Why do my husband's ex hoes from before he met me follow me on Instagram and tried to add me on Facebook?

[Scorpioqueen1988]

[Love2Jackit]

That's easy they try 2 intimadate u. Worst of all they are trying 2 make u jealous. Don't let them get the best of u. Start returning the favor and follow them in ways they never imagine. Be their worst nightmare. Start going place they hang out. Like a tanning booth. While they don't pay attention 2 their water bottle. Pour a few drops of visine in the water bottle. They want be able 2 detect it. Best of all it will give them diarehea. That will teach a lesson. They won't even realize who done it.

[Innocentfantasy]

You look ghetto.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

Thanks and you look like Quagmire from family guy. 😂😂😂

[Innocentfantasy]

Thanks, your making me laugh out loud. God bless.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

Lol god bless you. 😂😂

[Innocentfantasy]

Lol.

[Sooshi]

Well it's kind of obvious. They maybe are inquiring about who the guy left them for... Or maybe they just want to be friends since they actually send friend requests and don't just stalk you.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

They stalk me on social media. I get the same people sending me friend request on all of my social media. I denied one on Facebook she then followed me on Instagram. That sorta thing.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

The guy that left them... These are all just ex fbuddiesof his not girlfriends. They shouldn't care in my opinion. Roles reversed I wouldn't care. I dont understand them.

[Sooshi]

Yah for sure, but you get some real werids out there. Plus maybe they still are interested or maybe their ego got bashed when they spilt so they want to know whether you are better than them or not.

[btbc92]

Why do you think? They want to have sex with your husband again and they want to size you up as a person so they can try to get him to bed with them.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

Maybe or maybe not. I dont care but it would be a lot less rude if they stalked him instead of me if thats the case.

[btbc92]

Well you better care because it's your marriage. Your the wife, you need to put the foot that you have down and cut these people off.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

Yea... Lol i dont care though. So long as I am not being stalked anymore. Wife or not. That is his job if there any problems he can deal with it.

[btbc92]

You are MARRIED. It is not his job to do anything by himself. You should defend him, not leave him to do everything.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

I dont think you understand to much how my marriage works. Guys do the same thing with me. My husband doesn't deal with it anymore he used to and got tired if it. I sure don't see it as problem at all if they are forced to leave me alone via my deleting my accounts. So first off there is nothing left to do with the situation it is over. We understand that we can't have social media accounts because people are disrespectful. Second off if there was anything to do with the situation I would trust my husband to deal with it. I appreciate your advice though. Thanks.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

Third off i dont know if you can tell but i have been at this marriage thing for awhile. Its just not a big deal anymore. Shocker the first couple of times and that wears off. I asked this question for the sake of learning something new and nothing else.

[btbc92]

You already did what you had to do. But you cannot just let it be like that, you and him needs to make a statement. It's not about stressing about it. I ain't telling you to do that. But to not lax in your relationship and create holes that you and he will have to patch up. At least you got off with no contact. Which was smart. But again, can't take it lightly. And both you and him have to take this very seriously and have a talk about what to do in the future of a similar event. That is what you do. Because these people do not respect your marriage, and you have to make it clear who is the wife. YOU. If they wanted that, they should have thought about that a long time ago. That's all.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

Now that's makes sense. I love what you wrote because it is so true.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

I really like what you said about making a statement. I just wouldn't know how he and I would do that.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

I don't think males respect me as being his wife and I don't think that females respect him as being my husband.

[btbc92]

People who are jealous I'm not going to respect you either way. You don't own them anything except the amount of respect to let them go and do whatever it is they want to do as long as it don't include you and who you're with. he has to make the effort as you have to make the effort. As a married couple that's what it means to be married. You joined together in one, so you must do what you have to do as one. You're not separate people anymore. What affects you affects him and vice versa. Outside influences are just waiting for them to be a crack in your marriage so they can slip in and slip out. That's what Devils do.

[Lyndsielee666]

I let them 🤷‍♀️ They can lurk and make themselves unhappy if they’d like 😂😂

[Scorpioqueen1988]

I think so to. Lol

[tenukitanuki]

I had a girl who would sneak around and stalk my ex from another fucking state. She would pose as me, apparently, and talk with her and say nasty shit. I was aware that she stalked her blog or whatever but I had no idea until /years/ later.

I once knew a girl that would get moody as fuck every time I would meet her friends and WE would hit it off. People try to tell you exactly who they are, just have to watch.

[chriscdi]

well i dont think this really happens to men so i can't tell you for sure but maybe they wanna see who they moved on with, doesn't really explain why they followed but its all i really have that comes to mind for this situation or at least as a logical reason

[AynonOMouse]

Just block all of them. They will probably try to sabotage your relationship at some point.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

I actually did what my husband has already done with his social media. He told me to delete all of my social media accounts so I did.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

I actually had been done deleted my facebook account because my husband forbid facebook for both of us. Today I deleted my instagram account because he recommended that I delete it.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

I deactivated my facebook* not deleted it. We kept my messenger to keep in touch with my brother and sister n law. They have internet but they are in between jobs with no phone RN.

[MackToday]

I don't know, that's weird. I can't imagine even keeping in contact with ex lovers if you're with someone new. Small wonder there are so many failed relationships. People are stupid.

[CoffeeWC]

Because they believe one day you'll be one of those ex hoes.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

Why would they believe that? They don't know me. Me and my husband are far from over as it gets.

[CoffeeWC]

How long have you two been married?

[Scorpioqueen1988]

7 years

[CoffeeWC]

Yeah, it doesn't seem like it's ending anytime soon.

[CoffeeWC]

My dad has plenty of ex wives and they each hated his previous exes until they became one.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

Lol i see why you thought that then.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

He didn't set a good example for you for how marriage works. My parents stayed together through thick and thin for over twenty years and still going. Our parents do set how we see our relationships at a young age I have heard.

[CoffeeWC]

I know he's not a great example

[MusicMayhem]

To teach you some manners for a start. Calling someone a hoe just because they happened to date your husband in the past is low.

You sound so immature and territorial. 9/10 guys if they saw you trash talking those girls with the message in this question would leave you. Its embarrassing. You could just ignore their social media requests but instead are reacting highly emotionally towards them.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

Really cus they never dated my husband. One of them participated in having a train ran on them my husband was included before we met. What exactly shall I call her so that you dont get Your feelings. I am sorry to tell you but my husband is way territorial than i am and I don't want leave him. So excuse Mr. Butt hurt. LOL

[Scorpioqueen1988]

When I call them hoes it is a the way i talk. My definition of a "hoe" is in the example above. If you have 10 guys take turns on you at one time it seems to leave that kind of impression with me and probably most people. I am not territorial. I expect what I give and that is privacy from people that I do not know. I hope someone stalks you so see how it feels.

[lucas262]

Hoping to smell blood in the water, they want what you have and will cuddle up with your feels to find any chink in your marriages armor. Is my bet

[Secret6620]

Ughhhhh I hope they don't plan on being messy 🤦🤦🤦

[Jan_Classic]

It depends who's your ex. Must be some cool guy.

[Jan_Classic]

I mean not ex, your boyfriend.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

He's cool. He made my kids and he is always there for me.

[Jan_Classic]

Which car u've got?

[Scorpioqueen1988]

Huh?

[Jan_Classic]

What car u drive?

[Scorpioqueen1988]

What? Why? Lol

[Scorpioqueen1988]

I actually don't drive. My license is suspended until 2020 via the law.

[Jan_Classic]

Ok what's ur family car? Mine is this one type

[Scorpioqueen1988]

Mine is similar. Why?

[Jan_Classic]

Then I completely don't get it... He's a married man with kids, nobody normally follows that sh1t in instagram. May be some family members... May be you are over reacting? And what connects his exs with him? Common kids?

[Scorpioqueen1988]

Nothing at all connects them. They aren't even his ex girl friends. I was his first and only girlfriend ever. I dont get it either. No worries.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

I am the only that ever had children with him to. I am not really reacting to it all. I am just wondering what causes them to follow me and friend request me. Its a little annoying since I prefer my privacy when it comes to people I don't know.

[Jan_Classic]

Yeah no worries... Start worrying if they are married =DDDD

[Scorpioqueen1988]

Hell yea. Rock on. 😊

[ITGirl95]

To keep tabs on you and your relationship. Definitely going to strike later after gathering enough ammunition to separate you.

[sidvt]

May be she is still some part into him n know every detail about him to prove her better than him

[AislingStarr]

Ask them.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

He said to ignore them.

[AislingStarr]

Ask anyway.

[PrincessGrail]

Jealousy

[Anonymous]

Who cares.

[Daniela1982]

Wow! Have all his former girlfriends been Ho's?

[Scorpioqueen1988]

I dont actually mean it to be mean. He never dated them is what I mean. They are all just people he hooke up with.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

I was his first and last girlfriend.

[zozo7880]

bold to say you are his last with like a 50% divorce rate in a lot of countries.

[Scorpioqueen1988]

Well we are the other 50%. you would need to know who we are and how we are actually are before you go condemning my marriage. Lol

[zozo7880]

100% thinks they are the other 50%, but I wish you guys the best 😊👍

[Scorpioqueen1988]

Thanks so much.

[jjj101010]

Guessing they r jealous or missing what they had

[Anonymous]

You sound like a real ass

[StickStickity13]

They want your man

[Scorpioqueen1988]

Lol a lot of people want people when they are relationships. No need to act crazy.