Why do girls enjoy rejecting guys so much?

Question

I've only been asked out once and I felt absolutely horrible for having to tell the girl no, but it seems women have some vindictiveness in them that allows them to enjoy and revel in rejecting guys as cruelly as possible. Why?

sjoes006 · Accepted Answer

Very few women enjoy rejecting a guy but some of them are mean about it depending on the venue and your approach.

I mean if I'm at a lounge during HH catching up with a friend and a guy randomly comes up to us and tries to flirt we aren't rude it's whatever. We take it for a minute or so then apologize and tell them we haven't seen each other and are just catching up before said partner gets home.

In a bar if you go up and talk to a girl who you haven't made eye contact with or at a party sometimes they are rude. It isn't nice, I don't think they realize how hurtful it is. It's kind of a teo fold thing. If a guy randomly comes up to me and hits on me and I totally didn't see it coming I get really uncomfortable and embarrassed. Also usually only cocky jerks with bad pick up lines after one thing use this approach. I used to be kind of bitchy about it in my early twenties just because it happened so often and doing it to one guy deters the others.

The approach that used to work when I was younger is a couple of guys approaching with some kind of shtick. Keep it casual, light and funny in your approach and they will at least give you a smile and a laugh before hinting to move on. And the rejection more time than not has little to do with you as a guy but more just either that they aren't single, didn't go out with the intent to meet guys or whatever.

It's always easier with a wing man though. Trust

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

I've never enjoyed rejecting someone, in fact I tend to feel terrible about it because it's uncomfortable and you know that someone's self esteem is going to be hurt. If seems like you are seeking out and asking out some royal bitches because most women I know take the "subtle" or "soft" approach when rejecting men, like: "I have a boyfriend." "I'm not looking to date right now, sorry." "I only see you as a friend." Etc.

Randomnumbers · Accepted Answer

That's not all women/girls.

That's just some of the ones you've come in contact with.

Try not to take it so personally if they do reject you. Honestly it really isn't that serious.

If someone yelled no or whispered no, it doesn't change the fact that they still said no. I take it for what they said not how they said it.

Young girls can be drama queens too LMAO hahah

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I ask this guy would he like to go out sometimes with me. Then he said the most amazing thing I have ever heard in my life...

"Ew!" <~~ That was what he said.

So you're not the only one. Girls get rejected too. It's just we get approach more than guys. So we reject them more.

Bugiman · Accepted Answer

Well dude that is mostly in high school and early twenties.
Also it's not all the girls, some feel actually bad if they reject someone.

But with young girls,... Yes for the most of them they just can't say no. They have to "ooow yuck! no" then run to their friends (assuming you even got her alone as they mostly strawl around in packs) and tell the whole story at which they will laugh.

This is because girls (and actually all teens) worry about how they look to their friends. High school girls will heavily look for the older/hot sorta bad boy guy that will impress their friends. they will talk about how guys of their own age are just to childish and stuff and their older bf's way more mature and stuff (at that age having a car can be 'more mature')

So when some regular guy walks up to them who isn't especially popular or 'hot' they will blow him off harshly to be liked by their friends.

Look for the good ones, but at a young age it can be dificult as many teens have warped views of love

Applefan1 · Accepted Answer

Good question. I have seen this with many girls. Not all but many. I think some girls just have their head so stuck up their ass they think they are too good for guys, they think women are better than men in general and that is sexist bullshit. They enjoy the power. All it shows is a immture little girl that needs to grow up. I blame the messages that we send to girls these days, ones like women are better than men, women can do no wrong etc etc that are creating bitches like this. Not all women are like this though so just find a woman that is not.

whatsername · Answer

Why do guys enjoy rejecting girls? I've only had one guy ever ask me out and that didn't work out. I've asked more guys out than I can count on my fingers and toes in my whole life and only one has ever said yes. That didn't end well, but that isn't the point. Some girls have to do all of the work because guys don't like them and they get shut down immediately. Almost every guy I've ever liked has stopped being friends with me specifically because I liked them and for no reason other than that. It hurts a lot. Guys aren't the only ones who get rejected.

Ziconic · Answer

You need to word it differently, something like "Why do the girls I've been rejected by seem to enjoy it". Not all girls do I'm sure, a lot probably feel the way you did when that girl asked you out. I've never been rejected cruelly, but then again I don't ask very many girls out.

I've only done it 2 times, and got rejected once. But she didn't laugh in my face or something, she was just very shady about it and wouldn't tell me why, and that bothered me. I feel like if you're going to reject someone, at least give them a reason. I would honestly rather have been rejected harshly instead of her "not trying to hurt my feelings", because at least that way you don't look up to them as much, and some of those feelings might fall off since you find out they were kind of a bitch.

CoolSky01 · Answer

I am not the most experienced guy in the world but i've dated a couple girls , been aroud plenty and currently hangout with some at school or something, and i can tell you this :

Most girls dont really like rejecting guys and its not a very good feeling, every girl is going to talk bad about a guy she rejects but usually to her close friends and those around to hear what she says... stuck up girls ( not bitches at all sometimes ) can be nice and everything but think they're worth more than they actually are , and would question (in a bad way) why some guy they dont like is looking at them or giving them attention and when asked out well usually reject the guy in a way as if they were saying " who are you to talk to me?" it may not be a bad way or insulting but it sure ain't pleasant to hear or feel since a simple no thank you iam taken or something else could work.

Anonymous · Answer

When I was dating I hated rejecting guys cause I was scared of conflict or making him upset. I tried to be nice as possible or wait for the guy to do it. Now that I quit dating I kinda like it. For me rejecting a guy is going on hinge and hitting the X button constantly. It’s not like if a guy approaches me I laugh them or tell them to F off.
For me hitting X just the small rush of “Wow I feel so good and validated for staying single. None of these guys would be a good match.”

The best part for me is no one’s feelings get hurt. It’s not like when you get Xed on dating apps the guys are notified. They will probably forget about me after at most a week. It’s rejection without painful consequences for either party.

SarahsSummer · Answer

I'd like to think we are all flattered but some girls will cover that up with less than nice behavior if it's a guy we aren't attracted to. I try to always appreciate their effort but politely decline. I'm sure if more girls were less cruel with their rejections, more nice guys would get the balls to ask us out.

Chief16 · Answer

I don't know what makes you feel that way, but you seem to be taking you personal opinion too far. Women can choose who they want to be with, its upto you to be that person or not. Also, what'a the big deal about rejection? Why is it so surprising if you're denied something you can't have right now? Just be sincere to the girl long enough to turn her view or move on to the next one. No big deal. I don't think rejection here is a girls problem, its more of a guys problem.

nymous1234 · Answer

I feel bad if feelings or wanting a relationship or someone who is not a douchey arrogant person then i feel bad and to be honest try to avoid it as much as possible. Honestly when i have rejected someone usually want to console and say to be honest doh feel bad cause Im nothing special to feel hurt over :P

mooky06 · Answer

I don't like hurting anyone in general. Especially if they have romantic feelings towards me. I tell them then and there and not lead him on. Leading him on is worst.. even when I know that he likes me that way, leading him on and knowing it is heartless..

Cusco_Othriyas · Answer

Apply the pareto principle to this and you'll see why.
80% of guys go for the top 20% most attractive girls.
80% off all the horror rejection stories come from 20% of the rejections that happen as a result.
now what's 20% of 20%? You'll see it's an astoundingly small percentage of girls that are responsible for this.

upood · Answer

We don't enjoy rejecting guys, but statistically we get asked out more often than guys. Norms and societal BS etc etc. So we reject more often because we're asked more often, simple as that. We're not evil, we just deal with it more often.

LyssaNicole · Answer

I don't regret many guys. I've I'm not interested then I'm not interested. You can't blame a girl who is not into a certain guy. I will not be with a guy out of pitty or for his ego. I've been rejected plenty of times by guys and you don't see me blaming every guy out there.

Punkin45 · Answer

Are you serious? I hate rejecting people. This is why so many girls stay with guys that are bad to them or who they don't really like. It's not that they want to lead the guy on, they just can't bear to break his heart.

9mfeo · Answer

Who the fuck are you using as your basis for that statement? Psychopaths?

Ivy_Nicole · Answer

I wouldn't know. Assuming no alcohol is involved and this is a normal situation, I would feel horible rejecting someone too. But practically guys don't really approach me much. Maybe some girls have been approached by terrible behaving guys before?

Sara413 · Answer

Same reason some guys enjoy making women feel like shit. Some people are ass holes and make themselves feel better by making other people feel shitty. Most of us, however, try to be considerate other people's feelings.

TimeSplitters123 · Answer

Because it gives them a sense of power and revenge over men in their sad, warped, bitter little brains.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

Because unlike you or I, they do it all of the time so they're used to it. It gives them a sense of power.

Anonymous · Answer

Because in the modern world women don't realize that actions have consequences. They ALWAYS get a free pass simply because they have a vagina especially if it's vomiting blood. I bet they would not do this shit in afghanistan !

:P

apple24 · Answer

Man I just love making you hurt hahaha!  Honestly I never had to be in a situation like that. But If I don't like you than what the point in lying to you and wasting your time.

StickStickity13 · Answer

Lots of women don't like doing that, in fact the majority don't. Only a few stuck up bitches do.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess some people are assholes. I know I feel horrible when I say no :( bc I mean they are putting themselves out there for you afraid that you will say no and then you do say no... it makes me sad

Lorileebaby · Answer

Well I personally don't like too but it is taken as a compliment to have someone interested in you doesn't everyone?

Prof_Don · Answer

Frankly it sounds like your area is full of bitches. Most girls I have encountered don't enjoy and even dread having to reject guys.

indie_rock_chick · Answer

Generalizing much? I don't enjoy that at all. It's really hard to reject someone

DiogoRibeiro · Answer

I don't think most of them actually enjoy it. Most of the time this is a situation that's awkward for both parties involved. ;)

Blue___ · Answer

we don't do it to hurt them. Well , at least for me. I rather be honest then lead him into something that I know won't happen.

Socialrealist · Answer

Because a good number of them have a high opinion of themselves these days, thinking they're the shit and can any guy they want (even though 8/10 of the time they're super ugly).

TheBraveLion · Answer

Move on from it man, don't dwell on it. She rejecte so what..

itsErin · Answer

That's not every girl.  but I don't think that they should be rude about it. it's not right.

Moose2coolvargas · Answer

I don't think they enjoy it, but they may probably have a change of heart. You never know.

HikerDude · Answer

They enjoy it because it gives them a sense of power that they don't otherwise feel.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess it's who you are around. I feel a bit bad rejecting a guy if I get asked out and am unable to date him.

Polocrew · Answer

Start lifting if you don't wanna whine like this all your life, Would you accept if some ugly ass chick ask u out? Lol

Anonymous · Answer

IKR. Good question I want to know whyyyy. (No sarcasm here)

TheAngryBanana · Answer

power trip? i dunno dont think they no either XD  and yeah not all girls do this and all that : )

Terrell456 · Answer

Nobody likes to reject anyone unless they're just a straight up mean person.

Anonymous · Answer

Wtf? I hate rejecting guys! It makes me feel so bad.. seriously whats wrong with you?

zombiebabe · Answer

no generalization! not all women are like this...

Anonymous · Answer

It makes women feel better about themselves.

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