I'm pretty wtf am I single?

[Anonymous]

I'm the pretty girl why don't I have a boyfriend. Yes I have a little meat around the edges but I still get hit on. I've seen humongous girls with boyfriends and I don't understand why I'm single. All I here is "damn she is fine ass hell" or "dude you should go talk to her" but these f*** lames are such p*** that they back off and just stand there like cowards ugh men and women have totally switched places I tell ya it's ridonculous out here. I have a great personality, charismatic, I know how to talk to people, and keep those around me smiling so why is it that I'm the one who is single? Oh and they say go out more there are tons of guys out there wtf do I go? I live in D.C. most guys here look like the cast of Avatar. I'm not saying they all are hideous but there are only a few I find physically attractive. I'm not looking for a supermodel I know what I want but I'm not the type to push people away if they are not up to par. I feel so boreedd with my life I know I'm only 19 but can a girl have a fling or two or something I mean c'mon. I see girls who look like friggin peter griffin off of family guy holding hands with a dude so why am I the only one who gets stared at but never asked out? Someone please explain to me wtf is going on in the world? Is it me? Is it them? Should I just join the lesbi wagon and start carpet munching? I don't know I just need help?!

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+1 y

Ugh OK people I am so not shallow like honestly I even prefer bigger guys I just don't get why I'm single. People are misunderstanding me I'm not looking for someone so gorgeous it'd be like staring into the sun but someone I find handsome with a great personality.

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+1 y

Wow people are so touchy. Ugh calm down OK maybe I shouldn't have went so hard on the bigger girls they need love too I understand. I also understand how people could have misunderstood me but please stop insulting me if you don't have an honest answer to my question then don't answer it but if I don't call you outside your name don't do that to me.

[Anonymous]

Your attitude shows us that you are impatient and shallow. Sure, you might have said harsh things because you are frustrated, but you have to realize that we're going to judge you and your situation based on what you write on here, because that's ALL we have to go off of. Don't take offense from what we say.

From your original post and responses, I see that you are a bit immature. My biggest advice is to work on your attitude. For relationships, guys want girls with more than just a pretty face. We want girls that are beautiful in nature; that is, genuinely kind and patient with a positive attitude. Key word here is genuine. It takes time for you to develop these qualities as well as for a guy to find out whether you're genuine or not.

If guys aren't hitting on you, at least you still know they think you're attractive and you have the option of hitting on someone while knowing you have a high chance of them being interested. That's a blessing. Nobody is going to just hit on a random girl just because she's hot and expect something out of it at the same time. Whenever I hit on a random girl just because she's hot, I'm almost always expecting her to think I'm a pig haha. And that's exactly what you should expect from a guy that hits on you only because of what you look like.

What you should be looking for is someone who wants to ask you out even after knowing what kind of person you are. That's going to require you to make genuine friends.

[mysupercoolusername]

Did you ever see those pictures where you need to kinda not look at to see? If you stare and try to see it you cant. All you see is colors. But when you relax and stop trying you can see it clearly.

Your 19, you will have plenty of dates in your life. Just enjoy life, and it will happen on its own.

One of these days you will have more guys than you can handle.

And if you feel like your holding a little extra weight, why not lose it?

A clean diet and some excercise is always good. Makes you feel more confident. Makes you happy. Makes you more attractive, and gives you more energy.

Besides, your mr right might be at the gym right now, just waiting for you to walk in.

[heavenonearth]

Do you talk to some of these guys? Smile at them? Flirt with them? You have to give them some indication that you'd like for them to ask you out, because no one likes being rejected. If I were you I'd talk to a friend about this, he/she will know you better and be able to pick out the ways you can make yourself more approachable. Dressing nice helps.

Also, what's stopping you from asking a guy out yourself? Try that before you join the lesbi wagon and start carpet crunching :P , and if you're as pretty and personable as you say you are, you shouldn't have a problem getting a boyfriend. You're looking for a handsome guy with a great personality, cool, so find a guy who meets that criteria and take the initiative. Life's short, live it the best you can. Carpe diem and all that.

[Asker]

Thank you an honest answer lol. I'm going to be honest I am kind of not used to asking a guy out but maybe I can try it I just feel as if I would look so dumb lol. I'm honestly a little shy too so I kind of act friendly but not too open to guys because I don't want to look dumb but I totally understand what you're saying and I am learning as I grow older and trying to open up more but it honestly is hard when you've been a certain way for so long but I will take your advice and try harder : )

[heavenonearth]

No problem, I understand, just stay positive and give it a shot. Good luck :)

[Anonymous]

Maybe because you come off to them as knowing/thinking your hot. I mean ik this girl who thinks she is the sh*t, no she's ugly as sh*t. guys don't like girls who are conciended. I'm not saying that you can't be like, o I'm pretty, but for gods sake reading through this post, and your comments to other answers, I wouldn't even want to be around you. you need to get over yourself. I'm not saying settle, but bring it down a knotch. and if your one of those girls who thinks she's pretty because her daddy told her so, well all parents lie. lmao jk jk jk jk

[ThoughtfulThinking]

Well, the first thing I'm noticing here is a negative attitude. . . And that is one thing that will definitely send a guy in the other direction. Now, I'm not trying to judge you by saying this. I'm just being honest. One tip would be to simply keep your mind open. When you see a guy don't immediately assume things about him. Another tip would be to smile and have a more positive vibe about you. Smiles, even when not directed at a specific guy, are completely disarming and alluring. Hope this helps!

[sigsauer45]

Well it should like you know what you are looking for in a guy but you my what to go out with guy that may not seem like you tip and you may find out that you will find the right guy for you by only looking for guy you what that may be y you are single they are a lot of guy out they that are having the same trouble you are you just have to keep looking for them and you only being 19 year,s old you have lot,s of time to find a guy you will like and like you so hang in there it will happing for you

[juaN073]

By what I can read from your question guys may be backing off from you because of your personality...oh wait somebody already said that...well...thats what I also think. Anyways you ma be miss universe but if you act all mean your gona scare guys off. Like wise, if your a participant of the biggest loser but you have t great personality and get along and are open to guys then somebody will talk to u.

[Asker]

It's sad that people think I'm mean I mean most people say I'm the sweetest person I don't act mean maybe that's how I came off online but I honestly am not a mean person. I don't know maybe I just come off cold but I don't know how to change that I can't just walk around with a fake smile plastered to face. I'm a nice peson, well educated, and always helpful and friendly I just am a little frustrated so I came off like a bitch...sorry.

[juaN073]

Oh I see I understand you may have been frustrated when you were asking this question. So now that you clarify things up, how about a date? xD jk. Now that I think about it it may be that you are just too pretty that guys think you are too much for them. That happened to me, I had a crush but she was so pretty I thought I wouldn't have a chance. I guess you'll have to wait for the guy that has the guts to talk to you. Or you may have to do a little more work by giving signs to the guy you like

[brizzo]

You're right, love and relationships have changed a lot in the last few decades. its no longer the man who has all the balls in pursuing a women. Responsibility for building relationships is pretty much 50:50 these days. I say embrace it, enjoy the fact that it's not frowned upon for a girl to make moves.

If guys are showing as much interest in you as you say they are, then you should feel confident enough to show it right back.

Good luck!

[diamond3]

well I am single also and I am an attractive women.. a lot of guys say they assume I had a man. so I think most guys think you won't be interested or taken so they don't bother. but then again looks isn't everything. you say big girls have men and that is true but they more then likely have a great personality. what I am saying is looks doesn't promise a boyfriend it is more then looks that will attract a guy

[Sammyness]

If you get hit on, why don't you actually follow it up, and initiate a relationship? It's really not that difficult. Also, it's hypocritical to have "a little meat on your bones" but expect a partner who's in prime physical form...

[mike5150]

Some guys like bigger girls not to mention differant people view what is attractive in differant ways. If a guy flirts with you than he is interestead and yes a lot of guys won't make a move that doesn't make them pussys.

[bleepbloop]

thats exactly what it means... lmao

[mike5150]

well how many people can honestly say that they have asked out every person they have ever been attracted to? This response is exactly why some guys chose not to ask a women out. If she is going to act this way for him not asking you out how would one assume you would respond to him if he did ask you out but you are not attracted to him?

[Asker]

If a man were to ask a guy out and she were to deny why wouldn't he just accept it and move on. It's like when you don't get that big job you were hoping for do you cry and throw a tantrum no you pick yourself up and say "yes this was a setback and I really wanted that job but I'm not going to give up I'm going to look for another one". I'm not saying ask out every girl but you shouldn't let fear of being denied stop you from at least taking that chance.

[mike5150]

no but if a girl would go around calling eveyr guy a p**** because he doesn't ask her out I would think a rejection from that girl wouldn't be just a simple no. And belive me I learned from that the hard way.

[xxspottoxx]

ok...so your too f*cking shy to ask a guy out! but every guy who doesn't ask you out is a pussy...no wonder your f*cking single...I admire all the guys that talk to you long enough to put up with your dreadful personality!

[Asker]

I'm not calling every guy a p**** and I have never in my life rudely rejected someone. I'm sorry you had to go through that but not every girl is the same. I would say keep trying but I understand how an experience like that could make you want to give up but trust me I would never do something like that it's uncalled for and unnecessary.

[Voltaire]

You sound like a fairly unpleasant person. Even if you're pretty, your attitude will turn lots of guys off.

[xxspottoxx]

just calm down first, just think about it...guys see a beautiful girl and think "wow she's hot...there is now ay she's single". Don't leave it up to the guys hun. Ask somebody out don't just sit around and wait for a hot boy with great personality to fall into your lap...

[Asker]

I'm sorry but that's not me. I have never asked a guy out and probably never will. If it's another girl's thing then go right on ahead and do it if that's what you do but in my OWN opinion just want to make that clear before you post anymore rude remarks about my personality I don't think it's OK to ask a guy out.

[Sportschick989]

Why not studies show that 80%of guys want the girl to make the first move

[xxspottoxx]

You have some serious mental issues really...If it's not your idea of a healthy relationship to ask the guy that's fine. But you are the last person who could ask people to stop posting "rude remarks". Image all the girls AND guys who read your question and were crushed by how inconsideratly bitchy and nasty you are. I truley believe that if you turn lesbo no girls will go for you either. My true advice now on how to get a boyfriend is to fix your f**king personality!

[Asker]

You're a seriously sad person and I feel so bad for you I mean to go as far as to be so upset and say such nasty things when I haven't even talked about you or anyone in particular. You think you're better than me but look at how you're acting I think you're the one that needs to work on your personality and grow up. Just because you are upset doesn't mean you have to attack someone. Let it go seriously.

[xxspottoxx]

You should learn to take your own advice.You were upset because no guys were asking you out.You were lonely that's understandable.But then you rant and belittle people who aren't as skinny or as pretty as you.Then when people point out tat you should be nicer you freaked out and skitzed at them. Also I just want to clarify I wasn't upset I was pissed off.Also my personality can't be that bad,like you,im pretty and I'm skinny,but unlike you I have a boyfriend.So I must be doing something right...

[Rubybubzz]

I feel that your kind of getting attacked. You just need a little patience, good things come with time. I know that sounds totally cliche :D... But true

[Anonymous]

Seriously? Are you kidding? Ur rude and inconsiderate you need an attitude check! Ur a conceded little brat who needs to get a grip and stop putting those other girls down! How dare you even ask why your single!?!? You must have no brain if you can't see how conceded and arrogant and bitchy you are and that is why you don't have a boyfriend.

[xxspottoxx]

that is one of the best posts here! Well done!

[bleepbloop]

tell me about it. I'm in the same boat as you. I always see less-attractive girls with boyfriends all the time and I wish I knew their secret -_-

[Asker]

Maybe they give up the ass easier I don't know lol

[bleepbloop]

lmao... its possible

[Anonymous]

you know, personality has the tendency to stand out more than looks...

[Asker]

yeah I know read through I never said I was looking for Brad pitt.

[xxspottoxx]

i think she means you...work on your personality

[sweet_18]

You just need to flirt more and show guys that you like them by making the first moves or making it so obvious that the guy is very confident about making a move on you

[bel42]

maybe other people don't find you attractive even though you think you are OR maybe they aren't attracted to your personality.

[tohrment]

I have no idea! You sound like such a nice person, & BEAUTIFUL? Winning combo.

[Anonymous]

WELL AT LEAST YOU DON'T HAVE TO MAKE THE FIRST MOVE OR INITIATE ANYTHING

[Anonymous]

your 30 lady time up u played the waiting game and the waiting game ever payed off and you wasted your youth RIP

[Opinion Owner]

you have until 30 after that kiss your ass goodbye 11 years

[Opinion Owner]

i know the secret lady think of it as meat if you cook it low is raw if you cook it on normal it normal if u overcook it is not worth eating if you ugly your out if you average your in if your pretty not worth it average is the new pretty not under cooked not over cooked in the middle that where average girls fall in being pretty is a curse i was on the subway saw a lot of pretty girls look round and saw a average girl i said that's the one that well give me less problems for directions

[Anonymous]

Well, reading your post - you sound like a shallow bitch. That might be why you don't have a boyfriend.

[Asker]

Go f*** yourself LOSSSSEEEERRRRRRRRRRR!

[HidingMyHeart]

you just kind of proved his point...just thought I'd tell ya..

[xxspottoxx]

that could be why you don't have a bf

[Asker]

How so because I asked an honest question and he calls me out of my name a derogatory term so I cursed him out and I proved his point what sense does that make at all? Think before you post things.

[xxspottoxx]

because you are making out like your so f*cking gorgeous all the guys in the world should just bow down and ask you out! Wake up and realize that maybe the girls a little uglier and a little bigger are just the ones with best personality!

[HidingMyHeart]

haha, try taking your own advice

you gotta have more self respect than that, can more respect for others,

Those people who you say look like peter griffin more than likely have a great relationship with someone because they are the ones with the personalities that shine through, which is more than I can say for someone who puts others down to make herself look and feel good

[zebralove97]

u seem stuck up hun. . . beauty isn't everything. . . .

[zebralove97]

oh and that's a very stupid and immature questino to ask. honestly why do we care? if you have friends why dot you ask them;]

[dx021]

lol you don't sound like a very pleasant person.

[thathingshedoes]

Maybe you are shallow

[Anonymous]

maybe your not that pretty

[LrtwihArt]

Wow that's rude dude.