Why do girls seek male validation in all the wrong ways and places?

Puppystarfish23
I know im no one but i really want to help girls on here from my own past mistakes. I see so many young girls on this site sexulising themselves on here and posting selfies desperate for mens validation purely based on their looks.

Im gonna speak from my own personal experience from when i was abit younger on here on my old account. Please don't judge me im only talking about this so other girls can relate and see why what they are doing is so bad for their mental health and self worth.

Long story short when i was 19, i fell madly in love for the first time with a who broke my heart lots of times and made me feel like i was nothing. Before i met him, i was very shy, modest and insecure. For a while he made me feel good about myself and my confidence sky rocketed but as soon as I'd finished with him it my confidence levels were at zero.

I needed to feel validated again. I told my story about this boy on here on my old account and quickly a guy appeared in my dms. He started off as a friend but then he'd say stuff like this guy who rejected me was "stupid, blind, crazy" etc.

He started telling me i was beautiful and made me feel good again. Soon he started trying to sext with me. I didn't want to do it but in the end he convinced me. I only really did it for him because he'd make me feel good so i thought i should return the favour.

Time went by and things got a lot more romantic between us. He started pushing me into doing cam stuff after me saying no and that i felt uncomfortable many times but he said if he didn't he'd stop speaking to me so i did it because i didn't want him to leave as i was so lonely and i actually thought this was the only kind of relationships i could have with men. Soon i just became his sex object with no feelings to him. We'd fall out all the time and go months without speaking because deep down i knew what i was doing was wrong.
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Other boys came along and i started doing similar with them. Id do whatever they told me to do even if I'd said no a couple times before. I just wanted to feel good about myself. But afterwards i just felt dirty and disappointed im myself leading me to hate myself more. Eventually it all got too much and a good friend saved me and he doesn't even know about it. He made me feel good in different ways. He'd tell me i was funny and was a kind person and but i needed to move on from the boy
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who broke my heart and find someone new who made me happy. Eventually i did and two years on i couldn't be more happier with my boyfriend. He respects me and tells me he likes my attitude and that i always make him smile as well as making me feel beautiful without taking my clothes off
Why do girls seek male validation in all the wrong ways and places?
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