Girls, why is a guy ridiculed for having more confidence believing he can get a girl/be in a relationship, but if he lacks confidence seen as a loser?

[Anonymous]

Either way he can't win. I've seen guys who are jobless or guys who have disabilities get married or find a someone (ie: girlfriend). I've seen and heard women and girls say, it doesn't matter if he's not tall, if he's a 5/10 in looks, if he's not muscular. But there are women and girls who want a guy who's like Travis Kelce of the Kansas City Chiefs (guy who's dating Taylor Swift), a 6ft5 good looking guy who plays in the NFL and is rich. I don't get what women want because my assumption is a girl will always say no because she wants a perfect guy or a girl will always say no because of her past experiences and don't trust males in general.

[HappyWoman34]

I think the trick is to find middle ground. Get to know a woman you’re interested in as a friend first, then ask her out later.

[Wintergirl21]

There needs to be a balance. Confidence is good but don't be overconfident that you come off as being arrogant. Believing he can get ANY girl he wants? That's arrogance and a big turn off.

On the other hand, don't put yourself down. Don't talk badly about yourself and call yourself a loser. Girls wants someone to care for them and look after them but they won't trust a guy who have such a low opinion of himself to do that. If you are too worried about yourself and of appearing like a loser, how you are supposed to care for your girl?

[Anonymous]

Confidence alone doesn't get you a significant other. It's a mix of different things.