Its all about your swag and personality, look at jay-z...he isn't cute at all and he has one of the baddest females in the game. His swag and his personality make him flyyyyy! You have to have confidence in yourself. Dnt let anyone lower your self esteem..you controll that! It's a esteem of yo' self! Trust me you'll get that first kiss, there is lid to every pot. Here are some tips..Get your swag and confidence up, stay smelling nice, hair cut fresh, work out..just take care of yourself, you'll see the results.. I hope this helps! Stay positive and positive results will follow... women like strong men.
I have a great story to tell u. There was this real attractive girl in my writing class last semester. We started to talk a bit and started talking about past/current bf/gf. And when we started talking bout our current boyfriend/girlfriend (At least hers cause I was single at the time) She looked at me and said,"U are cuter than my boyfriend, but he was always there for me and made me laugh which stole my heart." I thought that was a brilliant answer cause it showed me that not all beautiful girls look for just attractiveness. Just just make yourself available for other people to start talking to you and I'm sure a few cute girls will go your way. Just remember to always look happy and be funny and you can win anyone.
Don't worry about it, I had a tough time getting a girlfriend too especially while I was still at school. After I left it was like a fresh start and I have since dated a lot of girls and gorgeous girls, smart and interesting. At that age everyone is thinking about popularity and how who they date affects everything. It's all lame. Once school goes so does the issue. Anyway guys are known to get better looking as they age. Girls go after older guys. Just hang in there and you'll get the girl for you. Forget what everyone else says.
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Thanks. I've tried to change my mind set on this, but its just hard, you know? lol
I know, I've had quite a few people tell me either that I'm ugly or attractive. Either way I've still dated people I consider to be miles out of my league, things change... Don't worry. Patience is good, I had more or less given up then everything seemed to change.
i think she met it more so to keep you grounded, not to say thatt you're actually unattractive. she could've picked a better way of saying it tho.
at any rate, nobody's unattractive. it's a matter of how somebody sees you and how you see yourself. you have to love you first and foremost, and know people will have different tastes. what I find attractive isn't necessarily what my friend finds attractive. it's like saying vanilla's better than chocolate, but somebody else digging strawberry more. it's up to individual tastes.
don't dwell on it.
p.s. personality overrules EVERYTHING physical. I don't care how gorgeous or ugly somebody is seen as, if you're a beautiful person and I vibe with you, I'm down for the situation. personality makes somebody sexy. if I can't understand you and connect, then physical sh*t goes out the window anyway.
The last time I checked the phrase "I only like you as a friend" in the Relationships Dictionary, it still meant "I only like you as a friend" - I don't see a single mention of appearance within the meaning of this phrase. Look - it's natural to feel self-conscious about the way you look and don't listen to what other people say, especially your helpful 'friends', because it just highlights their immaturity - Congratulations to them. Not. As I was saying, nobody is perfect and if everyone was 'perfect' the world would be a very boring place to live in! You mentioned that you have a friendly and inviting personality - that's good! You don't know how rare that feature is in a guy nowadays, and girls would find that an attractive turn-on! One day you'll find a girl who will see you as more than a friend, just put yourself out there and continue being loving and friendly and they will see the great personality features that you have to offer rather than your looks. Good luck!
I went through the exact same thing.. I had a pretty tough time cause I hung out with really pretty skinny people. I also went to a private school. I didn't many compliments either.. Low on confidence too.
But then I realized that it didn't matter. I discovered that I had a pretty great personality and I'd rather be loved for who am I and not what I look like. And now, I'm feel really great :)
Maybe you need to come to that realization too.
And ugly as in how? Is your face not clear or something?
You haven't put up a picture so can't really say anything.
Ok so get your style going - figure out a good style of dress - be sharp if you can be - or work out hard and develop a killer body woman love muscles and nice chocolate skin - take care of your skin that is also attractive - be well groomed keep up the hair cuts and style.. If YOU think you look great others will begin to believe that also - SO I am a very pretty chocolate female and looks don't really matter that much to me because usually once you get to know someone their personality makes them attractive - and again dress WELL - everyone loves a sharp brother. If you have a funny personality - and make people laugh that is also VERY ATTRACTIVE... Otherwise make a lot of $$$$ that alone is VERY attractive! (kind of kidding) Good luck!
I can't see your entire image and body, style of dress etc - BUT I can tell you need to get your confidence up if YOU think you are UGLY then everyone else will also BUT if you carry yourself like you are the best looking most put together guy with great style - THAT will change peoples minds... YOU have to ACT like you are attractive -- people will believe that.. You focus too much on the negative -- enhance what you have - work out gain muscles -- you can work this out - it is ALL about your attitude!!!!!!!
Your friend is a jerk. Definitely time to pick out a new one, no real friend would say that to you, nonetheless tell you not to be picky. Unless he's the most beautiful man on the planet he has no say in this and even so, why would you care what a dude thinks of your attractiveness if you are a straight male? If you honestly think and have always known you are ugly, that's what is going to come across as truly unappealing about you to women, not the way you look. The way you feel about yourself and the way you carry yourself and care for yourself are far more important to a female. If you judge yourself and don't care about yourself, why should they care about you? Learn to accept, respect, and love yourself and the rest will follow.
It's all about attitude. The most jerk off guys can get the girl cause they know how to act. And no it's not all about being an asshole either it is a great skill. Don't even personality counts for nothing! Personality keeps people look only get people without a personality they won't even remember your name. Your a skinny bitch who the hell is 5'8 and 173 I should smack you!
Seriously though don't obsess about your looks OK. If you have confidence and believe that you're good enough you can get the girl. I'm not saying you'll get the hottest girl. And I'm not saying you should have extremely high standards. But you don't have to like settle for some nasty bitch. My friend is about 310 and is 6'1 he's not the best looking guy around and he's gotten some pretty hot chicks.
Dude your story sounds a lot like mine. I went to a small Catholic high school and wasn't the best looking guy, and most of the girls were taken (since I would say most of the 14 girls in my class were somewhat attractive) and I remember going out to pick up girls and some of my friends would say "oh you can't be too picky" or "hey she's got a great personality" . Not that I didn't like some of the girls, but I hated the fact that some friends would tell me that. Also, you don't sound unnatractive I'm 5 ft 8 but I'm 220 lbs. So you are much better looking than I pal. So don't let people discourage you, but also, don't ignore certain girls just because they aren't the best looking. Good Luck
You're going to find in life that some women are superficial and just have to be with an attractive, lean, muscular man. Well, take a look around you. There just aren't that many out there. You're also going to find that most women don't give a damn about your physical features. Believe it or not, it's about your personality. If you are sure and confident in yourself, and you are polite and thoughtful, a woman will like you for that over most anything else.
Now, about being ugly. It probably isn't so. But, you have to ask yourself. Are you doing everything you can to be as appealing as possible to a woman? Do you have a nice haircut? Are you cleanly shaven, and recently bathed? Do you need to update your wardrobe with a few new things. If you make sure you do these things, you'll probably feel better about yourself, which will help you project more self confidence, which will of course, make you more attractive.
Second of all I'm not gonna lie, looks are important. When you're out on the prowl for a girl or a guy the first thing people notice is how you look.
Fortunately for you, it doesn't end there. I know men who are drop dead gorgeous and most of them are vain, selfish assholes. In other words, don't sweat it.
Don't dispair my friend, I will show you a fool proof way to attract the ladies:
1. Don't be shy. You will never get anywhere if you don't take risks
2. Make the first move, be bold, charming, and friendly. Cockiness, in most cases, is a turn off
3. Don't say anything negative
4. Do not, under any circumstances, creep on her. Make your move or dont, but decide fast
5. Most importantly, never be afraid of rejection or embarassment. Look at it this way- if you are rejected there are still millions of girls out there who are waiting for you to come and change their world.
ya keep beliving that movie BS . ugly guys are always creeps to girls . and its OK for girls to be shy but its not allowed for guys . and guys always should make the first move is BS . and if ure ugly there is no girl waiting for you . I'm want to die :'(
Man, there are so many problems with this question! The first one I noticed is the way you worded the question. I too always hear family members saying how attractive of a young man I am.. but in my head I'm thinking "If I'm so attractive, why don't I have a line of women waiting for me". The point is that "hot" is just a way for someone to measure how physically attracted to you they are. Every girl can have a different level of attraction to the same guy. Time for an example!
Say I'm into big girls, right? So if a friend says pick between a bigger girl and a skinny model, I'd pick the bigger girl because to me she's "hot". To other guys though the skinny model may be the actual hot one.
And before I end this answer, don't forget about personality. A guy with "ok" looks but a great personality can usually do pretty well getting girls still. It's not all about looks. And if you're upset that the girls you like don't like the way you look, they sound like they're a bit superficial.
1. Confidence my man, look around you when you're out where couples hang. How many ugly guys who seem happy and confident are dating people they didn't "Settle" for? You could be the ugliest man in the room and still get the girl with the right attitude.
2. Ignore internet voting crap, you have a good personality, why should you care what a million strangers think?
3. Private schools: been there, understand. Didn't have a girlfriend myself until senior year, and she went to a large public school nearby. Don't sell yourself short, small schools are really bad for cliques and judging people for things that don't matter.
You are a male... So you know how many average looking guys get MEGA hot chics? Hot guys are generally assholes and full of them self.. Guys like yourself deemed less than average have more time to develop a pleasing personality and get the girl in the end.. You may be behind now but when the ladies realize that looks aren't everything they start looking for guys like you.. Who will be good to them and treat them well. Hot people have a tendency to replace.. Its a complex about them.. They get new lovers every 6 months or so when the gorgeous wears off and they realize that their sig other is nothing more but a statue. decent people find decent people.. that's just the way it is when we age..
I think your friend is true to you. I don't think you should be down about it because despite attractiveness being a factor on the surface, it gets less than a half second to get back 'in the game' with a good opener. Be polite, be confident, be yourself. What I do is I have a set phrase or two that I practiced when I had a hard time with being confident, and doing so gave me two steps ahead of the conversation. You will get the same first replies back, and then the ice is broken. For example, I wouldn't jump into a pickup line for any reason, I say, 'hey, how are you?'abd then she will say fine ir something mechanical like that. Then she will say 'how about you?'. I say, I'm ready for a nap, and I cab usually get a giggle and I go from there to find commonalities.
Your friends are jack asses. You know they could be saying that to kill your ego. Maybe they know you are shy, but youve got great potential but nit picking like that will only bring you down. Maybe they don't want you as competition. Jackasses!
What really attracts guys to girls is how they carry themselves, and what you need is a confidence boost. Show your true self, even if that's a down to earth sweet guy. Sometimes the biggest confidence boost is change. Change your hairstyle, cologne, dress, get in a sport, hobby. And do something that youve always wanted to do and excell in it. Don't hold back, live impulsively and have fun- humans are automatically attracted to people that love life and rock at it. Nothings holding you back- honestly you seem like someone with the potential to get any guy ;).
Although I doubt that your ugly, statistics show that gorgeous attractive girls I mean dimes- top of the line- 10 out 10 usually go for less attractive men anyway.
You just have to accept it. I used to wish I was what the would considered attractive, but I accepted I wasn't. I am happy with how I look & I've lowered my standards of what I'm looking for in men because I know I'm not a 9 or 10 in their opinion. We can't all be what the world considers attractive, we just have accept it & move on. People waste too much money on plastic surgery trying to make themselves acceptable to others, I'm only concerned about my own opinion, & I'm happy with being or 6 or 7. And just some advice, never tell a girl you settled for her, women want to know they are your first choice, how would you like to be a girl's fall back?
tell your friend to go puck himself, all I have to say is, unless you have and obvious disfigurment of your body or face, your extremely attractive to someone who you will find extremely attractive, every face has another face to see it as the most attractive face for the most part, for some people its more rare than others, I've been told that I have a fugly face and what not, I have no muscles but with confidence and knowing what to say (and the fact that most girls care more about personality than looks) I still get other guys giving me props for people I dated 2 years ago, mind you I'm 17.
Lots of great answers and good advice, but I'll just add my two cents (hopefully, you'll find it a bit more valuable than that). How one looks is important, but looks involve many different things - how you wear your hair, how you dress, how you carry yourself (do you smile and look people in the eyes or do you look at the florr?), your physique, and even your hygiene (smelling good, having fresh breath, etc.). In other words, not having the perfect cheekbones or nose is not nearly as important as those other things.
Another crucial quality that people universally find irresistable -- CONFIDENCE. If you look and sound like you're fun and having a good time, women will want you and guys will want to be you. If you're not feeling confident, find something that you like and are good - a hobby, a sport, whatever - and pursue it with passion. That will give you confidence, guaranteed.
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Its all about your swag and personality, look at jay-z...he isn't cute at all and he has one of the baddest females in the game. His swag and his personality make him flyyyyy! You have to have confidence in yourself. Dnt let anyone lower your self esteem..you controll that! It's a esteem of yo' self! Trust me you'll get that first kiss, there is lid to every pot. Here are some tips..Get your swag and confidence up, stay smelling nice, hair cut fresh, work out..just take care of yourself, you'll see the results.. I hope this helps! Stay positive and positive results will follow... women like strong men.
I have a great story to tell u. There was this real attractive girl in my writing class last semester. We started to talk a bit and started talking about past/current bf/gf. And when we started talking bout our current boyfriend/girlfriend (At least hers cause I was single at the time) She looked at me and said,"U are cuter than my boyfriend, but he was always there for me and made me laugh which stole my heart." I thought that was a brilliant answer cause it showed me that not all beautiful girls look for just attractiveness. Just just make yourself available for other people to start talking to you and I'm sure a few cute girls will go your way. Just remember to always look happy and be funny and you can win anyone.
Don't worry about it, I had a tough time getting a girlfriend too especially while I was still at school. After I left it was like a fresh start and I have since dated a lot of girls and gorgeous girls, smart and interesting. At that age everyone is thinking about popularity and how who they date affects everything. It's all lame. Once school goes so does the issue. Anyway guys are known to get better looking as they age. Girls go after older guys. Just hang in there and you'll get the girl for you. Forget what everyone else says.
Thanks. I've tried to change my mind set on this, but its just hard, you know? lol
I know, I've had quite a few people tell me either that I'm ugly or attractive. Either way I've still dated people I consider to be miles out of my league, things change... Don't worry. Patience is good, I had more or less given up then everything seemed to change.
i think she met it more so to keep you grounded, not to say thatt you're actually unattractive. she could've picked a better way of saying it tho.
at any rate, nobody's unattractive. it's a matter of how somebody sees you and how you see yourself. you have to love you first and foremost, and know people will have different tastes. what I find attractive isn't necessarily what my friend finds attractive. it's like saying vanilla's better than chocolate, but somebody else digging strawberry more. it's up to individual tastes.
don't dwell on it.
p.s. personality overrules EVERYTHING physical. I don't care how gorgeous or ugly somebody is seen as, if you're a beautiful person and I vibe with you, I'm down for the situation. personality makes somebody sexy. if I can't understand you and connect, then physical sh*t goes out the window anyway.
The last time I checked the phrase "I only like you as a friend" in the Relationships Dictionary, it still meant "I only like you as a friend" - I don't see a single mention of appearance within the meaning of this phrase. Look - it's natural to feel self-conscious about the way you look and don't listen to what other people say, especially your helpful 'friends', because it just highlights their immaturity - Congratulations to them. Not. As I was saying, nobody is perfect and if everyone was 'perfect' the world would be a very boring place to live in! You mentioned that you have a friendly and inviting personality - that's good! You don't know how rare that feature is in a guy nowadays, and girls would find that an attractive turn-on! One day you'll find a girl who will see you as more than a friend, just put yourself out there and continue being loving and friendly and they will see the great personality features that you have to offer rather than your looks. Good luck!
I went through the exact same thing.. I had a pretty tough time cause I hung out with really pretty skinny people. I also went to a private school. I didn't many compliments either.. Low on confidence too.
But then I realized that it didn't matter. I discovered that I had a pretty great personality and I'd rather be loved for who am I and not what I look like. And now, I'm feel really great :)
Maybe you need to come to that realization too.
And ugly as in how? Is your face not clear or something?
You haven't put up a picture so can't really say anything.
I'd like it if you could message me :)
Ok so get your style going - figure out a good style of dress - be sharp if you can be - or work out hard and develop a killer body woman love muscles and nice chocolate skin - take care of your skin that is also attractive - be well groomed keep up the hair cuts and style.. If YOU think you look great others will begin to believe that also - SO I am a very pretty chocolate female and looks don't really matter that much to me because usually once you get to know someone their personality makes them attractive - and again dress WELL - everyone loves a sharp brother. If you have a funny personality - and make people laugh that is also VERY ATTRACTIVE... Otherwise make a lot of $$$$ that alone is VERY attractive! (kind of kidding) Good luck!
Cool !
I can't see your entire image and body, style of dress etc - BUT I can tell you need to get your confidence up if YOU think you are UGLY then everyone else will also BUT if you carry yourself like you are the best looking most put together guy with great style - THAT will change peoples minds... YOU have to ACT like you are attractive -- people will believe that.. You focus too much on the negative -- enhance what you have - work out gain muscles -- you can work this out - it is ALL about your attitude!!!!!!!
Your friend is a jerk. Definitely time to pick out a new one, no real friend would say that to you, nonetheless tell you not to be picky. Unless he's the most beautiful man on the planet he has no say in this and even so, why would you care what a dude thinks of your attractiveness if you are a straight male? If you honestly think and have always known you are ugly, that's what is going to come across as truly unappealing about you to women, not the way you look. The way you feel about yourself and the way you carry yourself and care for yourself are far more important to a female. If you judge yourself and don't care about yourself, why should they care about you? Learn to accept, respect, and love yourself and the rest will follow.
It's all about attitude. The most jerk off guys can get the girl cause they know how to act. And no it's not all about being an asshole either it is a great skill. Don't even personality counts for nothing! Personality keeps people look only get people without a personality they won't even remember your name. Your a skinny bitch who the hell is 5'8 and 173 I should smack you!
Seriously though don't obsess about your looks OK. If you have confidence and believe that you're good enough you can get the girl. I'm not saying you'll get the hottest girl. And I'm not saying you should have extremely high standards. But you don't have to like settle for some nasty bitch. My friend is about 310 and is 6'1 he's not the best looking guy around and he's gotten some pretty hot chicks.
Dude your story sounds a lot like mine. I went to a small Catholic high school and wasn't the best looking guy, and most of the girls were taken (since I would say most of the 14 girls in my class were somewhat attractive) and I remember going out to pick up girls and some of my friends would say "oh you can't be too picky" or "hey she's got a great personality" . Not that I didn't like some of the girls, but I hated the fact that some friends would tell me that. Also, you don't sound unnatractive I'm 5 ft 8 but I'm 220 lbs. So you are much better looking than I pal. So don't let people discourage you, but also, don't ignore certain girls just because they aren't the best looking. Good Luck
You're going to find in life that some women are superficial and just have to be with an attractive, lean, muscular man. Well, take a look around you. There just aren't that many out there. You're also going to find that most women don't give a damn about your physical features. Believe it or not, it's about your personality. If you are sure and confident in yourself, and you are polite and thoughtful, a woman will like you for that over most anything else.
Now, about being ugly. It probably isn't so. But, you have to ask yourself. Are you doing everything you can to be as appealing as possible to a woman? Do you have a nice haircut? Are you cleanly shaven, and recently bathed? Do you need to update your wardrobe with a few new things. If you make sure you do these things, you'll probably feel better about yourself, which will help you project more self confidence, which will of course, make you more attractive.
First of all your friend is a d***.
Second of all I'm not gonna lie, looks are important. When you're out on the prowl for a girl or a guy the first thing people notice is how you look.
Fortunately for you, it doesn't end there. I know men who are drop dead gorgeous and most of them are vain, selfish assholes. In other words, don't sweat it.
Don't dispair my friend, I will show you a fool proof way to attract the ladies:
1. Don't be shy. You will never get anywhere if you don't take risks
2. Make the first move, be bold, charming, and friendly. Cockiness, in most cases, is a turn off
3. Don't say anything negative
4. Do not, under any circumstances, creep on her. Make your move or dont, but decide fast
5. Most importantly, never be afraid of rejection or embarassment. Look at it this way- if you are rejected there are still millions of girls out there who are waiting for you to come and change their world.
ya keep beliving that movie BS . ugly guys are always creeps to girls . and its OK for girls to be shy but its not allowed for guys . and guys always should make the first move is BS . and if ure ugly there is no girl waiting for you . I'm want to die :'(
Man, there are so many problems with this question! The first one I noticed is the way you worded the question. I too always hear family members saying how attractive of a young man I am.. but in my head I'm thinking "If I'm so attractive, why don't I have a line of women waiting for me". The point is that "hot" is just a way for someone to measure how physically attracted to you they are. Every girl can have a different level of attraction to the same guy. Time for an example!
Say I'm into big girls, right? So if a friend says pick between a bigger girl and a skinny model, I'd pick the bigger girl because to me she's "hot". To other guys though the skinny model may be the actual hot one.
And before I end this answer, don't forget about personality. A guy with "ok" looks but a great personality can usually do pretty well getting girls still. It's not all about looks. And if you're upset that the girls you like don't like the way you look, they sound like they're a bit superficial.
1. Confidence my man, look around you when you're out where couples hang. How many ugly guys who seem happy and confident are dating people they didn't "Settle" for? You could be the ugliest man in the room and still get the girl with the right attitude.
2. Ignore internet voting crap, you have a good personality, why should you care what a million strangers think?
3. Private schools: been there, understand. Didn't have a girlfriend myself until senior year, and she went to a large public school nearby. Don't sell yourself short, small schools are really bad for cliques and judging people for things that don't matter.
You are a male... So you know how many average looking guys get MEGA hot chics? Hot guys are generally assholes and full of them self.. Guys like yourself deemed less than average have more time to develop a pleasing personality and get the girl in the end.. You may be behind now but when the ladies realize that looks aren't everything they start looking for guys like you.. Who will be good to them and treat them well. Hot people have a tendency to replace.. Its a complex about them.. They get new lovers every 6 months or so when the gorgeous wears off and they realize that their sig other is nothing more but a statue. decent people find decent people.. that's just the way it is when we age..
I think your friend is true to you. I don't think you should be down about it because despite attractiveness being a factor on the surface, it gets less than a half second to get back 'in the game' with a good opener. Be polite, be confident, be yourself. What I do is I have a set phrase or two that I practiced when I had a hard time with being confident, and doing so gave me two steps ahead of the conversation. You will get the same first replies back, and then the ice is broken. For example, I wouldn't jump into a pickup line for any reason, I say, 'hey, how are you?'abd then she will say fine ir something mechanical like that. Then she will say 'how about you?'. I say, I'm ready for a nap, and I cab usually get a giggle and I go from there to find commonalities.
Your friends are jack asses. You know they could be saying that to kill your ego. Maybe they know you are shy, but youve got great potential but nit picking like that will only bring you down. Maybe they don't want you as competition. Jackasses!
What really attracts guys to girls is how they carry themselves, and what you need is a confidence boost. Show your true self, even if that's a down to earth sweet guy. Sometimes the biggest confidence boost is change. Change your hairstyle, cologne, dress, get in a sport, hobby. And do something that youve always wanted to do and excell in it. Don't hold back, live impulsively and have fun- humans are automatically attracted to people that love life and rock at it. Nothings holding you back- honestly you seem like someone with the potential to get any guy ;).
Although I doubt that your ugly, statistics show that gorgeous attractive girls I mean dimes- top of the line- 10 out 10 usually go for less attractive men anyway.
Go get em tiger!
You just have to accept it. I used to wish I was what the would considered attractive, but I accepted I wasn't. I am happy with how I look & I've lowered my standards of what I'm looking for in men because I know I'm not a 9 or 10 in their opinion. We can't all be what the world considers attractive, we just have accept it & move on. People waste too much money on plastic surgery trying to make themselves acceptable to others, I'm only concerned about my own opinion, & I'm happy with being or 6 or 7. And just some advice, never tell a girl you settled for her, women want to know they are your first choice, how would you like to be a girl's fall back?
tell your friend to go puck himself, all I have to say is, unless you have and obvious disfigurment of your body or face, your extremely attractive to someone who you will find extremely attractive, every face has another face to see it as the most attractive face for the most part, for some people its more rare than others, I've been told that I have a fugly face and what not, I have no muscles but with confidence and knowing what to say (and the fact that most girls care more about personality than looks) I still get other guys giving me props for people I dated 2 years ago, mind you I'm 17.
Lots of great answers and good advice, but I'll just add my two cents (hopefully, you'll find it a bit more valuable than that). How one looks is important, but looks involve many different things - how you wear your hair, how you dress, how you carry yourself (do you smile and look people in the eyes or do you look at the florr?), your physique, and even your hygiene (smelling good, having fresh breath, etc.). In other words, not having the perfect cheekbones or nose is not nearly as important as those other things.
Another crucial quality that people universally find irresistable -- CONFIDENCE. If you look and sound like you're fun and having a good time, women will want you and guys will want to be you. If you're not feeling confident, find something that you like and are good - a hobby, a sport, whatever - and pursue it with passion. That will give you confidence, guaranteed.
Good luck!