How come women don't have the same urges as men when seeing the attractive opposite sex?

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When men see women whether she's sexy or not and our hormones go into over drive men aren't objectifying you even though that's how it appears. Let me explain and maybe you'll learn something today. Here's what has to happen in a man's mind and in his heart, it's not that he isn't attracted to that woman as a person it's literally the pleasure of looking at the image. Men have to make a choice at that point and it's basically do I want to linger on that, do I take that second look or do I want to let my thoughts go this direction or do I say no do I want to ginger honor God etc and respect that woman and look away and tear those thoughts down.
And that's where women don't necessarily understand because when women see an attractive man they don't have the same gut level instinct a man has so there not this choice of am I going to let my thoughts go all these directions. I don't think women know men have this every day.
Tell me what are your thoughts please keep them clean.
I'm not here to bash womenIf women had the same urges what would this world be like?

Citizenkirk · Accepted Answer

I know people don't like being corrected on the circumstantial criteria that they basically questions on but women do have the same urges as men when looking at visually comparable imagery when they are in a receptive State of mind to the same kind of sexual hormonal response. I based my opinion on observation and personal experience more than I do on the express perceptions of people who take a specific source of they read in a magazine or heard from their given peer group.
People are individuals and are given to responding the way that thier individual and unique personalities influence those physiological hormonal processes of thier reproductive systems.
However, ♂️ and ♀️ sexual orientation are opposite sides of the same reproductive process, and respond inversely (in the opposite manner, position, it order) of each other in an equal, comparable connectivity relationship dynamic of interlocking reproductive necessity.
In other words when they tell kids that boys and girls are different they don't mean different like tomatoes and carrots, they mean different like positive and negative, or nuts and bolts, or electrons and protons. Opposite parts of the same design.
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How come women don't have the same urges as men when seeing the attractive opposite sex?

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tokens of affection (Yes, I've received flowers from a girl before, so don't laugh 😂) my approachability in the friend zone, as well as my openness in honest open communication with those I share my bed with, show equally carnal urges and imagery in persuit of someone of the opposite, and same (Equally approachable in the friend zone with lesbians and gay men affiliated friends) gender love interest. Those opposite but equal points of origin for gender-based motivations and sexual attraction, almost always equal, equal and same difficulties frustrations desires and hopes for unification, but not assimilation, of two single personalities and bodies, remaining opposite interlocking components of the same human machine, while their personalities hope to assimilate each other into a whole finished relationship team model, of the human condition. You don't really feel incomplete as an individual, until you have lived as a part of a greater whole when in love with someone special, or your significant other, better half, next of kin😬!
I disagree with your assessment in analyzing the male - female attraction 🧲 dynamic, and I'm not talking out of my 🐴, iether. I have learned something here, but not by embracing this particular gender attraction dynamic. I have learned that different perspective filters can lead to different interpretations of what brings men women together in erotic or romantic, amore inspired pair bonding or coupling scenarios, and instead of simply agreeing to disagree or close my mind off to alternative possibilities to what I believe to be true, I am going to recommend you expand on your theory to encompass information and experience based wisdom from myself and others, to use your current way of thinking as a working model in progress of a much larger truth in human relationship dynamics, subject too additional revisions and corrections to accommodate new information and alternative perspective filters, so that your particular perspective on this issue doesn't get lost on the wayside and end up being your's alone, because I do not accept it as reality if this is going too be your final draft.

Crazybeeguy · Accepted Answer

They do, if you don't know that it's because you are not creating that urge in a women. That means you have to figure out what creates that urge in a women. Chocolate will always create an urge. When a women is deciding what she wants it always changes, depends on the mood. Best I can tell you from what I learned. Go to the gym get muscles and then don't be a "dick". That is the pre-requisite. Women will claim to want something more "complex" than that but that is not true. I use the scientific method to test theroms, the good news is I make friends with everyone in real life. So, I have a friend that is not very "attractive" his benefits is he is bulkier than me and tattoos. The funny thing is he has massive anxiety issues, women like a man that is emotional. When he is feeling out of control. He "ghosts" them and they go crazy over the scaracity. It's all a bullshit facade and women fall for it of all types. From the ghetto Latina to the "high class" white girl. Yes, Latinas can be high class too. I can get a womens phone number whether I want it or not in real life. I am being "picky" not about genetics, but about the fact is I am alllowed to be me. Will she let me just enjoy life? Or do I have to put on some fake unrealistic facade. So, what we are going to do is utilize the fake facade, or a man in "uniform" to get a date with a women, that I don't match with as a nerd. There are players who play with womens emotions, they are the true scum of the earth. But as Will Smith puts it in Hitch, sometimes you have to get a women out of herself to see something that is real and good. Yes, I qouted Hitch fuck you all that don't like that movie.

Wemix · Accepted Answer

Have you ever seen women look at attractive men in uniform lol (military, firefighter,...)?
The thing for some of us is that we're so used to any attention from us being mistaken for a "yes! I want to do more than just look at you" that looking at an attractive guy can be more stressful than anything. Even when we feel like he's out of our league and definitely won't flirt back... We get reminded he's a man so you never really know if it's safe to just look.
It might sound like I'm going off topic but understand that that stress is what we focus on and it's so overwhelming it pushes any hormonal thoughts away. "He'll think too high of himself", "he'll think I'm an easy girl", "he might make a move when I'm really not in the mood", "if people saw me looking at him then see me reject him they'll think I deserve any negative reaction I might get" these type of thoughts are stronger than "the way that arm flexes has me feeling some type of way woo" or other lustful thoughts.

kannettava · Accepted Answer

In general, women aren't aroused by visual cues, whereas men are. That's a big difference between men and women and what affects the situation you were describing. If a woman sees a sexy man walk by, they think to themselves "oh, a sexy man" and continue walking. It doesn't trigger a reaction or hormones. There's no urges to resist. Of course, that might not be the case for all women.

The similar hormonal rush might come from a partner doing something sexy instead. But it's usually just that, it needs to be a person they already know well, to make a girl want to jump his bones.

TurboKid · Answer

We'd probably be shagging like bunnies if women were that easily enticed. But in my experience, the biggest difference (with exceptions, of course) between men and women is that women respond to the man's initiative and men respond to the woman's passivity. It's like if a woman rubs her ass on a guy, he gets turned on. But she gets turned on with the way you touch her ass, and grab her waist, and communicate your desire through your touch. She wants a more active form of communication so that she can build a story around you. We guys just need a pretty girl to be a pretty girl, mostly.

Coulis · Answer

Maybe we're just better at hiding it. You ever think of that? But seriously physiologically men are created to act when there is an ideal mating partner in their vicinity. While women are created to be more selective biologically in terms of what sperm she's going to let hook up with her egg. This is to be fruitful and multiply of course. But this is not always socially morally or whatever other reason acceptable to act upon because after all we are not alley cats. Even though some people do act like it.

Bella9191 · Answer

How do you know what goes through Womens minds? Are you Mel Gibson from what women want?
i do feel urges sometimes from seeing men. I have all sorts of fantasies go through my head.
women in society are judged a lot. They don’t always reveal their true feelings.. even to other women they don’t always say.
Dont make assumptions. Women don’t always brag about their fantasies and desires. They keep it closer to them. They don’t give away their power by letting someone else know what is on their mind so much,

RingOfFire · Answer

Men are just hornier, it's a product of nature and evolution. They are the drivers of sex and women are the gatekeepers of sex. Men make sex happen, women determine when and if it is going to happen. And it's no surprise. Women have a lot more to lose by having sex. They are the ones who get pregnant. Before laws that made men responsible for their spawn, they could just plant their seeds and go... move on to the next women. Women on the other hand were stuck with a lifetime of raising kids. So sex to men is completely different than sex to women. Men are much hornier by design. They are the ones who drive the procreation of the species. Any woman can get sex any time she wants, it's not a challenge for them. Men, on the other hand, have to work hard to please a woman if they want it.

The proof is that if women were as horny as men there would be people fucking on every street corner.

Screenwriter · Answer

Women do have the same urges as men when seeing an attractive member of the opposite sex. But during our hormonal peaks, women have far more to lose if their engagement in such thoughts to distraction or ACTION leads them to pregnancy and a load of responsibilities.
Men never have to face that anchor. They can blast their seed all over the planet and leave whomever they have sex with behind in the dust.
Women are stuck with their momentary fling for the rest of their lives. This is not to say that a child is a burden, but it is if the women has to raise it on her own, is not well educated or skilled. This can mean her poverty and her child's lifetime of disadvantage.
So, we don't entertain a whole lot of these urges, unless we have a reasonable expectation that the male we're interested in will be there for us. We are far less hormonally glib than men for a good reason.

hahahmm · Answer

You can train yourself to have more control. If I see an attractive woman it's no different than looking at a work of art to me. It's doesn't trigger any out of control actions/feelings/thoughts at all. It takes conscious effort on your part to train your mind. You already had to train yourself to have self control at some point or you would act more like a wild animal. I'm sure your parents had some role in teaching you some self-control but you can teach yourself the rest.

You can tame the 'hormones' or other excuses people use for doing things and then claiming they're not responsible for their own actions.

blank_expression · Answer

There is a range of women that I have experienced relating to this question. There are the truly emotional creatures that absolutely need to bond prior to allowing sexual attraction enter into their brainbox—their attraction must remain subconscious maybe, prior. Then there are the clit women that are as sexually assertive as the male and they are about sex followed up with some emotions, I think, anyways. There has been some “pseudo science” 2D:4D (finger length ratio) stuff out there and it seems to be right. The emotional bond-women I have been with did have the highest ratio while the clit driven women had the lowest ratio. The other thing is I say clit driven because that is their orgasm while the emotional driven women were vaginal orgasm mostly. There are women out there like guys, that somehow a bit flipped and they were born with a vagina, ovaries. They are good for sex, but avoid for anything more.

molonski2 · Answer

Sorry , I simply do not agree , I think you completely underestimate the power of a womans sexuality , women can biologically last longer than any man , can potentially have multiple men at once.
Its nowhere near as simple as the stereotypical options presented as reasons for lustful desire , maybe the truth lies within the double standards created by so called " Society values " , but I at any age , never went around lusting after anything that was female , she had to interest me sexually sure , never just walked around purely thinking like that.
Then with age , comes more reason also , but I certainly do not accept that it is as you say. No wonder I hated the end of year football trips. Part of the wonderful part of any sexual relationship is the beginning , and the sexual tension , thats felt by both.
Women have far greater sexual desire than men , some men may be happy to " lust after " anything , thats certainly never been the case with me.. Quality.

JDavid25 · Answer

It's pretty simple.. Men have Testosterone flowing through our loins by the lot, and while women also have Testosterone, they don't have nearly as much as men.. People say that women have a better time controlling them because "society tells women to suppress their urges" but that's far from the truth. Society actually tells men to suppress them while putting bodies in front of our faces.. Do you see women consuming porn more? Do you see plethora of male escorts around? Do you see women looking back at some dude they find sexy often? Don't get me wrong, women find men attractive, and may even get turned on by the site of some men, but that's few and far in-between, and it's usually some celebrity than a random guy.

razzmatazz21 · Answer

Maybe you should learn something sir, you sound like the biggest douche bag ever!

The reason men have these urges is not because it's natural for us, it's because we're programmed. An example of this is the fact that some men are obsessed with breasts, even though they have no sexual function. You can choose to rise above it and allow your brain to control your libido instead of vice versa.

And lastly women are horny AF! Especially at our age. If I'm able to get a date it's almost guaranteed that there's going to be sex. I have actually established a rule for myself that I do not kiss on the first date because that leads to more, and for women that becomes clinginess and unhealthy obsession. So if I want a normal relationship I must choose to delay gratification. If I'm trying for a younger woman that's the only time I need to put effort into courting tbh. If you don't have a bunch of women lined up to fuck you it's you not the women.

Anonymous · Answer

Its because most men are desperately looking for sex and most women can get sex whenever they want. Think about it like this if you were craving a candy bar yet had no money to buy it you'd crave it even more just cause you can't have it. Compared to if you had a billion candy bars you could easily get for free you most likely wouldn't be going crazy craving it.

MCheetah · Answer

Women can get pregnant, have lower libidos than men, and generally can get sex anytime they want. Their desire for it is much, MUCH lower than men's, despite what some deluded women think. Men are biologically programmed to f*ck and f*ck often. It's how humanity used to survive back in the day. Women are not.

Azura_88 · Answer

Because we are emotionally wired.
I personally want to bond deeply with one and only guy and only fuck him.
Once I'm in love, I become blind to all hot men. All I think about is my man. I'M A COMMITTED SOUL. That's why I get furious when a guy who flirts with me also does the same with other women. I feel disrespected and stupid because I'm giving my loyalty and he's lingering around.
We are about preserving things and relationships for long term.
Life is so unfair isn't it?

Anonymous · Answer

Because the survival of the species has always depended on men pursuing women sexually. It's the only mechanism needed to ensure humans reproduce. Women only need to have enough libido to be willing on occasion.

To those who claim women have the same sex drive as men but just control it better... bullshit.

"Study after study illustrates that men's sex drives are not only stronger than women's, but much more straightforward. The sources of women's libidos, by contrast, are much more difficult to pin down."

https://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=147734

Anonymous · Answer

Huh. Why should they? On the regular they get inbox messages from creeps telling them they are beautiful. We don't have women creeping on us nearly as often.

This is a girls inbox (overexaggerated) - even if you're a guy and signed up as a pink account and uploaded a female profile picture:

And this is ours:

Needless to say, that sycophants aren't helping at all on this matter.

Can you blame women? I don't. The demand is heavily on their side. But what do women demand?

Qdbrown · Answer

You should check how you arrived at this question. Your assumption is that women should be like men, but with boobs...

There are fundamental differences between the sexes. No amount of social engineering is going to change that.

Men are visual creatures. Designed and hardwired that way.

SweetTay · Answer

I don't know if it's that we don't have the same urges but it might be more we can contain ourselves more😂 because if I see a guy and like his cock is hard and noticeable through his pants I definitely get the urge to go up to him 😂

loves2learn · Answer

Men are hard wired to be turned by the female body. It’s kept the human race alive.

Account · Answer

It is deeply a social issue. Women learn from very early on to surpress their sexuality, while men are taught to express it even when it becomes invasive. That is all there is to it.

FictionalCharacter · Answer

When I see guys I get tense and scared. They are big and strong with mysterious facial expressions. Yeah, I check them out nervously. But I know they have other things on their mind, than a awkward girl checking them out.

Alyssa11 · Answer

Who said women don’t have the urge? Bro you don’t know what goes on in my head every day LOL. We just don’t show it.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Men are just more expressive when it comes to that because it just doesn't really surprise society when men does it. Slut shaming still exist in women (mostly done by other women) which is why they tend try to be hard to get so they suppress that one.

SupremeWarlord · Answer

Yeah I read somewhere also that men have stronger sex drives, but if I'm not mistaken there's no large discrepancy.

In some cultures female sexuality is taught as a shameful thing, and they don't want to be seen as shameful, so they behave like that, it's one factor.

CrotchRot · Answer

Oh we have those urges -- some of us do, anyway -- we just don't act on impulse as often. It's easier to tame our beasts, so to speak.

Ayanna240 · Answer

women do have the same admiration. Its just that women dont obsess over it or openly talk about it.

Its kinda like saying men like sex but women don't. Women do like sex. Women just aren't as obsessed about it.

Nicegirldaqui · Answer

We think more about to get to know that man, to be with him, not necessarily sexualizing him, but there're some women that do it, also, we are better at pretending and hiding our thoughts towards a man than you guys are.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

Women do have the same base level attraction as men, it's just not expressed or talked about as much. But it happens. To quote a female friend of mine, "Sometimes I see a hot guy and my first thought is 'Oh my god, get IN me'."

Kas19 · Answer

Men are more visual and women are very sexualized in basically anything. The male gaze vs the female gaze.

https://medium. com/truly-social/yes-theres-such-a-thing-as-a-female-gaze-but-it-s-not-what-you-think-d27be6fc2fed

Overmind · Answer

Biological differences. Men are stimulated by what they can see, woman are different & want to feel safe & secure; it's why they constantly test for weakness.

slatyb · Answer

Why do you believe they don't? Women get crushes just the same as men do.

loveslongnails · Answer

" When men see women whether she's sexy or not and our hormones go into over drive" Right from the start, I disagree with that statement. Why would a man's hormones get triggered by a woman he doesn't find "sexy" ? They don't.

Juxtapose · Answer

Really? If anything my girlfriend gets hornier than me all the time cus my balls need rest, she doesn't!

She isn't as visual as me so how I setup the erotic atmosphere is more important than how I look.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Different brain chemistry But sometimes girls check out guys too

thimmslicc · Answer

Because we get labeled a hoe. Only because we can fuck who we want. Men will fuck anything they can.

Lyssiar · Answer

that interesting, but i don't know if that a universal true or juste for you. ;)

JustACuriousLady · Answer

We do. Women aren't another species we are human too.

oldasIfeel22 · Answer

I dunno. Although women generally seem more controlled one that I have met a few that can be VERY aggressive.

Rennitenn · Answer

They do. To some extent. They aren't as vocal about it. Plus they aren't the impregnators. We are. We have to make sure that nature has its way. Through small gifts, sweetalk, showing off and by any other means possible.

dpy87 · Answer

No scientific data but I think its because women need to feel you out to see if you're father material. Thats why they care more about your personality. Looks give no indicator of that. Your actions do.

MotorcycleMan · Answer

Difficult or not, it's still your choice to be respectful of women.

moviedude714 · Answer

Probably due to the risk of pregnancy, even though we have BC now, that apparently doesn't change the human psyche or thousands of years of evolution into women's minds

jshm2 · Answer

The word you're learning about bucko, is "consent".

Anonymous · Answer

I would say they attract me more romantically than sexually, but what do you know? If you were in a girl friend group, you would see guys are all we discuss.

Silas_153 · Answer

They actually do, but they don't talk about it anywhere near as much (if at all).

moejoeloli · Answer

They’re programmed to breeds. Plus they get to decide when and with who most of the time

Unbeatable · Answer

Have you never read 50 shades of grey or any romance novel. The notion of the question is so outdated its just boomer.

LorraineGates · Answer

Brain chemistry is different. Evolutionary drive is different. We have different roles by nature.

potatoooo · Answer

You never know what's going in our mind. Lol We just don't show it.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably because unlike what a bunch of politically correct retards would have you believe, men and women are different.

pink_and_inlove · Answer

We do lol but some women keep it to themselves others don’t

eyekneepain · Answer

I wish I could find a girl as into sex almost as me

msc545 · Answer

Women's hormones don't have the same instantaneous effect on them the testosterone has on men

Kha0tiic_xo · Answer

We do were just better at containing ourselves and keeping it to ourselves!

Wise4myage · Answer

Lots of women do, they are just better at disguising it.

anylolone · Answer

Lol! You haven't walked with many women. Certainly not many drunk women.

JustMe62 · Answer

I believe its call testosterone and its quantity in the blood stream.

Seppel · Answer

Because guys get aroused by visual things and women about different things

Asianguy123 · Answer

Workmen get wet down there when they are attracted by men. They are sexual too.

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

We do.. we just have better composer

mistixs · Answer

ok then

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