Why do I want everyone to fancy me?

[Anonymous]

It’s a serious problem. I’m not happy about it. I just want everyone to fancy me, I want everyone to find me attractive, I went around my friend house on Saturday and her boyfriend was kind of flirting with me and I liked the attention.

[Soft4u]

It's human nature to want acceptance and approval in every area of our life, it's not a perfect world people are going to hate you, talk bad about you even search for faults in you, some people instead of going with, if you don't have anything good to say then say nothing at all, they go with if I don't have something bad to say I'm not going to say anything.
The way you worded the narrative in my opinion you have an extremely low self image, lack of self esteem, in other words you are really insecure and need constant validation from other sources.

[Asker]

I think I agree with you. I was beaten by my father as a child and rejected. The only person my father is interested in is my
Mother. It makes me wonder if that’s why I constantly have to have other men want me

[Soft4u]

Sure that's the main reason, I didn't say what I did to hurt you I'm not like that at all. I said it bc we all struggle that way some more than others.
I was told a long time ago, the better a person feels about their self the less they care how others feel, don't know if it's true or how true but it makes sense.
There's days getting ready for work when I'm ready 10 minutes after getting a shower, then there's days when it takes me over an hour to be ready, that's the days where nothing is clicking, my hair looks terrible, the little make up I wear looks like crap, my cloths don't fit comfortable and so on. You're not alone, try to meet your own approval don't worry about meeting anyone else approval of you bc they don't matter.
Stay safe.
Good luck!

[Soft4u]

Thank you!

[sexphobe]

YO ME TOO

[Asker]

Giiiirrlllll I’m so glad I’m not the only one xx

[Love2Jackit]

That's easy cause u want 2 be the center of attention. It's good 2 want things. But be careful somethings u want and need. Cause ur want for attention can lead 2 some problems down the road. A true example is ur friend boyfriend. You said u liked him flirting with u. That's all well and good. Now what if u start seeing a guy u really like. Then he starts flirting with a girl friend of urs. Hows that going 2 make u feel. Give things time one day u may get all the attention u desire. Good luck

[Landshrk0068]

You'll never be happy that way. Because people will need stay happy. You will continually have to work to make them happy, and you will be miserable because of it.

[Landshrk0068]

Thanks for MHO

[i1T2daty]

A breath of honesty for which you deserve accolades. As the saying goes, “ I may not be much but I’m all I ever think about”.

You probably didn’t have those type of thoughts before age 12 or so. When we’re children, we are fascinated enough by everything to not constantly reflect on how we appear to others. After that we develop a sense of self or ego, that we use to try to compare ourselves with others. We worry about appearance, status, etc. & define our self worth by how we feel we compare to others at any Person into the subject of judgment, the judge itself, and a 3rd party who agrees w/ judge. Your ego will drive you insane and the object of every true spiritual tradition is to see that your ego is false only your absolute present experience is true. Buddhism probably does the clearest job of reducing this issue which is the source of all suffering of humanity.

Good catch, few ever do. Working with it is now the preeminent chore for your life.

[Asker]

Thanks dude. I feel it may be
Because of my childhood, I was beaten by my father and made to feel like I was never good enough, and then at school I was picked on so much and made to feel ugly. Boys did not fancy me and done nothing but bully me and call me names. I am actually Spanish but got told that I looked like bin laden etc... I feel that this has made me now as I am older make me feel like I want to have EVERY man fancy me. Which is not good obviously.

[Roooni]

Have you always been like that? Or haven't gotten much attention and when you did get it you liked it a lot?

[BeHappy1985]

I'm a total opposite

[mywildadventure]

It’s pretty common for some people to want others to like them, and that can go a step further into flirting. I can answer this better if I know how you feel or respond when someone doesn’t like you or won’t flirt back.

[Anonymous]

You liked being flattered, its a desiease among women.

[Anonymous]

Because you're a cock whore. That's why. Deal with it already.

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

Either narcicissm or superiority complex.

[Asker]

Is it narcissism though? Because I’m completely aware and not happy with it :(

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

Narcissism has different levels not neccessarily requiring satisfaction with the mentality, it can be more subconcious. But it could also be some insecurity you have caused by some past experience.

[Asker]

Yo dude... how do I stop it though?

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

Yo dude? XD
I'm no expert, you'd have to seek professional help.

[CoffeeWC]

Just don't try too hard to make yourself appealing

[Uncut]

Because you have issues.

[Dantheman101]

How do you look

[Asker]

Basic I’m nothing special

[Dantheman101]

Well you must have a good figure then