I want both, it just depends on the situation. If it's something my boyfriend did to make me mad and I feel like he's in the wrong, I usually don't want space. It actually makes me even more mad if he gives me space because I'm looking for an apology and it makes me feel like he doesn't care enough to talk to me and work it out. However, I also want space certain times. I guess it depends on the argument or whatever happened to make me feel that way. If you're wondering what you should do I would just send her a text and say something like "I don't know exactly what you want me to do right now. If you want to talk I'm here, but if not I'll let you be until you're ready," or something along those lines. That's what my boyfriend does most of the time and I think most girls would appreciate that.
Both 😂
My girlfriend loves my attention
she LOVES when we talk spend time together , whatever we are doing tegether she loves it , and we see each other at least twice a week for like 10-12 hours :)
Why don't you ask the woman what she wants? Nobody can read minds.
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I agree with @sapphire3506, your best bet is to just ask her "I know you're mad, what do you need/want from me right now". If she needs attention, ask what kind (talking, doing something together, etc). If she needs space, ask her if she wants you accessible (in the next room) or gone (home, a friend's place, etc).
A lot of the time, girls don't know what they're looking for. Personally, I'm always torn between wanting attention and to talk things through and taking space so I can think of rationalize my emotions. At the same time, if I'm left alone for too long, I start to fester and I don't think that helps the situation. I think you just have to feel out each situation. You're not going to get it right every time though. There isn't a "rule".
Space. I'll come to him when it's okay again or when I want to talk it out.
Same goes for when he is mad at me. Then I'll take some space. He'll want attention pretty soon after he got mad, but I don't like being around someone who's still very worked up, so mostly we say sorry over text or the phone when we've both calmed down a bit, and then I go to him.
I always want to be close to him, but I like space to think
The two clash
Sometimes I was thinking while attached to his side, my arms around him; others I clean to avoid him until I'm ready
I'm confused, too!
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I cannot speak for other women, but I would personally want my space before I blow up again. I believe that you only talk and seek attention when both of you are in the right frame of mind. Not when you're still frustrated and angry.
They usually want what they haven't got. If you give them attention, they will say they wanted space. If you give them space, they will moan that you didn't give a crap and ignored them.
You can never win this game.
I bet you regret asking this question as the replies made you even more confused 😂😂
I personally like to be given some time to cool down, sort out my emotions etc, then we can talk, eventually sort it out and have some makeup sex.
Like mad mad, I want space. But when I’m just playing mad, I want attention haha. I sound psycho haha.
when im actually mad, i prefer to be left alone until I've calmed down. being all up in my face when im aggravated ain’t finna do nothin but make the situation 10x worse.
It depends on why I am angry. If I am angry that he never gives me space then I want space, if the reason is another then I want attention, show me you care and you regret it and you won't repeat it
Sometimes it's good to take a little breather and cool down before continuing. Give me space for like 20-30 minutes then we're good.
i don't have a boyfriend :v , i want both but it depends on what i am mad about
Both, if I’m mad I like peace and quiet but I’d much prefer to sit in silence with some one holding me rather than alone
both! leave me alone but send me a heart emoji later
since it takes a lot to piss me off... I'm thinking it's best to give me some space and let me cool off before regrouping
Space. If you give me attention, when I specifically asked for space I'm going to get super pissed
It really depends on how mad and why you’re mad to determine if you want space or attention.
Attention. I want to hash it out rather than have space and continue to be mad.
They want both space AND attention. Basically, they don't make any rational sense and should simply be ignored when they're mad, regardless of whether it really is the guy's fault or not.
Both we want to know you care when we are upset but not crowd us
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