Is it awful that I often rant to my crush about life problems?

[Hhutch22]

This sounds super weird but, I often feel like ranting is my way of getting comfortable with them because I feel really comfortable, calm, and safe when I can tell a guy my problems and they can talk me through it and reassure me, but I feel like when I do it so much, they get tired and frustrated and then cut me off. I like presenting myself as really vulnerable so that they can "be protective" but I think that's exactly why I get rejected by them.

[Just_another_Indian]

If girls didn't had life problems then they won't require man in first place :p
So if girls didn't had problems how will a man create a impression of being with her in worst times and impress her? How will a man lend his shoulder to cry on so that he can make her more comfortable and create a bonding for himself in her life?
If woman are happy every time and free of every stress than what will a man do? No excuse for a man to get close to her :-( :p

But on a serious note, it's alright dear. Sharing things is natural but yes you need to have some cotrol over venting out feelings because it can potentially make that particular guy uncomfortable if he has no idea what to do next to make you relax and happy. So have a balance when you share things. It should not feel like you are putting your burden on his shoulders completely where he has it's own limitations sometimes.

Anything excessive is always bad in life.

[UnknownReflection]

I don't consider it awful. I enjoy this feeling where someone can establish this trust with me where they pour their heart out. So there are people like me out there beyond no doubt. However, to some people it can be little bit of an issue specially if they are not good at listening or not aware of how to respond. Or if they are actually there to just mess around! some people in such relationships, they just care about simple methods and lifestyle. Deep factors would confuse them.

[NyomiMcClinton]

Remember telling to much is not good, as the guy questions sometimes and let him do the talking versus you telling everything all at once. And it may have nothing to do with you. Some guys just get bored easily and if your not talking about sex or sports their attention span gets bored with you usually. Not all men are like this but some are. I have had great conversations with guys but the next day I would notice that Im not feeling them anymore or they will not call me. I get bored with a guy quick to. The chemistry has to be strong for me to really feel liek it can go anywhere.

[Anonymous]

It's fine to do that from time to time, but please understand that if you constantly do it, you will end up making him tired of conversing with you.

[Sorenome]

It depends how much you do it and how much importance you put into negativity. It's very okay and even desired to share good and bad things. But if your attention is only in the negative side and all you do is complain, then it's awful.

[CapnHawk]

All things in moderation. it's OK to vent occassionally, but if that's all your crush hears coming out of your mouth, it gets old real quick.

[Anonymous]

It's fine, but you have to be sure he doesn't think you are treating him as just a friend. If you honestly like him, then flirt with him too.

[BeastRB]

If that's all you do he's gonna get tired of talking to you real quick

[Scooby225]

No awful but it gets annoying if its to consistent. If that person likes you they will eventually start to see your problems as baggage

[clampfan101]

I wouldn't mind. I'm a strong listener.

[GoldCobra]

I would refrain from doing that to a crush