Girls, Girls: would you rather have a passive or assertive guy?

Question

Thank you ladies 🙂 I'm just curious if I'm the minority or not.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

The problem with assertive is some people mistake aggressive and assertive... I guess I'm that person that wants someone somewhere in the middle, knows when to be assertive, but also knows you can be assertive without being aggressive about it.. and passive doesn't always mean weak.. I just think you many people see you many things in just black and white and forget all the shades of gray🤷

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

I don't believe in those terms and don't like either.
Nowadays some call it 'switch' but I also think that's stupid. People are dynamic, and some are complex. I don't pigeonhole or box people in. Anyone who can rise up to meet me, and has a sharp wit, is good in my book. No one's in control. We're a partnership, or they can f off.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Assertive, I dated a passive guy and he was just so whimpy. Allowed his ex to run over him and dictate when and when she didn't want him in her life. So instead of moving forward he was back ans forth with her. He was very concerned about what people would think of him if he said or did certain things. He just wasn't assertive never spoke up if he disagreed about something.

booksontime2 · Answer

How about an equal partner?
I'm quite independent, so I can't stand authoritarian and demanding guys that constantly need to assert themselves, so we'd be constantly fighting with each other. But I also don't wanna date someone, who follows me like a puppy and is scared of expressing their opinion. I feel this would create communication problems in the long run

IronLady6354 · Answer

Assertive. Weak men are not attractive. HOWEVER, wanting a strong man is NOT the same thing as wanting a controlling man. I need a man who is strong and assertive but is also respectful of my rights and desires in our relationship

beebella · Answer

I'm already pretty passive, so I think I'd want to be with someone who's a little more assertive than I am.

Azura_88 · Answer

Passive. By mistake I voted assertive. Passive only for me in love but assertive enough to defend himself and me. I'm naturally assertive so I'll be making sure he's happy and will protect him too.

A_Bell · Answer

Passive guys are so frustratingly boring. Of course going TOO far the other way is a problem too. The sweet spot is to be assertive and decisive but also chill.

iseekpinetrees · Answer

I guess passive that's what I got now. Some assertiveness is nice though

little_rose · Answer

A mixture of both but more on the assertive side I like criticism and communication but sometimes I want them to stfu even when I make mistakes. I guess we all have our vulnerable moments

muscularbumblebee · Answer

Assertive but not as assertive as me... Not a fan of passive guys or girls for that matter

scentoflavender · Answer

There's a difference between assertive, confident, strong and compassionate and being an alpha male douche bag

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Assertive or at least assertive when compared to me.

SaoirseS · Answer

Assertive and self-confident, yes. Arrogant a-hole, no.

valentina4eva · Answer

assertiveeeee!! no question for me

loves2learn · Answer

Assertive all day. Confidence is so sexy.

tatianamay · Answer

There's a fine line between arrogance and confidence. I'd like a confident guy

Janessa2021 · Answer

I don't think a passive guy would be good for me in any way cuz I'm still learning not to be passive myself

Ericalovescats · Answer

Assertive. I don't want someone who can't stand up for themselves.

MackAMills · Answer

I prefer a balance between the two.

Haru_chan · Answer

I’d like an assertive guy.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Assertive

Samantha_17 · Answer

I like dominant men :)

pink_and_inlove · Answer

Assertive means better communication

bannacookies · Answer

Passive.  I'm once again the minority. 😄

Somegirl408 · Answer

definitely assertive

TheLittleInnocent · Answer

Assertive for sure

karaspara · Answer

Assertive

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