My ex said she’s done, but won’t give me my hoodie back?

[OldboyJon]

Note we haven’t been dating for 13 months what triggered this argument was I sent her some pics on insta of some guys pic she was liking cuz a few months ago she sent me pics of a girl pic I liked and I only liked girls pictures bc she liked an ex boyfriend pic... but before we argued she told me she was done I gave her a hoodie of mine to have so she wasn’t alone n could feel like I was there it’s been 3 days I’ve texted her 2 twice apologizing and she still hasn’t replied or even offered to give me my hoodie back I don't know what she doing with it cuz she told other ex’s to come get their stuff she’s blocked me on Instagram and Snapchat but not tumblr and Twitter but she barley uses tho anyways she didn’t block my number which is odd cuz she blocked me when I liked the girls pictures and she was suppose to be sending me a ring and some pictures she took for me while she being deployed but is she actuallly done? Or is she just mad? She deploying out the country jan 1 should I give her space?

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1. What is she doing?
2. control of what so is she actually done?
3. I’ve known her for 2 years
4 she suffers from depression and sucidal thoughts
5. Yea I noticed she doesn’t really treat me the way I treat her
Well she’s deploying out the country for 7months next week so it will be easier I guess

[Ozanne]

Do you really want that hoodie back? It's been with her all this time and *now* you want it back. If it was good enough to give away then it should be an afterthought and not a tool to try and contact her and get her to talk to you.

It doesn't sound like this was very healthy for a while now. Too much to learn, and both of you weren't in the right place for each other. You apologized so you should be at peace with it now. Or are you expecting that any apology deserves and answer or acknowledgement? - because it doesn't. People shouldn't be apologizing for methods hoping the other person will respond and give you what you need. Giving the apology is what you needed, and you did that.

Let her and the hoodie go and just allow this to be something in life you learn from so you can have something better with the next girl you meet.

[OldboyJon]

I mean I only gave her the hoodie like 2 weeks ago or a week ago when we had sex and it was a hoodie she still uses in some of her profile pictures so I gave it to her to wear when she’s alone at home and when she deploys so it feels like I’m there with her but since she’s done she doesn’t need it anymore, and I don’t think I’m
Getting this ring from her she asked for my address cuz she said she was mailing it to me for Christmas and I’d get it some day after the 20th. I was in the right place to be with her but she’s been doing other stuff and I found out about a lot and she doesn’t communicate well and I do a lot of communication and she thinks I don’t listen to her and that she’s lying about stuff I did apologize twice and she hasn’t replied back, I don’t understand why she would block me on social media but not my number

[OldboyJon]

Like if I block her on social media she’ll get mad and say fine or that she can’t check up on me to see how I’m doing

[Ozanne]

Then just don't block her. There's no reason for all of that, really - unless she's pestering you. Just leave the hoodie alone. Get a new one. Even if you got that one back, every time you see that one, you're going to think of this gong show. I'm not sure who gave who the ring now. I thought you gave it to her? But she's the one who gave it to you? These are gifts. They're write-offs as soon as you give them up. The only reason you'd be giving them back is because they have no meaning for you. If she asks for it back, do a deal at that point and say you want your hoodie back. Otherwise, this is all just stuff - and non-important stuff, really.

I just want to say I particularly don't like the melodrama of her "if I live that long". I get that she's being deployed, but it's so cryptic, like she's looking for your reaction and not for good reasons. In the rest of all those messages her tone and words were very clear: she doesn't care anymore. So that there should be what you go with. Let her not care anymore. If you guys ever do work things out down the road, then good luck, but for now, I'd be wishing her well as she leaves and let that be that - for now.

[btbc92]

1. She's wrong for what she is doing
2. She just wants control
3. Next time, do not get too emotionally invested in a person you don't know well
4. You two do not need to be together. You both act immature is being spiteful and that whole relationship is toxic. Why care if she wants to be with you again? She is somebody who is not respecting you. And that is because she sees you too sensitive. That is not your fault. But that you lack boundaries. You caught her doing things that may warrant cheating. And then she does the same to you. Why continue in that relationship?
5. Just leave her alone. It's over.

Most importantly. Please move on.

[OldboyJon]

1. What is she doing?
2. control of what so is she actually done?
3. I’ve known her for 2 years
4 she suffers from depression and sucidal thoughts
5. Yea I noticed she doesn’t really treat me the way I treat her
Well she’s deploying out the country for 7months next week so it will be easier I guess

[btbc92]

1. She took your hoodie right without giving it back? Even though you gave it to her that's still not right if you personally ask for it back.
2. She was control of every relationship that she's in that's all it is.
3. If you known her for two years then you would have known this is how she is. You decided to get into that kind of relationship with her so you can't complain how it ended.
4. That's no excuse. That's why she needs to be more focused on getting herself together instead of a relationship. As much as I go through that myself, even I understand that better. I wouldn't even use that as an excuse.
5. Well, that is up to you.

[cth96190]

If it cost you only a hoodie to dodge that bullet, consider yourself fortunate.

[NYCQuestions1976]

This seems to be about a lot more than just a hooded sweatshirt.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Thanks for Most Helpful. 👍

[girlzruleboyzdrool]

Sometimes you have to cut your losses on material things, when you're in a relationship.
It'll be hard but it sounds like you guys already have too many problems.

Relationships aren't like that

Neither of you should have worries about other people. So you haven't met your match yet and neither did she

[Walamagicc]

Honestly with how she is being irrational about the situation, I would just cut all ties with her and forget about the hoodie. She doesn’t seem to own up much to her actions anyway. Okay so she liked a guy’s picture and you got upset, instead of her just apologizing, she wants to just go on a full blown rant about it instead of just saying sorry? She is not even worth the time of day.

[KingdomForAKiss]

Seems like you dodged a bullet with this one...
But girls stealing hoodies seems to be a common occurrence throughout history of time/existence of hoodies.

[Jonn123]

Screw the hoodie, be glad you dodged a bullet. You can always buy a new one.

[Anonymous]

Forget her ass and buy another goddamned hoodie!!!