Girls, when you send a "I hope you're ok" text, do you expect an answer?

[Anonymous]

If you ask someone, more specifically a guy, " I hope you're ok" ... Do you expect to get an answer?

[Ozanne]

No, I don't expect an answer because if they're "not okay" in the first place, I'm not going to fret about whether or not they'll be answering an "I-hope-you're-okay" text. If you really just hope they're okay, just hope it and leave them to worry about the issue at hand rather than an answer. If someone sent you this text, no harm in just replying back "thanks", but it's just a text. If they send you another one asking if you got the text, just say "yes, and thanks" and that's it. No need to stress about texts when other things are going on.

[Anonymous]

Yes we do we all do, ... why wouldn't we expect a response, to "I hope your ok".. If u don't respond how would we know you're OK,. I think she was missing you. Either way you were on her mind

[Asker]

She also let me know she had transferred me some money... but she hoped I was OK and hoped my Uni was going well.

This is my ex we're talking about by the way, who dumped me 2 weeks ago.

[Opinion Owner]

OK, and it's not far fetched for an extra to miss you obviously she felt someway, she's checking on you and sending you money after a break up. She's clearly holding no malice. Why the break up? Trust me any time a women text a dude,"hope you're ok"she's expecting a response

[Asker]

Even if she sends that to an ex?

She told me she was overwhelmed with her studies/exams. She's in her last year of a maths degree and told me she just couldn't handle the pressure. On top of all that she suffers from severe anxiety.

Would you say she is missing me and reaching out?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, I think it's safe to say she's missing you now, maybe things has calmed down for her... Or she's realizing letting you completely go wasn't making things better but worse so to speak, she's probably constantly reevaluating her decision she made along the way... I feel like you should follow up with her and make sure she's OK. If you hold no malice?

[Opinion Owner]

I think all the women would agree too... In a circumstance such as yourself, that she's clearly missing you no need to doubt that. We all been there one time or another. Don't let nobody tell you otherwise to confuse your thought process, it's commonsense. Now contact her, tell her how she hurt you and both of you try to get past it, no one said life was easy. We all learn to forgive and move forward

[Asker]

No malice whatsoever... I still really love her and I obviously miss her too.

I'm just trying to act cool at the moment because I'm still quite emotional.

I didn't answer her and it's been a few days now... I don't know how I should contact her :(

Do you think she might contact me again?

[Opinion Owner]

She might, but don't be silly and not contact her. Relationships take two. And not for nothing she did the initial contact if your gonna make it about who contact who.. In love and war it doesn't work that way... Forreal, no gag bullshit, your relationship doesn't seem destroyed, but if you don't reach out and show her appreciation on her sending u money to help you and to see if your OK, cause of everything that she's thinking she might have put you through cause of breaking up.. She'll begin to think you are ungrateful, and probably screwing someone else by now.. And once a girl start thinking that, it's all downhill from there

[Opinion Owner]

I think it's your turn to reach out, there's nothing wrong with telling some one you miss them if you did, ... there's nothing wrong with saying"yes, I'm OK thank you for asking "... by the way.. Thanks again for sending me that package ".. Ask her how she's been, tell you thought about her but, didn't contact her you weren't sure if you should. .. for god sakes man keep it real with her

[Asker]

"And not for nothing she did the initial contact" ... this was her text in full:

"Hey hope you're OK! I transferred the tent money to you, so you should be £80 richer! Hope University is going well and you're enjoying the sun".

So her text had a purpose, but I don't know.

[Opinion Owner]

That's fine, it's all about your interpretation of the message. If you're thinking her messages is with sarcasm and attitude... I didn't get that, did she owe you the money? I got a girl that knows her man need things and even though u two are broken up she still care for, you...

[Asker]

It's definitely no sarcastic.

We were meant to go on this trip together. We bought a tent and she's just paying my side back.

I told her before I didn't want the money, so I guess it took we 2 weeks to get it and then 2 weeks to transfer it to me.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, OK.. I see. So here it goes then. Don't read so much into it. Yes she's probably concerned and she wanted to reach out.. she's wondering how you been

[XNicholeMariex3]

Nope. Not at all. I expect to get ignored.

[Asker]

Ignored? Why?

[XNicholeMariex3]

I assume the person doesn't want to talk.

[Asker]

Can you be more elaborate please?

[booktrovert]

yes, of course.

[Asker]

even from an ex?

[booktrovert]

Yes because texting them "I hope you're ok" shows that you still care about them and I would expect an answer.