What problems do women face in dating (if any)?

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Chill chill, I know you do have problems and all but we often get carried away by the problems of dating majorly male centric.
Pretty much every dating problem/rant/whine article you see about dating is male centric like 99% of them.
So , dear women what problems are you blessed with in your part?

What problems do women face in dating (if any)?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

1. Guys who try to lie their way into your pants but aren't interested in you

2. Guys who refuse to take a NO for an answer and become harassing or dangerous

3. Entitled guys who think just because they're being nice to you you own them something (usually sex)

4. How to turn down a guy who gets aggressive or tries their best to guilt trip you when you tell them you're not interested

5. Guys who act hot and cold or inconsistently

6. Guys who totally lack social or conversational skills

7. Guys who don't listen to a word you say but think they know better than you

8. Guys who lack the skill to read into situations or whether they're making you uncomfortable

9. Guys who think you have to be a total 10 but their looks shouldn't matter or if it does, you're the shallow one for not wanting just anyone who's giving you attention

10. Guys who want all the girls and you can't be jealous, all the while they think you shouldn't be even smiling to another dude and "are allowed to" talk to only them

11. Constantly having to think what/who is safe and what/who not

12. How to not give a wrong impression but be nice

13. Approach a guy and be seen as easy and lied to so that they can use you for sex

14. Look pretty and get the wrong kind of attention from men older than your dad or date reguests from guys who are taken

15. How to not seem intimidating

16. When everyone has their own opinion on whether you're a whore or a prude and they make sure their opinion is heard

17. Knowing that if you were to be raped you'd be the one getting blamed on putting yourself in a situation where it was possible to happen

18. Knowing that if you were to have sex on a date and for some reason (like protection failing) became pregnant it would fall on you to handle the situation (sometimes for the rest of your life)

19. "Guys who sleep around are studs, girls who sleep around are sluts"

20. When you're old fashioned and only want to sleep with a guy when you're in love but guys lose their interest if they're not "getting any" because they can get it from somewhere else

+ Unfortunately those guys who are openly hostile towards women and hate you for not being some pretty doll who does everything that they want, because of course you should, for don't you see little girl, they're superior to you and you should be here just to please them

++ Oh yeah and you can't be older than (..), taller than (..), heavier than (..), have too short hair, have any body hair, be a feminist, be too talkative, be too this and that or have kids, otherwise you're not attractive. Also if you're nice and pretty but single there must be something wrong with you. If you're "too pretty" there's a high chance guys just want you as a "trophy wife". Etc. Etc. Etc.

(Yes, I do like guys, yes, these are real people, yes, I've had some bad experiences and yes, guys have difficulties too. But yeah, so do we. It's not all just rosy and sweet.)

Just answering what is asked :)

Alice2398 · Accepted Answer

I can't really speak for all woman put this is what I've experienced personally and what I struggle with.

1) i think this probably gets better with age but I find it really difficult to find a guy who can behave and communicate as a responsible and muture man when I need him to be.

Trust me I'm not that muture myself at times but sometimes they act silly or rude when I try to be serious and direct with them. they say that's what they want but when I explain what I want or what I'm feeling they don't care and call me a bitch and run off back to their mates, come back to me later on and wonder why im upset with them.

2. Finding someone who isn't just after sex and likes me for me. Many men don't seem to think it's difficult for women to "find" a man and yes that's ture but why do they think it's so easy because most average men love sex and they will try get it were ever they can, that doesn't mean he's actually interested or cares about the girl he's dating just so he can get her pants off.

3. Staying faithful. it's so easy for people to find someone else now especially men they can get sex like ordering a pizza with apps like tinder or just watching porn, if they ever want sex. Women are giving to much choice on the men they can have so are natural instinct sometimes tells us if things are not going so great in a relationship its time to upgrade. Also men like to keep their options open. They will be constantly flirting with more than one girl at time and then when us girls pick up on it they wonder why we don't want to date them.

4. Moving too fast is another issue I find difficult. Sometimes I just want to take things slow and get to know the guy before he tries to be intimate with me, I'm very inexperienced so I need time to feel comfortable around him or I get scared and go into panic mode and they think I'm a freak because I can't even handle not getting nervous and shy over a kiss.

5. So called nice guys and bad boys, I both find equally annoying and ignorant how about just being yourself, I know sounds crazy but listen if you act all overly nice with me, I'll probably just assume your like that with everyone and your just a really nice person but that doesn't mean woman own you anything for being a decent person and it actually comes of creepy when it's pretty obvious you're doing it just so I'll like you back, we start to feel as if your trying to emotionally black mail us so we can't reject you out of guilt.

With guys who think woman like to be treated badly and talked to like shit, when It actually comes to finding a good women she'll want nothing to do with you and assume you don't like her so she won't even bother. The saying treat the mean keep them keen only attracts the insecure women or the woman who aren't very nice themselves.

A-man-22 · Accepted Answer

Most of the problems in the female section can be solved by asking guys out.

You may not look 10/10 or even 6/10 but if you can show a guy you are interesting in other ways that goes very far.
( This won't work on traditional or super alpha guys)

Example, go to a video gaming club/event you may not look amazing but if you can convey an element of gaming knowledge and enjoy gaming then that's an instant plus on the attraction scale.

CuriousMufuxka · Accepted Answer

insecurity of what her friends think, having too many options, and making up her own mind!

princessfromjupiter · Answer

I dont even know where to start here tbh 😂 being bisexual I certainly had worse experience on dates with guys so I’m gonna focus on that and here’s what I could gather:

1. There are soooo many guys out there who have entitlement issues it’s actually astonishing, being painfully insistent to pay for a girls drink or dinner or bringing her a present does not entitle you to touch her unsolicitedly, not to say sex. In fact, approaching a girl in the first place does not entitle you to a date with her. When she says no, just accept it any move on.

2. There are so many guys with fragile egos. If talking about accomplishments comes up and I mention the many places I’ve lived at or the many subjects I study they always get intimidated or even jealous and feel the need to challenge me instead of just reacting in a normal way or showing they are impressed.

3. I’m tall and a lot of guys seem to be insecure about their own height in regards to that (Height-complex) or, and this one is even worse, they fetishize it.

4. As a natural redhead I’m also often fetishized for my hair color or fair complexion thus more prone to attract creeps.

5. If you’re not the sexist stereotypical girl, guys will easily think you’re not interested and move on or lose interest. I’m not emotional and I’ve never fallen in love. I think that’s unappealing to guys because, in combination to being shy and a very private person, that actually makes me too much of a challenge.

6. Stereotypes are another big one therefore. Also, because I’m bisexual a lot of guys will assume I’m promiscuous or more open for threesomes, which is complete bullshit of course. But it’s scary how many guys are brainwashed by porn, freaking porn! 😂

7. Then there’s obvious personal safety concerns for girls. I’m tall but I’m skinny and pretty weak. When I go on dates with guys I know they can easily physically overpower me if they want to and I’ve actually been in a borderline rape situation where the dude wouldn’t take no for an answer and just pinned me down before so now I’m extremely cautious and only meet in public spaces, never go to anyone’s home or invite them to mine until the third date.

Anonymous · Answer

making sure we look good, putting on out make-up just right, wearing clothes that are cute and sexy but not too cute for you to think we are just cute and innocent and not too sexy for you to think you can hit a home run that night or be called a tease because the outfit was too showing. find the right kind of shoes that are cute and comfy. then pray that on the date he doesn't start talking about his dick or ex's cause then we would have to go to the bathroom and figure a way to leave without hurting your feelings. now, there are some women who tell you straight up but those are the women that have been on the dating game for a while. it takes a lot for us to be one of those women.

Sortofa · Answer

Hoping this isn't your date:

JanetJa · Answer

Having to play games. I like being honest a straight-forward, but guys seem to prefer some ditzy version of me where I act like I don't know what they mean when they say xyz so the process is drawn out longer. It's like a chess game, whether or not to go hard or soft, fast or slow, stupid or smart. I just hate the game in general.

Saville_Row · Answer

Finding an adequate guy is a problem. The ones who have the confidence to ask you out usually just want you for sex and couldn't care less about what kind of person you are. And if you want attention, there's only one way to get it through your clothes and behaviour.

Also, as they say, the good ones are taken or gay. Sad world.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

I would suspect, from speaking with female friends, that a prevalent issue is whether the guy really likes them or is just looking for sex.

BrownBratzDoll · Answer

Non consistency, boring conversation, lying about they relationship status, stand u up for dates. Cheap, think they entitled to ure time and attention. Play to many games

Spawnface · Answer

One obvious climatic problem is that I can't be with all of them at once. Tsk, tsk.

GB2000 · Answer

Whether they’ll actually like me because my face is fugly

admles · Answer

Men who won't take no for an answer Men who think buying a woman dinner means she owes him sex

StickStickity13 · Answer

Dating as a woman is easy, just look good and that's legit everything

JustWorthlessMe · Answer

Too many unworthy swine FOOLISHLY DARE to try to talk to them?🤣

Anonymous · Answer

To me, men like drama too much and are complete mood swingers. I let go on understanding their behaviors cause it's beyond logic...
Having friends that actually want to date you and not be friends is boring too...

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know what is wrong with me but I honestly think I'm pretty and I think I'm a good person with a good personality but I've never been approached and when I approach a guy he just wants sex. I've never had a boyfriend or anything.

DakotaNorth · Answer

I'm lonely. Nobody will date me.

Anonymous · Answer

>insert problems that they can control over, make it sound overly oppressive and profit

loveslongnails · Answer

Women have problems finding dates? Really?

LtJackass · Answer

Thirsty dudes.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

I think other girls.

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