Girls, do you like the more mysterious guys or the guys who make it obvious what they want from you?

[Anonymous]

lets say you are in a gym, and you have a bunch of guys hitting on you, and some do look good , but there is this one other guy, who also looks attractive but pays you less attention. He maybe just gives you an occiasional glance or a smile when he walks by. he is a bit mysterious, does his own thing but on a subtile way lets you know he likes you, would you rather be more interested in that guy or those other guys who are hitting on you, following you around the gym, trying to start conversations with you. making it pretty obvious they think you are atractive?

[oopshi]

Naturally, we'd be more attracted to the guy who's making it subtle. The cocky, arrogant guys are a major turn off. Though I say this, confidence and cockiness are two different things. And while the mysterious guy would catch our eye, we don't like playing the hard to get game. It gets old very quickly. My point is: if you're interested, let us know before we lose interest in you. Don't drool and "hit on us". Just keep it simple, flirt, etc. girls love attention, I promise you. But there is always a such thing as too much and certainty too little. Find the balance lol don't ignore us.

[MysteriousChick93]

I hate the full on type too eager an it's offputting tbh. I love mysterious attractive guys, they know when a girl gets lots of attention but he doesn't act like them which is very intriguing to us girls. Guy i like atm is like that. Only thing is this type of guy girls will have to nudge to make a move

[Asker]

hmm well i think its ok to be a bit more mysterious, not to obvious with your intentions, especially in the beginning. but once things hit of, there should be an open form of communication.

[MysteriousChick93]

Yeah i agree. Courting part should be fun, then can get to know the person

[Minxxie]

I don't want someone who plays it too cool OR someone who comes on too strong. I like something in the middle, someone who doesn't play games but is also not obsessive and weird and following me around. I was more the one who approached my boyfriend though, and then after that he'd find me around school and strike up conversations. We knew it was mutual because were were both actively pursuing each other.

[pistachio98]

I think in the beginning some mystery is nice, ya know flirting and all. But after it is kind of mutually established i'd appreciate if he said something. there's this guys and at first we would just make flirty eye contact and short flirty conversations which I loved because it builds the excitement. I think after a few months of this, and slowly become friends one should say something.

[Anonymous]

at first i like the mystery.. when he just smiles and glances.. but if he just keeps doing that and he never does anything i move on. i was in this situation so many times where i liked a guy and he would do that mystery thing and it confused me cuz i didn't know whether or not he liked me so i moved on and nothing ever happened

[Asker]

currently in that situation, i dont mind talking to a girl, but the girl i like is at the same gym as i am. a fitness club is a pretty bad environment to talk to a girl. yes she smiles at me, gives me these glances, i do the same. just saw her twice , hasn't been going on for weeks but i realize i have to make a move next time. its not easy as a guy to find the right words to say to a girl. but hell with it, gotta do it. just hope i dont mess up by saying stupid things.

[Opinion Owner]

definitly approach her, just say hi how are you or something. i'm in a similar situation except the guy hasn't approached me and i know the girl would like you to go up to her. when the girl smiled at you and glanced and stuff, did you know she was interested?

[Asker]

yes i think she is interested, today ill be working out again. ill check if she is there. if so , ill find the right moment to aproach her. maybe just a normal how are you doing can start a conversation.

[AmandaLynn1930]

mysterious is always more intriguing... because i dont konw what they're thinking, but i want to know...
i think the obvious ones can be a little too obvious which can be unnattractive...

[Asker]

there should be a healthy balance between those 2 i think, the beginning is the attraction fase, some girls get hit on a lot by guys, so if there is one guy who isn't being so obvious, it will stand out.

[AmandaLynn1930]

totally agree!!! it's hard to find a grey area... most are either black or white... haha!!! but if you can find it, you'll have women lined up!

[GirlTurnWoman]

Both. Someone who can be upfront about how they feel is great! The mystery dies eventually... then what are you left with? But then again being goo goo ga game crazy isn't too cute... all in all its up to you! GOOD LUCK!

[sabisfabulous]

Mysterious for a little bit, makes you wonder. And then when they court you like crazy. Love it.

[Asker]

yes thats how the game should be played. i see so many guys running behind a girl, like they are a puppy or something. i think you should keep some cards behind.

[emerald77]

I like guys who are straight forward.

[Asker]

especially in the beginning or during a relationship or the dating. i think if someone walks up to you, and tells you, ey wanna sleep at my place, it will turn you off.

[Chick180]

The mysterious guy = my boyfriend.

[Chick180]

Late* boyfriend. Fml

[Asker]

hmm bad news i gues :p

[Chick180]

Umm...

[pekarino]

What am i scooby doo? Never mind mystery

[Anonymous]

Mysterious. :D