Girls, do you find guys who are emotionally detached attractive?

[Anonymous]

Like not that he is in control of his emotions most of the time, but that he really doesn't give a shit in general.

Yes its hot

Yes a little

No not really

No actually a turn off!

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[Anonymous]

I understand why girls find this attractive often, I know some girls who do weather they admit it or not! Some think they are hiding their feelings and are actually sweet guys, they think they can bring out the emotion in guys. But you can't change somebody like that sadly, most of the time. Other times its just because dudes like that seem to be more masculine and "strong" even though anybody like me would be annoyed that they could just NEVER show their emotions... or are just very detached in that way. It's a turn off because I don't see masculinity and dominance, I see a rude guy that I can't connect with. Just give me some hints or something. little assholes.

[Asker]

Some guys aren't emotionless they just naturally have control over their emotions better than others. They do have them just don't show them as much.

[Opinion Owner]

It's okay if they don't show them that often, especially around lots of peoole. But when we are together, nobody else I'de like to see some emotion... it's not a bad thing

[Asker]

Ok, I tend to get very emotional during certain times, especially when I am stressed, and I might borderline freak out. I don't that often but when I do it tends to be intense. Would that be a turnoff?

[Opinion Owner]

Not at all.
(That's coming from somebody growing up in high stress environments)
I think it's necessary to have those times and just let yourself freak the fuck out. I won't be afraid or "turned off", I understand. Sounds bad but... I kinda like it.

[Anonymous]

Why would anybody want anybody who "doesn't give a shit in general" that is not one of the traits that successful, easy to get along with, and selfless people have. You'd want a partner who cares about things so they can further themselves, cares about their partner as a normal partner would so you can both progress, and cares about people around them so everybody doesn't just think they're an arrogant asshole.

I mean, keeping check on feelings is good. But as you put it, not giving a shit in general, is not good. Also, many people do say they aren't emotional, but all they do is have mood swings all the time and people don't want to be around that either.

[MargaritaPeach]

Nope. I want to know who he is as a person, and what thoughts are running through his head. I also want him to be happy and to be passionate about his pursuits in life. To love every minute and not waste a day being miserable. Because you never know how much time you have left!

[Anonymous]

YES!!! I mean I don't want them to get give a shyt at all... like he should have dreams and goals but choose his battles but let most things slide right off... it's so hott. I just like when a guy is super choosey about what he is emotionally attached too. Not super sensitive.

[Asker]

So its like he has ridiculously high standards, but he chooses you as opposed to anyone else?

[Opinion Owner]

I like to have to put some work in, I do not like when things come to me too easily...

[FashionQueen86]

I didn't read the question right and I chose the wrong freaking answer. I prefer if guys are emotionally attached. To me, it would make everything better to know he's THAT interested in me.

[Asker]

What would be the difference between emotionally attached and clingy?

[FashionQueen86]

In my opinion, Clingy is when a person can't go a short period of time without contacting you or letting you go. They're always right there wherever you are, send tons of texts where you can only answer one at a time, may even insist in being a bit controlling. Won't let you rest or give you privacy.

Emotionally attached is when a person genuinely put themselves in your shoes like your concerns, has your back, cares about what you care about, worries about what you worry about, want's the best for you, will try to help you without smothering you, does not overstep boundaries, etc.

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[Smmyskittles]

To others (non-family and people who aren't "close friends") it's whatever.

To me, I might as well date an inanimate object. <- MY opinion.

** Turn off 100%

[muliebrity]

Out of curiosity, what is your logic behind being emotionally closed off or acting like you don't care?

[Asker]

I don't know what the logic is but a lot of guys are like that. It's not they act like they don't care, unless it affects them directly, they really don't care 99.9% of the time. They also seem to be very attractive to women, which is why I asked.

[ksnow4]

Typically I tend to be more emotionally detached myself, so I gravitate more towards guys that express their emotions better than me. Although, sometimes it can be a plus when a guy isn't overly emotional because then there's less drama in a relationship in general. (Just the way I see it)

[ElissaDido]

No I don't want to be with a robot. When it comes to romantic feelings I'm quite complicated myself but I do express them when they're there I want at least the same.

[Anonymous]

As long as he's not always stuck on an emotional roller coaster, I'll be okay. My ex was constantly depressed, or angry, etc., it just tore my spirits. Never again. I will never date a guy who isn't emotionally stable ever again :3

[miamigirl1970]

Guys who check out on being emotional all together usually have hang ups beyond... too emotional not good, but no emotion even worse

[Derpyy]

As long as he gives a shit about me, that's fine. We can be apathetic as fuck together. *shrugs*

[Anonymous]

If you don't care about me, then I can't be with you.💯

[IvoirianGirl20]

Emotionally detached doesn't equal not carinf

[IvoirianGirl20]

**caring

[Anonymous]

I have found a guy like this very attractive, in the past, but it most definitely was not because of the fact he was emotionally detached.

[babeeeone]

That's very unattractive

[Anonymous]

I would not go for a guy like that
No way in hell

[Anonymous]

Yeah, it's pretty hot.

[Asker]

Care to elaborate?

[CarlyCBC]

Ew, no.

[Clueless_chick]

It depends really

[ashsmith12]

No, not at all

[datgirl]

No thanks.