Does It Bother You When People Underestimate You?

[Citizenkirk]

I think that it used too frustrate me, that there was always someone trying too hold me back, because they couldn't stand too see an idiot like me succeed, or some well meaning person by determined too protect me from experiencing failure at all costs, for I couldn't possibly survive the disappointment of not accomplishing what I set out too do, so better too burst my bubble quickly, and permanently. There was only one problem. Everytime life knocked me flat on my ass, I forgot too stay down, or it never occurred too me in the first place that something terrible would happen to me if I kept trying.
"You'll make a fool of yourself, and you will embarrass all of us."
Embarrass all of who? You people who only care about how I look too those outside our little human cesspool of a community, who are only enraged by my independent thought process that enables me too make a fool of myself on my terms, instead of yours? That you want me too show you the respect you deny me, your parents denied my parents, because a lonely worm like me has the audacity to pop it a high price on my respect of you? That you show the same respect of me, that I show myself?
Why should they? I was slow, stupid, gullable. I didn't taunt them back, didn't pick a fight, didn't knuckle under and become a punk, too be spared abuse, but also denied dignity, and the right to feel any kind of pride at all. Not an option, because I'm stubborn, stupid, slow, afraid.
They had the afraid part right, because my fear of disappointing my mother dropped with the last of my front teeth, and day after day, 5 teeth taken for every one of mine, suspension after suspension, I made a mess of the new ringleader of the day, all the while taking my lumps from his buddies, as they kicked my butt, while I pulverized their leader's face with bloody knuckles and a bleading scalp.
0 where am I going with this within the past 5 years I've had an epiphany that's the ones that abuse me the worst maybe very well be the ones who most desperately need my help and the resentment I saw directly to me may have been here of being left behind left behind why because I was too stupid too slow too dim-witted to know that I have limitations I was so stupid that it never occurred to me that I couldn't accomplish something if I said my mind to it therefore I accidentally did I ended up accomplishing everything I set my mind to and why because I'm too stupid to know that I can't do it so I did it. with you stop wasting time telling yourself all the things you can't do focusing on all your limitations you'll be amazed at all the things you can accomplish you can do a lot worse than just be as dumb and slow and then what it is me because when you are there's no limitations to what you can accomplish when You reach for the Stars we're here on Earth.

[WhiteSteve]

I don’t know if it bothers me as much as it motivates me, and I guess it’s probably pretty isolated to sports. I decided to learn to play hockey last year, or I guess about a year and a half or so ago, in terms of the decision. It was around Thanksgiving, and I told my family about it, I think to kind of cement the idea, like if I made a thing about it, now I can’t procrastinate or back out. I think everyone was pretty supportive (besides my dad grumbling about the cost involved lmao), except my one cousin, who’s the other athlete of the family, was kind of negative about it. He’s in his early 50s, I guess he works with some guys who play in the beer leagues, and some of them complain about some guys being to gung-ho and running them into the boards when they’ve got work the next morning. I was joking that I’d likely be one of the too gung-ho guys, haha, and he was just kind of shaking his head and wincing at my enthusiasm, it was kind of deflating. Like just say “good luck” and keep it moving, you know? I was trying to explain that this was just an unfulfilled dream I’m trying to realize before my body is too old for it, and he’s just laughing like “I think you missed it, bro.” So honestly, now I can’t wait to get my game together enough to play in a league, and hopefully be fairly successful, so I can show up to Thanksgiving with my chest out, haha.

[LEETSBEREAL]

It used to depress me actually, really badly but then it motivated me.

The thing about anger is it gives you a lot of energy and motivation if you channel it the right way. Its important not to waste it! Do something with it.

Without it I wouldn't be as powerful as I am today. I probably would of gone in the opposite direction. It's not so hard to go the opposite direction.

People always judged me on my size and the fact I didn't talk much. That pissed me off. I did a total 180. I grew angry of people thinking I was in the same category as most females my size and weight.

I worked hard, trained night and day.

The next time someone tried to victimize me, put me in pain. I showed them my own definition of these two words. It's very satisfying to see someone instantly realize they were, so very wrong.

Never judge a book by its cover you haven't read any pages yet, not even the back cover. Hell you don't even know my title so why is it ok to make assumptions with 0 information? Don't assume you know some one just by looking at them. It could get very costly.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think a sign of an extremely successful future is the ability to overlook insults and the courage to break social norms. I knew one girl who was able to forgive insults and she married a surgeon, I can’t remember whether he was studying brain surgery or heart surgery but her husband was a very smart guy. I knew another person who could forgive insults and they got accepted into Ivanka Trump’s sorority party while studying at Wharton. And I know a guy who was able to break social norms and he graduated from two different Ivy League schools in America and married an Ivy League surgeon and he is only 5”3 tall!

[ohshee]

Omg yessssss,, lol well kinda i have alwzys played this game with my self when something like that happens I just got to shake my head like I'm agreeing with what they did or what they said and I just think to myself this person is not going to really go there,, really,, because sometimes I like to see how far they're going to really go or how far they want to take me,,, or how many lies they're going to tell me or how many lies they think they have gotten away with it's amazing sometimes watch out a human mind works,,, it also discussed me watch and see how far people will try to take you when all they would have to do is be straight up and say hey I really need help in order to do this or with this instead of just one lie after the other and then try to play dumb or just straight-up lied to you tell me what you want to hear and then if you do say something they swear up and down they didn't say it so sometimes I don't know what better just thinking front right there and their are just act dumb like they're getting away with something or let them think that

[Jjpayne]

I actually have it both ways 😂 people like to over estimate me. And you can say well that's a good thing right! Only, expectations are higher and outcomes are predicted before they happen. To put it this way, I've been told I've had a disability my whole life and while it's good to fight against that idea, others tell me to simply ignore that I have a disability, simply because it's not true. To say that my struggles are weakness or laziness. So over estimating my abilities but expecting a certain result rather than asking what is he capable of doing. The other side is, is it possible for you to be independent, should you simply be on disability support your whole life because you simply can't handle it? I don't think that way myself but that's the other side of this. I put myself in the more possible camp with exception that I need to prove to myself that I can do it, rather than simply assume that I can. I need to give myself a chance rather than set myself up for disappointment. Let me earn my confidence that I can do it rather than assume that I can or cannot do it

[MCheetah]

People always look at my height, weight, and general ugliness and assume I must be some Homer Simpson level dimwit they can take advantage of. I used to really get bothered by this and seek to change people's first impressions and opinions of me. Then I started using it against them to manipulate and/or gaslight them for fun (in a playful way, not to hurt anyone). I usually end up manipulating way more people than I'd expect. They think I'm dumb and oafish and easily taken advantage of? Okay, let them think that. It's usually women who think like this about me slightly more often, like 60% of the time. Meanwhile, I just end up keep doing my thing in secret, and not taking credit for saving their asses from the fire or unemployment. I kind of like being the silent hero, now.

[Jaximus-Lion]

I love it when they do that. I have a quote of mine that goes like this (Go ahead and underestimate me, lets see how much fun that is). Some bosses at my old jobs really underestimated me and looked down on me, it was hilarious that some has lost their position of being the head of the company, some got in real trouble and they lost their job completely. I never talk too much, i never talk about the things i don't know about, i keep the facts close to me and when i need them, i strike when needed, specially when some people really thinks am weak and can't stand for my self but this is the joy of the whole thing. What about you?

[Lynx122]

No it doesn't. Most of my life I dealt with people telling me something was not a big deal and expecting me to just easily deal with it when something was hard for me. When someone underestimates me I can just show them what I can do but when people expect too much of me it sucks.

People see me and think big strong man and automatically expect a certain amount of productivity etc. And then when I didn't live up to that they had this look in their eyes like "are you even a man?". That's pretty much what my entire work life was like before I got diagnosed and it also happened outside of work. It wasn't very fun. I don't like letting people down it's not a great feeling. I like it more when people have no expectations and I do well. 😊

I've never been insulted when someone has low expectations I just see it as an easy win for me and I needed those in the past.

I feel like we've had the opposite experience in quite a few areas 😛

[JackSmy]

I am ALWAYS underestimated, and I play it that way, on purpose!
Grandpa always said, "Don't show your hand too soon, in the game, you're sure to lose!"
Besides, how else can I keep my reputation as a "miracle worker"?
"Under-promise, and Over-deliver!"

[Siren777]

No not anymore. When I was younger, i wanted to prove them wrong. Right now i won't waste energy necessarily. Proving someone wrong is showing you actually care about they think and you value their opinion of you. So no not anymore. My energy can be used for something more important.

[Brendlolita2]

Yes, it does. This topic is kind of my weakness because I know that I'm not that intelligent and that other people may see that too and therefore treat as a doormat even without knowing me. It sucks. I don't know what to do about it and how to get over it but it just gets on my nerves because I then start to underestimate me too.

[Tylermassengill]

No not really unless it’s something like them refusing to accept my help with something because of my age, just because I am a teenager doesn’t mean that I don’t know anything. Then again it’s like I don’t even know what I am capable of until you really upset me or something like that and I go full force kind of scaring myself with what I was able to accomplish lol.

[Lliam]

Not really. It seldom happens except in political discussions. But in those cases, people discount me because they are incapable of listening to information that conflicts with their beliefs.
In other types of cases where action is required, more often than not, people's faith in me gives me the confidence to do things that I don't feel confident about. And I usually succeed. I can be pretty tenacious and bold when needed.

[Nxtawm]

Not rlly, it's not like they're putting me down or downplaying my good points. Essentially, they just don't know me well as a person. They'll change their opinion once we interact more, or if they are someone who downplays my good points then i still don't care. That's their opinion and I don't think i'd bother with someone negative like that.

[Thatoneasian]

Definitely. I’m a grade higher than most people my age and they always say things like,”Well your still our age. You probably have better grades but I’m more mature than you. I’m younger than you but I’m more mature.” I honestly don’t think of myself as immature, they just say that bc of my personality. But when people say that they’re more mature it gets me mad bc who are you to evaluate that?

[Belgie]

Nah. I kinda like it. I like to be seen to exceed other peoples expectations.

What annoys the ever loving fuck out of me, is when people who know me (or should know me) think the worst of me - don't give me any benefit of the doubt.

[not_a_twinkie]

I don't care when people underestimate me, I see it as the perfect weapon to lay low and get information and a great chance to surprise the shit out of them. I care when people patronize me, then I get annoyed

[boombastik]

Sometimes if it's someone very close to me but for the most part no. I'm very quiet, sometimes shy & sometimes ballsy, and purposely reserved to keep my competition at bay, always guessing and playing their hand too weak, therefore slipping up. Like Sun Tzu says, when strong, pretend to be weak.

[loves2learn]

It used to bother me. My perspective has changed with age. This is true for a lot of things in my life.

[ShadezMcgee]

It used to, but now I just make it a point to prove them wrong through my actions and them eventually telling me down the line that they had pegged wrong.

[Gwenhwyfar]

I’m like a snake coiled in the grass. Sometimes I want to be underestimated.

[RolandCuthbert]

Yeah, I don't really care. In my field when you underestimate someone, you get embarrassed really quickly.

[TonyMetal___86]

I don't really care cause i know what i am and what i'm capable of 😌
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Hurray for the JAMBALAYA 😂

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[douride2]

It used to bother me when someone would underestimate me. Now I can't be bothered with what others think. That first saying in your post pretty much describes me. So don't ever underestimate me.

[Platy]

It does. I am really lazy and don't do anything. But if sb underestimates me or insults me for being not good at a particular job (and only if I feel underestimated or insulted) then I make sure I do batter job than anyone else.

[bolverk]

No it doesn't bother me when people underestimate me, I enjoy the looks when they realise that they are very wrong and they are about to get their arses kicked, intellectually speaking.

[Wiredone]

Nope. It doesn't bother me at all. I love it when I hear them in the end telling me that they underestimated me. It gives me a big ego boost. That's the best way to earn respect

[Carlz_051]

Sometimes it does, yes. But it makes victory all the more sweeter.

[Coulis]

No because it's easier to get thebupper hand when they have their guard down. I love it.

[Myk13]

It never really bothered me. I know better. They can’t help what their simple little minds don’t know.

[shade_19]

people underestimate me when i want to work with them
I work with different people and prove the first ones wrong and don't turn back to them.

[bannacookies]

Sometimes, if it's in the work environment, yes. But I just try to be myself and show them I am more than what they originally assumed.

[Glasgow55]

Like you, it used to bother me a lot. Still does a little, I guess, because it's kind of insulting. But, as you say, it's their loss, so screw them all. Stay safe.

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

People hardly ever give me the time and days soon nobody ever gets a chance to underestimate me

[AdithyaR]

I'm not bothered, my actions and results eill speak enough.

[loveslongnails]

No, actually, I prefer it !! I like seeing the look on their face when I blow them away!

[DanaeAdam5]

Yes but then I think about the satisfaction that I will get when I prove them wrong.

[Massageman]

Not if they are in a position to be "above" me and deserve to be so. If not, then, yeah, it bugs me a bit.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yeah it bothers me when people Underestimate me and others around me whose getting the same treatment

[humanearth]

Nope, it would teach them a lession not to mess with me

[JEndigoBleue]

Nope. I love the look on their faces when they realize the "Aha" moment.

Touche'!

[Tstrbrainer]

Yeah, people underestimate me or they have certain assumptions. I don't really care, there are both pros and cons

[COMMODOREII]

I love who you are. I can see us hanging out a lot. Mainly because i love being around people who are smart and fun. I refuse to let you go. 😄💞💞💞

[SirJohn42]

Yes it really hurts me. Especially within the first few minutes of meeting them.

[locutus9999]

I dont get bothered... they do it at theyre own risk... I usually get the last laugh.

[Unit1]

Not at all. It'll bite harder afterwards.

However people tend to overestimate how much money I have (or they overestimate my privileges, that comes with it).

[CrazyGirl2]

Yes! I am an attractive young woman with blonde hair, and I’m sick of people assuming that I’m “ditzy”, an “airhead”, or just “dumb”, when in truth I have an IQ of 149!

[Pulseofsulfur]

I honestly laugh when certain people underestimate me. Because they assume that I don't know what they're saying and when I give my two sense I just feel prideful of myself

[collie22]

on not really i don't really care unless its my Dad but he wouldn't do that i'm guessing

[msc545]

People rarely do that with me, but when they do, it's fun to surprise them a bit.

[the_sinner]

Not anymore.
It doesn’t matter to me anymore.
I just need to keep on believing in myself.

[hellacray]

I think it's good if people underestimate me. It just means they'll let their guard down.

[Snakeyes7]

It depends on who it is. If it’s some random dude I don’t care but if it is someone it is imperative to impress then it would bother me greatly.

[Therisinghero12]

Pumps me up actually, and it's a good spot, means that you can either pleasantly surprise them or easily meet their expectations

[SHREYASH007]

see it is not a problem if they under estimate you , it is a problem if they over estimate you.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

No I just think, “test me... I encourage this”. A deterministic end will find you below

[Dontaaa]

When it's from someone that I consider a "higher up" it does.

[imfreeze95]

No it makes my victory sweeter and it more gum to rub peoples face in it

[Hanoi_Jane00]

No. They never see me coming that way

[MillenniumBill]

No. It gives me an edge.

[888theGreat]

people over estimate me. Expect no mistakes. Always hold me to higher standards

[Waldoe]

I prefer if they do, them I surprise them when I WIN

[Anonymous]

No I love surprising mother fkers. 🥳