Girls, how do you feel about a man doing housework? Also, how does it affect your attraction to him? (Page 2)
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Cooks don't clean! If I spend two hours making him a nice dinner and lunch for the next day, he can take 10 minutes to fill the dishwasher.
I'm the only one who dusts, vacuums, laundry, making the bed, organizing.
He pays for nearly everything and I clean, but I hate doing the dishes and I draw my line there. He makes more than me so it's logical he pays, but if I do everything for him and he pays for every little thing for me, we would be in danger of taking eachother forgranted
I really like it when a man does housework. Makes me like them as a person more. Shows they're considerate and know how to clean behind themselves. Attraction = up. If he didn't do any I'd be pissed. Cuz its too much chores, and I'm not your maid. Attraction=down
housework must be done no matter your gender. it's just a routine that must be done
Well I know it has to be done obviously. I'm just trying to see how that change in gender roles affects women's attraction to men. But that's a really complicated title. ;)
Women are more attracted to men that act like men. Men are more attracted to women that act like women. There will always be exceptions, but for the most part this is true. Walking into the room with a tool belt on is almost always going to get her juices flowing better than walking in wearing an apron. Deep down we all know that.
Since when doing house work is unmanly?
Yes I agree with this statement. I don't think a man wearing a apron doesn't make him unmanly but rather a man wearing a tool belt makes him more manly. I couldn't have said it better myself.
"a man wearing a apron doesn't make him unmanly but rather a man wearing a tool belt makes him more manly" That is my whole point. In order to be attracted to him he needs to act manly. I never said that a man cleaning up was a turn off. It just isn't a turn on.
Any woman that claims she is are more attracted to a man that does housework is lying. Acting in a way that is not manly or is gender neutral doesn't create attraction and never will. Women will be more attracted to the guy if he takes over the more traditional roles, and does manly things like household repair, over having to call someone in to do it for him, or relying on her to fix stuff.
That's odd because I read a study saying guys who help out with dishes and such have more sex?
I think couples should do their fair share based on who has more time.
i prefer a man to do half the chores, its not a womans job its everyones job who lives in the house. i would feel so turned off by a guy who expected me to do all the house work while he sat with his feet up and id leave that relationship pretty fast
That makes sense in theory but I wonder if it's one of those things girls say they like but really don't care about. Like what the guy said below.
Amen !
no i care about it very strongly, why would it turn me on to pick up after a man child day in day out? i want an equal partner in a relationship who will do half of everything with me. just because one person changed their mind doesn't mean all women will. to me that woman was trying to explain what she found sexy but got annoyed that he threw clothes on the floor instead of putting them in a wash basket or away neatly and still not vaccuming up.
i would 100% leave a relationship where i had to do all the housework, its not negotiable for me.
im not a free servant so i won't want to be treated as one
The traditional man of the house is actually a turnoff for me. We don't have to necessarily spilt every single chore down the middle.. but you should at least know how to do certain things such as laundry, and some cooking just to name a few.
There has been so much conflicting evidence on that. Most of the scientific studies I've read stated the opposite affect. Also if gender roles are more flexible in a household then the girls are more likely to go into STEM fields of work.
I know what you mean. I never take those surveys TOO seriously. That's why I asked here.
I wasn't prepared for the amount of answers though. :/
Wrt your point about STEM jobs, do you think that gender roles are equal because of their work or is it the other way around? In other words, which comes first?
The blending of gender roles in the house comes first.
I think I should agree with this. My boyfriend and I were chatting this morning and talk about household chores.
He's got a business (renting apartments). He lives alone and managed his business alone. He does all the household chores. Cleaning, cooking, laundry, paying bills and everything. He once called me sexual. Although he's my first boyfriend I think he is less sexual. So is it because he's the one who does the housework typically done by women the reason why he's less sexual?
if he sometimes helps her wife, this would be ok for them but i think if a man do housework too much, women would hate it this is normal and their nature. especially in the marriage if a husband do too much housework with her wife, probably the wife would say ''hey, why are you walking under my foot all the time, go and find a place to sit, don't wander underfoot''
Not really... Most women love help. In the modern world most women have jobs too. So for a man to think he shouldn't ckean becaide the woman doesn't want him too is irrational. I don't want to come home from an 8 hour shift and clean for 2 hours everyday because I don't want my husband to clean. I'd rather we both do it, and get it done a lot faster so we can actually enjoy each others company.
@Anachor : didn't you read my all opinion? i wrote ''if he sometimes helps her wife, this would be ok for them'' but i don't think women like a man who does houseworks more than her.
Who says it's a woman's job to do all the housework? Women have full time jobs too so why should it be left up to to women! I think men and women should do equal amounts of housework! It is defiantly unattractive is a man is unwilling to help with housework and expects you to do it all! We are not slaves !!!
Sex has nothing to do with doing household, Less sex is cause by over fatigue and stress. I love guys who knows how to cook and I'm happy that my boyfriend knows all this housework, We are living together and both of us are career oriented but we have this agreement that we do our own laundry, we have schedule on cleaning the house and he voluntarily cook for me always.
I would like it. If I also have a full time job then I don't expect the housework to be my other full-time job. How we'd divide the chores would be up to me and the guy I can't say now how it would be divided. But I expect it to be divided fairly.
Well, I think a man should know how to do housework and help his gf or wife when she need, but no need to do all, anyway, man should pay attention to his work outside of house
I would love my future husband to help out with housework. I would also be willing to do more masculine chores like yard work, bills, etc. I'm all for switching gender roles!!
Do you think switching gender roles would have any effect on your relationship?
I don't think so... but I've never been in a serious relationship before so it's hard to say.
Same as me.
Hence me asking what seems to be a silly question. XD
I don't think its silly at all!! It is a very interesting subject.
Thanks, I just had to ask. I've always wondered if that typical guy is still the 'ideal man' in the eyes of woman, even if women don't want to admit it.
Guess I got my answer. :)
I love when he helps me but I don't want him doing too much because he works hard for us. I fee like he definitely should not do as much as me. I believe a man who appreciates you will help occasionally though.
Hell noo! I am so attracted to a man that actually helps with dinner, dish washing, laundry, etc.. It's so sexy!
A male anon said this: "Women are more attracted to men that act like men. Men are more attracted to women that act like women. There will always be exceptions, but for the most part this is true. Walking into the room with a tool belt on is almost always going to get her juices flowing better than walking in wearing an apron. Deep down we all know that."
I take it you don't agree?
um, no. 👌
Unless the lady is a stay at home wife or mom, the man should most definitely be helping with the house work. Makes you feel like a team.
I don't like when men do too much of the housework. For me if feels like it should be a woman's role.
So it would diminish your attraction?
What if he wanted to do it?
Yea. If he wanted to do a few things that would be fine.
If he felt obligated to do half?
I would rather him do 1/4 at most.
I'm not at all against if he wants to help. I think that's very nice and sweet. But I wouldn't want him to feel obligated. It really does depend on the couple and their arrangement. I think women are naturally better at domestic things in most cases. And the difference in attraction between the sexes is strongest when partners are doing what theyre best at, i think.
What if he just happened to be much better at cooking than you? Would that be any different?
It would still seem a bit weird. I like to be in the kitchen and I do cook a lot. But if he wanted to help a few nights a week, or breakfast in bed I would have no problem saying yes :)
I love a man who can cook. Also in this day and age women are just as likely as their boyfriends or husbands to have careers so it's only fair that men do some of the housework as well.