Would you like a girl who is overall kind, sweet, and thoughtful, but has a short temper and can easily become frustrated and grumpy at times?

[SnoodlePoodle]

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+1 y

Okay, maybe I should have clarified a bit. I didn't mean to imply that I meant women who were violent, dramatic, abusive, kept it locked inside, or who were a time bomb waiting to explode.

My question was focused on the girls who have good hearts and love their man or whoever is around them, but sometimes certain (obviously not all) things make them angry and they have to take a few minutes to calm down, or frustrations build and they just have to vent to someone who will listen and understand.

[Thrifty]

No one is perfect but why is she angry and frustrated? I'm so thoughtful that I would dive into the deep end and find psychological analysis for her behavior from academically accredited sources like books in the library or articles in published articles on legitimate news sources. Then I would try to understand what she's going through and try to be in her shoes. Then diagnose it as some kind of 'daddy issue' and treat you a little nicer and give you an extra portion of love just bc I know that you're not feeling your best when your frustrated or grumpy. When someone gets angry, their cells die and if I really love you then I will make sure that I can make you live at your best so that I can love you forever.

[SuperTroll]

I prefer not. My wife is unusual in that she's the only woman I dated who didn't have this quality much whatsoever. I mean she can get irritable sometimes, but her way of dealing with it is not one-sided.

She doesn't need me to "just listen" while she vents. She actually talks and engages in a conversation and doesn't mind me challenging her negative thought patterns, and she never escalates a conflict. And she's always quick to go from irritable to becoming humorous and start hugging and laughing while we talk and make fun of each other.

It's not that she lacks a temper whatsoever, but her way of dealing is very productive and based on real, two-way communication.

[SuperTroll]

What you described to me sounds like a very sensitive person, but sensitive in both the good and bad way: outwardly sensitive and empathetic to others in the good times, but also very thin-skinned and easy to offend and anger/upset. My wife is unusual in that she's extremely sensitive in a good way towards others, but super thick skinned and extremely difficult to offend/anger/upset (insensitive towards her self). It makes the relationship extremely peaceful for me.

[BrittBratt2416]

Who doesn't get frustrated or grumpy at times? That's something everybody goes through. As for short temper, that might be a bit of an issue for some people. I am a sensitive person, but not short tempered and if someone get's constantly angry and can snap at the drop of hat then it's going to cause a lot stress in the relationship or lead to a break up.

[dwiller943]

So basically me... But it's not a short temper.
It's more of "I tried to remain calm, but you kept provoking me".

[JoseJr]

I mean it isn't an attractive trait... like I dont think to myself "Oh I got to me some of that" but honesty it common in my opinion and I've gotten used to it... like someone said below its like a time bomb. I've personally think I've gotten pretty good at defusing said bomb. But if we just started dating and this started happening immediately then Im out... if we have dated a while and it just started happening then Im gonna try and defuse the situation and figure shit out.

[SpookyKat]

O hell yeah haha I think that's cute and it gives me all the more reason to piss her off a bit 😂 I'm bad I know. ... Deeeaaallll wittthh iiiiit 🖐️ she can take her frustration out on me in the bedroom 😏

[BronzeLion]

haha umm i suggest being careful about that because i pushed a girl over the edge and she turned into a horrible little bitch and then i left her

[SpookyKat]

😂 happens a lot indeed my man. Just don't give in to em, don't break, they come crawling back

[BronzeLion]

yeah haha i think you know when to sort of step back, i didn't lol i kept on going. I'll learn

[SpookyKat]

Lol that there is the real lesson to be learned, I see where your coming from, only takes once or twice. Good luck to ya 🙏

[Riggers]

So you mean a perfectly normal human being with normal human emotions?

[jl25sc]

That's a normal person. We are only human and some things that gets me frustrated will not get her frustrated. It's just a matter of communicating between one another and understanding the triggers and knowing how to deal with it. Some people need space and some need someone to listen and that's fine. Definitely not something to ruin a relationship over unless it's very specific thing about you and your partner. If it's general things like traffic, let it slide. Shit happens :)

[BronzeLion]

Unfortunately no, they are heartless and drop guys just like that. They appear kind and sweet but really it's just a passive aggressive trait, you actually don't know what lurks beneath the surface. Best way to filter these types is by antagonising right from the beginning. At school these types of girls get bullied and they call themselves victims and they wonder why they get health problems.

[aficionado]

I wouldn't mind, as long as she is able to eventually manage her emotions and calm down.

[OlderAndWiser]

"Sometimes certain (obviously not all) things make them angry and they have to take a few minutes to calm down, or frustrations build and they just have to vent to someone who will listen and understand." That describes most women.

[markscott]

I'd have a difficult time being around anyone who has a short temper. I don't want that kind of drama happening frequently.

[slatyb]

I can handle that if she owns her own behavior instead of going out of her way to make others miserable.

[crazy8000]

Sure.
Depends on what why how and how often and easy, the effect it gives.

[Grobmate]

It depends. If she can't control her emotions and is abusive... that's a deal breaker.

[up_64]

Depends. That feels like dating a timebomb. I'd be ok if when she gets pissed she just wants alone time. What I really hate is people that have short tempers and need to vent at the person.

[Browneye57]

You've just described every girl on the planet. But YOU'RE a snowflake, right? LOL

[skeetskeetskeet]

You mean a girl that acts like a bratty child half the day and does her best to ruin whatever it is we are doing that day? Sign me up

[monkeynutts]

Yeah I have fallen for girls that are bi polar. I will stick around.

[Secret6620]

This literally describes me lol🤦

[Cammy137]

Sounds like my girlfriend

[Hawky_]

Yup. She just sounds normal to me. We all do that

[John1217]

You just describe most females

[smg99]

Guilty as charged lol

[Clarke498]

Yeah, that sounds fine.

[deric_97]

Short temper is my deal breaker.

[Nachowedgie]

That's most women anyway

[WhoDatGuy]

Do I want a time bomb?

[BronzeLion]

lol so true

[BronzeLion]

@SpookyCat 😂 im not the only one look above

[BronzeLion]

@SpookyKat 😂 im not the only look above

[blythely]

Perhaps you misunderstand the word kind?

[scooogy]

Depends on what she'd do then

[ChefCurry]

Sounds like someone I know

[Furuok]

I love redheads the OOF is intense!

[Agem123]

Sounds like me😂

[Anonymous]

Nope, burn in hell