I think my lunch date ghost me?

[scott04sa22]

My very first date at 35M is next week with someone I know for a few years. Ever since she said yes to me a few weeks ago she's been ghosting me... no fears. I haven't sent a lot of texts to her maybe just one From last week ago but no response. Im thinking about texting her today and asking her if the date is still on for next week or wait until the day before our date. when I ask her out a few weeks ago it felt right...

[Jacqp]

I'm sorry that happened to you. She sounds like a bitch. Some people are afraid to speak their minds. Sounds like she said yes so it would not be awkward. I wouldn't waste my time on a game player like that buddy. Move on and count your blessings the girl would have been a train wreak.

[scott04sa22]

I'll wait after my birthday then I'll let her go...

[Jacqp]

Why hurt yourself further? but ok man... your choice. I'm telling you the girl is not interested

[scott04sa22]

I know her since 2017. We shared our ups and downs and also shared are times together. Also people do change over time. Also there's lots of possible reasons why she's ghosting me. She has till this Saturday if she doesn't answer by then. then I'll know she's not interested in me.

[Jacqp]

Ok... wish u the best

[In_Trance]

I wouldn't panic quite yet. I agree with the thought of texting her or calling her a day beforehand just to confirm

[scott04sa22]

Ok. If the date doesn't happened and if she doesn't respond. Then I'll automatically assumed a couple things.

1. She lead me on

2. She got into a relationship with somebody else before or after me.

3. She already has a boyfriend.

4. She lost interests with me.

5. She's too busy with life

If she said yes then why the ghosting. If she wasn't interested in me the first place then why she can be honest with me and rejected me then ghosting me...

[scott04sa22]

I called her... She sort of picked up then she hanged up.

[In_Trance]

Not looking good. At this point, I'd walk away. It wasn't the right one. If you make an effort, the right one will come along. Keep your head up.

[scott04sa22]

Yeah. From what I noticed it's not looking good either. Also from what i notice my dating in 2020 really sucked. I also put a lot of effort into her too so thats also not a good sign. If the date doesn't happen then after the holidays I'm going to heal and let her go. Let myself know it's not me it's her.

[scott04sa22]

Also there's hardly any good ones out there anymore...

[In_Trance]

There are however a lot of learnings from this and every person you connect with. Those lessons are what you use in the future

[scott04sa22]

Yeah but I'm going to quit dating though. I've been looking for over 20 years. All the disappointments and heartbrokens is enough for me.

[In_Trance]

Lay low for a while. Get back at it when you're ready

[scott04sa22]

I will.. it's going to take some time again.