I spanked my daughter for being bad in school she was being a bully and calling other kids names and just being a trouble maker?

[Anonymous]

so when i got the call from the principle after hed told me what she had been doing i told him as soon as she gets home im going to make it so she can't sit down an he said maybe she'll learn to behave in class so when she got home i talked to her about it an she denied everything so i told her there was going to be an investetion on weather or not she was telling the truth it wasn't her so later like an hour or so she came to me and told she was lying the whole time that has been being bad so i went and got a bamboo spoon and spanked her 3 times she was crying and rubbing her butt like her hands grabbing her butt sitting on the floor i told her you better quite it or your punishment is going to get worse i also grounded for a week with out videos games i am a very stick mother my mom was too i was spanked as a child i remember plenty of times where my mom would spank me when i was bad and not with a wooden spoon but a belt or a paddle ant it stung bad i couldn't for a while my butt would be sore and red.

yes i should of spanked her

no i shouldn't of

[Intraluminal]

TBH, I think that you both would have been better off trying to understand what is driving her to act like this.

When my daughter started stealing money from around the house for instance, I could have spanked her. Instead we sat down and talked about why she was doing this. It turned out kids were taking her allowance away.

I'm not one of those people who's afraid of traumatizing the poor libble babies, but I have found that there generally is a reason for what kids do, and as adults we can solve problems that they cannot.

[Junlian]

Mom if year if you asked me. I'd tear her up too. Punishing children is hard now days cause they either get suicidal, rebellious, or resentful if done the wrong way. Your next step is figure out where she's getting this behavior from and why?

[Idonthaveausername]

As long as you aren't hurting her, it's fine, but not necessarily the best way to treat her. If she starts crying, that means she learned her lesson and you shouldn't continue. If you leave welts, that is considered abusive. Using a wooden spoon can also be considered abusive. Slapping your child with anything but and open hand is considered abusive. Most children don't respond well to being physically punished. If she apologized, then you shouldn't have spanked her because she already learned her lesson.

[karenkkraft]

Patience. When young people crave attention, sometimes they think it is necessary to act out in order to get that attention. They often don't mind that it is negative attention -- at least someone is paying attention... they often think. The solution is to give positive attention for the little things that get done each day that normally are ignored. Attention for positive behavior will get more positive behavior.

[HOAAH]

no you shouldn't have. research spanking and the effects it has on kids. my mom hit me when i was a kid too. i refuse to do it with my kids. you have to teach them empathy. you have to want to guide them to moral thinking. there are many non voilent ways to raise kids.

[Wonderer89]

Personally I'd never spank a child with anything but my hand. In this situation I probably wouldn't have spanked, as she came forward with the truth after thinking about it. The other punishments definitely but spanking for me is more effective when used immediately to stop and rectify a behaviour, especially if it's dangerous to them or others.

[ginny_weasley]

Kids are shitheads. Sometimes. I don't think she got this idea completely on her own. I'd imagine someone encouraged her. But yes, she still should've been spanked.

[lostgirl_searching]

What you are doing is okay, raise your daughter to not be a bully.

[Eli23132]

Trying to talk about it calmly won't be enough. You did well. Now talking about it with her is the next thing to do.

[Asker]

where you spanked as a child

[Anonymous]

I think you should tell her that the spanking was for her lying to you and if she had just did something wrong, but was honest with you about it, she would have only been grounded, but not spanked. Try to teach her the value of being honest with her parents.

[Drelikee]

God I hated spankings at home and school more than anything. I didn't get that I was buying it properly. So I think you did the right thing.

[Drelikee]

Meant: to say I didn't get spanked when I was behaving properly. The reason I made a point to behave had a lot to do with what I knew might happen if I didn't.

[Puppydog12]

I got my ass beat for sneaking out one time and I had bruises Lmao

[Asker]

what they spank yoyou with

[Puppydog12]

A belt

[Asker]

damn and it left bruises did they spank your bare butt

[Puppydog12]

No I had jeans on

[Asker]

damn they wanted to make shore you couldn't sit for a while

[Touchmehxx]

That's disgusting. That's child abuse and she can be mentally and physically affected. Also it will put fear in her and she will not trust you it may also embarrass her and dehumanise her

[Anonymous]

Maybe she won't bully or be bad anymore. Maybe she'll just make sure she gets away with it in future.

[Anonymous]

teach her the proper way to write "should have" too please