Why do girls demand perfection from guys?

Question

Before they'll ever consider dating them?  Why do guys have to have the perfect look, walk, body language, say the right words, for girls to be interested.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

what girls have you been dating?

you don't have to have the perfect look but you do need to be attractive to that particular girl.

walk? um I don't really care about the guy's walk, just don't walk hunched over like ur scared and have no confidence

body language? well positive body language is good...

say the right words? I hate liars but don't be awkward and can't have conversation..thats not attractive

what are you saying? that girls should just settle and have low standards and be like "oh he's breathing, he seems like a good guy to date" come on now. girls have standards just like guys do. and the best part about it is every girl is different and wants different things in a guy!

are you really gonna act like guys don't "demand perfection" from girls? like they want us to have the perfect body (and even if we don't they will still wish that we did), have pretty hair, a cute face, and look great on his arm? its not as if guys have no standards and are happy just to take anything either

16switches · Accepted Answer

when I watched  'Jake' on the Bachelor, he seemed SOOO flippin perfect that I wasn't jealous of the girls who got to rub up against him at ALL. He acts so perfect, and has "THE PERFECT LIFE" and honestly, that's such a turn off. I want my guy to have quirks, to show me a different way of life, life has been hard on me, emotionally and financially, but I still don't ask for a man with a huge wallet. I want a guy who is individualistic. That's all I ask for. someone who intrigues me, who doesn't have such a cookie cutter lifestyle. He doesn't have to do crazy things everyday, or look any different, it can be his manner of speaking, acting, or just the way he thinks about the world.

kittycat933 · Accepted Answer

I have to say, girls are way more critical of guys than vis-versa.  There is almost nothing that would keep a guy going on a second date with a girl (I say second because the guy has to like the girl at least a little to go on a first date to begin with)  and there are literally hundreds of 'deal breakers' to apply to the same second date..

brunohusker · Accepted Answer

Because girls have been convinced by the media that they need a good looking man to be worth anything and that the only good men are good looking, and that fat ugly and even average men are no good. Look at TV, the good husbands are always good looking dudes who can do everything, while the bad husbands (from shows like king of queens, everyone loves raymond, family guy, simpsons) are usually fat, ugly and stupid, or at best average. This screws up reality. Good men aren't necessarily good looking and vice versa, but because of the media women and men's perceptions are screwed up. I mean I one time went on a date and I told a stupid joke and the girl was like "jeez I thought fat man were supposed to have better sense of humor". Also girls do this because they want to improve people. They want the hot bad boy who doesn't follow any rules until he settles down with her. Then the girl tries to tame him and it makes her feel worth something. Unfortunately, a lot of those hot jerks breakup with them or cheat.

bobair · Accepted Answer

I'm a messy fat ass, which makes me FAR from perfect, and yet I ALSO understand what creates attraction in a woman's body.

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Tamikaze · Answer

Perfect?  No, we don't look for perfection, but we do have to figure out if 1) you are just trying to hookup for sex and 2) if you are the kind of guy we want to date.  I, for example, don't like dating indecisive, hesitant guys who let life pass them by.  I want to date a take-charge guy, someone who is like me.  Nothing wrong with that.  And, I have to be able to figure out if you are like that.  If you aren't I don't want to date you.  Body language, walk, the words you use, they paint a picture.  Decisive go-getters have a certain look, passive, hesitant guys have another.  It matters.

CuddlyCarla · Answer

Let me start off by saying I think men are far more superficial than women are, they won't even talk to a girl if she isn't hot enough for him to want to sleep with. That said, I don't know a single girl that expects her boyfriend to be perfect, nor do I know a man who could possibly always say or do things exactly the right way. Quirks are interesting and what make us all human. I would never want a man who said or did everything I wanted anyway, how boring is that? I think you've been hanging out with the wrong girls.

kittycat933 · Answer

From my observation, (pretty much talking about my feelings, and what I've seen other females do, not trying to stereotype) girls are terrified of rejection.. If we go after a guy and he rejects us, we feel like a total whore(even when no sex is involved). Are treated like a total whore by our peers for even trying, the only way to get our confidence back up is to raise our standards so high that no one will ever come along who is good enough.. and the ones who are very down on our luck and have like no self confidence at all, unfortunately drag others down with us.  Particularly those who we would secretly give a chance to if they would just prove to us they would care and not dump us and make us feel worse - we just point out their flaws to make us feel better about ours, and move on.  It's cruel.

gwenwyn · Answer

I think this is more about your experience - you feel that unless you meet some unattainable level of perfection, you won't find someone to date you. However, that's not the case at all. Every individual has some form of standard that they set for their mates. Few demand perfection, and those that do rarely end up happy (or even find relationships).

Being 'shy' or 'awkward' does not make you undateable to women. Not in the least. It only affects your chances with a certain kind of woman. Perhaps it is your sense of self defeat that is to blame. After all, if you don't believe you can get a date, or can meet someones expectations, why should they?

angora · Answer

i guess it's their way of expecting things for themselves. in that case, don't go with these girls.

girlfriends should be proactive, like willing to improve both parties. like being together is the best part of your day/life.

but on the flip side, this also applies to men expecting things from women.

you're generalizing. there different people wanting different things. these types of people, perfectionst, apply to both sexes and deep down, they actually don't know what they want, so move on. you'll eventually meet an awesome person.

Anonymous · Answer

It kind of depends on the girl, but there are a few reasons. Some want a fairytale romance, and they want the guy to always know what they're thinking, and do anything they want for them. I know I personally see some of my female friends with guys who make them so happy, and they seem perfect. Girls figure that if they APPEAR perfect then they are, and they want a guy who will make them happy like that. Other girls are just afraid of getting hurt. Maybe some of them were in bad relationships before, people told them they deserved better, and now they realize that they do. Now they think that they deserve the perfect guy, and believe that he's out there. Not all girls think this. A lot are willing to be happy with a guy, flaws and all.

Cluelesswithmen · Answer

Being attracted to someone doesn't depend on their looks... It's how that person makes you feel. If he can inspire me to be a better person, see nothing but good in others and respects his family, my family, his friends, my friends, me and himself. He is perfection..

vick123 · Answer

Sometimes you can't blame girls in general, maybe it's the type of girls you're seeking. the type that have have high standards and expectations, usually girls who are wanted by many men take advantage of the fact that they are highly wanted! So maybe seek girls who are more down to earth and don't have such high standards, because I can pretty much assure that not all girls are so hard to impress!

Josh1127 · Answer

Here's the real truth: Women are brought up and raised as a child on Disney movies and Barbie. As they get alittle older comes the next brainwashing of bad television like the Kardashians for example, which teaches them to be superficial, follow the crowd and be ordinary instead of unique. Not everyone is like this but most are (men and women). Looks come first if you are like this. If anyone has ever spent enough time with someone though, we all know that means nothing in the long run. People grow on you and your looks fade st 30-35. If women would give guys more of a chance than 1 or 2 dates and have an open mind, they would see that first impressions aren't actually getting to know if someone and pre judging the walk the walk and talk the talk with body language, tonality, eye contacts etc. What you put out into the world cones back to you ladies. So when you're 30 with 5 cats looking back in regret to all the guys you gave the cold shoulder, you're there because of you.

askanythingxo · Answer

we don't lol. there's no such thing as perfect. obviously we wanna actually be really interested in the guy before we start dating them, but they don't have to be "the perfect guy". so we don't even do that at all! not suure what your talking about lol. goooodluck!

Temptress · Answer

All I ask for from a guy is simple.

Respect

Commitment

Trustworthiness

Sense of humor

I could care less about looks, style, or him being mr perfect.

Body language is a key factor, that being said I wouldn't not be interested in a guy because he wasn't using the right body language. It takes time to get to know someone and be comfortable with them. As for the right words I am one of the most tongue tied, openly honest people there are and I rarely have the right words to say.

Xenophobia · Answer

Some girls just have expectations of the their dream guy and they don't realize that there's no such things as a perfect guy.

Most of the girls who have ridiculous expectations will often find themselves:

A)lonely

B)single

C) on a dating site with a profile of the list of their expectations of guys

Anonymous · Answer

guys ain't going to settle for no dog unless she's a bash and dash. why should girls settle for any less. no one wants to be seen in public with a tramp to be honest. that doesn't mean you have to look like christiano ronaldo it just mean you look the best you can. the girl makes an effort why can't a guys. but after a little while the whole look thing dies down if your truly suited you would last if not then it was just an eye candy relationship. so you put it down to life experience x.x

Anonymous · Answer

because we want the perfect man to protect us.. we know you have flaws that will come out later and we will learn to love you for them.. but would you be attracted to a girl if you knew that she had like 10 flaws that drove you crazy right off the bat?

such as

bad breath

one eye green one eye blue

amessed up teeth

weird feet

piercings in unknown places

so with that said you make the call.. how would you feel..

Anonymous · Answer

Not all girls do.

If you're interested in the near perfect looking girls with lots of confidence, the ones who get a lot of attention and have lots of guy options, yeah they are going to have higher standards. They will expect you to be pretty good looking, be confident and social. If you're not that guy, perhaps you should not demand perfection from girls and go for girls who aren't in that high of demand from guys. If someone has a lot of options, there standards will usually be higher.

Anonymous · Answer

Everyone has expectations of their dream guy/girl. Girls look at guys in movies and on t.v. and expect that to be how guys are in real life. However, it takes living in the real world to realize that guys aren't really like that. It's the same with guys who expect every girl to have a body like a model in Playboy magazine. People expect perfection in a boyfriend/girlfriend because we are imperfect ourselves and hope our partner will counteract that.

Most of us don't expect every guy to have the whole package (those that do are idealistic), but we at least want them to try. And by try I mean: don't insult us (and if you compliment us make sure it's not too forward/creepy), look good as in be clean and well groomed (being good-looking helps, but hygiene is more important), and last try to look at things from our point of view (after all, girls feel just as awkward as guys do when confronting the opposite sex). Hope this helps you!

peace-love-couture · Answer

Guys demand perfection;and it's all superficial perfection for guys.Perfect breasts,perfect waist,perfect butt,perfect skin,perfect hair,perfect make-up

Standingpretty · Answer

I just want a guy who will be my best friend and lover. No need for perfection, because it simply doesn't exsist and I want a man with flaws anyways. Perfection is boring.

HotPepper302 · Answer

To overcompensate for their own insecurities? I'm not sure... We're not all like that, though! I just want a nice guy, who gives me reason to admire him in more way than one... I'm not demanding perfection. I'm only human, after all!

Cailleach · Answer

Why do some men have to wan't the same from women? Why? Well, because it's natural and instinct to do so. And don't generalise. Not every girl wan't that.

shortansweet1923 · Answer

Every person and if you want to be specific, girl has a different definition of what "perfect" is for them

Anonymous · Answer

because they are evil bitches, I guess that's our punishment for suffering, after all, they have to endure child-birth, so we might as well endure their sh*t, mental and verbal tests.

alexajade30 · Answer

Guys are all too guilty of this too. I guess it human nature.

Reeses-pieces777 · Answer

we don't demand perfection. I do want a guy who is honest and not a jerk.

frustratedchump06 · Answer

well they have more to lose, I don't blame them in a way

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know who you've been dating, but the last thing I want is a perfect guy. The little mistakes and flaws is what makes him interesting

Vaticka · Answer

hah, the guys I've dated have been no where near perfect, but then again its imperfection I like

Anonymous · Answer

Because we want substance when most guys appear to be shallow and completely see-through. We want to know that he has a brain and isn't a player.

Littletad · Answer

They do? Well this is news to my ears.

2doves4me · Answer

because we want to be happy too...

Biggus_Dickus · Answer

simple answer is, girls are shallow

Juliana77 · Answer

we don't

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Because they're shallow

GIntrovert · Answer

They don't...

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