Might a shy girl act rude if she's interested?

[LilMoffTarkin]

There is a girl in one of my classes that I have a crush on who I've caught looking at me a couple of times. The other day I was chatting with her a bit, and she acted very rude. Might a shy girl who's interested act rude? Why?

[Anonymous]

Hey who is John Galt! Side note, I luvvv your profile picture ha ha ;D

Anyway. Yes as a former shy girl, I used to act rude to two of my former crushes. The reason for this (obviously) was because I was nervous, on the defensive, and spazzing out conversationally. Shy people have a tendency to do this more often, because that's what they do...feel uncomfortable...unfortunately. However unless she truly hates you or is so intimidated by the whole situation, she will not always be mean to you. It's possible that she will always be mean to you (at least for now) in a certain outlet (e.g. talking to you face to face). However she might later be very nice to you over email or facebook or something like that. The one thing that made me warm up to one of my crushes when I knew he sort of liked me was when he would go from acting all obnoxious/silly/outgoing/flirty to quiet/visibly upset by my lack of response/nervous etc. It made me feel comfortable that he felt nervous too. I then opened up and flirted until he got his confidence back, and I lost mine again haha. We eventually got comfortable around each other but timing never worked out for us to date or anything. It was still fun.

Honestly, shy people often act a tiny bit rude whenever they deal with people who are a little more outgoing or confident than they are. That's how I was/am occasionally now, but hey what do I know :P Bueno suerte casanova

[secret_words]

Wow.. I honestly thought I was the only one.. I just recently started acting that way to someone I liked a lot but I did it as a way to try and forget him because I don't think he likes me. I just didn't want to be as hurt by it and it made me feel a bit more powerful over my shyness and nervousness in front of him.. lol honestly I thought my personality sucked and that I was mean and rude but now I see I'm not alone and apparently normal :)

[Anonymous]

like what socaalgirl said, shy girls have a tendency to keep to themselves and can be taken advantage of because most of them are shy. After being misled or manipulated so many times, they learn to be wary of people, especially people that are known to be manipulative or hang out with manipulative people. (Manipulative isn't the only word that can be used here, there is also backstabbing, fake, and just flat out mean)

or maybe she didn't mean to come off as rude? she may have been upset or stressed about something unrelated to you?

[monica7777]

Yes, she usually doesn't mean to. Oftenly it's because she doesn't have enough experience to know how to act around guys she likes.

[socaalgirl]

She might find you intimidating, so she's putting up a wall.