Everyone here is saying nice guys can't be confident. This is wrong. Just because introverts like myself don't talk, doesn't mean we are aren't confident. We just enjoy sitting back and relaxing. We don't need to be clinging to people like extroverts do. We are independent, confident people.
Girls today just don't seem to realize that... I do... but I think I'm in the minority. Quiet guys rock. If more women would get the pussy juice to approach these guys there would not be so many miserable girls out there telling us there sob stories when they knew the risks all along.
Being a nice guy is bad ass! But dot confuse being nice with being spineless and never really speaking your mind because of fear of losing the girl. Gentlemen are the way to go (decisive, sure of themselves and of what they want in life and in a partner, compassionate, understanding, fair, respectful, with a bit of a weird quirky sense of humour and not eing afraid of being themselves, honest). I love my gentleman of a bf :D
not this girl. If you're rude or overly cocky in the least I will immediately dislike you. Sweet, genuine guys? The ones that hold doors open for old ladies, have enough decency to NOT wolf whistle or catcall, are nice to kids, and stick up for strangers? I like that shit.
The worst part about douche bags is that they act nice at first. I had a boyfriend once that was amazing, even with my daughter. Was a great guy. As soon as we moved in together he turned in to a total jerk. I tried making it work but left.
I wish I could find a nice guy. All the nice guys I know are taken or hidden somewhere never to be found.
I dated a girl and was an asshole to her. I dumped her and recently started seeing her again after five years. Now I've matured and treat women better. She dumped me after a few weeks. Girls do prefer assholes. So now that im a nice guy and humble.. She's not interested.
The only attractive thing that a douche has is that he is confident. what I mean with confident I mean that he just thinks that he is better than the girls he is talking to . Now girls in the other can understand what's going on and as all the other humans in earth wants something that can't have. So it is all a belief system if you start thinking that you are above the girls you will start be more confident around girls. So fake it till you make it 😉. hope you find my advise useful 😆
I think that women go for men who are attractive to them, either physically attractive or the guy has wealth or charisma. Other considerations, such as being nice, take a back seat to attraction. Furthermore, people in general make special allowances for the physically attractive, and the physically attractive often take advantage of those special allowances and become less than kind people.
Do women prefer douches over nice guys? No, women prefer attractive men over unattractive men.
It really depends on the girl, and their situation, age , personal goals etc I think. Girls who constantly choose to be with assholes have low self esteem issues which the a-holes have got a sixth sense for. These relationships always stand out because they are most talked about
I don't know if this is how things have worked lately.. But girls would date the bad ass guys during their early stages of their life and end up marrying someone who is completely different.. Nice guys are marriage material.. Douchebags are there for fun and games.. Besides they are douche bags for a reason.. Get my drift?
I'm hot tho, tall , sixpac and muscle. Ripped.. But smart at the sametime. Girls would think ima douche just looking at me. But im a gentlemen and hardly swear
The typical douche bag is often more outgoing and confident. ( I don't know why because they shouldn't be) but it is that attitude that makes girls fall for them, then they discover the real personality of the guy is horrible and leave, just to go after another asshole just like the last. It isn't until they have been burned by assholes over and over and have decided to settle that the quiet nice guy becomes more of a prize.
I totally agree. I think that girls who skip nice guys and go for bad guys, get what's coming to them and when they finally realize that good guys make sense... Those guys should disregard these girls and leave them to the shit they created with their stupid decisions.
The key things are to be yourself, be fun, ASK GIRLS OUT EARLY (women are forgiving for a guy moving too fast more than u will believe), and make sure she doesn't push you around.
Also make sure u make yourself look as attractive as possible (diet, physical activity, clothing, hygiene, etc)... but that goes without saying. :-P
Lmao no, that's some movie BS. In real life, arrogant pieholes aren't given a second glance. Girls typically want nice guys. But the problem is that there are TOO many nice guys out there. Which is why self-proclaimed nice dudes such as yourself complain about singledom.
I've noticed that though in no way do I consider myself a douchebag and neither does anyone I know, i think of myself as one of the nice guys. When you act confident in yourself in the way that a douche bag type guy does, girls are really drawn to it.
That's a huge myth. Girls prefer guys that have something to offer and they will put up with some shit if they guy is worth it. What they really hare are the fake nice guys, who hang around and do things for girls hoping that it will get them laid. Is that you? If it is, sorry, it doesn't work that way. Be the guy with something to offer.
Look girls don't want to be treated like shit. They hate that! The only reason a girl ever goes for the asshole guy is because the nice guy doesn't have balls. If the nice guy can be a sweet compassionate partner but still maintain a dominate control in situations, then he's perfect. But most girls crave being dominated sexually and most good guys don't seem like they have it in them.
Haha awwwe <3 But that is not a bad thing! This ^ is a stereotype, not all girls want to be dominated, there is plenty of girls who want to dominate and who love the nice guys because they happily submit! Don't worry about it! Everyone is unique and everyone has a partner in this world! :)
Well personally I love good guys never been interested in bad guys. Im a good girl myself :) Bt I do think that some good guys could benefit from being more assertive example if u like girl tell her. I also think its a stereotype like good guys are scary which im sure not true bt some guys I think could benefit from defending his woman if any situation arises no woman wants a guy who won't protect her physically. Hope this helps :)
gals like to be subduled, like guys with gats, balls, fearless. they feel protected and safe n douchebags shows off hence most of the times fall for them but dont feel complete because douchebags are unreliable. they dont know that all guys have balls so it pays to be neat geantleman with balls reliable n unresistable that I know for a fact!
simply put douchebags mess gals when young and settle for a nice gal when older. messed gals realizes they have lost value and try to settle for a nice guy when wanting marriage. Nice guys realize that messed gals want to settle with them hence turn them down and go for the " preacher's daughter - wu tang clan".
Let me put it this way. Both douchey and nicey guys we all want to settle with nice girls. We become douches for only one night stands and a short term sex relationship but we want a nice girl for a mother of our future kids.
douches both guys and girls usually are the ones who cheat in future relationships because both were caught up in their douchey character hence avoided when choosing a life partner. Caution seive out douches when choosing a life partner but if u're a douche too most of the time u'll b seived too.
Most people have serious douchebag moments - even the nice guys and girls. Humans make a lot of mistakes. So every time you hear a girl bitching about her bf, there's a chance he's a decent guy who screwed up or it could even be her fault & she doesn't notice. Most "nice guys" are simply arm chair quarterbacking when they think they'd be perfect partners. Humans, we all suck at relationships and make mistakes while learning.
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Girls go for guys who they find attractive. Because these attractive guys can get any girl that they want, they often think of themselves being better than others, which leads to them becoming considerably arrogant. Girls generally don't realise this until they are in the relationship, at which point they break up, promising to never date a guy like that ever again. Rinse and repeat. But a lot of guys do a similar thing.
You can take the same guy. If he is very nice and highly respectful to women, many women will see him as unattractive! Yet, if he acts in a more arrogant, disrespectful manner to women, then many women with think he is hot! HOW A MAN ACTS has a lot to do with how attractive women find him to be. In general, many women find bad-boy/douchebage behavior attractive! Thatt's why many men persist in their douchbag behavior! WOMEN KEEP REWARDING IT!!!
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Everyone here is saying nice guys can't be confident. This is wrong. Just because introverts like myself don't talk, doesn't mean we are aren't confident. We just enjoy sitting back and relaxing. We don't need to be clinging to people like extroverts do. We are independent, confident people.
Girls today just don't seem to realize that... I do... but I think I'm in the minority. Quiet guys rock. If more women would get the pussy juice to approach these guys there would not be so many miserable girls out there telling us there sob stories when they knew the risks all along.
Being a nice guy is bad ass! But dot confuse being nice with being spineless and never really speaking your mind because of fear of losing the girl. Gentlemen are the way to go (decisive, sure of themselves and of what they want in life and in a partner, compassionate, understanding, fair, respectful, with a bit of a weird quirky sense of humour and not eing afraid of being themselves, honest). I love my gentleman of a bf :D
well most girls associate nice guys as boring and submissive.. i'm a nice guy but i dont agree all the time on what a girl says to me
And u really shouldn't ;)
not this girl. If you're rude or overly cocky in the least I will immediately dislike you.
Sweet, genuine guys? The ones that hold doors open for old ladies, have enough decency to NOT wolf whistle or catcall, are nice to kids, and stick up for strangers? I like that shit.
The worst part about douche bags is that they act nice at first. I had a boyfriend once that was amazing, even with my daughter. Was a great guy. As soon as we moved in together he turned in to a total jerk. I tried making it work but left.
I wish I could find a nice guy. All the nice guys I know are taken or hidden somewhere never to be found.
As I get older I seem to meet more of them who HAVE given up. As far as the dating scene goes, they just seem to fade away.
I dated a girl and was an asshole to her. I dumped her and recently started seeing her again after five years. Now I've matured and treat women better. She dumped me after a few weeks. Girls do prefer assholes. So now that im a nice guy and humble.. She's not interested.
The only attractive thing that a douche has is that he is confident. what I mean with confident I mean that he just thinks that he is better than the girls he is talking to
. Now girls in the other can understand what's going on and as all the other humans in earth wants something that can't have. So it is all a belief system if you start thinking that you are above the girls you will start be more confident around girls. So fake it till you make it 😉. hope you find my advise useful 😆
I think that women go for men who are attractive to them, either physically attractive or the guy has wealth or charisma. Other considerations, such as being nice, take a back seat to attraction. Furthermore, people in general make special allowances for the physically attractive, and the physically attractive often take advantage of those special allowances and become less than kind people.
Do women prefer douches over nice guys? No, women prefer attractive men over unattractive men.
And if girls give in easily because the guy is attractive, it's a great temptation for the guy to be a D-bag.
It really depends on the girl, and their situation, age , personal goals etc I think. Girls who constantly choose to be with assholes have low self esteem issues which the a-holes have got a sixth sense for. These relationships always stand out because they are most talked about
I don't know if this is how things have worked lately.. But girls would date the bad ass guys during their early stages of their life and end up marrying someone who is completely different.. Nice guys are marriage material.. Douchebags are there for fun and games.. Besides they are douche bags for a reason.. Get my drift?
Agree ! The nice guy will be stable and career driven. Saving up for a house like me
@Bj636 glad to hear a nice guy agrees ☺️
I'm hot tho, tall , sixpac and muscle. Ripped.. But smart at the sametime. Girls would think ima douche just looking at me. But im a gentlemen and hardly swear
@Bj636 can't judge a book by its cover can we..
Girls a guilty of that
@Bj636 yeah most are
The typical douche bag is often more outgoing and confident. ( I don't know why because they shouldn't be) but it is that attitude that makes girls fall for them, then they discover the real personality of the guy is horrible and leave, just to go after another asshole just like the last. It isn't until they have been burned by assholes over and over and have decided to settle that the quiet nice guy becomes more of a prize.
The "quiet nice guy" may not want to be settled for as a last choice after a woman has screwed a long line of bad boy douche bag sex partners!
I totally agree. I think that girls who skip nice guys and go for bad guys, get what's coming to them and when they finally realize that good guys make sense... Those guys should disregard these girls and leave them to the shit they created with their stupid decisions.
The key things are to be yourself, be fun, ASK GIRLS OUT EARLY (women are forgiving for a guy moving too fast more than u will believe), and make sure she doesn't push you around.
Also make sure u make yourself look as attractive as possible (diet, physical activity, clothing, hygiene, etc)... but that goes without saying. :-P
Lmao no, that's some movie BS. In real life, arrogant pieholes aren't given a second glance. Girls typically want nice guys. But the problem is that there are TOO many nice guys out there. Which is why self-proclaimed nice dudes such as yourself complain about singledom.
I've noticed that though in no way do I consider myself a douchebag and neither does anyone I know, i think of myself as one of the nice guys. When you act confident in yourself in the way that a douche bag type guy does, girls are really drawn to it.
That's a huge myth. Girls prefer guys that have something to offer and they will put up with some shit if they guy is worth it. What they really hare are the fake nice guys, who hang around and do things for girls hoping that it will get them laid. Is that you? If it is, sorry, it doesn't work that way. Be the guy with something to offer.
Look girls don't want to be treated like shit. They hate that! The only reason a girl ever goes for the asshole guy is because the nice guy doesn't have balls. If the nice guy can be a sweet compassionate partner but still maintain a dominate control in situations, then he's perfect. But most girls crave being dominated sexually and most good guys don't seem like they have it in them.
yeah just like me... i'm a nice guy who doesn't have balls
Haha awwwe <3 But that is not a bad thing! This ^ is a stereotype, not all girls want to be dominated, there is plenty of girls who want to dominate and who love the nice guys because they happily submit! Don't worry about it! Everyone is unique and everyone has a partner in this world! :)
Well personally I love good guys never been interested in bad guys. Im a good girl myself :) Bt I do think that some good guys could benefit from being more assertive example if u like girl tell her. I also think its a stereotype like good guys are scary which im sure not true bt some guys I think could benefit from defending his woman if any situation arises no woman wants a guy who won't protect her physically. Hope this helps :)
gals like to be subduled, like guys with gats, balls, fearless. they feel protected and safe n douchebags shows off hence most of the times fall for them but dont feel complete because douchebags are unreliable. they dont know that all guys have balls so it pays to be neat geantleman with balls reliable n unresistable that I know for a fact!
simply put douchebags mess gals when young and settle for a nice gal when older. messed gals realizes they have lost value and try to settle for a nice guy when wanting marriage. Nice guys realize that messed gals want to settle with them hence turn them down and go for the " preacher's daughter - wu tang clan".
I don't know WTF you just said but I read it twice and now I have a headache! Can I have one of your oxycodones?
Let me put it this way. Both douchey and nicey guys we all want to settle with nice girls. We become douches for only one night stands and a short term sex relationship but we want a nice girl for a mother of our future kids.
douches both guys and girls usually are the ones who cheat in future relationships because both were caught up in their douchey character hence avoided when choosing a life partner. Caution seive out douches when choosing a life partner but if u're a douche too most of the time u'll b seived too.
Girls don't even like guys. Girls like sex and babies.
I thought it was cars and money
Sadly, we even got that wrong. :(
someone's listening to good charlotte
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Most people have serious douchebag moments - even the nice guys and girls. Humans make a lot of mistakes. So every time you hear a girl bitching about her bf, there's a chance he's a decent guy who screwed up or it could even be her fault & she doesn't notice. Most "nice guys" are simply arm chair quarterbacking when they think they'd be perfect partners. Humans, we all suck at relationships and make mistakes while learning.
Girls go for guys who they find attractive. Because these attractive guys can get any girl that they want, they often think of themselves being better than others, which leads to them becoming considerably arrogant. Girls generally don't realise this until they are in the relationship, at which point they break up, promising to never date a guy like that ever again. Rinse and repeat.
But a lot of guys do a similar thing.
It's a great point. Some guys/girls are attracted to people who are socially toxic.
You can take the same guy. If he is very nice and highly respectful to women, many women will see him as unattractive! Yet, if he acts in a more arrogant, disrespectful manner to women, then many women with think he is hot! HOW A MAN ACTS has a lot to do with how attractive women find him to be. In general, many women find bad-boy/douchebage behavior attractive! Thatt's why many men persist in their douchbag behavior! WOMEN KEEP REWARDING IT!!!