I read this question to my husband and jokingly he said "what are you stupid? NO." And laughed
But really though this is the first question he has actually answered when I read it to him. He said " I think it depends on the woman. And the situation. And that it can go both ways really, guys or girls. And just because someone lessons doesn't mean they have empathy. It's just being courtious. Unless they're just normally rude af. But he says he thinks most women have compation for men. And if someone is lacking empathy it probably has something to do with being fucked over previously by someone somehow (like his ex wife)
... But he think most men don't have empathy for women because most of them are just trying to get in their pants.." I mean he is a man but he has manors like crazy. He could be in a room alone and burp and still say "excuse me." And would stop and help a stranger in a heartbeat with no expectations of receiving anything in return, and would turn it down anyway. That's y I love him. He looks like a hard ass dickhead and gets judged regularly by his looks but is the nicest guy you could ever hope to come across when you need help.💞
the sheer amount of inceldom and misogyny in these comments is alarming to say the least. how empathetic someone is, man or woman, varies from person to person and that’s pretty much all there is to say.
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No. If we look at statistical data its pretty clear that women do not have any empathy for men, at least no innate empathy like men have for women. Some have learned how to empathize with men but for the most part they don't. Women have a four times greater in group bias then men i. e. women look more favorably on women then they do men and all else being equal a woman will always side with another woman.
If we look at our roles in society this is further shown to be the case. You cannot expect your husband to fight for you and protect you while caring about him, you cannot send your sons off to fight in wars and to die to protect you and your way of life and see them as you would see yourself (as mothers and wives of sparta would say to their husbands and sons "come back with your shield or on it (i. e. fight and survive, or die in battle, but they would disown you if you fled)). This is further shown in the burkenhead drill which says women and children should be evacuated first. This requires women to abandon their husbands and male children (over a certain age at least) to save themselves which women have historically done just that. You cannot see them as an equal, to empathize with them and leave them to die while saving yourself, you must prioritize yourself above them and thus see yourself differently then you see them.
70% of women surveyed stated they had a back up man i. e. a man who liked them that they kept around just in case their current relationship failed. 70% of all divorces are filed by women, the most sited reason being no fault (interestingly 60% of male initiated divorces, unlike for women, are due to infidelity on the part of the wife. This is about 20% of total divorces.). Women also do not marry "down" economically speaking i. e. you need to be able to provide for her if she is to marry you. That means that clearly she isn't going to empathize with you not having money, see your worth beyond those resources. This holds true for most every other aspect of male/female interactions as well.
The fact is if we look at the data and how women behave, they do not empathize with men, they are not capable of it. Does it suck? Sure, its pretty awful desiring a woman to care about you knowing she doesn't have the capacity to see you more then a tool (one she may be fond of but a tool none the less), but that is reality, we rarely get what we want.
To get to the bottom of this question, requires deep thinking.
Do men actually want empathy from women? Stoicism is an admirable trait in men. Other men respect it, and most women find it a good quality.
So with the best men, in society's eyes, are stoic, they actually rebuff any empathy from women, for the most part.
Are women capable of having empathy towards men? Yes of course. Does society reward that? Not really.
I have only touched the surface. Your question is too complex to really answer on here.
Many psychologists and philosophers believe there is no true altruism within the human nature; thereby altruism and eventual empathy are in fact self-preservation and selfishness motivated. The incentive of altruism is avoidance or fear and an ego defense mechanism. The altruism transition to empathy is the ability to step out of oneself and intellectually identify the thoughts, feelings, or state of another person. That is a stretch and very few male or female truly have that ability. Then, compound that with the gender differences of thoughts, emotions, and priorities such that true empathy is an almost insurmountable ability. Nope, unfortunately, >99% of couples are together as a mutual benefit arrangement such that empathy is only a theoretical word. Face the facts of life and live with it.
A question like this on a site where do many seem to just gender bash or assume, you'll get more answers from people with an agenda than the truth...
Some women are emphatic to men, some aren't... Some men are empathetic to women... Some people are empathic to ANYONE that deserves their empathy, regardless of gender... As it should be...
I think it depends. If the women likes you she will likely have empathy, but if it is a guy she doesn't know complaining or going through stuff she probably won't care.
For instance, most women don't really care about problems men face as men. They also don't often care about men being abused. At one point a man got his duck cut off by an ex and most women just laugh at it. They also have this idea that it is okay to hit men. Obviously, this is a generalization, but lots of women are like this, in some capacity
They're empathetic up to the point where a man will voice anything negative about his experiences with women. They'll get real defensive and start blasting things like "Who hurt you?" or "incel" and basically write you off as a misogynist. In that case, I don't think the issue is so much lack of empathy but inability to take criticism on behalf of your own gender. This is a particularly American/Anglophonic world problem, where women are largely convinced that they have a score to settle with men and hence they can't cede any ground to them in the war over righteous indignation.
The question tends to be very general and therefore tends to be stupid. Being empathetic or not is a very personal thing and is not always related to gender. Instead, showing emotions is extremely gender related. I was talking about this with my former therapist just a few days ago. The male is usually precluded from being able to show emotions as a child. Therefore he tends to show as much emotion as a road manhole. He is able to show the emotions he has been allowed to express, and therefore can primarily show anger. The female is shown the possibility of showing all emotions, normally except anger (in fact the number of passive aggressive women is very high).
Returning to a more precise answer. Women who are normally empathic tend not to be empathetic to men who don't allow them to be. Also there is a growing number of women who are not empathetic and will not be empathetic to anyone.
I think a lot of men are seeking sympathy and not empathy, and are confused about what they want. There is a huge difference between a woman empathising with and babying a man - lord how pissed some can get when you don't treat them like a kid but an adult.
We do. And as for those men who think we don’t, I don’t like or agree with that mindset but I understand it because there are some really horrible women out there. Those men were probably either hurt by those women or saw other men in their lives get hurt and therefore vilify our entire gender because of certain demon spawn bitches (which in all fairness, scorned women do the same thing).
Most women are in tuned with our emotions, there's not a single woman who has asked a man "what's wrong" and "let's talk about it". The truth is, a lot men just flat out don't like having to do "emotional talks" cause men handle shit differently. It's not always because society and women see men having emotions as being weak, sometimes it just men dealing with things their own way that aren't necessarily emotional.
I have empathy towards people in need that is sick and poor and hurt people.
I don't see as to why I should be empathetic towards men. Both men and women have problems with other gender when it comes to dating. It's not like men get periods very month and has to spend time being unproductive.
The men who say that some women don't care, need to pick better women who do.
Don't stick around with a woman whose not emotionally empathetic of your feelings guys. There out there!!
Yes! A lot of girls do, but sadly a lot of guys either act bitter, thinks it's girly or childish, etc. And we get hurt. Then if we end up bitter or resentful because of it, not all the same We're Men hating. It's crazy.
Far less than they do for anyone or anything else in existence, including any animals (bar insects and slugs/snails, perhaps?) and items of their own clothing. In the eyes of women, we're just objects, items, to be possessed and to bestow possessions upon them, or to be ignored/reviled as they see fit. Nothing more.
Women have minimal empathy toward men, even their own sons. Women do not tolerate weakness, failure, or distress, in a man of any kind. Look at how many women divorce their husbands once their husband are diagnosed with cancer and you will see what women truly are.
Not at all, especially if they have daddy issues.
Let's see, when pregnant my girl told me it prolly isn't even mine...
Just to throw a low blow.
Told me my feelings are irrelevant.
Never once has went out of her way to tell me she loves me.
Depends on the woman , a lot of women do not ( esp feminists , they outright hate men ) , and have far more empathy for their own gender , however the " media " and other societal influences , in the Western countries anyway , do encourage women to look down on men as lesser beings.
Independent minded , self motivated women , tend to have more empathy towards men specifically , and these ladies can be a treasure to have in our lives.
Its not just women that have little empathy for men. Its men as well. We treat our own gender as if it were disposable.. Its not a man or woman thing, its a society thing.
Women certainly have empathy for men. The problem is that the more often situations come up where she feels empathy for you, the less she respects you as a man. Also, the less severe the situation, the more she'll see you as a child instead of a grown man
If I'm being completely honest, I'd say very few women really have empathy towards men.
Some of it isn't really their fault. Women are just vastly different from men. Why would you expect a woman to understand a man's perspective or his experience when men and women are 2 worlds apart?
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