Why do some guys have no confidence when it comes to girls?

[imanurse]

pretty self-explanatory

and what is a girl supposed to do if she's interested in said guy?

[Brando]

Previous experience, lack of experience, apprehensiveness, shyness, lack of social skills, lack of oppurtunities to be around girls, lack of knowledge, asexuality...just some reasons I thought of just now as to why a guy might not approach.

If a girl is interested in a guy, she should make herself approachable. Realize that if you are around friends, a guy will be a lot more hesitant to approach. It's tough enough to approach one girl, let alone a group of them. And if a guy knows anything about girls, he'll know that a girl's personality suddenly changes when she's around friends. She becomes a giggly, somewhat annoying, and more judgmental person rather than if she was alone. You need to see that from the guy's perspective if you really want to find out what we are thinking.

You should also present pleasant and friendly body language. Try looking at him and letting him catch you looking at him. Smile at him, maybe wave. Stuff like that makes it very hard to NOT go talk to a girl without her throwing herself all over me.

Not saying that you do, but if you sit back and expect guys to do all the work, you'll find out that you won't have many prospects at all to choose from. You should put yourself out there as well. He's the fish, but if you don't give him a hook and worm to bite, then he's just going to keep swimming along.

[thisGUYknows]

it all has to do with past experience with girls. guys who are good looking are gonna be more confident when talking to girls because they've had lots of positive feed back over the years. lets say if you guys are 20 years old and youve had like 4 boyfriends so far, if he's only had one or none at all then he's gonna feel nervous around you because he's had very little experience. especially if he's seen you with past boyfriends he may feel that he is not as handsome as they are so he feels like he has no chance. if you are interested your just gonna have to make it obvious. if he's shy and quiet then you will have to make it REAL obvious. just don't tease him in anyway about him being shy or quiet cause it will only make things worse for him.

[moaterboat]

Because so much is expected of guys. It doesn't take a lot of confidence to just sit there and look reasonably pleasant. It takes a whole bucketful of confidence to approach, initiate conversation, keep the conversation going, and then ask for a number. Seriously, if roles were suddenly reversed and women had to be responsible for all that stuff. The human race would die out in 2 or 3 generations.

[thisGUYknows]

Word to your mother. girls shouldn't be afraid to approach the guy every once in a while.

[Rinaxo]

"If everyone's expected to do the expected, what is the point of doing the expected?" I think everyone should stop giving gender roles.

[Hartmut]

Well, flip the genders. Why do some girls have no confidence when it comes to guys? There's no one definitive answer in either case. If the human mind were so simple, there'd be much less torment in the world.

While we may have our differences, I think that we're more alike than we may initially think.

[martyfellow]

you need to show him some interest..most of us guys are used to a few guys with money monopolizing the women, so we are generally going to assume you won't be interested until you go out of your way a little bit!