New girlfriend gets upset easily, what can I do to help?

[Anonymous]

Me and my new girlfriend have a slight long distance relationship (bout an hour drive) and she seems to get upset easily, she rarely gets upset with me but more with other things like work or her family. Sometimes she won't tell me what the problem is but I can tell something is wrong just by the way she is texting. What can I do to help, since I can't always be there in person to hug her or things like that.

[CuddlyCarla]

The thing is, it doesn't seem like she's dealing with it on her own, it seems like she's acting out and it's affecting you and your happiness, too, so you do have a right to know what's going on. A temper is not attractive nor is not being able to work through your feelings constructively or talk about them with someone who care about. If you drive an hour just to hang out with her and then have to put up with that, she should be willing to at least budge a little and explain what's going on. Just ask her what's wrong, if she says 'nothing' or brushes it off, bring the conversation back to it and let her know that it's obvious something is wrong and you care about her, don't want to see her upset, and that seeing her upset makes you upset and you want to know what's going on. Tell her open communication is important to you in the relationship and if you are both going to be together, she needs to communicate. Be careful though, anger isn't usually a good sign in a partner. Especially in the beginning of a relationship, people usually go the other way and try to put their best face forward first. Just remember that the patterns people establish in the beginning of relationships set the tone for the rest, so if you put up with it now and continue to endlessly let her seethe in silence, it's only going to get worse and more out of control. Expect more from your partner, it's a good thing.

[evangelista]

That is real sweet! you should tell her that, tell her when she is sad your sad so that she can start opening up to you when she need or feels like it although...the are things in our life we think it best if we went through it alone.

Or maybe she is starting to trust you and is not sure about talking about certen things, you guys are together for how long now?, becase it could also be a factor maybe she's learning to trust you and you shouldn't worry to much because it passes!

[Anonymous]

Everyone has their own way of dealing with problems. I know I usually don't talk to other people if I have a problem. I just deal with it on my own. If she's the type of person that deals with stuff on her own then I wouldn't worry too much about it. I guess you can just let her know that if she really wants someone to talk to that you're willing to listen and help her to the best of your ability.