Having shirtless pics on tinder: girls always say it's douchy... but what do they really think? Especially if the guy is athletic?

[Anonymous]

So I'm single again and I'm looking to meet a girl to hang out with. It doesn't have to be a one and done but I'm not looking to get serious right away (again) either. I'm also a former professional athlete and I'm still in pretty good shape.

When it comes to dating sites I have always been pretty modest about how I present myself. In fact I'm pretty modest in general... when I'm at the gym I usually where a sweater. On tinder I usually post pics of myself dressed professionally or doing something sporty. I do have shirtless pics (showing my abs) but I've heard from countless women how immature this is... so I avoid posting them. However I'm wondering if is one of those common scenarios where what women say they want and what they REALLY want are not the same. Yes I'm looking to get laid (but I'm also a genuine guy). Would it hurt to show off a bit?

[GirlsLie]

Having shirtless pictures anywhere just makes me laugh and the whole thing is so narcissistic and ridiculous to me, the same with girls who take photos in their bra. I mean how do you forget to wear a fucking shirt? you're taking a picture and posting it in a public place, it's not like someone snuck into your bed and took a photo of you without your shirt on. The whole thing makes me lose brain cells even thinking about.

[obiwansmistress]

It really all depends on what the picture looks like, it's better if you post a picture shirtless where you are at like a pool or even just a picture that was taken well. If it's taken in a poorly lit bathroom or in a dirty mirror, then it looks douchey.

[Anonymous]

"He's hot. He must know he's hot. He must be arrogant. He'd cheat on a girl like me. I stand no chance. Next."

[XRabbitHeartX]

This

[Anomaly37]

@XRabbitHeartX some girls yes. They should think this. But you? It's meant to attract girls like you 🤦🏽‍♂️

[NYlatefun]

Do women really think all that? For us is more like: she’s hot, I like her, she’s hot. She’s hot. She’s hot. 😂

[kheserthorpe]

If you're looking for hookups, go shirtless.

If you're primarily looking to date... my guess is still shirtless. But best alternative is a shot that really shows something you're into.

[Ihav2fart]

https://i57.tinypic.com/1z2nlae.jpg

Look at that sideways shirtless douche!

[Asker]

lol... awesome. The sideways angle kind of negates the doucheyness

[DaveJord]

So let me tell you it is all about what you want from a woman. So if woman puts up a pic of her in tight skimpy bikini... yeah, I am going to like that pic. I would definitely want to get with her sexually, but I would think of her as more than a possible good time.

SO if you want a real relationship then shirtless photos is not the way to go. I have heard this so many times from woman, that they pass on dude with shirtless photos, and any pic with guy and a fish. I guess there are a lot of guys that pose for pics with fish they just caught.

So like 1 in 10 woman will really go for the shirtless pic... that's what I have been told honestly. Not just read about but been told by several woman. But for that 1 in 10 that is really just looking for that one thing, then yeah you might get something from it. But woman are not men... they honestly are not looking for that one thing, and the ones that are... well they are really fucked up one that will ruin you. Trust me.

I been ruined about 6 times, but damn man it was one hell of a ride each time.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Shirt on... no pussy... shirt off... pussy. ... And by the way, these sites have banned us shirtless dudes to even out the playing field. If it doesn't work... then why ban it?

Now I'm sure a bunch of dudes with bitch tits and no tits at all will poke fun at us muscle titt having dudes... har har... who gets that pussy though? Me... or Mr. Bitch titts over there?

They can hate all they want while I fuck their girl.

[XXblack88]

When a guy takes a shirtless pic in front of the bathroom mirror it comes off as they have a big ego. When it taken in or around water it seems more like he likes the outdoors or a bit of an athletic guy.

[Anonymous]

If it's taken at the beach, I wouldn't think too much if he's shirtless. But then again, think what kind of first impression you have of a girl who posts bikini pics on tinder.

[Nikki1989]

Calling it douchy is an understatement, but I am sure the gay guys love it.

[Anonymous]

There's nothing wrong with posting some shirtless pics. I say go for it.

[Anonymous]

Well I think it would be better if u had a loose tank on so u won't seem so over confident or arrogant

[Anonymous]

Just do what you wanna do tbh.

[In_Trance]

They think it's douchey

[barn_stormer]

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