YES! Please don't take it wrong. Cause that is ultimately a woman's responsibility after marriage. You can't actually aim for one, it is natural. It will come to all women. BUT you really need to have a goal/quality education to make your life worthwhile (on a personal level) too. Like don't you want to feel empowered/accomplished/happy yourself? Plus your hard work in the field of your goal will be a boon for your child's development and that is how you can be made a good mother. It is not just about feeding your child food... it is about instilling something in their hearts and minds as well. As a woman, you will have to sound motivational and educated to your children. That's the best food you could give them. Your daughters will look upto you in every way and in a society like today, they will need inspiration to fight people. And that has to be you. :)
It is not bad at all. If that is what you want to do with your life, then great. Mothers are extremely important. The idea that this is bad goes with the idea that sometimes people perceive that that is all a woman can do or is good at. However, if a woman wants to do that with her life, then there is nothing wrong with that at all. My ultimate goal is to go very far in my career, then ultimately settle down. I enjoy working, and am very passionate about my future career, which is why I want to focus on that before having a family.
I notice you said your in college right now. It's not bad to have your goal BUT I am not going to sit here and say it's okay to rack up student loan debt and refuse to paid it before you get married. Or get married and force your husband paid for it. Keep your goal but pay off loans before getting married and quitting your job it's only fair for your future husband.
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Not sure how it works where you live, i don't really have loans tho. It's not that im rich but bc the country i live in is unstable financially its difficult to get loans unless you are extremely rich.
Oh okay! but I was just saying because I didn't know that and also I know a lot of people who have their parent pay then later stop for various reasons just saying in general for anyone who has debt and wants to get married and not work.
Awwe, no way! That’s really sweet, and if you’re happy that way and you find a partner with whom this dynamic will work, you’re all good. Whatever makes you happy and works for you 😊
Being a home-maker and sacrifice your whole life time to loce, care and protect your family is a worthy thing which is absolutely hard to find in today's career conscious generation (though nothing coupd have been wrong here too, but tjey get overly pracrical and selfish in the desire to make it high).
This is your life and your choice. A loving mother who devotes her time for her children is like fairy tales thilese days, so absolute reapect for you.
A home maker is what makes a peaceful, loving and cheering home. So you derserve my second respect.
But also, a third respect should go to the husband who let all the financial burden on his shoulder to provide the family ehat it wants.
Is ir a bad thing? Not necassarily. But you can have career. What happens if yoy never have kids, or your relationship dosent last, your partner dies. When the kid starts school and you have hours each day to fill. Is it not better to have something to engage with
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For now im a student and part time worker. Who knows maybe i will still have a job later, i gotta see what happens.
No it's not bad. But it is risky. You will be fully dependant on whoever your with to provide for you and your children. Not to be harsh but in the case of your spouse leaving you or dying it will be a rough transition to go from staying at home to being a single mother and having to work. Of course having family help you is an obvious move, but I'd learn some kind trade, get a degree, something to fall back on in case of disaster. It's better to be safe than sorry.
No I feel the same but most guys are totally in lockstep with the feminist sjw stuff and they want you to be ambitious in the worldly sense in my experience. There’s a real pressure now. I’d rather be a lady, a good wife, mom, and homemaker. Men are off the hook though and they’re running with it. They think the career women are the better prospect. They don’t realize that it corrupts their character to some degree to compete in the masculine corporate world. If she’s pretty, there is the halo effect, even if she isn’t a good person and they’ll support her.
Feminism/sjw, craze... you should see some of the backlash some men and some women get when not towing the rhetoric line.
Men and women ate better together than divided. Feminism, with each successive wave only divides the sexes further apart. Resentment towards one another is at an all time high. It's sad.
No it's not bad at all... its actually pretty respectable path to take and will be very fulfilling in the long run.
You will have the power to nurture and sculpt the minds of the next generation. Give them everything they require to be fit for success in their adult lives. Teaching them the values and principles as you see fit. This is actually quite a prosperous and noble route to take in the long run.
Not for me. In this world where society is literally powered by money and the economics keep collapsing exponentially i only date strong and independent career oriented women and want to build our platform to live on together. I want to live good, not suffer in poverty and depression. Life is extremely expensive.
Fortunately for women like you there will be enough men. At least in our current timeline. But strong and independent women are more prominent in the west ⬅ and that's where i want to relocate.
No it's not bad to want that. Although I highly suggest having an education and a degree in a trade such as nursing, dental hygienist, lawyer, etc you get the drift. Don't be solely dependent upon a husband to provide for you.
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Im in college rn so yea i definitely want education before marriage.
Good, glad to hear that. I was a stay at home mom myself and I loved every minute of it. I had a few side jobs that I could do at home to bring in extra money. I canned jams and sold them, along with eggs from my hens and I did hair. So that helped out a lot.
No but unless you’re with a rich guy you’d be smart to have all your kids within a few years if each other & then build a work career starting from when the kids are like 5th grade. Otherwise you will be hurting for money later in life if anything goes wrong with the marriage or even if your husband dies without a very big insurance policy.
It’s not bad, just keep in mind that most women with children still shoulder both a household and a real, paying job successfully so why not aim higher like they are?
Personally it’s my dream to get a PhD & produce new knowledge capital that will help society progress in the right direction. I want to continue to make art on the side & maybe adopt some advisory roles in economics and politics (which would be my fields of expertise) to the EU, lobbying groups or national governments.
I wouldn't say that was “bad” as an ultimate goal as there is nothing wrong with wanting to be a mother and a homemaker. Being the best mother you can is a complex , challenging and demanding choice but obvs very rewarding. The only point I would add to this is that a good measure of live experience is invaluable from a parenting perspective and can be really important when your kids come to age so that’s why the timing element in planning a family cN play a big role :) .. good luck though
Absolutely not! Women’s liberation is about allowing them to do whatever they want. So if they want to be a mother and homemaker, so be it! Let them pursue what they want.
The reason you are feeling unnecessary guilt is because feminism is NOT really about women’s rights. It’s about destroying traditional families.
No there's nothing wrong with having that goal. You have to do whatever is going to make you happy. I'd imagine being a great mum is about the most rewarding jobs you can do.
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Ah that's amazing. Rare to see someone agree with me nowadays
It's not a bad thing. It's what you want to do. It's nice to see that you're focussing on looking after a family, instead of a career. Very noble. I respect that, and I respect your future boyfriend/husband for taking on full responsibility for earning the money.
No, that’s my goal ultimately. I want a career and I also want to publish books because it’s my passion but I just know I’m meant to be a nurturer. That’s what I want the most out of life to be a wife and mother.
If that’s what you want to do, go for it! That’s currently what I do, and let me tell you, it certainly can be a challenge, but caring for your children and husband, and keeping up the house is in itself it’s own reward. 🙂
No that's perfectly natural just make sure you have lived traveled and enjoyed life before you do settle down and make sure you you have a career set up before hand so you have something to look forward to when your child has grown up
Not at all. You do you. My ultimate goal in life is to be a mother too but it doesn’t make me less strong of a woman, and I still understand and respect that it not every woman’s goal to be a mother.
my goal in life is to be a father and a husband, because i never had parents growing up, so i really want a family. Trust me i get it. Being a father/mother can be rewarding.
Great and wonderful professions. It requires skill and love. Many men like women just like you. It brought a lot of fun and joy. Don't let anyone tell you it isn't a job or profession.
Not really, different people have different goals. Some are ambitious, others are tame but you should always strive to achieve what you want. Others opinions be damned.
But men think the ambitious women are the better prospect now. I’ve actually been told women aren’t even allowed to be homemakers by a guy I was dating.
No, it’s a perfectly reasonable life goal. Be what you wanna be, man. I personally want to get into acting but that’s a pretty unrealistic goal so whoops//
Getting an education while doing acting on youtube is more realistic. There too many people moving to LA and trying to be an actress while wasting their time in min wage jobs.
@NatashaJ Yeah, that’s probably the best option. After all, if you’re already recording yourself in front of a camera when you do YouTube, you’ll be more comfortable with cameras and on top of that be able to show your talents more than the typical job, giving you more recognition overall.
Well and you have freedom to create whatever you want but don't get money hungry on youtube people like youtubers who are on youtube because they enjoy it and not there just to get paid.
Nothing wrong. a lot of guys prefer it that way. I might not be 100% on the same boat though
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Yes it's AWFUL. 1. Because it's not taking away jobs from men. 2. Because we feminists want you to focus on your career and not get married until your financially stable in your late 40s. This way all the guys you like won't like you and you'll have to settle. That's a GOOD thing.
3. Most importantly, its awful because feminists say so. Feminist ideology IS NOT To be questioned at all EVER. Just repeat the mantra "feminism is equality" until you forget your problems.
That's actually a good thing a very good thing... most "women" aka beasts of nature don't want that sort of thing nowadays... what you have is a very rare quality
That's completely fine... it's not that easy to be just like any other ambition... But I love it... I would love to marry a woman with such an ambition...
If it's what makes you happy then what's the problem? We dont live in a big Hollywood movie ya know everyone has his definition of happiness or " peace "
Absolutely not it is just fine to be what you want to be heck my ultimate goal is to be a father some day after that it would probably be a grandfather
Personally I wouldn't date or marry someone like that cause I want a partner who is ambitious like me. But the majority of guys would like a girl who wants to be homemaker
No it's not as long as you clean the house from head to toe and cook and do your job. As long as you don't lay around all day eating and watching soaps on TV all day not really doing anything
It’s actually beautiful and keeps the masculine and feminine dynamic alive. When men and women are functionally identical she ends up being unable to orgasm and he develops erectile dysfunction because there is no distinction, no differences, or sexual dimorphism. Studies have actually demonstrated when men assume what were feminine roles and vice versa the couples are unhappier, unsatisfied and have problems. Tradition is wisdom.
Well that’s a pejorative thing to say. The nuclear family has been the foundation for the success of western society, the more we move away from this, the more problems we are having. It’s a different goal not a lesser or basic one as were all different actually. Different temperaments etc. Some people are happier with a quieter life. Why should they feel pressure to do something just because you deem it better/more sophisticated or erudite if it makes them unhappy or depressed or undermines their peace of mind? Why should they live up to some kind of vain superficial ideal because people like you will only value what you see on the surface and cannot see their inner beauty or character? That’s all pretty shallow. Calling it a basic goal or desire is tantamount to looking down on it which is pride and it hurts people and makes them sad. Still if you only value women who conform with liberal ideologies as a deal breaker, you do not value her anyway. The masculine nature wouldn’t care about how well a woman competes under the masculine system of things.
Where did I state that I wanted a liberal women or that it's wrong to be a stay at home mum you keep feeding me I go I nither said was wrong or care to argue with I simply stated that a life goal to be a stay at home mum is basic I never said she should want more either as I also said if that's what you want cool but that don't mean I don't see it as a basic goal her being sad by this would be stupid as if i some random fool on the internet can shake the core of her life goal then she must not believe in that life goal
That is indeed bad as it shows lack of ambition and competitiveness. Everyone needs to make a home, with or without kids. It isn´t a full time occupation, just something you do in your spare time.
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