How can I prevent my jealousy toward female nudity in movies?

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I can't help but get up upset, mad, jealous when there is female nudity in movies while watching with my boyfriend of 5 years. It's a personal issue, and I'm not sure where the feelings come from. The female body is beautiful, but I hate when he sees another woman naked. I know he can't touch it or anything... but once you see something its embedded in your mind. He can imagine it whenever he wants and I wouldn't even know it! It doesn't help that women are portrayed as sex objects consistently... I don't know. We just finished up a movie with several full frontal views of women and it just made me mad at him for not looking away. I mean, its not like you always see full frontals of men in movies. He wouldn't appreciate me looking at that!

Blondiee2014 · Accepted Answer

Just so you know my ex wife was like you and from my point of view she was horrifically abusive towards me.
You need to get over this and certainly not get mad at your bf, because it's normal it's a fucking movie.
You will turn him into and anxious paranoid man who will ultimatley not want to actually watch or do anything with you as he can't enjoy nothing in fear of at any second a female is going to pop on the tv and your gonna freak out.
I'm telling you now he doesn't care about these images at all, yeah they are sexy same as you find the men sexy! Do you care? No he is the same!
The girl I've recently been dating does not have this issue and I tell you, OMG its a breath of fresh air being able to feel like an adult and can sit and watch any thing and everything with her, we both enjoy the sex scenes it's nothing at all, we are adultS.
Seriously get over this because it's a major issue and he will leave you over it eventually.
I can't tell you how this has been a big part of my life over the last few years.
I mean this makes me so angry, it caused me years of torture.
Don't shout at him or make him look away anymore! You are the one who is wrong not him.
If you don't stop you will fuck his head up really bad I swear to you.

GingerGuy · Accepted Answer

I think you need to explore where those feelings come from. Maybe counselling even? I disagree with the "embedded in your mind". While it's possible, doesn't usually happen. You're overthinking this I think. Putting too much importance on it and making it a bigger deal than it is. It's someone naked, we see it, and move on. The chances of us remembering it and "replying" it over and over in our minds just doesn't happen. And if it does, it's short lived usually and means nothing other than it was nice to see at that moment. Like you said, we can't do anything else, nor would we necessarily want to even if we could. You need to figure out these feelings I think and sort them out. I wouldn't have a problem with my wife/girlfriend seeing naked guys in TV/movie, it's just not a big deal at all, so what? It's only the naked body.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I've been married for some 13 years now, and I have anxiety over my spouse viewing movies with tons of nudity. It causes a slew of arguments. I surely do not enjoy being this way. In fact, I wasn't always like this. Earlier in our relationship I recall having us a subscription to Penthouse and the like. I enjoyed watching nudity along with him. However, over time, I recall things that were said, ugly things, that changed my thinking. Specifically, the relationship has become insecure, and in turn so have I. Sorry guys, but sometimes you aid in creating us insecure women. Granted I'm wrong for staying in the relationship, but just being told I'm beautiful from time-to-time would make all the difference. My point is... ladies sometimes the reason you are insecure, is because the relationship is bad. Not because there is something wrong with you. We don't need someone constantly telling us how disgusting we are, and then sit down with that man to watch a movie with full frontal females abound.

MargaritaPeach · Accepted Answer

If he's with you, he is there because he wants to be. Just try to remind yourself of that. He wants you! Write it in lipstick on your mirror if you have to. Guys are great at drawing a line between fantasy and reality--he may enjoy seeing boobies on the big screen, but guess what? It's you he is undressing, and he is happy about it. Whatever you are stressing about is all in your mind... and guess who controls your mind? Little ol' you. So just let it go, and be grateful for the great man in your life.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It is a common thing for a lot of us, but thing about it this way. When we watch chick flicks like the notebook and subject them to Ryan gosling being super romantic and sexy (we fantasize about that stuff during and afterward.) we don't need nudity because we are more romance and mentally driven... So if he was to fantasize (which he may not even do with who you think he does it) he is just being human and it doesn't mean anything towards you, like you fantasizing about something you see in a movie.

MakeitOrDieTrying · Answer

I knew women were jealous creatures but CMON! You are way insecure over the top. Accept the fact that it's just a movie. Accept the fact that there ARE women with better bodies than you. Accept the fact that he DOES check out bodies than yours but ultimately understand, he's with you.

Alexislee15237 · Answer

Don’t worry most of these guys are just a**holes that are so horny they can’t contain themselves. It’s not insecure to dislike the idea, especially if it’s right in front of your face. Pretty sure 85% of them wouldn’t like it if there was a dick swinging on the camera and your eyes were locked to the screen bc “it’s just a movie”. Point is just find a man that agrees with your boundaries. Everyone’s boundaries are different. My man knows I do not feel comfortable with it just based on one comment I made and now turns away almost every time on his own out of respect for me. What he does when I’m not around is his choice as long as I don’t hear about it and as long as it is not physically unfaithful. No insecurity in wanting respect, but we cannot control them, so just try to find a person that is understanding of your boundaries.

JustinCaseUDontKnow · Answer

When the scenes of nudity come on television when you and your bf are watching a movie
simply change the channel, forward fast the movie if you can but seriously something you
need to work on to put your mind at ease also would you rather him watch the movie with
you around or sneak around when your not around and watch the movie without you?

TadCurious · Answer

Long before he ever met you he was imagining naked female bodies which were embedded in his mind. He didn't stop knowing what a naked female body looked like (with the one exception of yours, I guess) once you and he got together. How would you feel if he were a doctor who examined women's bodies? Nudity by itself isn't necessarily sexual, and seeing the human body naked isn't a form of cheating, mental or otherwise.

Anonymous · Answer

Men are consistently portrayed as sex objects these days too, it's just done differently. Studies suggest that women aren't particularly turned on by the nude male body without context ("context" meaning some form of intimacy with another person), so it makes sense that male frontal nudes aren't as common, women simply don't find it sexy.

Yeatts · Answer

He's an adult he can look at what he wants. It's just a movie. sounds like you feel insecure about the relationship or yourself if you don't address that then you won't get over it.

frecks · Answer

Nudity in movies is not a foregone conclusion; especially with women fighting for equality, etc. You can also look up any warnings ahead of time so you can both know when to look away or skip a scene. I found a partner (married going on seven years) that has zero problem avoiding naked garbage with me and **I** FEEL FREE. It never mattered to him one way or the other so he's just happy that I'm happy. May you find the same OP!

Anonymous · Answer

Thats Because you are insecure of yourself you should not pay attention to anything coming from the TV remember a lot of that its Photoshoped or arranged on the computer

Anonymous · Answer

Don't get mad at him for your own irrational insecurities. I don't know how you can stop feeling that way but it must bother him too.

genericname85 · Answer

maybe imagine that no matter how hot the chick in the movie is, he chose you over her xD that could help.

gobsmacked3 · Answer

I never understand why you would watch  p*rn  when you are attached. Especially when you can enjoy your gf's 'assets'

Strider90 · Answer

So you never think ''what a handsome man'' when you see one? Your boyfriend may think what he wants. It doesn't mean he is cheating on you.

Would_You_Kindly · Answer

You're very insecure (sorry it had to be said).

Anonymous · Answer

I hate it too. I get really made when they show nakedness girls. I check every movie before we watch it. I refuse to watch naked women in my house. NOT OK!

Ironman127 · Answer

Thats just a movie and his behaviour is just biological. You can't make him "look away"...

Cowboy6666 · Answer

Simple don't watch pornos with your bf if u don't like that kinda stuff...

Anonymous · Answer

You could get nude with him and put a stop to his jealousy.

linkywinky · Answer

Watch those movies with him while naked?

Mysterio421 · Answer

LOL. Easy, you don't watch or you close your eyes.

Anonymous · Answer

Don't watch movies with female nudity?

Anonymous · Answer

In his mind he's thinking "dat ass" lol

Anonymous · Answer

Nobody wants to see full frontals of men in movies

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