Was I wrong for mistakenly kicking a guy in the balls? Will he be okay?

[Anonymous]

Years ago, I was followed and robbed and it gave me a huge host of anxiety issues I'm still dealing with today.

Last Monday I was walking home from my language classes when I see this young guy and he keeps staring at me, and he was following me. I was scared and in high alert, and I tried to go into a coffeeshop but it was closed and I was nearing home, so I try to get to my apartment but he suddenly approached me quickly and I spun around and slammed my boot between his legs with all my strength.

He was curled up and crying when I realised he was in the same class as I was, and trying to return my wallet, and I immediately apologised and went up to get him ice but he was still holding himself and throwing up uncontrollably after a long time so I called an ambulance and gave him some of the money in my wallet.

I tried contacting him to check if he was ok because I am scared I neutered him, but he has not replied to me. Did I overreact or was my reaction justified?

Will he be okay, or is he seriously injured, too?

I overreacted, and he will recover.

I overreacted, and he is injured.

I did not overreact, and he is ok.

I did not overreact, and he is injured.

[RasmusAiken]

Yes, he could have called your name from a distance. That would have lowered your anxiety in the moment. If I were on the jury hearing charges against you, I'd say your reaction was an unprovoked assault causing great bodily harm. This is a felony and the label of FELON stays with you the rest of your life. I hope for your sake that nothing comes of this. Do everything you can to contact him and apologize with words, a card and offers to help him. Do everything you can to help him understand your history of assault/robbery. It does not excuse your action but it makes it far more understandable.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

He probably has permanent damage. You were scared after that experience, still he is not to blame for that. Now he might never be a father! You know what you might have taken away from him? You can't just hit people an justify it with previous trauma.

[Asker]

What does permanent damage mean for him? Will it make him less manly? I was panicking and reacted. He was gasping for air a lot and threw up, do you think he's hurt badly?

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

He might not be able to be a father or lose a testicle.
What do you mean less manly? No! That doesn't change is personality. But if he can't be a father or lose a testicle it will leave on hell of a mental scar!

[Asker]

He can always.. use modern science to extract sperm to have kids right? I've been really freaking out about his well-being

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

That will depend on the state his testicles are. After you talk to him let me know how he is.

[AnnaLuvaneshka]

Yes, it will make him less manly. If both of his balls have been ruptured, he will have to take testosterone pills to avoid growing breasts.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@AnnaLuvaneshka That makes you happy doesn't it?

[AnnaLuvaneshka]

I never said that, don’t put words in my mouth.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@AnnaLuvaneshka You talked about destroying a guy's testicle with pride! Do you really thing a guy deserves that for his life for starting a rumor as a teenager? How he, or any of the guys you said you kicked there never beated you after they recover I have no idea

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@AnnaLuvaneshka You take pleasure in it don't you? Makes you feel a big girl doesn't it?

[AnnaLuvaneshka]

If you have a problem with my past, feel free to message me.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@AnnaLuvaneshka I can't you profile is private

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

So how is he?

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Mho to me? Why?
Also how is he?

[Asker]

He had a ruptured testicle, but i think he healed

[devilish-cutie]

Well it is excessive but its understandable due to your bad experiece
He shpuldve just called your name, why he followed you?
Anyway just text him n explain why you reactrd in such a way (dute to your past) so he can understand your side
Also apologize

[Asker]

He called me, but I had my earpieces on because I was trying to calm myself down. He didn't pick up or reply me, and he has been inactive on social media since then.

[devilish-cutie]

Well dont beat ysf up too much
Its gonna be fine
If he goes to same school as you you may see him and apologize again n explain
You may also ask his friends at which hospital is he n bring him some gift
He may be really embaressed tho so be understanding...
Hope hell be okay

[Asker]

Its a after hours language class, so we're all not very close and they might not know too. Should I call him with a friend's phone?

[devilish-cutie]

You may try if you really worry

[Gurkbert]

Right, she shouldn't beat herself up! She just hospitalized a guy, and possibly mutilated his genitals!
Do you know that grown men fall into deppression, or kill themselves, or can't look at themselves as men anymore, when they lose a testicle from cancer?
How do you think having one CRUSHED by a member of the opposite sex for no reason felt like? And I'm not talking about the horrible, insane physical pain that must have caused.

[devilish-cutie]

@Gurkbert its not on purpose, she felt threatened should she kill heerself over it? She is already sorry enough

[Gurkbert]

She said in another comment that the guy DID call to her, but she worse headphones.
SHE is to blame. Simple as that.
You could as well say it's not a guy's fault, when he's taken over by rage, can't think straight, and sends a girl to hospital.
Your emotions don't alleviate your guilt. It is HER responsibility, to make SURE, that the person she is attacking is a threat to her. If she fails to fullfill this responsibility, she is to blame.
And she SHOULD feel guilty and ashamed, so it doesn't fucking HAPPEN AGAIN!

[Gurkbert]

*wore, not worse

[devilish-cutie]

@Gurkbert i disnt said she shouldn't feel guilty iver something sge did wrong
I was just saying he shouldn't kill herself over it
But lets nit forget that she is a victim too of the way men threated her so thsts why she reacted in that way in the first place

[Gurkbert]

The man she did it to, has NOTHING to do with the man who did something to her.
Men who beat women are not less bad, if their mother beat them as a child.

[SaffronTowers]

He sounds like a creep. I think he was gonna assault you, but then he played victim as soon as you had him by the ropes. I know you like him but why would he follow you home instead of talking to you after class?

[Asker]

I don't know if he's playing victim, I learnt he had to be hospitalised. I live nearby, and had my earpieces on.

[SaffronTowers]

So are his balls still intact, then?

[Asker]

He had a slight rupture, but it was repaired.

[SaffronTowers]

Serves him right, I’m sure he’s learned his lesson.

[jamartheg]

i mean you dont know if thats actually what he was tryna do

[AnnaLuvaneshka]

I’ve kicked guys in the balls for far less than that, it’s his fault for following you. Hopefully you didn’t castrate him though, you should call him from an unrecognizable number, telling him you’re a doctor checking in on him about his injuries. Ask him if he’s been healing. Then you’ll find out if he can have kids.

[Asker]

For far less? Like what? So I didn't overreact? I have been blaming myself a lot, if I injured vital parts of his organs. I didn't consider that. Is it even possible that one kick can cause enough damage that he won't be able to?

[AnnaLuvaneshka]

Yes, there was a guy in my school who started a rumor about me behind my back. When I found out I kicked him in the balls in the hallway, and he ended up losing one of his testicles. So yeah, it’s possible, and you definitely didn’t overreact.

[Asker]

Oh no! Will he still be a man if he loses one? What are signs / reactions from him if he loses one? He was gasping for air a lot and threw up, do you think he's hurt badly? I've never had experience with this before, and only heard stories from friends who have done it but none of the guys had a reaction like that.

[AnnaLuvaneshka]

If he loses just one of them, he can still have kids, and the right to call himself a man, but he has to live with the embarrassment of having half of his manhood crushed, and having to explain to every girl he sleeps with why he only has one testicle. If he loses both... then he’s not gonna have a very happy life. All I remember about the guy I kicked was that he was dry heaving and gasping for air. I’m pretty sure that’s how all guys react when they’re kicked though, no matter how hard.

[Asker]

Ow.. I bet it must have hurt a lot. I'm going to try calling him with my friend's phone, to try and check if he is fine. How does he lose it? Does it get crushed, or disappear into the body?

[AnnaLuvaneshka]

Basically, if a guy gets kicked hard enough, the testicle will get crushed against his pelvic bone, which causes it to “pop” or rupture inside of the scrotum. Sometimes they can be repaired, but usually they have to be surgically removed to prevent infection.

[Asker]

I hope that didn't happen.. We talked for awhile and he's started replying my texts, but slowly. He said he's still scared of me.

[AnnaLuvaneshka]

Is he OK though?

[Asker]

I don't think so. He didn't warm up to me, but he had to be hospitalised and is still recovering.

[AnnaLuvaneshka]

Uh-oh, that’s not good.

[Asker]

Why do you say that? Is that a bad sign?

[AnnaLuvaneshka]

If he’s still recovering, and had to be hospitalized, then yes, absolutely.

[PrettyRegular]

If you kinda handicap a person because he's tlling a rumour about you and you don't even fel bad about it, it's pretty amazing.

[Asker]

@PrettyRegular I agree, that was mean.

[Asker]

Anna, he has disclosed to me what happened, and he received a permanent injury, quite like what happened to your enemy..

[AnnaLuvaneshka]

Oh no, what happened?

[Asker]

One of them got damaged a lot but was repaired and did not get removed, but it might not be working anymore.

[PrettyRegular]

You're lucky he didn't press charges. If it would've been me, we would meet in court.

[PrettyRegular]

Also even if he would physically survive, do you know what unfed and molested dogs are like? He might be like that for the rest of his life.

[AnnaLuvaneshka]

He won’t be dude, you seriously need to chill.

[PrettyRegular]

Well I know for a fact that I would never try to hurt anyone like that. I'm a good person after all.

[Asker]

@PrettyRegular what do you mean by unfed and molested dogs? I do not understand. He has stopped replying to me. He didn't lose it, they repaired the rupture but the tissue was damaged so i dont think he can use that ball

[PrettyRegular]

It's probably a very traumatic experience. I can imagine if it would happen to me, I wouldn't be myself after that.

[jamartheg]

why would you kick someone for much less?

[luvstoned4him]

You didn't overreact. its mostly your fears from the first encounter that have u on High alert.

What he did wrong though, is following you like a creeper when instead he could've called out your name and you wouldn't have reacted that way and this mess would've been avoided.

[Gurkbert]

Right... he did something wrong, she didn't. Wow.

[Gurkbert]

You're fucking insane. Blaming the guy she sent to hospital with mutilated genitals for no reason. X'D Fucking women. Unbelievable. Just unbelievable.

[luvstoned4him]

@Gurkbert who the hell are you?

[Gurkbert]

How the fuck does it matter who I am? You're still ridiculous

[Gurkbert]

Disgusting. To blame the dude she mutilated. What is wrong with you.

[luvstoned4him]

@Gurkbert i dont blame the guy am just saying the situation couldve played out a lot different.

[Anonymous]

You were in a position where you felt unsafe which is not your fault and not necessarily his fault. Yes, he might have gotten hurt, but he should have been more clear in telling you before coming close and filling you for an eternity—say, calling out “hey, I am in your class—you left your wallet behind” and holding in front of him. He should know better than to tail a woman home—it’s a dangerous world and we are taught to be aware. You are fine, he will be fine eventually—breathe

[Opinion Owner]

*tailing you for an eternity

[Gurkbert]

You don't know he's gonna be fine, if his fucking manhood is mutilated

[sockandshoes]

i think in todays world you’re never too sure about peoples intentions. approach him in person not through text.

[Asker]

He has not been present at the class we attend.

[sockandshoes]

talk to his friends or professor about his whereabouts and visit him personally. make a intent of apologizing

[Anonymous]

He was stupid and possibly lying about his intentions. You don't stalk a girl and run up behind her when you're trying to return her wallet.

See, you can pickpocket someone and use returning the item as an excuse to get close enough to hurt them. It's called a Trojan Horse. Then if it goes wrong, you can play the victim.

You didn't overreact. You possibly prevented yourself from being victimized. I would never run up on any woman.

[Lyd121]

You don’t know for sure if he was seriously injured? I don’t think you overreacted by the way.

[Asker]

I don't know, I feel so awful about it. He was crying and shaking non stop, and he has not picked up my calls since the incident or posted anything on his social media.

[Lyd121]

I think you crushed his balls sis, damn. Poor guy. He deserved it though for sneaking up on you like that.

[Asker]

I think he is quite cute, and have actually been hoping he would ask me out. But since this incident, he has been missing from classes. But, he can heal from it right? How can you say that he deserved it

[Lyd121]

He was stupid enough to follow you as you walked home, and then approach you without warning. I feel bad for him, and I really hope you didn’t crush his balls, but he really should’ve seen that one coming. I don’t think he’s gonna ask you out lol.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

You really think he deserves permanent damage because of this? You have problems. Or a fetish with this kind of thing

[Lyd121]

He shouldn’t have followed him home, she had no idea what his intentions were. If you think that’s OK then you’re just as stupid as he is. I don’t think he deserves permanent damage, but again, if he does end up emasculated, that’s on him, not the girl who thought she was being attacked.

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

Again you have problems!

[Gurkbert]

He deserved it? You sick twisted fuck

[ThisIsMyOpinion]

@Gurkbert Someones understands!

[jamartheg]

are u saying you would do the same in this situation?

[winterfox10]

You definitely overreacted, but he'll recover. I know it's tough to recover from traumatic experiences, but you have to remember that the vast majority of people don't have ill intentions for you. It's okay to let your guard down somewhat.

[Cristian97]

If u kick a male testicles hard enough he may have problems in future. If I where u should go give him a hug and ask him if he is slowly

[Asker]

What problems? Will he become uninterested in women because of an injury there? I don't know where he is.

[Cristian97]

He can have problems making kids in the future and he won’t forgive for what you did especially if hmjust wanted someone to hangout with and you kicked him in testicles for no reason. Give him a hug if u see him and tell him that your sorry

[PrettyRegular]

Amazing that almost all girls think that it's ok to hurt a guy so badly that he goes to hospital without a reason.

[Anonymous]

oh it must be fetish story telling time on GaG again.

[Anonymous]

99% chance this is a guy posting. Probably the one obsessed with posting ball questions in the 'other' category. Move along.

[jamartheg]

how are u so sure?

[ivanhunterjo]

you overreacted, he may not be able to father children

[Anonymous]

If this wasn't a completely obvious catfish post, I'd wish he would have knocked your teeth out.

[Joker_]

I overreacted, and he is injured.

[grega239]

It's not wrong to do it in self defense

[grega239]

Also tldr

[grega239]

Bcs. I'm drunk

[HereIbe]

Expect a lawsuit.