Should I give back a hoodie my ex gave me?

[livinglovinglife9]

we are mutually breaking up, although he has shown more signs of being hurt than I am. I will be seeing him Tuesday. I found some of his belongings I plan on giving back to him when I see him, and I was wondering if I should give him back this marine hoodie he bought me? he has a marine hoodie I would always take from him and wear, so he bought me my own. I was never in the marines and considering we’re no longer together I’d feel weird if I kept it. I don’t want to throw it away because he paid for it, he can give it to a family member or something. I don’t know. what do you think?

[TheKingKunta]

Would you ask a friend for a hoodie you bought her after the friendship is over?

Hell naw!
So what that is different than a romantic relationship?

That was a gift and not a loan item.
If you don't want to keep it (you shouldn't) to help your healing process.
Then:
If he had money/wealth, donate it to a charity.
If he doesn't then return it to him.

Don't give it to someone close to you because Everytime you see the dam bootie it will remind you of the ex.

😉 You welcome

[livinglovinglife9]

he said he’ll keep it. thanks.

[TheKingKunta]

Did you ask him about it? Or he demanded for it?

[TheKingKunta]

Cool thanks for MHO

[Prosi]

If u decided to leave him and erase him permanently from your life its good to give them back... If u want him in ur life as frnd to continue hold it with u (u"ll be keep on thinking about him whnevr u see tht hoodie)... Choice is yours

[livinglovinglife9]

yea I’m pretty much done. I don’t harbor any negative feelings towards him, but I definitely don’t want a future with him. him and I are both anti social, so I highly doubt we’ll remain friends. on what occasions do ex’s even remain friends, I mean it is possible, but when you’re as socially awkward as him and I are I don’t see it happening.

[Prosi]

Thn its good to give him.. but it hurts him.. so its btr send it to him without seeing him..

[livinglovinglife9]

I’m seeing him tomorrow, it’s been planned for like five days now. that’s when I’m giving it to him.

[Prosi]

Go ahead... Give it thn but please don't hurt becoz it feels bad whn he gets sure he gonna ask the reason.. and what if he ask return me everything "whch i gave u"..(like kisses.. etc)?

[ZiZi_Bell]

Honestly I think you answered your own question.
If you feel weird keeping it then give it back to him. If he tells you to keep it and you still feel weird donate it to Goodwill or something (NOT Salvation Army).

[livinglovinglife9]

he said he’d keep it. thanks.

[ZiZi_Bell]

You're welcome.

[TheKingKunta]

Can I ask why goodwill is better than the salvation army?

[ZiZi_Bell]

Well they both have a tendency of throwing out clothes instead of putting them on the shelves. But Salvation Army is known for supporting causes that hurt the LGBT+ community. They support politicians who are against gay marriage, and are an outspoken pro-life anti-choice organization. They have specifically refused to accept donations from gay people in the past. And if I recall correctly, they have also spent money that they earned from selling donations to support anti-LGBT movements.

[TheKingKunta]

That is a straight up dick move. I knew it anything that has "army" in the title is not good. I had 5 boxes of cloths that need to donate by the end of the month but I couldn't decide an organization to donate then too. I have heard Goodwill pockets most of the money and doesn't even give to charity as they say they do. But I didn't wanted to blindly trust the salvation army either so I have been holding the boxes for 2 weeks and don't really know where to donate them.

[ZiZi_Bell]

Take them to a shelter. Do a search and find a homeless shelter or a soup kitchen or a halfway house. They will take anything and you know it will go to people who need it.
Honestly my comment above was simply because she just had a hoodie that she didn't want to keep.
But if you're specifically trying to donate something, take it directly to the source.

[TheKingKunta]

Not sure it they will accept all of it.
It is mostly cloths from ages 1 -10 and lots of toys. But I will give them a call anyways.
Thanks for the heads up.

[DoctorWize]

He bought the hoodie for you. You only. There is no need to return it unless you don't want it to be part of any memories you shared with him.

[DoctorWize]

I want to inform you firsthand that this break up could be only temporary. You never know if he will come back or when you are both together you don't sit down and talk it out.

[livinglovinglife9]

even though it’s a mutual break up. I’m not taking him back.

[livinglovinglife9]

and I asked him. he said he’ll take it back, so yeah.

[hsshannah96]

I got rid of most of the clothes (and even undergarments) I wore when I was with my exes. Definitely helps you move on

[Logorithim]

I've never experienced or done this, and I wouldn't do it, TBH. Donate it to charity if you don't want it around.

[livinglovinglife9]

I’ve never done this either, never had a mutual break up either. it’s just an idea. I’d rather ask what he wants to do with it since he spent money on it. probably like $30 but still I know how he feels about the marines & his time enlisted

[Logorithim]

I'd personally be somewhat offended if an ex did that, but I can't speak for him, of Course.

[livinglovinglife9]

it’s not being given in an offensive way.. why would I keep a marine corps hoodie if I was never in the marine corps and the only reason I wore it was to symbolize our relationship, which is over?

[egonumb]

Like hell he would omgawd he won't give it to anyone he will watch it smell it and be in misery for a while and then actually throw it or keep it as a memory.

[livinglovinglife9]

lol that’s his business.. and he’s keeping it, so good for him whichever he chooses

[egonumb]

Yeah of course

[Arctic_Fox]

If you feel weird keeping it, why wouldn’t you?