.
lolwut? tell those in Ferguson that..
fact is men aren't denied legal, civil, even human rights in the USA or any Western country...