Why do girls run after guys who don't care about them?

[Anonymous]

I've always wondered this.

There is this guy, who treated me badly, didn't care about me, embarrassed me, the list goes on.

Yet I'm thinking of him and I know I shouldn't be. He isn't kind, or caring, or sensitive, or even real.

[AnotherABC123]

It's a combination of psychology and pride at work, I think. What one cannot attain easily will always be more desirable.

The wounded pride cannot accept that she's not the center of the universe and not everyone will love and adore her. So she is set on trying to change that to validate herself. The mentality is that she's unique and special, therefore, she's going on to be able to "make" him change the way he's treating her bc she's not the rest, she's the best.

It's a psychological trap that most women talk themselves into as they believe they are "the one" to make it happen. Unfortunately, in most cases, she gets what she sees. No one will be able to change anyone unless the person wants the change him/herself.

[shyramarie1]

many girls including me like bad boys same as you i can't understand either. nice easy going guys that treat well i shy away from in favor of bad boys that treat me rough, ignore me. nice guys' personalities don't seem genuine., nice guys are predictable — which is just boring, Nice guys seem weak. and sex is too tame with nice guys.

[melanieeeB]

Amen!! haha nice guys are mostly just so boring. That's it (and the sex part! Amen!!) And they care about you too much, alwyas asking "Is it oke for you?". The Bad once don't, they take what they want and god thats just so sexy.
I just sleep with the bad once , don't fall in love with them, than it will get ugly haha

[dontknow12]

So nice guys can't be good at sex?

[shyramarie1]

unfortunately i have fallen for a couple of them in the past but stronger now and realize eventually bad boys will always dump me so guard my heart. another reason i like bad boys is they are more protective. if someone messes with me they will give them a beating and say don't fuck with my bitch very reassuring to me

[melanieeeB]

@dontknow12 no can, but it's mostly (not all, please don't get offended) that it's good, but not rough or wild

[melanieeeB]

Yes true that haha they fight for you, while (mostly) a nice guy is starting an argument/ discussion haha
and yeah, as long as you just sleep with them, it's good, but keep care of your heart :) ! you can't make People change no matter which gender, everyone changes on their own :)

[dontknow12]

@melanieeeB I'm not offended just curious.

@shyramarie1 Not all bad boys know how to kick someone's ass. I've seen a handful of them get handled by someone you wouldn't expect it to be.

[shyramarie1]

my experience is sex with bad boys is more enjoyable but thats just me. i am not judging everyone i am sure many girls would say nice guys are great in bed

[melanieeeB]

@dontknow12 Oke sorry than :)
also not everyone, just the once i experienced it with

[shyramarie1]

everyone has different experiences and preferences i can only speak to mine

[shyramarie1]

is exciting to me when a guy roughouse someone that is picking on or bothering me probably my sickness

[dontknow12]

Sounds like it turns you on.

[melanieeeB]

haha than we do share the same "illness" but yeah I like it to and i like it, if a guy isn't as soft as a Twinkie (haha someone told me that once)

[shyramarie1]

unfortunately you are right

[dontknow12]

Why unfortunately? You wish you weren't like that?

[shyramarie1]

most native guys in taiwan are easy going nice people that avoid conflicts

[shyramarie1]

yes i would prefer being drawn to nice guys but am not

[Anonymous]

when you figure it out let me know. im doing the same right now. :\

the worst part is there is actually a guy who is interested in me, and is nice and sweet and caring. but i can't be attracted to him because i want the asshole.

[natured]

It's normal to think about them, but it's not normal to run after one, this is just wack... and it's stupid, HE is the one who should run after you not the opposite... duh.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Because girls want to a guy to value her highly. Especially if he won't value other people the same way.

Some guys notice this so they try to act like little bitches, extending every fucking courtesy they can think of thinking that being the nice guy is gonna make them attractive.

Only a girls biology has protected them from guys like that, they can tell without even realizing it, which guy's respect means something and which guys are just giving it away for show.

I think girls have a natural tendency to go with the guy who seems "stronger" and when they see a guy who doesn't care about them a part of them goes "if I could just get him to really care about me, he could protect me"

[jacquesvol]

1. Do they?
2. Do the guys even notice it?

Girls rely too much on body signals, not enough on WORDS.
Some girls expose charms with a guy in mind, others do it because they want attention, or they want to feel liked by many people.

How can a guy know if that high hemline/ deep cleavage is for him or to just show off and feel better?

WORDS!

[nameus3r]

Yes a study found women to be almost one whole standard deviations above women on body language recognition (they expect men to be as observant as they).

[jacquesvol]

@nameus3r Let's break you the secret: men aren't that observant. They see the nice girl, they don't see what she really wants: a hook up, an ONS or a relationship or just admiration.

[nameus3r]

It's what I (tried) to say :)

[CT_CD]

Because it's true that girls like assholes even though they say they don't. They'd rather have a guy that treats them bad. They don't want a guy who is caring, sensitive or kind. They see him as weak or boring for some reason and would rather be with a guy who is unpredictable. They love drama.

[cyndyrene]

Exactly. It's the fucking drama. We love it. We claim to hate it and want to avoid it. Oh how we love it. I met this great amazing guy, who is my ideal guy. Yet I'm hesitant to go further with him just in case it upsets this fuck boy who gives not an ounce of a fuck about me. And why? Because without him I have no drama to talk about and my drama has to out drama all the other bitches drama. God that was therapeutic. I'm gonna go get my shit together. Thanks for listening.

[Stone_Fizzlebeef]

Girls like a project to work on or change. Something hard or impossible to get in the first place is a pretty difficult project. And maybe a touch of validation. If someone isn't interested, a girl will be bound and determined that motherfucker will acknowledge how amazing she is, come Hell or high water.

[Exterminatore]

Because you desire to attain the unattainable as you see it as more valuable cause it's hard to get and if you get it that bossts yourself esteem and social status or so you think.

[Exterminatore]

*boosts.

[Bananaqueen1]

Same here girl. I think it's because deep inside we have hope that he likes us back. At least that's me.

[Bandit74]

"he isn't kind, or caring, or sensitive, or even real"

Yeah, but he's probably really attractive tho.

[DaniaMQ]

maybe coz you Deep inside wishh he would change?
that or you are just day dreaming about him if he had a better personality. dont know

[SarahsSummer]

I was going to say we all want what we can't have but to want someone who treats you badly, You need to get your head screwed on straight.

[Anonymous]

Yup. The first guy I liked this happened to me. Now I have learned from it and will NOT do it anymore! Girl Power :) "Come to me if you want me, I'm not chasing after you" - however I won't make you chase me or play too hard to get either.

[SovereignessofVamps]

You like the high he gives you with all the drama? Like he's not boring like all the other guys are.

[Topkek]

It's always been like this with women. They say one thing and do another thing which is the complete opposite. It's called having double standards.

[Blueeyes2016]

Isn't that a sign of attraction when a girl is mean to you?

[constantine15]

Because he is probably good looking, I doubt you would do the same for a short ugly guy.

[Anonymous]

It's normal.

Caring, sensitive, kind guys get their ass kicked. Your emotions are normal.

[LadyCourtessa]

the heart wants what it want

[El_Muffidore]

It's the desire to be desired!

[Katherine3110hun]

I don't. I've always wondered the same thing.

[JSmuve]

Because y'all are fucked in the head. Srsly.

[Katherine3110hun]

Can't argue that most of us are fucked in the head.

[Decentguy]

the same reason guys run after girls like that

[catelyntje]

"Everything that kills me makes me feel alive"

[Anonymous]

When someone has the answer let me know as well.

[Anonymous]

He had a backbone unlike most men.

[Anonymous]

Because we too like the chase

[DizzyAster]

They dumb.

[Anonymous]

Because women are born with backwards logic.