I think there\s a difference in someone being good looking and someone being sexy. Sometimes I am amazed by the guys I think about in a sexual way. On the other hand, sometimes I cringe at the idea of having sex with someone even though they are very very good looking.
So, you don't experience sexual attraction when do you see attractive guys?
@deliriousmistakess Not every time. As I said, sometimes guys are just good looking, but I wouldn't have sex with them, even if I considered them attractive. Maybe our biologies don't match so my body isn't digging the idea haha š
Then when do you experience sexual attraction?
@deliriousmistakess I have tried to crop sexual interest down to a few attributes, but (kind of a clichƩ) the whole picture matters, I think. But to be frank with you, sometimes it's just very average looking guys, other times it might be someone with a nice face and an "ok" body, or vice versa.
Do you really know what is sexual attraction?
ofc:)
I don't think looking good and having sexual attraction go hand in hand. Some men are nice to look at but seem too superficial/generic for me to feel sexually attracted towards them.
For me, sexual attraction includes other attributes than those related with looks.
Hope this helps to clarify my view š
Still confusing.
What do you want to say?
When do you see attractive guys (whom you don't know, don't know about their personality etc) by default are you not attracted to them as like straight guys aren't attracted to guys?
Then when do you experience sexual attraction?
Yes, I am not attracted to every (even good-looking) guy I see on the street, as people often also tend to make judgements about the personality of someone by the way they look, even if they didn't know said person.
For example, someone might be good looking physically, but I might for some reason get the first impression that they own certain qualities which are not attractive to me like being unloyal/needy (even if they didn't own these qualities, but hey, no one can help their first impressions).
So initially, without knowing the person, I might not feel attracted to them even if they physically were good looking, because they might give off a vibe that doesn't make me desire them, as I believe people also make assumptions about someone's personality by the way they look.
This could be changed through having an open mind and getting to know the person though.
I experience sexual attraction toward certain physical traits and personality traits, though never one of them alone, the person in questions needs to own qualities from both sections for me to see them as sexually attractive.
* Sexual attraction is attraction on the basis of sexual desire or the quality of arousing such interest.
Primary Sexual Attraction: A sexual attraction to people based on instantly available information (such as their appearance or smell).
Broad shoulders, symmetry face, abs, back muscles, veiny forearms, well-defined calf muscles will not attract you if you already don't know the guy well. sexual attractiveness comes after knowing the person.
So, after knowing a guy with asymmetry face, chicken leg, chicken hand, short guy, feminine jawline, feminine face cutting you will find him sexiest person in the world and only he will sexually attract you?
Ex: you have seen 6 and 5 but they didn't attract you. They how will you know that wich one will attract you?
If you never get an opportunity to get to know 6 then how will you know that "you are sexually attracted to 6"
How do you know that you have sexual attraction toward certain physical traits?
1. 
2. 
You have seen this two guys but none of them attract you. So you don't find any of them sexually attractive. Main condition is you have to know them personally.
So, sexual attractiveness comes from knowing their personality not from their physical appearance.
Then after knowing the the guy 2. you will find him sexually attractive? If you never get an opportunity to know the guy 1. then you will not find him sexually attractive.
"I experience sexual attraction toward certain physical traits and personality traits, though never one of them alone" - This really doesn't make sense. May be too much complex that I can't get it.
@deliriousmistakess You are misconstruing what sheās actually saying though. Sheās not saying she only experiences sexual attraction when she gets to know someone sheās saying she wouldnāt have sex with them without knowing them. Sheās admitted to being attracted to good looking guys just because they are good looking that is still sexual attraction. Liking someone and lusting about them are too different actions and you do not seem to understand that.
@deliriousmistakess Sheās referring to sexual chemistry which doesnāt mean getting to know them. Itās hormone based and you can figure it out within the first two minutes of meeting someone that isnāt getting to know. Again you are misconstruing what she means. You can be sexually attracted to someone and not have sex with them. Sexual attraction is a biological thing. Liking or loving someone involves the brain.
@coralee
Then explain this line.
1. For me, sexual attraction includes other attributes than those related with looks.
2. So initially, without knowing the person, I might not feel attracted to them even if they physically were good looking.
3. I experience sexual attraction toward certain physical traits and personality traits, though never one of them alone.
I know sexual attraction and action is not same thing.
But she clearly told that without knowing the person, she might not feel attracted to them even if they physically were good looking.
In order to feel sexual attraction (not have sex) she has to know the person's personality otherwise seeing attractive guys does nothing for her.
Just quote me where she told that she experience sexual attraction without get to know?
@deliriousmistakess Sheās saying sheās attracted to other traits that might be the way someone carries themselves, it might be confidence these are all things you can figure out about a person pretty early on. Getting to know someone takes more then an hour. Sheās trying to explain that she finds more the just the physicality of a person attractive but your taking that to mean something entirely different.
@coralee Didn't you see what she said? "without knowing the person"
What does it mean. Seeing attractive guys does nothing for her. Sheās saying she only experiences sexual attraction when she gets to know someone.
Read your 1st to last comment again. How you ignored and then agreed.
It seems like it's you challenge to prove me wrong without referring anything.
woww this crazy...
In a nutshell, what I meant was that I have never found myself being sexually attracted to someone only because of their looks, nor have I ever been sexually attracted to someone only because who they are as a person.
For me, someone who is "sexy" must have traits I find "sexy" both in the physical and psychological world.
When do you see sexy guys + you don't know = No sexual attraction
When do you see unattractive guys + don't know = No sexual attraction
When do you see unattractive guys + you know = No sexual attraction
But when do you see sexy guy + you know = Sexual attraction
Before meeting this stage (get to know a sexy guy) how did you find out whether you are attracted to guys or girls, how did you find out you are attracted to sexy guys?
In your entire life if you never get an opportunity meet a sexy guy + get to know him = Basically asexual?
Because your sexuality is limited to only well known sexy guys.
yes, but sexual attraction can also occur falsely if my prejudices are positive, even if he in reality is different to my prejudices.
There's also other things I unconciously take in count, for exampls how interested I think he is in me. If he seems indifferent than I don't feel much attraction.š
Are you demisexual?
I don't think so, I don't need a strong connection but I need a little more information than how a person looks. I sometimes get turned on by people I don't know in person, as sometimes "knowing" someone online is enough to do the trick.
But I didn't understand a think.
1. If see attractive guys (masculine, good looking, tall) but you don't know them, don't know about their personality then their physical appearance will not attract you.
2. Same as if you see unattractive guys, their physical appearance will not attract you.
an attractive guy (masculine, good looking, tall) will only attract you if you know him personally and know his personality. but an unattractive guy will not attract you after knowing them, after knowing their personality.
Here my question is, you can't see their physical appearance before knowing their personality or you can't view their physical appearance before knowing their personality?
It doesn't make sense because you have already seen their physical appearance and none of them attract you. Then how do you know that only after knowing attractive guy you will feel attracted to him but doesn't matter how much you know an unattractive guy he will not attract you?
@deliriousmistakess Let's just say that me seeing someone sexually really depends on the case. There are so many variables that no matter how thoroughly I try to explain it here there would still be exceptions.
But just to add to the attractiveness/sexiness you brought up in your previous paragraph, I sometimes completely change my view on someone for no reason whatsoever, as in I see them in a different light.
I suppose the reason you find this so confusing is that you can view people sexually even from the first glance?
As I said earlier, I consider sexiness and attractiveness to be two different thingsš
Sometimes I make positive prejudices (even if they weren't true) and that can lead to interest.
I would know which traits I consider attractive after reflecting on the qualities of the people I have has interest in at some point.
1. But you have said, someone who is "sexy" must have traits you find "sexy" both in the "physical" and "psychological world'
2. You experience sexual attraction toward certain "physical traits" and "personality traits", though never one of them alone.
What is that physical traits and mental traits?
"though never one of them alone" What do you mean by that?
Nope but now I'm staying away from men. If I see a hot guy and I was in a happy relationship, I wouldn't care. If I was single or wasn't crushing, I'd think about maybe dating them. That hurts. I wonder if anyone is thinking like that about me?
Probably, go look at the results from the other question
So, you don't experience sexual attraction when do you see attractive guys?
no not every guy sometimes if iām in a mood iāll think about them like āoh canāt they just fuck me alreadyā but not for every attractive guy
Would you date a guy that did it tho?
wdym if he turned me on totally and if he doesnāt right away then i would still give him a chance
What I mean is would you date a guy That imagined having sex with every attractive girl they see?
oh i mean i guess he canāt HELP it to fantasize but i think if itās a committed relationship i would hope i could satisfy him enough
They can, itās their mind lol n ok
So, you don't experience sexual attraction when do you see attractive guys?
@deliriousmistakess the question was āwant to have sex withā so i might think a guy is hot or sexy so thereās an āattractionā but not all the time for every attractive guy it depends on who iām with a guy might be attractive but i donāt necessarily want to sleep with them
You might think a girl is hot or sexy so thereās an āattractionā?
Sexual attraction is attraction on the basis of sexual desire. But if the desire is absent the how it is attraction?
You may not act on it.
* not all the time for every attractive guy it depends on who iām with
I don't understand this point explain please
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Nah, I just think about how good they look- and how I wouldn't have a chance in hell with them otherwise, LOL
You never know if you donāt try š
So, you don't experience sexual attraction when do you see attractive guys?
Nah. Don't get me wrong, I'll look at them and think they look attractive. But if there's no emotional connection with him, know if he's taken or single, or at least talk and get to know him?
I can't see myself just sleeping with a guy, attractive or not
So, you are demisexual, Not Heterosexual?
@deliriousmistakess I guess you can say I'm a demi, however, I am straight. For example, and I hope this doesn't weird you out, but if that's you in your profile picture? I think you are VERY attractive, lol. However, I do not see myself having sex with you because I don't know you or anything about you.
But once I get to know a guy and see what type of guy he is, how comfortable I am around him, and how close I feel to them, -then- I start to get feelings for him. That's when I start to think about having sexual fantasies about a guy.
You can't know whether you are sexually attracted to an attractive guys or not until you spend time with him, and see how you feel around him? In order to know whether you are attracted to a guy or not you have to spend time with him otherwise you can't say about it? It means by default you are not attracted to guys without knowing him? Then will you feel attracted to him?
However, you do not see yourself having sex with him because you don't know him or anything about him.
But once you get to know him and see what type of guy he is, how comfortable you are around him, and how close you feel to him, -then- you start to get feelings for him. That's when you start to think about having sexual fantasies about this guy?
Bingo! Now you got it. That guy you linked me, at first glance? Nope, not attracted to him
However, if I spent time with him, got to know him, I might get feelings for him and start to see him that way- I might not.
Put it this way, I'm more likely to be attracted to someone I'm friends and have a lot in common with and know than a random guy on the street. But if I become friends with said random guy, then an attraction might occur
... I hope that makes sense. I am still trying to fully wake up over here, lol
It is demisexuality :)
Far from normal heterosexuality :)
I don't, I just stare at them and think they're attractive.
Would you date a guy that did?
You are asexual, common sense she asked this for sexual people
Used to when I was with my first boyfriend but I was horny, he didn't do me and we lived in an area full of fine male samples.
Ok where did you live so I can go there? š¤
Malta. We have tax discounts so we get lot of Swedish dudes. Just stick to the Sliema area.
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No idea what you said coz I don't know Swedish :)
Thatās English š
Oh well I'm a dumbass sometimes
Nope, usually Iām just like āthat guyās attractiveā.
Would you date a guy that does this?
I think every guy does this to a certain extent, their minds are different than ours.
Nah cause a lot of guys said they didnāt too
Theyāre lying lol, all guys are the same
More said they didnāt but okay lol š
So, you don't experience sexual attraction when do you see attractive guys?
One likes to window shop, assess the attire and body. Then think to myself i wonder if he's big down there!
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omg I do, sometimes I do even if I dont think theyre atteactive
Something's when I'm turned on I start thinking about that lol but normally I don't
So, you don't experience sexual attraction when do you see attractive guys?
@deliriousmistakess not when I see them , only when I'm already turned on
I am talking about sexual attraction not sexual arousal.
So, when you aren't horny = Asexual?
@deliriousmistakess no when I'm not horny im not imagining sex with every guy I think is atractive
So, when you aren't horny = Asexual?
@deliriousmistakess no
You have said you can't experience sexual when you are not horny.
Isn't it delusional?
@deliriousmistakess that's not what I said
I have asked So, you don't experience sexual attraction when do you see attractive guys?
You have said - not when I see them
= Asexual
@deliriousmistakess if you come to that conclusion š
Glad to know you are asexual or liar. Pretending was good.
@deliriousmistakess why so hostile? What is wrong with you , instead of just asking me to be more clear you fill it all yourself? Why?
I asked you, but you are so arrogant, you ignored me
@deliriousmistakess ohh so now I'm arrogant? That makes sense? ... I said I did just not Everytime I see a guy I think is attractive
No, you have said you don't experience sexual attraction if you're not already turned on.
That's why I asked, when you are not turned not you can't feel sexually attracted to guys?
@deliriousmistakess I did not say that... That what you make up from what I said... But I'm not gonna argue on it anymore , it seams like you just want to argue...
Just see you first replay.
@deliriousmistakess yeah so what it's not that it's implied that I'm asexual...
I said, when you are not turned not you can't feel sexually attracted to guys. You said yes. so when you aren't horny=asexual. Logically
@deliriousmistakess I'm telling you it's not like that , geez just like stop it... Your will isn't law and stop acting like a know it all...
No. I admire his physique but I donāt actually picture him having sex with me
So, you don't experience sexual attraction when do you see attractive guys?
... Until get to know him?
Did you mean fantasizing?
Anyway, no, I don't.
Yea same thing, would you date a guy that did?
So, you don't experience sexual attraction when do you see attractive guys?
No... I just think how attractive they are
Do you think a lot of guys do it with girls?
I donāt think so but okay š
So, you don't experience sexual attraction when do you see attractive guys?
When do you experience sexual attraction and what is sexual attraction to you?
Loyalty and personality is rlly the key for me
Nope
Would you care if your boyfriend did?
If he thought about having sex with every pretty girl that walked by? Umm, yeah.
šI figured š
Thereās a better answer than mine?
Itās just that a lot of guys said that they do this even while they are in a relationship. You can check the results on that que
Iām sure. But if those thoughts are true of my guy, I actually donāt want to know.
Nope.
Would you date a guy that did with girls?
Huh? Thereās nothing wrong with that. If a guy sleeps with any girl he can he is an Fboy. However we are talking about imagination.
But u didnāt answer the question šš
So, you don't experience sexual attraction when do you see attractive guys?
Not really how most women are wired , a man has to bring far more to the table than just mere looks to win over a woman. Evolutionary biology is why.
I mean if a Guy was smart he would want a woman to do that but okay.
The motivations for connecting are different for men and women. Duh.
Not for all of us. Duh.
Don't be foolish. Men and women are simply not the same. It would behoove you to learn and be aware of the differences.
Women are motivated very differently than men. Don't sit there and try to tell me otherwise. Duh.
No we are not the same thankfully. That does not mean that would donāt behave similar tho. Stop being ignorant.
Kettle black much? No, they don't even behave similarly. You're not that bright are you?
Sorry this is not the old generation old man.
Sorry, this is not for children teeny-bop.
Teeny-bop? Damn youāre old.
Yes. Very. And WAAAYYY smarter than you. :)
Do you think of having sex with every attractive guy you see? I imagine if it looks like he might have money then sure, right?
Google this: hypergamy
You have it on full display here. It's just the way it is.
Youāre definitely not. And No I donāt.
Yes, but if itās cringy, then Iāll stop
Uh no
Whyād you answer like that?
Just because
Hmm would you date a guy that did?
Did what
Thought about having sex with every attractive girl that they see
No I wouldnāt
... hhhhhhmmmmmmmmmm
No lol
Would you date a guy that did with other girls?
That did with other girls?
Yea that imagined having sex with every attractive girl they see
No. Definitely not lol
So, you don't experience sexual attraction when do you see attractive guys?
so you are crazy about boys
Wym?
You think a lot about boys puberty
No Idc about yāall puberty
I wish they did. Lol
Some do n why?
Uh in their head yea šš
I hope they don't
Why when you did?
Well then, you shouldnāt hope that they donāt if you did the same thing. Also yes some do
gross
Do you do it with Girls?
Then you are Gross, and a Perv. I donāt like Hypocrites.
Because you do the same thing Dumbass
No you are just a hoe, stop trying to make excuses.
Smh hoes stay beating around the bush. āļø
You tell him put him in his place girl
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